about

Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?
I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people

advice

My boyfriend went to a party and did body shots with another girl. This was the first time he drank any alcohol, and he got really drunk and said he would'nt have done it otherwise. He was the one who told me as soon as it happened. Should I be mad at him or should I forgive him?

Well if he was drunk while he was doing it then I suppose you can forgive him. Although I'd probably advize him not to drink again because after all you never know what'll happen when he gets drunk. I mean, look what happend, and it was only his first time. Plus, drinking isn't good for you in the first place.

-BlackBatman-

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This year has been rough.
I gave up on my best friend after saving her
life for the third time due to her heavy
drinking, I couldn't handle protecting her like
I did anymore. She was my very best friend,
moving on hurt so bad.

My boyfriend that I love cheated on
me, so of course we broke up. His new girlfriend
happens to be the girl he knew I hated more
then anything.

My great friend, Michael stepped in.
He became my big brother, my support system.
He was the only one that got me through losing
everyone. Well, he started to like me. Once I
told him I wasn't up for that after everyone
broke my trust, he left too.

Now I have nothing.
I'm alone all the time, I have other
friends but none of them come close to
those three. How do I step back up and
get on with life?
I used to be so outgoing and full of
life, I always had plans and people who
loved me. Now, No ones here.

What can I do?

I know just how you feel. Bascially the same things have just happend to me also. The best thing you can do is just pack up and attempt to move on. You have more friends, of course they're not as close, but good friendships take time. You'll have time to build up better relationships with other people then you had before. Of course there will always be guys. All you have to do is take your pick. Just keep moving farward and don't give up on what you want. You're only 14. You have more then enough time to fix your life.

-BlackBatman-

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long story short -

i spoke to this guy on friday and spoke to him for a whole week. we made out on saturday (last night) he doesnt want a relationship, but i do. i'm sick and tired of hearing about guys breaking girl's hearts. how can i draw him into me? and play hard to get, but not too hard because i already tried that and it's sooo hard, i can't draw away from him that much without making him think i'm not interested (which might him go away and i don't want that) i know the age difference is a lot, but i know this can work. it's possible. i know it. i'm 14/f, he just turned 17. come on guys don't doubt me! any tips at all?
i really liked how those 4 girls in just tucker must die broke his heart. but i can't do the things they did, because this is a different case. please help!

I can understand the fact that you'd like to get revenge for him leading you on, but the best revenge is to live good. Besides, if you've only spoken to him for one week then you shouldn't be that upset about this whole thing. My advice is to just forget the whole revenge thing and move on.

-BlackBatman-

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ok im a 15 year old girl and recnetly i have been talking to my ex who lives in another state and we're getting back together but my other ex(lets call him Brandon) has been talking to me latly and keeps asking me if i wanna hook up wiht him n stuff. i keep telling him no and that i might get back together with Jake (the first ex) but brandon keeps asking me to be his whore n stuff. i keep telling him no but wat should i say to him to make him stop asking me and just be my friend?

Situations like these are though. Although theres always going to be a solution to them. The best thing you can really do is just keep telling him that you don't want to hook out with him or anything. You could try ignoring him but, that in some cases might not be the best thing. You'll just have to keep trying and tell him bluntly to stop asking you, and that you just want to be his friend.

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i want to change my image. i want to be more known as hott, im not really ugly, im medium mostly except sometimes i look hott. but how can i act more hott or preppy... i dont want to act dorkish any more. i dont know why some people conclude that because if you know me, im really awesome and nothing what they thought..so how can i get people to think that im who i want to be, i mean who i am?

Just be yourself. If people can't accept that then that's their loss.

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what is the significance of history? i mean how would it be significant to me? i have a paper to write for social studies, and the question is: What Is The Significance of History? i know that it is important because it helps us learn from our mistakes, but the teacher wants to know why it is significant to ME. and i don't know how to answer this. i also need to include specific facts and examples.

thanks if anybody can give me any imput on this :]

The past paves the way for the future.
As you said, it helps our learn from our mistakes.
That's your example right there. Just draw from your personal experiences.

-BlackBatman-

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Hey everyone I do not know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been dating like 3 years and we have been having sex a while now. But recently whenever we start a few times after he goes in and out he gets these headaches and if he continues they get worse. I can not figure out what to do to help him..and its gotta be the sex cause once we stop 2 minutes later he is fine. We are trying to fix these..so please tell me anything that you think may help.
btw-dont waste your time by telling me dont have sex..i want answers not your opinion on whether or not sex is ok to have.
thanks
ps-please hurry I am worried about him

When you get a headache, take pills for it, or go see a doctor

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So ive been going out w/ my girlfriend for 4 months now and up until about the past 3 weeks eevrything has been fantanstic. the 3 weeks comes into play because thats when she stopped taking her anti-depressant medication. She told me she just ran out and hasnt bother to get the prescription re-filled, but i think she just got tired of them. since then shes been lashing out at me, had unstable moods, and just isnt the same. Ive told her shes changing but she just ignores me. I love her very much but if shes goign to continue like this (it seems like its intentional) then i may just have to call it quits.

I know EXACTALLY how you feel. This same situation happend with me and two of my gfs actually. I think the best thing that you can really do is just talk with her and tell her how you feel about it. Other then that you don't have many options.. I hope everything works out

-BlackBatman-

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okay, so i want to take a kickboxing class.
and like, i'm not confused about it .. do you physically fight people?
thanks

I'm a teacher. Mostly you just train but, occasionally you can sparr. Although, you don't have to if you dont' want to. In pretty much every street school it's optional or, it'll never come up

-BlackBatman-

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So I have these two friends that I'm really close with. We hang out all the time and such, but sometimes it feels like I'm so different from them. You see, they are both always the center of attention and ALL the guys like them. No lie! Like, I always feel secondary when I'm with them. For example, I was hanging with both of them the other day and we were with 3 other guys. Two of those guys likes one friend, and the other guy likes my other friend...but I always feel left out because no guys like me. It's like they're always hanging out with people when I'm there and I'm never really part of their "clique." For example, the guys invited both of my friends over and didn't invite me. It's like I'm invisible. I don't get it; people say I'm really pretty and nice and blah blah blah and it's not like these two friends of mine are devestatingly gorgeous but the thing is, I'm never the center of attention, I guess I'm just too laid back. I kinda wish I was more outgoing and confident like these two friends. So what I'm asking is, does anyone know how I can be more confident and noticed like my friends are? Any tips or websites on how to be more outgoing and noticed and to get guys to like you? Because obviously what I'm doing now isn't working. Thanks mucho.

To be honest, you really shouldn't change yourself just to make guys like you. It's really not worth it. I think that the best thing you can do for yourself in this possition is try to be more outgoing and impulsive. Some people might try and be the opposite but, again: You shouldn't change yourself just to make guys like you. Wait for the guy that likes you for who you really are. That'll be the best guy of all

-BlackBatman-

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16/f

to make a long long story short..
there was this guy (jeff) that loved his gf and they went out for like a year and 4 months they broke up he thought i was really hott and wanted to do stuff with me and we start "talking" then he went back out with his girlfriend now they broke up i had feelings for him and NOW...

tonight jeff was sleeping over at my cousins house with their other friend joe. well my best friend/cousin nikki was there and all of a sudden i get a call from her so im like ok hello? and it was a guy and theyre like hey baby blah blah we gonna do it tonight? like joking and i was like uhhh i dont know who this is! and they're like come on how can you not know baby. and then it ended up being jeff and but was joking! but then nikki wanted me to sleepover and i wish i could of but i have to go somewhere early tomorow morning and jeff wanted me too. ;) i wouldnt have SEX with him though im strong enough to say NO. but do you think he is interested in me? i know he is deff. attracted to me he even said so himself. but i know he wants to do stuff with me! but im glad that he is still thinking about me. i dont know what do you think about this whole deal. hes so nice and everything treats his gf's like queens! and doesnt rush anyone into something they dont want to do. but i know he just wants to do stuff with me and im fine with making out but nothing really more. he said he still loved his girlfriend and wouldnt give up on her but then why is he talking to me!?

Looks like you'd be the rebound girl if you did go out with him. To add: He probably just only wants you because of your body, and I don't think you want a relationship like that. Those are the worst kinds. If I were you I'd stay away from everything that has to do with him and his ex and not do anything with him. Untill he likes you for YOU and not how you look

-BlackBatman-

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ok.. so today.. my boyfriend broke up with me (after 17 amazing months of making out)
before he broke up with me.. he told me that i made him gay.. and that he now has a boyfriend that he's been seeing for a little less than half of our relationship..
He told me that he loves him and is going to get married to him.. and now i feel like crap
I mean.. all we did was make out.. and he says I sucked and he turned gay...
then to prove he was gay.. because i thought he was kidding- he showed me a picture of his boyfriend on a gay porn website.. then he showed me that he was on the website too..
I still thought he was kidding- so i went to give him a kiss- and he said "sorry- I'm really gay, Kayleigh.. i'll show you my boyfriend and i'll make out with him".. so he showed me his boyfriend (who was sitting about 20 feet behind us) and they made out for like 5 minutes..

so now i don't know what to do.. i feel like crap because I turned my Ex-boyfriend gay.. and now i've got his parents on my back yelling at me because he's gay now...

WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I need help!

I thought about suicide.. but i'm not sure?
am I going crazy? am I really that bad of a kisser? please help!

~Turned-My-Ex-Gay

First off. You probably didn't turn your ex bf gay just by being a bad kisser. Really, that idea is just rediculous. Hes probably been gay for a long wile. Stop thinking about suicide and all these other things that are the easy way out and relize that hes just an ass. The best thing you can really do is just to move on. I personally hate this quote, but somethings the best revenge IS living well, and that's exatally what you should do Kayleigh. Live it up. Life is too short to even spend a minute in sorrow. Go out and LIVE YOUR LIFE. I personally hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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age:13
gender:female

ok well this may be a weird question but i wanna know.i am bisexual and i wanna know how it feels to kiss a girl not a guy.i was almost in a relationship with a girl but she moved away.i have a bf but if i ever dated a girl i just wanna know how it feels.i always knew i liked girls more than friends ever since i was in 3rd grade.some of my friends know that i'm bi but my bf doesn't know.so i'm just asking if any of you know how it feels to kiss a girl.so if anyone can give me any info please let me know.
peace up,a town down.

Kissing a girl isn't any diffrent then kissing a guy. A kiss is a kiss no matter what the gender

-BlackBatman-

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hey my boyfriend is in the army and he had to go back to iraq today and he's already been shot twice.,... i just basically need help to keep going... im so scared that he might get hurt or worse ... not come back
thanks

It's always hard thing to see someone you love to off and fight... Seeing that hes already been shot twice you know that war is unpredictable. So, you don't know what's going to happen at any time over there. The best thing you can do right now is just to hope, and have faith that he'll return. Try and occupy your mind everyday so you won't have to think and worry about him so much. Just keep a strong will and he'll carry that with him into battle. I hope everything works out for you two. You have my heart and hopes with you

-BlackBatman-

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Oh no! i have a problem. this boy asked me out like a week ago and he is seriously...like so in love with me. the problem is that i dont think i really have such deep feelings for him. and i cannot break up with him because he keeps on telling me he keeps getting hurt by girls..and that i make him so happy and you know things that would make it impossible for me to break up with him. So any suggestions on maybe how to get myself to like him more?? Or even what to do?!THANKS i need it.

Well, you can't really MAKE yourself like him but, you can try and find out some new things about him. Maybe that would make you realize that hes a even better guy then you thought before. Or, if you just really don't feel like being in a relationship with him, then it would be best if you just told him the truth. It would be better to tell him the turth rather then just lying to him. It would show that you really do love him enough to do that for him, and yourself. Trust me. I just got off the phone with my ex last night. She told me that she was no longer in love with me. It hurt, it hurts like hell but, I would have rather her tell the truth then lie to me. So, do what you think and feel is right. I hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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Ok, so I always talk on AIM, but girls always ask me to call them. Problem is, I'm bad at talking on the phone, without having an "awkward silence." Especially with the girl I'm crushing on. What are some good phone topics or good conversation starters on the phone so that it doesn't feel awkward, and so I can call them more frequently? O I'm 15/m btw.

Believe me, random conversation starters are the best. Just talk about whatever comes to mind and it'll start a conversation. Like... Right now I'm noticing that Advicenators has a green//teal layout. You don't really see too many green layouts do you? You see, that's a conversation right there. Although, that dosen't work for everone so. If that dosen't work for you then you can try out different ways to start a conversation. Like having thought about something before hand. Anyway's, I hope it all works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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I have a boyfriend and weve been going out for a week. I know it doesnt seem like a long time, but he and I liked eachother for a long time. Well he recently is kindof ignoring me, not talking to me (like in short sentances) and he took me out of the first spot on myspace and He doesnt call very much. Its kindof getting annoying and I think he might cheat on me. My problem is, I still like him, but I do want to be happy and get rid of him early so it doesnt get bad. What do I do?

Well, obviously something is going on with him. I'd say that the best thing that you can do is attempt to talk to him about it. Remember: communication is the foundation to a good relationship. So, try to talk to him about it, and see whats wrong. Then, hopefully you can solve the problem issue and you can both be happy. I hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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Why do men lie so much!?!

Obviously, right now you're hurt and not thinking too straight. We've all been in this position at least once in our lives. Though, there comes another point in which you have to realize that all people lie. Not just men or woman but, everyone. It's harsh, sometimes deadly but, you have to learn how to cope with the fact to better deal with your problems

-BlackBatman-

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well this is your typical, boy falls in love with his best friend. i have loved this girls since high school, and out friendship is the strongest friendship anybody could have. we are like exactly the same.

well, i never told her how i felt, i believed that i had no chance with her. she was always with someone with someone else, and she seemed happy. certain things happened , and i had to tell her how i felt. we had to stop talkin for a couple of years, but we are now talking but keeping our friendship very private and hidden.

i have been in love with this girl for like 6 years, i know it could never be, but something inside tells me that she is the one. :-( i am aware of my situation, i know i should let it go, but i cant. every day i am more and more convinced that she is the love of my life, and i can't do nothing abou it. i really dont talk about this , i have these intense feelings and yet i must pretend that i dont feel anything, so it would help to hear form others. has anyone been through this?

Well, my thoughts on this is that you have to go and tell her how you feel. It's been a long time keeping these kinds of feelings bottled up inside yourself. I just had to call my ex last night and confront her (shes no longer in love with me). So, life is too short to wait around for things to happen, or try and put them out of your mind. If I were you. I'd be on the first bus to her house, telling her EVERYTHING that I feel twoards her. I hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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okay i'm 14 and female.
i have this guy friend that is really fun, and hot. but there was all this stuff (nothing bad) that went on between us last school year. and of course we hadn't talked for 2 months (summer break) then at lunch yesterday (we were outside), he came up to me and started talking to me (for the first time this school year)and then he started flirting with me BIG time. and i mean he was hugging me and wouldn't let go (and yes i liked that but that's something he normally wouldn't do) and he said something that i liked but i'm not going to say. of course i like him, and i asked him out last school year and he said no because he told me his last gf cheated on him. he's way more outgoing than last year and i think he likes me more than last year too.

but with the flirting...when guys act like that, what's it supposed to mean? and when we start talking more this year, should i ask him out again at the right time if he shows more signs of liking me? or would that not be such a good idea? thanks for the help.

Well, it looks like he changed over the summer. So, I think that you should wait a little into the school year before you try and make any kind of move at all. Though, if he dose still flirt with you into the rest of the school year, I think you should ask him out again if you feel like doing so, and if not. Then you guys can still be good friends.

-BlackBatman-

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