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Q:
okay. sunday im going to my first overnight camp. it will be until wednesday. how many shirts/shorts? any other tips? should i bring my new razr? PLEASE HELP
I RATE !!!!!!

please do this ASAP

I'd bring 2 outfits for each day because you never know what can happen. Also, do NOT bring your razor. You never know people there and so you can't trust them to not take it, or it could easily break there, or you could lose it.

Q: I gained wait over the summer. But not a lot. Only maybe a pound or two. But I feel like my stomach is flabby and I can make it more fit. How do I get a six pack (or somewhat close to it) by september second- when school starts?

f/13

Bascilly you need...

1) a balanced diet

2) running (works well for me)

3) basic ab workouts (ie situps, crunches etc.)

Q: What`s the best thing to use for pimples that actualy works? & that I don`t have to orde.

Oxy Pads. They are amazzzzzzzzzzing. They either got a new package or I'm using the men's ones but it's a black package with red writing. It's a miracle. My face is almost completely cleared after almost 2 days.

Q: I wear black eyeliner right now. But i was watching The Tyra Show and she said that White eyeliner makes your eyes stand out more. If Thats True Does it look good.

If you can answer by tomorrow or saturday. Thats wonderful but Anytime IS good also.

Thank you.

Well when I see people put it like full on as the only eyeliner color on top and bottom... i think it looks kinda weird. like someone before me said, put it on the corners or your eyes, thats what will make them stand out.

Q: Hello. I'm supposed to be going to get my eyebrow pierced soon and a tattoo on my shoulder. I was wondering if anyone on here has their eyebrow pierced, but also has glasses. I have glasses and I'm thinking it'll look horrible if I get my eyebrow pierced. I just thought of this cuz I'm really weird. If anyone has glasses and also has their eyebrow pierced please let me know, cuz I'd like to know if it'd look good or not. If not, I probably won't get it done. My sister has it pierced but she doesn't have glasses. I asked her if it'd look good and she said yeah, but I think shes lying to me. If you need to see what I look like you can go on my myspace to look at my pics. I only have 2 on there of myself, and their not all that great. I'm an ugly person. I don't have a specific link so just search KxIxMxMxY51890@aol.com That's my email address. My myspace should come up, because I think I changed it from being set to private. Anyone should be able to view it now. If you have a problem viewing my pics please let me know. I really appreciate it. Thank you very much to anyone who answers.

well from the pic i saw, i think you will look fine with it. some people can work it and some cant. i think you could.

Q: is it normal to get your period once a month for only 3 days?

Yeah that's perfectly normal. It can range from a couple of hours to a week or more for different people.

Q: I have like a million lotions and i have sooo many i can never find the kind i want. what are some ways to organize them so i can see all of them but it doesnt look junky like just sitting all of them on a big counter!! thanks!!!

I have a ton too and I just put the ones I used most from like tallest to smallest on my bereau (only like 5) and then the rest I keep in a cute little basket in my closet with the ones I never use on the bottom and the ones I may use on top. It's really helpful for me.

Q: if a person is bipolar how do they act..?
-thanks

They tend to switch moodys extremely fast. One minute they could be the happiest person alive and then the next they could be bawling their eyes out.

Q: what's wrong with your computer when it says your computer is in danger?I will rate 5 for all answers even if it's not helpful.please answer.Thanks.

usually it means it is able to contract a virus and break down. This happens if your computer is unprotected.

Q: I've heard that if you get a sunburn, and you put sunscreen on wherever you got sunburned, it makes your sunburn turn into a tan. I've tried that before and it never worked.

My question is: is there any way to make a sunburn turn into a tan? Are there any special things to use? How long does it take to work?

Thank you!

Well if you do get burnt, put on Aloe Vera. It isn't healthy to burn just to tan but if you do get burnt, it could range from a day to a week for it to turn. For me, it's about a day but I am also a dark complextion. It really verys. But just watch out because you could get skin cancer or sun poisoning.

Q: Hi, I'm new to this website but i desperatly need help from other girls my age. I'm fourteen and i have a big problem.. I'm flatchested. ya I know alot of girls are flat at like 13 and some at 14 barely but it seems every single girl has boobs ecxept for me!! ahh i'm always scared to wera bathing suits in front of guys coz they like to pull the tops of as a joke .. but,, if that werwe ever to happen top me all they would see is a flat chest and a very padded bathing suit floating in the water... grrr i'm soo pissed y can't i be normal?? if anyone else has this problem please talk to me also im thinking of trying a breast cream called perfect women it has good ratings and it says to ecxpect results of 1/2 to 2 full cup sizes in just 3 months!! well, i dont know if thats true or not but it was on tv.. mi mom doesnt want to pay for it coz syhe thinks its a scam but i have the money..if u have usesd this product or heard of it fill me in kk? well this was mi firsrt entry im glad i can get this all out without people finding out hoo i really amm. bi

I'm 15 and small chested and trust me, the size isn't a problem. Nothing (except surgery) can make them grow but time. You may think everyone else has a larger chest but really, it's all in your head. You're seeing it as that because you think that you are smaller. In reality, other girls may see you as bigger than them. Guys go for a personally so be proud of yourself and comforable in your skin. That's what they want to see. Overtime you will grow. Just hang in there.

Q: my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my ex donnie is 18 years old and the reason I break up with is becouse my mom made me break up with him 3 days after our relationship becouse he smoked,but he never smoked around me becouse he knew how my mom felt about it and he was arrested once,but when he got together with me he tried to change,but she won't belive that's he's really changed how can I get my mom to give him a chance?How can I get her to belive he's really changed?

Wow I am in the exact same situation. My mom hates my guy because he is always smoking and she knows it. He trys not to do it near me but sometimes the cravings kick in. Now my friends think he is dangerous because he was in juvey and don't want me to have anything to do with him and they can't see that he has changed and is working on his life.

It's really hard to have to put up with people like this and what I do is I ignore it. You know yourself he is changed and that's all that matters. If you love him, that can overpower anything. As for your mom not letting you see him though, that is a problem. Just have him come over for dinner and show your mom how he has changed. Maybe let them talk things out. She should realize how much you like him and put this aside but if she doesn't, look on the bright side. You are 17 and there is only so much time until you're 18 and have the full right to see him. Hang in there and best of luck.

Q: Why is it that so many girls freak out about their boobs being too small? I see so many questions about girls who think that because they have small boobs, they won't get any guys. That is not true at all.

But that really isn't the issue, I guess. I myself have quite the chest. I'm a 38 D, and still growing somewhat. It is painful sometimes, especially around periods, and frustrating, because it is near impossible to find shirts that fit, or decent bras.

So when I see these girls who think their lives are over because they are 16 and they aren't Jessica Rabbit, it makes me angry. They have no idea what larger chested women have to deal with! To me, it seems they have it easy. They don't have to worry about aching backs, or not being able to wear a beautiful shirt or dress because it is too tight at the bust, or too loose everywhere else.

How can I keep from being so angry with them? I know that they don't understand, and I know it isn't worth fussing over, but I just can't help it.

Thank you all so much!

I myself am small chested and I do get angry with other girls when they complain and say they can't get guys because I have had plenty! I also have a really good friend who is quite large breasted and it's hurting her life. She has to get them reduced due to her back pain and I don't know why anyone would want that just to get guys. I can see how you feel and I'm sorry that your life is like that too.

When it comes down to trying not to be so angry, just look at them when they are complaining and tell them about your life and tell them it's not all fun and games. If they see you and how it's not positivly affecting your life, they might start to change their thinking.

Thank you for finally saying something about those women who only complain about it and I hope everything turns out the best for you.

Q: I'm in my first serious relationship with an amazing guy. My family & friends all like him, and of course I like him very much. The problem is, since him and I have been together, I've spent less time with friends. They have been trying to hangout with me, but for some reason I have more fun with my boyfriend. I feel like a horrible friend because these girls are great friends. Is it so wrong that I'd rather be with my boyfriend at this point in my life? (17/F)

It's hard when it comes down to choosing between friends and boyfriends. Try and talk to your boyfriend and tell him you love hanging out with him. But think about it, chances are, your friends are going to be there longer than your guy. It's important to balance them both even if you have more fun with your guy. Try and pick certain days of the week for your friends and others for you guy. It's important to keep it all balanced. Good luck!

Q: okay me and my boyfriend was messing around on teh 16th and we kinda was like naked.. on out lower have.. and he was fingering me and i was touching his penis..and
when i loooked down my shirt was wet.
he says it was mine.. because i was really wet
and im like no i wrapped you penis in my shirt
and hes like well you can get pregnate frmo PRECUM or somthing is that true?
and my period doesnt come until next month
i dont feel sick or anything.
im just worried
i dont want to be pregnate
and we broke up because we thought our relationship was going too fast.

im scared
yea i know SPREM DOESNT DIE WHEN IT HITS THE AIR!
and.. i dont know
we didnt have sex. we were kinda dry humping naked on the lower half

You can get pregnant from precum. I would get a test and maybe even go and talk to a gynocolegist if you think you may be pregnant.

Q: What is the name of that one movie that is western and that one guy has that giant robot spider that he controlles???

Wil Wild West... great movie

Q: My sister just had a baby and he husband's last name is Wood. Well, my sister has always wanted to name her daughter "Holly". So we just need a few HONEST opinions here.

Do you find it tacky to have a girl named "Holly Wood?"

I think it's awesome. My friends middle name is Hollywood so I think it's a really cool name to have.

Q: is it bad to exercise right after you eat.. besides the fact that you could get sick..

I heard somewhere (sorry I honestly can't remember) that you're not suppossed to exercise right after you eat.. especially a big meal. I don't know why but yeah you're right you will get sick. It's best to do it in the middle of two meals. Not right before you eat and not right after.

Q: It said I had 1 new question in my inbox, but when I clicked on it it said I had no new unanswered questions. Is this a glitch or something? OR did the person delete their question?

That happens to me a lot. It either means they deleted their question or you have already answered it but it just hasn't shown up that way to the website.

Q: Ok I can answer almost anything and know I am stuck on a single family problume! Ahh but thanks for your help ahead of time!!! Ok my parents are always fighting I mean always! They fight over my dad always yelling at me cussing me out and stuff like that! Then this past school some girl who I had never talked to only maybe once or twice. Told the office that I was being abussed because i had bruises on me. Yeah my da had hit me and so on and so on, but they didn't even let me talk very much or anything to say my side or anything. They called childrens services and they came to my house. My dad lied to them in front of every onen else in my family and he said that it was just from be that I was falling of my horse running barrels and he grabed me because he didn't want me to hurt my self! He yells at me all the time and he is hardly ever home but when he is I am always in the worst mood because I don't want to be around him! He once told me to get the hell out of his life! I tryed to run away this was about a year ago! And i have also tryed to run away in the past as well! But I don't do that any more because my mom swares that if she lost me she would get killed! But know onto my brother... he is just like my dad except the beating of him is worse! I will do one thing wrong like leave up the foot rest on our couch and he will sit there and screem at the top of his lugs at me for it. I cant look people in the eyes I never have it makes me feel weired but then he punches me and kicks me and things like that! he does it all the time! he has cut me with knifes and spoons and thrown me down stairs! Too What i am saying is also he is getting married and she wants kids! I have tryed to tell her but she is too in love with my brother to understand me! I am worrried for my brothers fiancee(sp?) and his future kids and also what can I do about my parents and my brother? I am so stressed out I don't know how to handle it!!! Please Help I need it bad! Also Sorry this is soo long!!!

Well, you are doing the right thing by trying to tell your brother's girlfriend. As for your dad, stay away from him as much as possible and go and talk to someone about it. A conselor would probably be best considering you've been hurt enough times to not be able to look people straight in the eye anymore and your running away from home. This is not a normal thing and something needs to be done. If you feel brave enough, try and catch some of your brothers yelling or your father's abuse on tape or on film and then show it to the police. Your father lied to them (against the law) and he beat you (against the law) and he could have enough stuff and evidence on him to put him away which would most likely be best for you family.

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Hey guys! My name is Leah and I am 15 years old. I'm from Maine where it's always beautiful but for some reason, everyone here wants to leave it. I love playing basketball and just hangin out with my friends whenever I can. I am the advice giver in my group of friends and I always help them out with whatever it is they may need. When I get older I want to be a phyciatrist and have a huskey named Isabella. I don't know why but I do. If you have a problem, I am here for you and wont judge you at all. I never pass up on a question passed to me so don't be shy. I've been through a lot in the past 15 years and I'm sure I will be able to answer a majority of you guys' questions. Hit me up and don't forget to live for the moment. It's the most important thing you can do.