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love hurts
im 16.. im in love with a guy that is 15. we went out for 4 months. but ive known him for almost 3 years now. i lost my virginity to him. one day we did it and everything was normal. the next day he calls me and says, "lets take a break, then when i think we are ready to make this a serious thing ill ask you back out." i was just like um okay? well then a couple days later i hear hes going out with some chick from his school. so hes "taking a break with me" to go out with some other chick. that really hurt me. because im in love with him. well i saw him and he didnt say anything to me. he kept like 10 feet away from me. and i was pissed off about the whole situation. then the next day i call him to talk about everything going on and he called me a b**** and i was like why are you calling me that? and he was like i heard what you said to people last night about me. i was like what did you hear? hes like you just trash-talked about me the whole night to my friends and family. and he hung up on me. so i call him back and left him a message, because he didnt answer, and i was crying and i said "the only thing i said to anyone was that i was in love with you". and that is the first time i told him how i felt about him. ive never told him i was in love with him before. and i havent heard from him since. what should i do about this whole situation and the next time i see him? and i see him quite often because my mom works for his dad. i dont know what to do PLEASE help. this may turn into suicide. he was the only thing i had.
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no suicide is the wrong way to go honey.i know that it is tough but you have got to stay strong.okay.this kid i am sorry to say sounds like a dick.and i mean you cant call people names like that not even your enemies.you can do so much better than that.i had something like this happen to me this summer.but i promise you he will hear that message and realize he made a huge mistake and if he doesnt you have permission to kill me.just kidding *hug*. you know what would be nice revenge is taking one of your guy friends around with you everywhere so when you see him hell be like oh shes got a bf.idk. that sounds like middle school s**t doesnt it. well i am sorry i am bad at this advice thing
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Heyy! well first of all this is what i want to say.. don't turn this into suicide because i know this may sound impossible but in a couple of years your going to be soo glad u didnt turn it into suicide. Also what this boy did was pretty shadey no ofense. Don't worry about tell him you are in love with him because if he does care or is a good friend he would understand. Another thing is that you should try to talk to him next time you see him.. about how you feel and how he hurt you by what he did. If he can't understand he was never worth the pain. Don't worry there is someone better waiting for you, you sound like an amazinv person don't ever have a guy put you down!
I really hope i helped you with everything!
comment if u need anything else.
xo tina!
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1st dont kill ur self second dont sweat it he gon be feeling stupid when he know he lost somethin good and hes younger then you anyways so what you can find better (psh) he aint worth you killin your self over iight peace
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frist off, i know how you feel. i had firsts with a gf that jus broke my heart to. but thinking clearminedly about this. in my opinion i think he was just using you to get what he wanted (sex of course) i think the best thing you can do right now is to see him again and TRY to work out things in a clam manner, dont go up to him and start yelling or anything like that. it just makes things work. Just try to see what made him do what he did. In the end its not something you should get hung up over. i know its hard but you just have to get up and live life again. because thats the only way you're ever ganna be happy
If ya need more advice you and IM or e-mail me
I hope I helped
-Vek-/BlackBatman
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First of all, don't let it turn into suicide. He doesn't deserve to be all you have. It sounds like crap, but there are people who love you. Live for them. Talk to someone, anyone if you must. Hang in there. If things really are completely lost, they can only get better, and if they aren't, you have a reason to live. As for this guy, my advice is simple: loose him, ignore him, and find someone who deserves you. Good luck, and feel free to write or e-mail me if you need more support.
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Alright let's not kill ourselves. He's just am immature 15 year old doesn't know what he wants yet. He wants to find more, experiment more, see more but honestly I don't think you should kill yourself over one guy he's one out of a million I know but maybe you should just leave it at that. Don't try to contact him, talk to him, see him nothing let him come back to you. Trust me he sounds like a guy that if you act like you don't want him he'll come back and if you really want him back like you say you do and act like you do then there but if he doesn't come back there's so much better out there your almost 18 2 more years til you find a real man 2 more years til your on your own and he'll be what 17 you'd have to wait a whole year to be with him anyways. Honestly he sounds confused if he doesn't believe you or trust you that you didn't talk trash about him that night then he's not worth your tears. Hope I helped. Sorry...
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Maybe he broke up with you because he didn't think you loved him since you never told him. Talk to him and tell him everything you told us on here. If that still doesn't work, atleast try to be friends with him. He isn't worth it if he just dumped you for no reason then dated another girl. Good luck and don't kill yourself, that's very selfish. You aren't thinking about how it's going to affect your family and friends. You are only thinking about yourself.
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LOOK...I KNOW THAT YOUR IN LOVE WITH HIM BUT YOU HAVE ONLY 2 OPTIONS.....
1. YOU CAN TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THAT YOU WONT GET MAD ABOUT WHATEVER HE SAYS. IF YOU JUST SIT HIM DOWN IT MIGHT WORK.
2. YOU CAN GET OVER HIM AND FIND A NEW GUY. NOW I'M SURE THAT YOU'VE TRIED TO DO THAT BUT KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. EXERCISE, READ A BOOK, HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS, WATCH TV, ANYTHING....HAVE SOMETHING (ANYTHING) TO HANG ON TO WHILE UR TRYING TO LET HIM GO. OR JUST COMPLETELY try TO AVOID SEEING HIM, LIKE IF YOU KNOW YOUR GOING TO SEE HIM JUST GO TO THE LIBRARY OR A MOVIE OR SOMETHING.
***DONT KILL YOURSELF.....IT IS NOT THE ANSWER..YOU CAN HAVE SUCH A GOOD LIFE IF YOU PUT THIS BEHIND YOU AND FOCUS ON THE FUTURE...
<3 ~*elle*~ <3
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DONT KILL YOURSELF!!! Ive been through the same thing and had the same thoughts I thought I was going to die I loved this guy alot and he ripped my heart out, I thought I would never love again. I didnt date for awhile but then I moved school because I started failing classes and skipping class. I found one guy but broke up with him cuz he wwas a weirdo. Then I dated a guy named James who I broke up with after like a month. Now Im with Stephen and Im starting to love again. You will get over it. Listen hunn DO NOT TAKE YOUR LIFE OVER A BOY!!! You will move on just like I did, Please dont hurt yourself
XoXoLexiXoXo
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This is not your fault and committing sucide is definitely not the answer. You will die and be up in heaven or whereever watching be with every girl in town and sometimes to me that would be real torture. I think some of his friends were mad because he was hanging out with you and not them more so they told him some stuff that wasnt true to break you guys up so they could hang out more. Another reason is that one of them may like you and couldnt have you until you were free. I think he might have gotten a little scared when he heard you say i love you. Its not that he doesnt feel that way but maybe he doesnt want things to get as serious as it seems to be.
I think the reason why he went for that other girl is because she doesnt love him and thats a way for people to get away. The point is he is afraid of committments and eventually he will come back but until then you should find someone else. If you show that you dont care that will bother him and make you feel stronger and better about yourself.
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Furst off hun, don't commit suicide over a guy. I know it's hard to live without someone loving us nonstop. Try to schedule an all girls night out. It will help clear your mind. To me, it seems like he used you just for the sex. I know guys suck sometimes, but we still love em. Don't try crawling back to him, just keep it low and he'll miss you sooner or later, if you two had something.
He's just a player.
^^PLEASE let me know if I helped or not!
**hope it works out**
x-O Annerszz_101 x-O
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If you have a b/f thats taking a break with you and going with another girl don't get mad first of all. Thats the point of a break to see other people so I think you should do the same. If you told him you love him and he doesn't talk to you don't take it personal. I think boys just need time to adjust to what they have found out or he's deciding if he feels the same or not. If he loves you back he could be thinking of how to make it up to you or deciding how to tell you. If he doesn't then maybe he doesn't want to tell you that he doesn't feel the same. The point I'm getting at is that you should give him some time to respond like the saying goes if you love something let it go if comes back then thats how you know its for real, or something like that. Then just move on this isn't the only time you'll fall in love there will be many times.
I hope this helps GOOD LUCK! *KookieMonster96*
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well first of all never kill yourself over a boy...WORST thing to do EVER, but like I think he thinks your his booty call or something and you are sooooo to good for him he will soon have nobody and you will have all the hotter boys asking you out lol He shouldnt have called you a b**** I wouldn't fuss over that boy... if things get worse IM me ok...lildevildri666
~*+*Adriana*+*~
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I'm so sorry that you're going through this tough time right now. You sound pretty desperate and that concerns me. First of all, one of the reasons why it is suggested that one wait until he or she is older to have sex is so that you can really know if you're in love with a person who is in love with you, and so that you've had relationship experiences under your belt - without sex being involved. Unfortunately, it is all too common for girls to take sex much more seriously than boys. At your friend's age, he is one huge raging hormone and is probably not thinking at all about serious commitments, but just about having fun. You, on the other hand, were obviously thinking more along the lines of giving yourself and your love to this guy by way of sex, hoping for some sort of commitment. I don't blame you there. However, you guys really are awfully young to make such a serious commitment. This comment does NOT mean that I like the way he is treating you. I don't! But he sounds like the type of guy who would have done this to you eventually whether you had had sex with him or not. Having had sex with him probably just made it happen sooner rather than later. It really sounds like this guy wants to "experiment," and you were caught in his experimenting. I'm sorry for that. My suggestion now is that you back away from this guy, as hard as that sounds. When you see him, just smile and keep walking. Don't look for anything from him and don't expect anything from him. He may come around and he may not. But you need to keep your distance because he obviously is acting like he's been backed against a wall by being told someone is in love with him and hearing that she's telling a lot of people about her feelings. That can be pretty scary to hear sometimes, AND, if he doesn't feel the same way, that can definitely push him away, I'm afraid. I think that if you're still worried about what he thinks of you after having heard that you said bad things about him when you didn't, then you could write a very SHORT note to him saying only: "I never did say anything bad about you to anyone. I wish you had asked me before you accused me. Thanks for your three year friendship with me. I'm sorry to see it end this way." Do NOT profess your love to this guy again. I think that will only make him pull away further and he may not pay attention at all to the rest of the note. Please don't make it harder on yourself by continuing to tell this guy that you love him. I know you do, but it sounds like you need to move on...like he did. Although, I will agree that he did it in a most insensitive way and I'm sorry for that. You say that he "was the only thing [you] had," and that makes me wonder if you keep too much to yourself. Do you have any girlfriends with whom you can try to spend more time? Can you join some school activities that would take up your time and help you to meet other people? I would also suggest that you not keep announcing your feelings about loving him to all sorts of people. That only makes you sound desperate and sad. You don't need to be. Sweetie, you're only 16 and I know there are guys out there who will treat you so much better! Now YOU need to focus on that and tell yourself every day that you're worth it and that you deserve someone who will treat you with respect. You may be hurting right now and maybe it's too hard to think about ever getting over this, but I promise you, you will! You will go through many trials and errors in relationships as you grow up. And each one will make you stronger and you'll know more and more what you really want in a guy by dating many guys. Just be careful about sharing too much of yourself; that is, having sex before you're truly ready and know what it will lead to in the relationship. Be wary, at this age, of guys who say that having sex will make you closer. There are all sorts of lines that guys will use to get a girl to have sex with them. You just need to listen to your gut instincts and ask yourself if this is something you definitely want to do...NOW. Please get the idea of suicide out of your head! I know that's easier said than done. Believe me, I know. However, you WILL have someone special in your life some day and you don't want to miss out on that! If you think that killing yourself will make this guy feel bad, then you're sadly mistaken. I think he's too young to understand why you are feeling so over the edge about this whole thing. If you are thinking about suicide because you want to rid yourself of pain, please think about the pain you'll be causing the people who love you unconditionally. THAT kind of pain never goes away. Your kind of pain will...really it will. Please take care of yourself and let me know how you're doing in a couple of weeks. I care.
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roght now just give him sometime to cool down.he obviously doesnt no what he talking about.but dont let him get away with stuff.hes making himself seem like the victim here and you reall are becasue you dont no what he talknig about and he broke up withyou and went with somover trick.i say you forget about him.but really, if you really love him which i believe you do, you got to make a move in trying to fix this.since he wont talk to you write him a letter, or even go to his house to talk.give him a few days, and then make a move.you cant always wait
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wow, if i were in your position i would just give it a few days and see if he calls you, he might just be scared to call you. If you didnt say anything bad about him to anyone then that means you could tell him to ask anyone of the people he hangs out with if you ever said anything bad. The next time you see him just look at him, see what his expression is. I would just tell you to forget him but you are head over heels and losing your virginity to someone means alot so forgetting him isnt the answer here. I dont know how much this answer will help you but i am trying my best, i hope things work out for you
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