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my friend always tells me how everyone tells her shes sooo pretty. & like it gets annoying. & like im not jealous, because twice as many people tell me im pretty. so its not like im jealous. i just dont go around telling people, what other people say to me. like she does. so how can i make her stop?? besides saying like i dont care. bc i already tried that.. & well right now i just did & i can tell its turning into a fight. soo yahh
help?
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It seems to me like your friend has self-esteem issues. She probably feels like she needs to reassure herself and let everyone know that people think she's pretty so she feels good about herself. There's a big chance if you say something a fight might be a result of it, but the nicest way I could possibly but it is,"_____, you are reallllyy pretty, and it's great that everyone [including me ] tells you you are, because you should hear compliments, but you're beginning to say it on a daily basis now and it's starting to get a little... bothersome. I'm not jealous or anything, it's just, I don't want to hear it over and over again. And besides, you don't need to tell me your pretty I already know. :D" And I know some of those sentences sound like they come off in a mean way, but that's if it's in a mean tone. If you say them just calm and nicely, she should be able to understand. I hope it all works out and I hope I helped. <3
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It is annoying when people do this...because well...there's more important things to talk about other than how pretty other people think you are. Just tell her, that yes she's a pretty girl and that you already know this...and she doesn't need to keep telling you every day...and if she doesn't mind...there's other things that you consider more important that you would rather talk about.
By the way...I kind of thing your friend has like self-esteem issues because well she keeps obsessing over who thinks she is pretty. Chances are she feels the need to keep telling you, because she needs someone to validate that she is indeed pretty.
Well good luck.
-Teacup
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My friend does that too, I just roll my eyes. People like that are trying to dig comments out of you. That's why so many skinny girls are like I'M SO FAT even though they know they're not. They just want compliments. You're probably already confident because you don't go around trying to get compliments. This might sound a little mean because you would be talking behind her back, but trust me it worked for me, tell another one of your friends that it's soo annoying when she does that, and that she does it to get compliments. Then, tell them to tell your friend that. When she hears it, she'll probably get mad, but she'll stop, hopefully.
I hope I helped!
-Angie ♥
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I really don't like when people act like this.
Maybe, the next time she says something, act playful and roll your eyes and say "yes, I know, I know, youtold me!!"
You can act like you're kidding, but she shoudl get the point, even if you have to do this a few times.
Just make sure notto break her confidence, its rare to find a kid with confidence these days! lol
Good luck, though!
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I hate that sooooooooo incredibly much. My one friend kept doing that to me all last year and I wouldn't know how to react without turning into something mean. I think I might have asked a question like this on Advicenators too?
Well, this is kind of a hard question to answer, because 90% of the time it turns out to be a fight. You could be like, "That's really great that people like you, but I'm not the person you have to convince, ok? You tell me things like this a lot, and it's not an interest of mine to know which person thinks you're attractive. It's not like I write these down. I don't want this to turn into a fight, because I'm trying really hard to tell you what I feel without sounding mean."
Something along those lines? Say it very slow and calm, like a normal conversation. Keep your expression straight and serious, but not like it's obvious that you're pissed off.
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When she starts to talk about it, say, "Listen I know you are a gorgeous girl, but when you tell me how people say it all the time, it gets a little..... annoying. Like I said before you are a gorgeous girl, but I like to have normal conversations without you telling me about somebody saying you're beautiful."
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