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my friend always tells me how everyone tells her shes sooo pretty. & like it gets annoying. & like im not jealous, because twice as many people tell me im pretty. so its not like im jealous. i just dont go around telling people, what other people say to me. like she does. so how can i make her stop?? besides saying like i dont care. bc i already tried that.. & well right now i just did & i can tell its turning into a fight. soo yahh
help?
I hate that sooooooooo incredibly much. My one friend kept doing that to me all last year and I wouldn't know how to react without turning into something mean. I think I might have asked a question like this on Advicenators too?
Well, this is kind of a hard question to answer, because 90% of the time it turns out to be a fight. You could be like, "That's really great that people like you, but I'm not the person you have to convince, ok? You tell me things like this a lot, and it's not an interest of mine to know which person thinks you're attractive. It's not like I write these down. I don't want this to turn into a fight, because I'm trying really hard to tell you what I feel without sounding mean."
Something along those lines? Say it very slow and calm, like a normal conversation. Keep your expression straight and serious, but not like it's obvious that you're pissed off.
whenever im around people that i dont usually hang out with like new people, i usually get shy.. this always happens so now i am known as the shy girl.. any tips that would help me to get unshy? i have tried to start conversations but sometimes i have nothing to say. and i have always tried to be myself too
If you're about to meet some new people, you have to be confident in yourself. You have to come in the room like you have no care in the world, and people will notice that too. Don't pick at your fingernails or look at the ground, just jump into the conversation and add anything that you can connect to. If you can't connect to anything, say something random like "God, love your bracelet... did you get that at the (so and so) Mall? I could have sworn i saw one just like that in (so-and-so) Store. I don't like that store that much, but that bracelet caught my eye as soon as I passed the window.' Be as talkative as you can, even if it's just a bunch of details. Ask a lot of questions too. People love to talk about themselves. But DON'T BE SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT. Stick to yourself because that will a mess.
That pretty much sums it up. Now get out there!
Hi there. This is the first time asking advice like this. First let me start by saying. I am a 31 years old man.
now for my problem.
I have been with the same woman for 12-13 years. we have had 2 children together, one of whom passed away last year and the other that was just born this year. Lately we've been going throughsome rough times. She has been playing with my emotions. A virtual rollercoaster ride. One day i try to cuddle get intimate, and she'll say "We shouldn't do this" the next she's kissing me pationately. The problem i have, is that i have feelings for her how ever dwindled that they are, while exhibiting feelings for another woman. One who has captivated me over the last few weeks.
My issue is i don't feel that the relationship i am in is going anywhere. but with my new born baby i am kind of in a bind. thus my title. I am torn between 2 loves. Or three if you add in my newborn.
please help me figure out what i should do.
Please think what's best for the baby. In the mean time, have a talk with your girlfriend (wife?). Her putting you through a 'virtual roller coaster ride' might just be a state that she'll get over in some time. The baby could be putting some stress on her. You have to think how she feels. She went through labor to have your child and now she and you are raising him/her. Maybe you could go to couples therapy?
I know how it feels to not love the one you are with. But nothing good comes out of cheating and it will create a whole new mess. When your baby gets older, what do you think he'll think of you? Would your baby want you to love another woman?
I feel like I don't want to live anymore. I did NOTHING this summer and I hate myself for wasting my summer. I lost alot of my friends almost all of them. My boyfriend and I just broke up. My 9 year old sister gets treated like a princess by my parents and my parents ground me for everything that happens when my sister always does the bad stuff. My sister gets to go to my neighbors beach house every weekend and sleeps over EVERY weekend while my mom makes me stay with my grandma who hates me while my mom and dad go to expensive restaurants having the best time. I used to be the smartest person in school with straight A's but now my grades are slipping so much I almost had to stay back. I'm so lazy and never get anything done. I've gotten soo much acne and I've went to almost every dermatologist in the state and my pimples are still there and my face hurts because its irritated. My hair always looks unhealthy. My eyes are too small. My nose is too big and is covered in zits. My hair is dead and I use the best shampoo. And today I got so mad because my parents pissed me off so much I cut my hair with scissors and I just cut a HUGE chunk of the front of my hair so now thats screwed up. My hair won't curl no matter what I use. If you had to live that bad, wouldn't you feel like wanting to die? Everything about me and my life is screwed up. I'm so sad lately and no body and nothing can cheer me up. If I could feel good about my appearence and friends and life then I would enjoy living. I used to. But this summer everything is falling apart. I don't know what to do. It's probably just hormones I'm 13 and I don't have depression I'm usually really happy. I don't know what I can do so that I feel better about myself. Help?!
I know how you feel! A year ago I was so depressed that I stopped eating for a little. Most of the things that happened to you happened to me! I'm sorry you have to go through so much.
For your acne: Proactive Solution! Get it cheap on Ebay, it works miracles. For your hair: Ask your Mom or Dad to take you out to get a fresh hair cut. Try a new cut, not just a trim. Idk, something like getting short/long bangs, layers, etc. And while you're there, ask the stylist what she recommends for dry hair. Who's better to come to with hair questions then a hairdresser?
You can put a little makeup on to define your eyes. If you're looking for specific brands, here they are: for eyeliner-Maybelline Unstoppable, for mascara-FLIRT! Lash Thickening Mascara, for eyeshadow: any color of Maybelline you like. I usually use those things because they're my favorite.
I hate hormones! But we all have to deal with them, so you deff. aren't alone. Things can't get worse unless you make them worse. Go out and plan something fun for yourself and yourself only! Tell your parents exactly what you told Advicenators. They'll have to understand.
If you want to hang out with your friends more, call an old buddy up and ask them to do something really fun with you (like go to the movies/mall/or whatever floats your boat really). Don't just hang out at your house. Get out and have fun! Do something crazy that you would never normally do (but keep it safe).
Remember, it will get better. You'll get through it, I'm rootin' for ya! And hey, if you want to talk you can always email me or talk to me over Advicenators. My friends say I'm a good listener and I make people feel better. I only want to help, and it always makes people feel better to talk about it.
What are some good ab workouts that will help me see results fast???
you can do this workout called the bicycle. it's basically like crunches with more movement. put your hands behind your head and sit up, but each time you come up, touch your right elbow with your left leg. your legs are going in a circular motion, like you're on a bike. do this again but with your left elbow on your right leg. that's a good workout.
then you can lay in front of the tv and try to keep your legs 6 inches off the ground. it's really hard, but the more pain in your abs, the better.
have fun!
I`m 14/f I have hair down there. Should I shave it off or what I mean I think it`s really nasty so what`s the best way to get rid of it other then getting it waxed!?
hey, i agree, getting waxed isn't the best choice and plus it hurts. if it's bothering you, you could shave down there as long as you're careful. i don't think it's abnormal to do that 'cause i know a lot of people who do. but it only gets hair off for a little while because hair grows back quick. oh, and whatever you do, DON'T use veet or nair to get hair off.
I don't understand why boys my age think I'm not that pretty but then guys 6 years older then me think I'm soo sexy. I can't find a boyfriend my own age but then I find a boyfriend whos 5 years older then me who thinks I'm gorgeous and loves me !! When my dad is driving me to somewhere and I feel like waiting in the car all of these 20 year olds park their car right next to my dads and they stare at me and start whistling and then honk at me when they drive away and start waving. But then I walk into school and the boys that are in my school could care less about me. I don't get it!!! Why are guys 10 years older then me think I'm attractive and random dudes come up to me saying I'm hot when they are like 22 and the ones my age think I'm just okay?!!?
my guess is that the older guys are more matured then the guys your age. or maybe the guys your age are more secretive or shy about those thoughts. i take it as a compliment when older guys send me signals. ahh, give it some time and im sure you'll be beating the young guys off with a stick.
What is good face wash and moisterizer for combo skin? I need something thats oil free, but is strong enough for my dry skin. Something that wont cause pimples.
Anyone?
Thanks
Hey!
Dove soap is the best soap for acne, clearing up scattered pimples, making skin soft, etc.
If you wash your face every night in the shower with that, your combo skin will get better. The first time I used it I definitely saw/felt a difference.
As for the moisterizer: Somebody recommended this stuff that can be purchased in the makeup department at Kohls. I think it's called Good Skin (ha) and it's specifically for combination/normal skin. It's a green and white sqeeze bottle and I'm looking at it right now. It says:
Perfect balance moisture lotion.
-targets moisture where needed
-strenghtens skin's moisture barrier
-protects with SPF 15
(on the back)
This intelligent moisturizer precisely hydrates while reinforcing skin's proctective moisture barrier with an advanced repair complex. Vitamins C and E help disarm damaging free radicals, B5 engergizes skin.
I like this lotion. It's good but it doesn't smell wonderful.. but I suggest using this at night and/or in the morning. It costs around 15 bucks but I'm sure you can get it for a discount price. When you put it on it can be a little shiny (that's why I suggest putting it on at night) but in the morning it leaves your skin oil free and smooth. It worked well for me and I hope it works just as well for you!
Ok so i wear a little make up... you know cover up and a little mascara but i want to wear eyeliner and stuff. Heres my problem everytime i try to put it on i feel like i'm doing it wrong and i just stop. and i have really uneven skin and i never can get it all covered up without looking bad...can you help me out?
Hey!
If you want to try some ways to apply it you could:
A. pull your bottom eyelid down far enough that you can put a line of waterproof eyeliner (like Maybelline's 'Unstoppable') on. It's pretty easy and Maybelline works well. I like this way sometimes because it's a thin line that makes your eyes pretty and defined.
B. use another Maybelline eyeliner (not waterproof) called Line Stylist. It's purpose is to make a thin, dark, and straight line under the eye. I use my eyeliner like that almost every day! I, personally, like people who do this because it makes it look like you really know how to put on makeup. And it looks a lot prettier and more matured because it's not globbed on.
Maybe you just need the right eyeliner to feel like you're not doing it wrong!
If you put eyeliner on, then try to cover it up, I recommend buying FLIRT! See-ya Eye Makeup Remover. It's really good too.
Just keep experimenting!
Why is it that so many girls freak out about their boobs being too small? I see so many questions about girls who think that because they have small boobs, they won't get any guys. That is not true at all.
But that really isn't the issue, I guess. I myself have quite the chest. I'm a 38 D, and still growing somewhat. It is painful sometimes, especially around periods, and frustrating, because it is near impossible to find shirts that fit, or decent bras.
So when I see these girls who think their lives are over because they are 16 and they aren't Jessica Rabbit, it makes me angry. They have no idea what larger chested women have to deal with! To me, it seems they have it easy. They don't have to worry about aching backs, or not being able to wear a beautiful shirt or dress because it is too tight at the bust, or too loose everywhere else.
How can I keep from being so angry with them? I know that they don't understand, and I know it isn't worth fussing over, but I just can't help it.
Thank you all so much!
Ok, first of all, this doesn't exactly sound like an issue that you truely need to ask on Advicenators. I mean come on, get serious. You posted a question about why people with a small chest get upset?
Well, I'm not so big myself, barely fitting into a B. Hmm, let's see.. if having big boobs is such a problem for you with all that pain stuff, how would you like if you lowered yours down a few hundred sizes? I think all girl would rather have big ones than small ones, so you definitely shouldn't be whining over yours on Advicenators. Yeah, there are some up and down sides of having huge boobs, but there's probably more down sides on the having small boobs side. Oh, but you wouldn't know, so how could you relate to these girls? Don't get angry over something silly like that, especially since you're not the one to deal with it.
Sometimes it is the fact that they have a large chest that catches a guys attention. It's true, they aren't going to get NO guys at ALL, but somebody might be self-concious about this!
I agree, I know a lot of flat-chested girls that have loving boyfriends, but not all guys are nice little fairy boys that go for personality.
If you want to stop getting angry over this, ignore the questions for Pete's sake.
Sorry for being a little harsh. I gave my personal opinion, because what else am I supposed to say? That people with small chests are spoiled brats who don't know pain? Whatever, girls can experience breast pain when they're developing, so don't think we're stupid.
Okay im 14 years old and i have had my period since i was 12... today i invited some people to swim at my house and i went to the bathroom and i saw that i started my period.... i really want to go swimming but im REALLY afraid/scared to use a tampon cause i have never used one before and its scary to do it..can anyone tell me what to do or give me tips or anything.=( like im really scared to do it... im afraid something will go wrong
Okay, it will be really useful in the future if you try a tampon. My advice is to buy a box of Tampax Pearl. I used that because I heard it was easy to use and I couldn't understand how to use the cardboard applicators. I thought it was hopeless because I tried a whole bunch of them without success. Tampax Pearl has a plastic applicator with a rounded top. Just get a mirror and relax your muscles. You will know where to put it and the mirror helps. It slips in really, really easily and I was shocked when I did it because I got it on the first try. They come with a little paper inside the box, if you get lost =)
And you can swim with them on, no problem. They're comfortable and easy to hide under bathing suits/underwear. Don't be afraid!
whats a really good makeup remover that can remove water proof mascara and lots of eyeliner? and i dont want the expensive ones and thanks!!
Your answer is "FLIRT! See-Ya, Eye Make up Remover." It costs 10 bucks for a bottle of it, but it takes off basically any type of eyeliner/mascara. Use cotton balls to apply it.
Yep, I deeply recommend buying it.
Hey im a girl. Im 15 years old. I really like this guy who is a year older then me. We do not go to the same school. So we met on myspace but we live close to each other and next year im going to be going to the same school he is. We met and talked and we also talked alot on aim he was giving me all hints he likes me: calling me his favorite and telling me how amazing i am. Then couple days after we hang out on the weekend it was me him two of my girlfriends and his friend. He was flirting with me and i was flirting with him and i was pretty much positive he liked me. Then we went over to his friends house and everyone else saw we liked each other. They asked me if i liked him and i said yea then they asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt know but i never knew that so i thought he did so i kept on acting like nothing was wrong. Me and him ended up making out for hours. Next morning he was a little akward around me but i knew for a fact he enjoyed making out with me he even told me that. That day i texted him asking him if he liked me as a friend or more because i needed to know. He texted back saying he likes me as a friend. I was really bumbed. Btw my other girlfrined(kelsey) hooked up with the guy i like best friend after an hour of knoning him and did more then make out with him. But going back i was really mad at austin for making out with me and telling me he likes me as a friend. Next couple days i didnt talk to him so he talked to me like nothing was wrong and he stil thinks im the shit and he likes me(he never told but hinted). The very next day i find out he likes my friend(kelsey) who hooked up with his best friend. I was in SHOCK! shes not his type at all! She not very bright or pretty not sound mean or anything but guys never really go for her specially from me to her and so i was really confused. I was soo pissed off also he was doing and tellin the same things he was doing to me. I got over it but then after a week the guy i liked started texting me at night saying he misses me and we need to start over i went and asked my friend why is he liking me all of the sudden didnt he like kelsey a week ago and she just said he was drunk when he texted me. So i kind of just forgot about it but that weekend i saw him and he told me that he doesnt like kelsey anymore so i was like alright. but he was flirting with my other girlfriend and not me. Then he got drunk and everything changed he totally liked me we went to his car and he told me all this stuff that he was afraid he would never get me and thats why he went for kelsey and that he really really likes me and even loves me but i was drunk too(tipsy)So we made out and stuff. Next day he told me he didnt rember anything when i know for a fact he was not that bad to not remmeber anything. So please someone help me? is he PLAYING me? whats going on. Some people say hes way to innocent and shy and had no confidence so he doesnt try to get wiht me because hes afraid to get hurt and turned down.But i really like and i wouldnt do that to him and i think? he knows that. PLease tell me what to do!!!???!?!
OK first of all, if he is shy and scared of you turning him down, I doubt he would make out with you when you guys first hung out over the weekend.
In my opinion, I think he might be playing a game with your head and he just used 'way to innocent and shy and had no confidence so he doesnt try to get wiht me because hes afraid to get hurt and turned down' THAT as an excuse for flirting w/ your friends. He sounds like a guy who's afraid of commitment and he wants to have his options.
Make sure your friends have your back on this. Inform them what you feel about him and if he pulls another move on them, let you know.
Also, the drunk thing might not be the way to go. If he loves you when he's drunk, that's not exactly a compliment. He might have mixed feelings when he's drunk, and you don't sound like the kind of girl who would use him for making out only. Try to stay one step ahead of him though, and make sure you and him know what's going on the next time you have some alcohol.
I think the best way to go is to be friends. If he ever gets out of this 'playing stage' go for it. It's okay to like him a little; but if I were you, I wouldn't be too sure to fall head-over-heels in love with a guy like that.
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okayyy.. so theres this guy, justin i met at the beginning over the school year, and he had a thing for eachother ever since.. like basically we're in love.. we've been talking for like 9 months.. and i pretty convinced i love him, and i can tell he loves me also.
and well we wanna date and stuff but our school=drama.. i mean when me and justin started talking, so much crap went around. it was crazy.. and if youre wondering why, im 14 and hes 17. but in my case i dont care bout age. but everyone bascially knows we're in love. so everything is cool with people at school.
but my mom, doesnt like him.. although shes never met him, she just thinks he wants sex, but hey i havent slept with him and hes still here, after 9 months. and i told him that i wasnt gonna have sex with him, cuz basically i think im too young, and he totally understands.
But anyway, i had to beg my mom for me to even talk to him.. and she just doesnt understand.
and well me andhim really want to date.
any advice?
thanks, i rate all 5's
but if you say im too young to be in love;
no rating.
My mom can be the same way sometimes. You need to earn her trust if you ever want to see this guy again. Maybe you can set up a time where she can meet him (don't make it a date) and don't make it last for just 5 minutes. If he's a respectable person, he'll make time for your mom and understand her situation. To make it less awkward, brag for him like tell her about any awards, sports, or honorable things he's accomplished.
Personally, I think you can fall in love anytime. Tell her that you're not going to MARRY the guy, but you really want to see how things work out for now. If she thinks all he wants is sex, tell her that you will address her if you ever get the offer and give her your whole side on how you yourself think you're too young. Do it in a calm fashion; arguing will get you no where.
Have fun =)
I want to go on a crash diet, yea its bad for me but w/e iDc. SO my meals everyday would consist of:
Breakfast: Some sort of fruit
Lunch: A small snack maybe a sandwhich or something of that sort
Dinner: Maybe a bowl of rice and some meat. or just anykind of plain meat.
That way i get some of the pyramid into my daily meals.. So tell me if that is good enough or not
and no i will not be throwing up any of this food. im not belimic or anorexic.
As long as you get as many servings you need to in each part of the pyramid, I think you will be fine. Just make sure you're getting the right amount of the food (fruit 2-4 servings ... so eat like a banana, an apple, and some cantalope). Note: breakfast is the most important meal of the day because it starts your day off with energy.
I suggest you add a snack between lunch-dinner or dinner-night. That way, you'll have enough energy between meals.
I wanna lose weight (no this question does NOT ask how!). So I told my friends and they said that the way they lose weight is to go on an "all you can drink" diet. They said it's where you can drink anything you want at any time but you absolutely cannot eat anything. The only things that you can't drink are milkshakes, coke floats, alcohol, things like slim fast, and soda (unless it's diet).
Is this unhealthy? So far today I haven't eaten anything and I've drunk diet Dr. Pepper and Gatorade.
Yes, your body is not getting the nutrients it needs by drinking .. diet soda and Gatorade. Also, Gatorade is high in sodium -- unhealthy.
I suggest you eat healthy.
If you like drinking more than eating, I highly reccommend you buy this product called Ensure. It can replace a meal or snack and it's VERY VERY extremely-out-of-this-world-amazing health drink. It doesn't necessarily make you lose weight, but if you drink this instead of eating carbs and transfat, this will deff. make you healthier and probably slim you up.
once you have vcast, can you cancel it? i dont really want to pay $15 a month. or is it if you dont use vcast services (like downloading movies, music, clips) that you dont have to pay. if you can cancel it, how?
thanks
Yes, you can cancel it by calling your service (like Verizon Wireless). There's a special number and when you call it, there's a recording that you listen to and if you want to get rid of Vcast, i believe you are then transferred to someone who works there. They will take care of it. They will charge you 15 bucks even if you don't use the movie clips and music.
the last few days ive been eating a lot, i never feel hungry.about 2 days ago i weighed myself, then i weighed myself today,and i had lost a pound.i havent excersied at all and ive been eating A LOT.why am i losing weight from eating so much junk food, and is it a good thing?
My weigher does the same thing. It might not be that you lost a pound (haha sorry hun) but it could have been the way you stood on it or it could be inaccurate. Usually when I go on a weigher thing, I go on once then go on 2 more times to make sure its telling me the exact number.
You might be able to digest things easily so it doesn't put a pound on right the next day. Lucky girl.
I have DDR Mario Mix for gamecube, but it really sucks because it's not really like the original DDR. Is there any other DDR games for Nintendo Game Cube? And where do they sell them?
I'll rate.
I looked all over the internet and it seems that they do not sell DDR Gamecube games anymore. I found this website http://store.gameasylum.us/medapadfordd.html
There's all sorts of DDR mats and games for other video game devices. I suggest getting Playstation or Xbox to play DDR because they have endless amounts of games.
Sorry I could not give you more.
i want to go with my friend (hes a guy, im a girl) to our dance at the end of they year. alot of poeple have dates already. but he's already going with my sort-of friend. i really want to go with him though!!! anyone have any ideas on how to get him to go with me?
Hey, it might suck to hear this but if he's got a date, he's got a date. He's not going to blow off this other girl to go with you (even if you are pretty or nice). Don't be too greedy now =)
Anyway, if you want to see him during the dance, you can meet him and his date there. You can talk for a while but don't get clingy.
In the meantime, look for another guy you like.
Sorry this isn't the answer you're looking for and you can rate low if you want, but it's reality hun.