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So I have these two friends that I'm really close with. We hang out all the time and such, but sometimes it feels like I'm so different from them. You see, they are both always the center of attention and ALL the guys like them. No lie! Like, I always feel secondary when I'm with them. For example, I was hanging with both of them the other day and we were with 3 other guys. Two of those guys likes one friend, and the other guy likes my other friend...but I always feel left out because no guys like me. It's like they're always hanging out with people when I'm there and I'm never really part of their "clique." For example, the guys invited both of my friends over and didn't invite me. It's like I'm invisible. I don't get it; people say I'm really pretty and nice and blah blah blah and it's not like these two friends of mine are devestatingly gorgeous but the thing is, I'm never the center of attention, I guess I'm just too laid back. I kinda wish I was more outgoing and confident like these two friends. So what I'm asking is, does anyone know how I can be more confident and noticed like my friends are? Any tips or websites on how to be more outgoing and noticed and to get guys to like you? Because obviously what I'm doing now isn't working. Thanks mucho.
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It sounds like you've become like the third wheel. Like a tag along. Maybe you hsould branch out and start meeting new people because then when they go to parties you can have other plans rather then being left out. And in the guy case, you have to put yourself out there, the guys won't always come looking for you, sometimes you have to do the looking.
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To be honest, you really shouldn't change yourself just to make guys like you. It's really not worth it. I think that the best thing you can do for yourself in this possition is try to be more outgoing and impulsive. Some people might try and be the opposite but, again: You shouldn't change yourself just to make guys like you. Wait for the guy that likes you for who you really are. That'll be the best guy of all
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Gah. Oh no. Another girl feeling down because no guys like her. Bleh. And I say that in the nicest way...anywhos =D
Well, I'm not sure if there is an website that tells you how to be confindent and bold and outgoing. But if you feel invisible and left out (which I feel the same way with my other two sorta friends(they're homosexual so they end up flirting with each other and I'm just sitting there...trying to not get grossed out..again)) you should consider talking to them (Which I never really did with mine). I mean 3 in a group doesn't work out as well because one person is bound to feel left out few times or a lot.
In this case you feel left out a lot. I suggest this: keep your 2 friends but while they're doing their own things, you go and meet other new friends. I mean there is not rule that says you HAVE to be with them 24/7 right? There are a lot more people out there that you can get along with better than with those two friends.
As for th Boldness thingy: #1 rule: BE YOURSELF. Don't change yourself to be noticed by people..that would lead you to another mask you have to put on to impress others. When you go somewhere like parties, go join a group where few people are gathered and introduce yourself or if at school meet new people in your new classes. Get aquainteed with everyone there and no skipping people...unless they're really morbid or in the "bad crowd".
And you do NOT have to be in a "clique" to go and be bold. Just introduce yourself to as many people, make new friends (even guys) and talk to them. Start on AIM or YIM or MSN and talk to guys a lot. And when you meet them, just flirt.
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