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Something that has been bothering me a lot lately.
Why is it that so many girls freak out about their boobs being too small? I see so many questions about girls who think that because they have small boobs, they won't get any guys. That is not true at all.
But that really isn't the issue, I guess. I myself have quite the chest. I'm a 38 D, and still growing somewhat. It is painful sometimes, especially around periods, and frustrating, because it is near impossible to find shirts that fit, or decent bras.
So when I see these girls who think their lives are over because they are 16 and they aren't Jessica Rabbit, it makes me angry. They have no idea what larger chested women have to deal with! To me, it seems they have it easy. They don't have to worry about aching backs, or not being able to wear a beautiful shirt or dress because it is too tight at the bust, or too loose everywhere else.
How can I keep from being so angry with them? I know that they don't understand, and I know it isn't worth fussing over, but I just can't help it.
Thank you all so much!
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I'm something of an expert in this field - 27 years old and have been a 34AA bra size since I was about 12. Reasons why I'm very bothered by my small boobs, and think I'm well within my rights to complain now and then:
1. I can't find a bra that fits me. Forget your concern about "decent" bras, I have been through entire department store lingerie sections with nothing to show but a pang of envy at all the larger women buying pretty things.
2. I can't find many other clothes to fit me properly. Not just fitted shirts (although they're terrible) but most other clothes for the top half make me look like a 12 year old boy. I work in a professional office environment and my jackets are all baggy around the chest. Talk about looking like a kid playing dress-up!
3. Men AND women insult me about my chest, and have done on a fairly regular basis for the past 15 years. It still hurts. And I now frequent the cycling class at the gym rather than stripping down to do laps in the pool - even though I do prefer swimming.
4. I don't have enough breast tissue to fill out a push-up bra, so I can't even convincingly PRETEND to have boobs.
5. Despite my moderately curvy lower-half, I'm too scrawny on the top half to consider getting a boob job, because I don't have enough flesh to hide the edges of the implants enough.
6. At least if I had large breasts, I could get a REDUCTION (to say a B-cup), so I would be an hourglass rather than pear-shaped!
You are right about guys (I don't have any issues attracting them) but I still wish a guy - ANY guy - would sneak a look at my chest just ONCE in my life, as if there was something worth seeing.
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Well Girls think that having big boobs gets them guys. Which is not true. Some guys will be taken in by it and some guys really don't like it. Some girls really don't care like me and my friends we don't wanna look at eachothers boobs and start fussing about how we look. Because it is very dumb and i don't think any girl should get boob implants just to get boys because some boys really really don't care some boys might even make fun of girls. Just tell them that they look fine they way they are. boobs do not matter to most guys
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I have the exact same problem! A ton of girls are like "OMG! Tricia you have such big boobs. Lucky!" And I'm like "HEY I'LL TRADE!" Can you say back pains?! Oh my gosh my back hurts so bad sometime just from the weight of them. I can NEVER find a decent braw EVARRRR. Shirts don't fit properly and makes me look like I'm busting out of the shirt. Girls with a small chest just jealous because they THINK that girls with big boobs get all the guys, when a lot of them could care less.
Now, the thing you need to do to keep from getting mad at them, and when you seem them groveling for tips to make their boobs look bigger, and think "Ha! They want what I've got." It might not be the most flattering way, but its true. Just keep confident about your size! Everything will be fine. Good luck on staying calm, because trust me, they get on my nerves too!
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Well, I guess that some wish for bigger breasts because we were born into a society where we learn that big breasts are attractive. I'm 13, 5 feet even, and I only wear a training bra. I know, sad. Everyone is upset over one feature of their body. It is hard to find someone who is truly happy about everything about themselves.
I think the only way for you to not get mad at them is just to ignore them. And why get mad at them? They're, I mean we are still teenagers. We have a lot to learn. I don't really let the size of my chest take over my life. Everyone else who complains about their small chest will learn.
Hope I helped!
P.S.- Who's Jessica Rabbit?
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they may not have to worry about the pain, but you dont have to worry about getting guys. heh, thats obviously not all that matters, but it sets up my point. the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
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LOL! I definatley feel ya' on this one. I myself have a DDD cup size and it sucks!!! Every night my hubby rubs my back cuz I'm in so much pain... all the super-cute shirts I see my friends wearing, I can't. Or better yet say you find a shirt that does fit in the top part...you take up so much more fabric at the top that the shirt is too short at the bottom. We'll never understand why they complain and they'll never understand why we complain. SOME (not all) of the members of the not so well endowed see it as they can't get a bf because they have small breasts. We have big breast and dont even want em lol. I bet if they could have a whole week with big tits they wouldnt want em anymore. Any maybe...just maybe if we had a A-cup just for a week we would decide we really didn't want that either.
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Just remember that the grass is always greener on the other side. ;-)
I know how you feel. I'm a bigger person, overweight actually--but everything I eat is healthy, I don't over-eat, and I exercise. I see this thin-as-a-stick girls who are LAZY and eat whatever they want...and they have the nerve to say, "I'm so fat."
Honestly, I blame society. Look around you. There's a lot of pressure on girls to fit into a certain role. I don't blame them for thinking that their lives are over if they don't have big boobs, since today's teenagers have watched more TV than any other generation, and this is the message that TV is sending to us, as well as magazines, etc. I just think these girls need more confidence, and to look around in the REAL world once in a while. But all teenage girls are going to complain about how they look. It's a fact of life. I'm sure you do it too, so when you hear just sigh and shake your head and move on. When you see it on an advicenators question, just put it out of your mind--people online DON'T matter. =)
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You shouldn't have to keep it all in! I'm a 36 C and i think it's even painful, but I already have back problems. You're right. They do think it's so hard to find boys because they don't have the chest, but that seriously isn't true. It's good that someone finally says it. Don't stop saying it, the flat people need to know it's not all about boobs. =]
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I myself am small chested and I do get angry with other girls when they complain and say they can't get guys because I have had plenty! I also have a really good friend who is quite large breasted and it's hurting her life. She has to get them reduced due to her back pain and I don't know why anyone would want that just to get guys. I can see how you feel and I'm sorry that your life is like that too.
When it comes down to trying not to be so angry, just look at them when they are complaining and tell them about your life and tell them it's not all fun and games. If they see you and how it's not positivly affecting your life, they might start to change their thinking.
Thank you for finally saying something about those women who only complain about it and I hope everything turns out the best for you.
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you have to remember that people are never happy with what they have no matter what. well, some are, but they make up a very small minority. i think you made a very good point here and you should bring it up to any girl who complains about her small bra size. however, don't get mad because you have to understand that they are victims of peer pressure and steriotypes of hot women with large breasts they see on tv, which are created by men. the thing is, our society puts an enourmous amount of pressure on girls. they feel that they need to be pretty and skinny and that they should have large enough breasts for boys to stare at. they see pretty women in magazines, commercials and movies, and they think that they have to look like that too.
just keep that in mind. they're not like that because they're inconsiderate, they are like that because society puts so much pressure on them.
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you go girl. im only a c and i dont caree
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Ok, first of all, this doesn't exactly sound like an issue that you truely need to ask on Advicenators. I mean come on, get serious. You posted a question about why people with a small chest get upset?
Well, I'm not so big myself, barely fitting into a B. Hmm, let's see.. if having big boobs is such a problem for you with all that pain stuff, how would you like if you lowered yours down a few hundred sizes? I think all girl would rather have big ones than small ones, so you definitely shouldn't be whining over yours on Advicenators. Yeah, there are some up and down sides of having huge boobs, but there's probably more down sides on the having small boobs side. Oh, but you wouldn't know, so how could you relate to these girls? Don't get angry over something silly like that, especially since you're not the one to deal with it.
Sometimes it is the fact that they have a large chest that catches a guys attention. It's true, they aren't going to get NO guys at ALL, but somebody might be self-concious about this!
I agree, I know a lot of flat-chested girls that have loving boyfriends, but not all guys are nice little fairy boys that go for personality.
If you want to stop getting angry over this, ignore the questions for Pete's sake.
Sorry for being a little harsh. I gave my personal opinion, because what else am I supposed to say? That people with small chests are spoiled brats who don't know pain? Whatever, girls can experience breast pain when they're developing, so don't think we're stupid.
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well,since im a 32A-i know im small-but i wont complain-its not worth complaining-i'll grow. i like my size (since im a really small person...4"9 >.< ) anyways i just think you should just tell the complainers what you told us-and i agree-boys dont go for breasts that much-its about the face & the personality i thnk.I Guess you should probably learn to ignore the people who complain.its like you said-its not worth the fuss. :)
well-im sorry my advice is probably what you already said-i might not have helped you-but i hope i did!
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