HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
KAT!
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i am in love with my sister's husband n he loves me too wat shud we do?i m 24yrs n he is 34yrs.. we love each other very dearly since last 2yrs.. plz help?? (link)
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Hm.. wow, this is a really difficult situation. I'm warning you, all of my answers are going to be very dependent on certain details, so if you'd like to update anything and have me re-answer, I'd be completely fine with that. Some things I'd be wondering:
-Did your sister ever know anything about you guys liking each other early on in their relationship?
-How long have they been married, and is it a good relationship?
-Are there children involved?
-What kind of relationship do you have with your sister?
-Is it just an emotional love, or has it gone to a physical level? And have you both actually said you love each other, so that you're both completely sure?
-Is there absolutely anyone else in your life that you could look to for a romantic interest. Or just someone you're close with as a friend that could become more. Anything, really?
Sorry for all of the questions, but I really cannot, to my best ability, give you a good answer without knowing general facts.. just, for now, please try not to move forward with any rash action. Don't make any moves with your sister's husband, and put whatever you have going on hold, so that you have time to really think and look at your life. (Not that you don't have it in order, it's just that a break usually helps most people..). I wouldn't say anything to your sister now (or just yet, at least) about it, either..
I'm really sorry I can't completely answer your question right now, but PLEASE feel free to update your question or e-mail me at ohshnitzelstix@yahoo.com. Seriously, feel free. I'll be checking to see if you update or anything, because I'd really like to do anything I can to help you out.
Best of luck, and I hope to hear from you soon.
XOXO
KAT.
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so my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months and he lost his cell phone so i have no way of calling him and talking unless he calls me and he goes on AIM once in awhile so its like we go 1- 3 days without talking and it drives me crazy he doesn't think there is anything wrong with that am i being stupid or is there really something wrong with that??
and another thing is he didn't necessarily accuse me but he asked if i have ever cheated on him.. he asked so randomly and i said no i haven't why would you even ask that? and he got all defensive and said hes been thinking about it for a long time and just needed to no if i have.. but it was so weird and then he told me he had to go.. so i asked if he cheated on me and he said of course not and then he just signed off.. without saying by or anything .. and he hasn't talked to me since and that was Tuesday .. does anyone have an advice on what i should do ? or say to him? (link)
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I don't really think you're "stupid" to think that at all. Relationships are about communication and trust -- Of course you have the right to want to talk to him. If you guys really care about each other, I'm guessing ya'll would be thinking about each other a lot in between the times you can talk, and it's understandable that you'd miss him. The thing is, does he have the means to be able to talk to you? Even if he dosen't think it's a big deal, is he doing it on purpose? If he's been busy and hasn't been able to talk much, try to let that go. However, if it continues for a while, let him know there IS something wrong with that. Not talking for 1-3 days wouldn't seem like a big deal for a friend, but most people in relationships I know of talk pretty constantly..
The situation on Tuesday sounds a little odd, of course. Maybe he was just being paranoid about it lately? Is he hearing things from people that aren't true? My guess would be that he's just thinking way too in depth with things lately. Just make sure you reassure him that you're not, and that he's the only guy for you -- That's all it takes somtimes.
And he probably said "Of course not" and signed off, because something was going on, not because he was being defensive or something. He said he had to go earlier, right? Maybe he actually did?
I can't say anything for sure, but don't jump to conclusions! Don't assume he's ignoring you or something. He could have been grounded or something along those lines? Just don't go guessing things and getting yourself all worked up. When you get the chance to talk to him, just clear things up.
Can you call him? If not, when he calls you, ask him why he acted the way he did. It wouldn't hurt anything, and don't be nervous to ask him something like that -- It'll be fine. You've gotta have really open communication with him if you want this to work.
If ya'll can't talk much, by the way, just make sure you really make it worth it when you can. Let him know how you're feeling/what's going on/etc., and just be relaxed with him.
XOXO
KAT.
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13/f
ok if i go to a public pool and im just swimming, minding my own busines and this dude cums or [watever comes out to get a girl pregnant] and it floats in the water and it gets into mee can i get prego?
even if it was innocent and stuff?
[and wud not be on my period] (link)
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That's like, a one in a billion chance. Assuming you're actually wearing a bathing suit, it lessens the chances even more. That'd be a freak accident if you were to actually get pregnant.
No worries. It's harder than that to get pregnant.
XOXO
KAT.
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I want to wake up soaking wet but I want to have peed while I'm totally asleep. Can anyone tell me how? I'm Female
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Um.. I'm not quite sure why you'd want to do this, but hey, do what you want. :P Um.. I'd just reccomend drinking A LOT of water before you go to bed. Make sure it's right before you sleep, or else you'll have to pee before you even fall asleep, because your body will have gotten used to it, or whatever. I'd reccomend at least two bottles.
Um.. hope this works for you? Hah.
XOXO
KAT.
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so i just got a cell phone. my mom said she got me unlimited texting. is unlimited texting to everyone? or just at&t customers?
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I've got at&t, and it's to everyone--Just watch that the people you're texting to also have unlimited so that they're bills don't get outrageously high. :P
XOXO
KAT!
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when i told my friend i am bisexual and that i liked her she supports me but doesnt see me in that way. the next day she text me "I HATE boys they are so annoying!! how are you?"
...okay why and what did she mean by that message? i relpy back saying i am okay and then she asked why i like her in that way....but i should've ask her what she meant by that. but what is your thought on it?? (link)
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This could be one of two things:
1. She could be just venting to you, because a guy hurt her feelings or something, and is just wondering what you see in her that a guy dosen't.
OR
2. She's hinting that she may like you in that way, or may be considering it.
What I'd do is ask her what she meant by that, and kind of wait things out. Don't rush, or that could be scary for her, even if she does actually like you!
Best of luck, and I hope things work your way.
XOXO
KAT.
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whats do guys think of brown eyes and blonde hair? sexy or not? (link)
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It all depends on how you present yourself! Try to seem confident--guys usually like that in a girl. I don't think there's a certain preffered combination of hair/eyes for most boys, and even if that is so, I don't believe it really matters THAT much.
XOXO
KAT!
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How do you get rid of split ends without cutting your hair? i never use any heat on my hair i only had my hair cut about 3 moths ago i dont want it cut very reguarly because i want it longer for the summer! i also only wash it every other day? (link)
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There's not really a way of getting rid of split ends without cutting them off, to be honest. There are shampoos and products out there to PREVENT the wear and tear of your hair, but nothing to revert any damage done already. What I'd reccomend doing is trimming about a half an inch/inch (at least) off. This dosen't seem like it will do much, but it'll really be healthier and you'll be able to grow it longer! Remember, it dosen't have to be a full blown hair cut, just a small one. Then, use shampoos or any of your selected products found at any store basically, to prevent more split ends. Then I'd say to try to stay away from over washing it (The every other day thing sounds good), or wearing low ponytails too too often. (:
Hope this helps, and I'm sure your hair will look great!!
XOXO
KAT!
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so, ive always heard that lice like clean hair, because it makes it easier for them to move around. is that true?
thanks for all your help! (link)
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Yep, this is true. It's a myth that people with 'dirty' hair get it. It's just more of an issue as to who you're getting it from, so just watch when sharing brushes, hairties, headbands, ect. This also dosen't mean you need to stop washing your hair or whatever--Just because they PREFER clean hair, dosen't mean they're repelled by dirtier hair. :P
XOXO
KAT.
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i know you give advice and i dont want talking out of it but i was wondering if you or anyone knew a quick accesible way for a 16 yr old male to commit suicide? i deffinatly want to go through with it but im scared of a long death i want it over and done with (link)
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I'm sorry this has taken me so long, I haven't been on here in a while. I wouldn't be able to, in a right state of mind, be able to tell you how to do this to yourself. Is whatever's wrong that horrible? Please just talk about whatever's going on.. I can try to help. I know you don't want talking out of this, but there are other ways..
And no one can say what is a 'long' or 'painless' death. It's not like there are possible opinions given, sorry.
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Do you think America will become a salad bowl or melting pot? (link)
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I definitely think it will become a melting pot. We have soo many different races and ethnicities here, and everyone's getting into interracial coupling, so yea..
it's gonna be interesting to see how different everything will be in a matter of a few years!
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I want this necklace that this girls wearing...
do you know where i can buy one like it and how much does it cost?
http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y97/chunk7812/ilovecarbs.jpg (link)
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I've seen that being sold in Aeropastle, you could try there :)
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Hi there,
My cousins girlfriend is sniffing around my man, I don't think she's attractive at all, but she seems to think she is.
I'll try and add a picture in a bit
Also, what would be a good way to really humiliate her - just so she learns her lesson? (link)
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Hi,
You might not like this answer, but really think it through.. You really shouldn't try to 'humiliate' her, as tempting as the idea probably is.
This will make your boyfriend think you're dramatic, or something, and might make him mad at you in the process. Just try to talk to him, and tell him what you're upset about. I'm sure he'll tell you he's not interested.
Just because she's into him, dosen't mean a thing to her. And, if she's trying to get with someone elses boyfriend with no luck, she's already humiliating herself. :)
If this continues, just say something to her, like "You've got your boyfriend, and I've got my boyfriend, let's keep it that way." Or tell her boyfriend how she's acting, if it gets bad.
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does anyone know when the new season of degrassi is coming on? thanx!so excited!lol (link)
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Tonight, eight o'clock. I can't wait! :)
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hey i'm a guy hust wondering what kind of hair girls might like- long, short, spiky, whatever. Just say what you would like thanx! (link)
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I like longish hair. Like, to the eye brow. Most girls preffer this over very short and spiky, lately. :)
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im a varsity cheerleader and we just got back from camp and it was pretty tough. we stunted alot and im a base so my wrists hurt really bad. is there any way i can protect them? or do i just need to get used to it? also what can i do for my sore arms? (link)
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Okay, so from my experience (1 year as a base and 4 as a flyer) this should help you:
Sore arms, as bad as they feel, are a great sign! They mean you're lifting with your arms and doing your part. But you also have to lift with your legs, as odd as it sounds. Make sure you bend when about to push your flyer up. This will help get elevation, and will make your job easier. Just make sure you and the other base are in sync.
You can protect your wrists by either getting a wrist guard, or simply taping them. This will help restrict them from going too far back, and reducing pain in the end :)
Hope I've helped!
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its on the radio alot it goes something like
i still hear your voice.....
then its like
everytime we touch... something
i reach the sky
do any oneee knowww (link)
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Oh, I haven't heard this song in a while. It's "Every Time We Touch" by Cascada.
Check out her other stuff, too! If you like that song, you love her other stuff :)
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so yesterday [wednesday] my cousin & i went to the lake and tubed all day. now my neck, back, shoulders, and butt are sooo sore i can barely move. its ridiculous i didnt think id be this sore haha [yes i am a couch potato except for at work] and it doesnt show signs of feelin better anytime real soon. i cant buy anything & i dont have a heating pad but besides patience is there anything i can do to relax my muscles so i can move a little bit?? (link)
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Owch, I get this problem after cheering. And, for some reason, some people's muscles heal slower than others (my strains ususally take like, three days to heal). What I do is move around alot. It sounds dumb, but it helps me stop concentrating on the pain. Nothing like walking on stairs, but try running arond, or if you have a pool, go in that-it really helps.
Or, you could take some tylenol if you have any.
I say it's an excuse to be a couch potato, haha.
Maybe try a cold shower? :)
XOXO
KAT!
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right now i have a 4.0 megapixel huge ugly digital camera with the smallest screen EVER. obviously, i really want a new one. i like taking pictures, and i'm looking for one with certain feautres like-
- 7.0 megapixels or up
- different modes such as outside,etc.
- video option with zoom (it's ok if there isn't zoom)
- my friend has a canon powershot, and it has a cool mode where you can swap colors, idk if canon's are the only ones that have that but i really like that feature.
- basically that's it, i mean i keep hearing all these things about how they find the face ya know like the one with your dad isnt a horses butt or something lol but yeah that would also be nice.
i'm really just looking for an upgrade to my old camera, i want a big screen with lots of features, that takes great pictures with different modes. i'm into photography but my current camera sort of prevents me from taking good pictures. also, i don't want a big bulky one. i want a nice shiny small one haha. and under like $300 if that's possible. so if anyone has any ideas, or has a camera that has all or almost all of these features just tell me because i'm getting so sick of my camera!! thank youu (link)
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http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2646168&cp
That is one of the best cameras I've ever come across. I have it, and I'm absolutely obsessed with it. It's got all the features you listed, and is very simple to use, at the same time.
You'll absolutely love it, I guarentee!!
XOXO
KAT!
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You know the facebook free gifts? What's this one supposed to be?
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=4po58qc (link)
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Hm, well I'm not familiar with facebook, so I don't know if there are symbols for certain things, but those look like a pair of boxing gloves.
Sorry, I don't really have any other good guesses..
XOXO
KAT!
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