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I have depression. It has alot to do with the fact that my father left me when i was little with my mom (who has paranoid schizophrenia). I was taken from my mom by child services when i was 2 and put in foster care for 3 years. Then my grandparents took me in and they are about the most disfunctional people you've ever met, little by little im being driven insane in this house. Everyday they tell me that im useless and selfish and ungrateful for what they have done for me, like i asked for this life and asked for them to take care of me! For the last 11 years (im 16 now) i've been given visitation rights with my mom for an hour every 2 months and in those visits i am the biggest bitch to her. I blame her for everything that has happened to me and for not caring enough about me to take medicine for her illness. When in reality i know none of its her fault and it makes me hate myself even more for thinking it, shes sick and she cant help it. For the last year i've been cutting myself, only one of my best friends knows, and have been put into therapy. Right away my doctor noticed that i should be put on medicine but my grandparents wont let me and im like a ticking time bomb. I lash out at everyone and i push away everyone that i ever cared about. I was such a bitch to my mother that i drove her to move, to Ireland! She moved 4 weeks ago and i just found out the other day, she left me just like my father did, without so much as a goodbye. I have nothing left, no body and i just want to die. I want to kill myself but i wont, im not strong enough to do it. What im basically asking is, how can i get help? I just want to be happy, how can i do it? (link)
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my moms father died when she was 5 and her mom got remarried when she was 8. They made her work for everything she ever needed for example food, shoes ect. It was a very tough time for her. She started working when she was 17 and she got married right away thinking she would have a better life, without her mom and her step father but the husband was such an asshole and it was worse then she thought it would be . She divorced him after 7 months and she lived on her own when she was 18. she paid for everything it wasnt easy. . But she always looked for a brighter side. Thats what your suppose to do. After all this .. my point being .. is dont look at your past.. just think of the future. It's never going to help if you think about the past and if your not doing anything to help yourself. You have to believe in yourself thats like the most important thing. IF you dont want to end up like your mother you have to straighten yourself up. One day your gonna be able to live on your own , without anyone in the past. you can never forget about the past. but it wont help to hold on to it . I hope you follow this advice. ... And I hope i helped.. good luck. & im also very sorry to hear all this .
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i curl my hair with a curling iron but after about an hour it goes back straight, im already using hairspray. And Im using a revlon curling iron. my hair is naturally curling so i straighten it and then after a couple hours i curl it. How do i keep in the curls all day? (link)
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the reason why its not really curling that good is because you straightened it first..
dont do that.. when you want to curl it you take part by part and then girl like the little pieces hold for about 30 seconds and do it again like that and then use a lot a lot of hairspray.. hope this helps!
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hey im 13 female,
how do i keep my best guy friend in the whole wide world.
he just broke up with his girlfriend
he keeps saying he loves me
and when i tell him that i just wanna be friends he gets sad and says but i wanna be more
how do i keep him as a friend without like..breaking his heart?
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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75 (link)
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to be honest you are so skinny you should get like a doctor for that and tell him to get you something like to make you fatter there are drinks,chocolate bars with alot of protien, and HELPS alot my sister uses a drink equate and it helped her alot i hopei helped !
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i am 15/M
One of my best mates told me she loves me, and i was cool with that, i didn't panic, because it happens to me alot but i did not want to lose her as a friend. Anyhow, now she's changed alot.
Before she was really nice and friendly and always had time for other people. Now she's become this mean bitch who takes the piss out of people and is quite cruel. She's become so self-centred.
I want to tell heri don't want to know her anymore...but she'll ask why not.
Should i tell her the truth ? or just cut her off ? (link)
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secret boy is so wrong dont listen to him..ok ..dont tell her the FLAT out truth she will tottaly get hurt i know that because im a girl it happend to me before and if you tell her the flat out truth she will see you as a diffrent guy if you just say it flat out that she is a bitch..it will hurt i swear..try telling her nicely i think you are more concentrated on yourself and i think you changed..nicely and she will understand and tell her how she was before but nicely and she will say ok and try to improve it dont tell her she is a bitch or anything mean because she wont see you the same anymore trust me..all you will get back is u changed to because you would have never talked to me like this before so please just trust me on this one please:)
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ok i really need your advice columnists:
I have ben goin out with this amazing guys for almost 4 months.The problem is, my friend who is in like all of his classes, flirts with him all the time! Its not that im jealous, im just scared of looing him =[ I always tell my friend to back off, but it doesn't work, it fot to th point where i started crying on the phone on 3 way with my best friend and my boyfriend. What should i dooo?
I'm realy upset and confused =[
please help, FASTT!
thanks again =] (link)
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i think you should stop it and by that i mean tell your friend u arent my best friend or my ANYTHING if your gonna keep flirting with him and hurting me and if she says your jealous be like im no jealous(name) i dont want to lose him and your just making it worse for me and making my chance of losing him more..so just stop..i hope i helped:)
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My best friend, well shes in love with her boyfriend so much..they're been together for about 7 months, and well a couple months ago he had sex with his ex girlfriend. they took a break then they went back out again, now all they do is fight, and he treats her liek shit.. like really bad. Thing is, she wants to break up with him.. but she knows she cant. She says when things are good nothign in the world could be better. Last night he went to the movies with this other girl, and yeah its ok if he does but if she even talks to another guy he gets so pissed off.. What should she do, shes tried talkin to him, and right now they arent toegtehr because of last night, but shes so in love with him. (link)
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i understand you..you worried for her you should know that she wants to put up with that i think you should talk to him and tell him that she loves him so much and if he doesnt love her as much then he should leave her and stop hurting her more becuase he is making it worse by hurting her piece by piece..you know becuase eventually i think she will see he isnt the right one for her no matter how much she loves him. becuase you could tell when its just not ment to be if he loved her he would NOT treat he that bad..i hope i helped i think you should talk to him about it and her..tell her how he isnt good for her how He doesnt love her..if she thinks u just want to break them up then just leave her alone and then she will realize by herself he isnt the one....does she want to be treated like that and wasting her life..She should be able to talk to whoever she wants the relationship isnt good at ALL if its not treated equally..well i hope i helped..:)
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How quickly does make-up expire? I have this make-up set that I had for maybe a year or two now. I just recently found it in my closet. It has eyeshadow, blush, powder cake, and cover cream. How can i tell if these things are expired. If I put them on, will I get a skin reaction? Also it had mascara, lipstick and eyeliner (pencil & liquid). I threw away the mascara and liquid eyeliner because it was dryed up. What about the pencil eyeliner? Does that expire too? (link)
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no makeup cant expire and the eye liner youk now whats good to make it work REALLY good like burn it and it will cool off eventually it wont be hot and wehn you burn the pencil black part it works better try it..make up cant expire i doubt it..
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Ok, so I have 44$ to buy 4 people gifts. And I already know what I am going to get my sister, my grandmother, and my mother, and it leaves over rough 19$ for my dad. And I have no clue what to get him. And I want to get him more than one thing. I know that I want to get him a Def Leppard shirt. Which I can get for around 10$ dollars at walmart, and that leaves over 9$ to buy him something. Any clue to what else I can get him?
My dad's interest are only really in cars. He works on cars. And I don't want to get him tools...because I've gotten him that every year. (link)
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you could buy him a watch for 7..8 dollars a mans watch.in wal mart..or you could buy him a hat if he wears hat ..i hope i helped:) good luck!
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i really like this guy but he is 19 and im 15 he really likes me too and i know that im young but i really have never felt like this in my life and i feel soo comfortable with him he makes me laugh and gives me hope in life like no other could i reall would like to call this love but im just not sure anyways to the part about the whole sex thing i have had sex with him 2 times sine we have been together im on birth control and we use condoms am i a slut or a whore for having sex at so young of an age and i dont regret doing it either because it feels soo right with him please answer my questions i just need to know :/ (link)
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hun you are not a slut ..i go out with a 17 year old and i am 14 ..you shouldnt worry your not a slut and if you think he is the right one then he is becuase no one else could tell you who is the right one for you.except you
Hope I Helped
Good Luck!!!
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im 14. one boobs bigger than the other. normal? (link)
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yes thats normal my breast is bigger than the other and im 14 too lol so dont worry
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My friend, Stephanie, called my friend, Ellie, a b*tch behind her back. Ellie asked me if Stephanie called her that and I said "I think so" (it happened weeks ago, so I didn't really remember). Now Ellie's parents did something and Stephanie is in trouble. Stephanie yelled at me and said that it was all my fault. Did I do the right thing by telling Ellie what Stephanie said? (link)
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yes you did because you are being honest you shouldnt feel bad its not your fault stephanie shouldnt have said anything in the first place behing ellies back stephanie first of all is not your friend or ellies if she could talk behind"someone" like that like her "friend" then i think she could be able to talk about you like that i wouldnt be stephanies friend at all anymore its not your fault you were being honest...and thats what a real friend is
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i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice] (link)
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You Should Save your virgenty because there is that special guy out there that you will spend your life with and you will KNOW he wont leave you when you get married and it would be better if u did it when your married..becuase u wont regret it and it will be worth the wait and you are very smart..just tell your friends i dont want to give a guy soemthing that means everything to me..he isnt the right one and ..im gonna wait for the right one i hope i helped..
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Hi, my name is Shiloh and im 16. Im about 5'4 and i weigh around 90 pounds i believe. Everyone always asks me if i am anerexic. People even say behind my back that i am. Iam not though, thats the thing. I mean, i eat pretty healthy. like i dont eat a lot, but iam not starving myself or anything. i also dance, so thats probably part of it. i dont really care that people say these things about me, but i dont want to be unhealthy. does this seem unhealthy to you, and what should i do about these bitches saying iam anerexic? (link)
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dont worry about it my sister is 18 and 82 pounds..yah and she isnt anerexic..she eats wh en she wants and what she wants and she is perfectly happy with herself..you should be to..and tell them Did They Fuckin Check Tha Mirror Before they Came To School..Nd Also Say i like tha way i am if u dont ..Then Dont Look..hope i helped..
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i have a question on myspace
how do you put a background color
so that when you click on view moe pictures
that instead of the whole backgroud being white
it can be a differnt colore
if anyone knows please tell me!!!
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You Go On this Website Of Layouts(backrounds) like For Example www.myspacedirect.com..and you click which one you want..and then u see all diffrent kinds you click on that..and it will say a code or it might say the code already on the bottom of the layout(backround) you copy it and then you go on home click i think edit profile...paste the code and click view the profile ..and thats it..hope i helped..and i hope i answered what u wanted to ask..
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when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person? (link)
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The Right Time To have Sex Is When You Are Married Most teenagers Do It When They Are Like 13 and 14 But like That Person Said They Dont know What They aRe Doing..And They Will Regret it..If You Plan On Losing It earlier Then Marriage I Think You SHould Lose It WIth a Virgin Because A More Experianced Person Might Have Std Or Some Kind Of Disease You NEVER know I Hope You Pick To Save it TIll Marriage i Mean Soon As Ur Boyfriend Gets What He Wants He Might Leave You..You Never Know..So I Hope I Helped..
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my mom married my stepdaddy a couple of months of go and i told my friends about it at school and now everybody at school is making fun of me becouse my mom married a black guy iam not racist and i don't see what's wrong with a white person marrying a black guys it's just the color of your skin and we can't help it god made us that way,but how can I make my friends see it that way? (link)
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Your friends Are NOT your Friend if they make Fun Of You ..you should tell them that COLOR is just a color on ur skin and u should also tell them that there is nothing wrong with your mother marrying a guy that has a diffrent color because THEY wouldnt like if a blk family made fun of there color would they???...hope i helped and i really dont think you should be friends with people That Are Like that..And Worst Of All They make fun Of You..Its so wrong..Hope I Helped..
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Okay well about a week or so ago I had sex. well the guy didnt use a condom which I know is bad but he did pull it out before spermen. n when he did that some had got on the inner lining of my underwear by my croch area. I manage to whip alot of it off but am I still at risk.
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no your not at risk honey ..the cum dies soon as it reaches the air..plus u whipped it off..sou have like just likt 5% of risk..not alot so have nothing to worry abouthunni
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I don't know if this goes here.....but...oh well.
I have been getting occasional cramps (not stomach area cramps, lower abdomen cramps) and discharge. My breasts are slightly tender, but nothing major, and im starting to grow more, i think. Im almost to 100 pounds, and i will confess i have been a little moody...are these signs that my period will start soon?
Please help me!!!! (link)
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yes..it might be signs that you are getting you period ..most likely..when i get my period it hurts like hell on my lower part of the stomach..it should feel like someone is stabbing you..like really painfull..if it feels like that then yesu will get your period soon..hope I helped..Bye
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ok so a couple of weeks ago i was at the movies with a couple of friends. one of which i really like. so we started making out and "feeling" on each other. then he undid my belt and i sort of kicked him. and he was like "oh sorry is that too far?" and i said i dunno. so he
re-did my belt (it was the cutest thing ever) and we proceded with the "kissing and feeling". im 14. so my question is...should i have let him into my pants and such? (link)
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no you shouldnt have because once he gets what he wants then he will leave you forever dont make a mistake you know u will regret..get to know him better..
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