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anyone know some good drills to help me jump higher. Any other tips on how to become faster and more accurate would help also. (link)
I myself wanted to jump higher and now I am one of the best on my basketball team. The best thing to do to get higher jump is jump-roping. Jump-rope for about 15-30 minutes each day and you'll see the results yourself when you jump much higher. Also, if you want to become faster, do a mix of sprinting and jogging. Start off with sprinting and keep sprinting for 30 seconds to 1 minute then jog for 5 minutes.. Keep repeating this pattern for 30 minutes to 2 hours.. I play soccer, basketball, roller hockey, and tennis so I have experience in that type of training.. Try it out and see for yourself, I hope this helped ;)


ok my gf is 15 i know thats young but she says she was raped when she was 13 and she thinks she cant have an orgasim cuz of it she can only have one if she or me rubs her clit for a long time shes also really sensitive and says she dosnt feel anything when she fingers herself or i do it oral sex dosnt do it either any one who can help me i love her and i wasnt to give her a really good orgasim pweese help (link)
well first you have to make things romantic.. for example, dont just start going down there.. first put your arms around her and kiss her nice and slowly.. then use your hand to play with her pussy.. then take off her clothes while still kissing her and go down and kiss her neck, then her breasts, then stomach, then slowly her clit.. make her lay down with her thighs over your shoulders.. lick all around, lick up and down, left to right, and stick your tongue deep inside her pussy and back out, continue doing that while ur thumb plays with her clit.. and look up at her when you're licking her pussy, that turns them on more.. also, she might like to put her hand on your head and push your head down deeper.. i hope this helps you.. good luck ;)


im 13/f 5'6" and 148 lbs. am i overweight? (link)
131 is the ideal weight for woman that height. But it's not the average weight. But it's the ideal weight for health purposes. The average weight is 130-150 lbs. So I believe you're in the average. I hope this helped.


is there anything i can buy that will make my breasts bigger besides a push-up bra and that weird exercising technique please help me. (link)
I have learned that drinking milk and eating hamburgers increase the chance of breasts enlarging... So you should try that and see if it really will work. I mean that's the easiest way to do it. I hope this helped.


Ok so i use to be plus size and i have lost weight over the years and now i have slimed down a lot over the years. When i was plus size i did eat a lot but i stayed full for a mad long time. Now since ever i lost weight i eat all the time im like full for a little bit and hunry like 10 15 min later.. i dont think thats really normal and the thing is that im not gaining weight, and people even say i eat a lot for my size but i cant help it im just always hungry.. i am and active person and my mom was saying how i have ADHD so do i just burn off all of the food and it doesnt stay with me so im hungry again?? or does it have something to do with my Motabolism, its just weird because it started ever since i got thin

so can you all please give me ideas on why im like that (link)
It could be 2 possible things:
1) It's your metabolism... Drink green tea, that will help your metabolism and you won't be as hungry.

2) Many people eat every 15-20 mins. just because they don't know what else to do. Maybe you are just bored and don't know what to do, so you just decide to eat something.

My advice is that you should find things to do, either playing video games, going outside, playing a sport... anything that will keep you away from the fridge at home... If you have something else on your mind you won't think about eating... It worked for me. I hope this helped.


ok i'll start this off with the truth, i fucked this up. but i regret it so much and just would like help. theres this guy josh, and i've never had as much in common with a person as i do with him, he used to like me alot and he told me we will probably have a future as more than friends again. from the second we first met we liked eacxhother.a few weeks went by and we werent even together yet, and one night i was very drunk and tried to make a move on his friend because i thoght he ditched me. hes not your average person and takes things very personally so he got very mad. he told me he didnt like me anymore and 2 days later told me he likes someone else. the thing is he still ims me every day, and when i saw him yesterday he told me that he never gives second chances, but for someone like me he probably will in time and that when he saw me he got butterflies in his stomach. hes saying all this when hes telling some other girl he likes her too. he keeps switching the way he feels on and off and its just really confusing me and giving me hope, and i dont know if its false hope or not. i guess the best thing to do is just wait it out, but if theres anyother advice anyone has id really appreciate it. (link)
You want the truth? He's playing you... To him this is nothing but a game to see which girl he can get... maybe even both of you... If he really liked you he wouldn't be telling another girl that he likes her ALSO. He wants to see which girl he can get and if he can't get her he thinks you can be his rebound girl. Here's some advice, move on and find a better guy because you deserve better than jerks like him who just like playing a game. I hope this helped.


i have a friend at wokr whos ex called her, and after a long talk he asked her to marry her, she's 16 and hes 18, she does not want to be with him and such. and she told him that but he will not let up, he said he was sorry, but like i told her, he blow his chance... soo what should i do, going with waht i'm going to do? or other ways? (link)
well that girl should tell that guy one last time no and if he keeps calling her that she'll call the cops and tell them he keeps harrassing her. That will make him stop, if that doesn't work, tell her to get a restraining order... I hope this helped you.


do guys like it wen girls shave?
and how do u shave?
and how much hair do you shave off?
im so confused (link)
It depends on the guy, every guy has his own type. Some like it hairy, some like it shaved. I like it both on my girlfriend, sometimes hairy sometimes shaved, usually shaved though. If you dont want things all around it when you shave then don't shave all the hair, just trim it with a trimmer. I hope this helped.


first off, this may be long so i apologize but i hope people will help me outa bit.

we are both twenty years old.

i've been with my boyfriend for a little over four years. even though we broke up in february we still act like we're still together. basically, its like we're bf/gf without the label but it's like everyone including myself still consider us together anyway. kind of confusing, sorry. anyway, the problem between me and him is that even though we dont have the label that he feels that it's okay for him to talk to other girls. which i can understand at some extent.. however, i feel as though even if we dont have the label that he's my boyfriend and vice versa. if im the girl sleeping in his bed for weeks straight at a time, the girl he calls and texts every few hours when we aren't together just to ask what im doing, the girl who he takes out on dates on the one day out of the week he's not working, the girl who hangs out with his mom and other family members when he is or isn't around, the girl he tells that he loves every night before he goes to bed, IM HIS GIRLFRIEND. and the list goes on. we've talked and argued about this so many times already and it always ends the way it always does with him saying that he loves me, that he's in love with me, that im the woman he wants to marry and the woman he wants to have his children with (although that will not be any time soon) but he's not ready to be committed at this age and that he is going to talk to other girls regardless. okay. maybe i seem dumb or something but some days im just like okay whatever, im content because i know that even if he may be talking to another female, i'm still his number one and that he will never put another girl before me. other days it just bothers the hell out of me.. i just feel like if i'm the woman he loves and wants to be with in the future, why do something to ruin the chances of what we may have? i know people may say "girl, he doesn't love you." i'm not being naive when i say this but i know he's in love with me, but he feels he's just at the age where he's just not ready to commit yet. people tell me that just having the label is too much for a person to deal with. i dont know.. him and i, we honestly have two different outlooks on almost everything (and i love that) and i'm here trying to understand his point of views with what you guys think about all of this. i'm sorry i am babbling.. i'm just very in love and very confused and everything in between. your advice and comments are most definitely appreciated. thankss so much. (link)
YOU may be in love but trust me, hes NOT. If her really "loved" you then ask yourself this... Why is he with other girls? I know its hard to take it in but if he isnt ready for commitment, SO WHAT! He can still go out with you just not marry you yet. That doesn't mean he should be able to have fun with other girls just because he "isn't ready to commit". If he loves you he'll AT LEAST go out with you. You shouldn't get hurt over a guy that doesn't care that you are alone and he's with other girls. You should go find yourself a better guy that WON'T leave you out in the cold for other girls. He might ACT like he loves you, but a guy that LOVES you would never leave you for other girls. I hope you think about it carefully before making the mistake of marrying the guy that used to be with so many girls because he "wasn't ready for commitment." I hope this helps you.


Do you think he will ever call me back..shouldnt he know that if he loved me he would be with me no matter what? (link)
It all depends on what you did to make him break up. Even if somebody loves you deeply, they still might not be able to be with you if they see it will never work out. You have to work your problems out if you want him to call. Even though you think it's all his fault, HE might not think so. He might think it's YOUR fault so look for things that YOU could have also done to make him break up. Always look from another person's point of view. The way YOU see it might not be the way HE sees it. I hope this helps you.


14/F

please help! okay so 2 nights ago i masturbated for the second time and again felt absolutley nothing. i mean i felt it but it didnt feel good or bad it didnt feel like anything. i stuck my finger up there and nothing happened. whats wrong with me!!

my way of masturbating really taht feels good is making a fist and doing a hitting pounding motion on my bladder lower area. it feels really good.

whats wrong with me. any ideas why i cant feel anything and why the "hitting pounding" feels good!!!!! (link)
Everybody has their own way of masturbating. Maybe you just having found your best spot. Usually when you finger yourself you should also rub ur clit up and down and left and right with your thumb. That might turn you on and make you orgasm. If nothing works then you should try more fingers when fingering. For example, if one makes you not feel anything, try two. See what makes you feel the best. I hope this helped you.


hey i noticed you give good advice;-) so i was just wondering like my boyfriend he is treats me bad even though he doesnt notice it like he talks to me very disrespectfully but i cant get over him he broke up with me for No reason..it was because i was pmsing but like i was really not in the mood and he is like i cant take it anymore and he broke up with me and now i cant get over it i cant call him i want him to call me first but he said he doesnt love me anymore we have been dating 3 years now and im 17 so like i miss him but really i dont think he misses me..or maybe he just is hiding it i want to know really bad..how do you think he feels right now do you think he would accutaly throw out our relationship just because of that and if hedid love me right he would come back and love me more not waste our time being stubborn or hurt?..welll i just would liek to know how do you think he feels and do you think he will ever come back to me ..how do i get over him? Like he is getting over me? (link)
Well first check all the things that are wrong. Are you also treating him badly and disrespectfully? Do you REALLY know why he broke up with you? Maybe there was a reason. If you've been dating 3 years then obviously you know he's a great guy or you wouldn't be with him for that long. If he treated you so bad, why stay with him for so long? He definitely misses you if its been that long. But maybe he just doesn't think it can ever work out. Maybe you guys argue too much or fight a lot. Then its really hard to stay together because a stable relationship has to have little fighting in it. If you want it to work out you can't argue with him or fight with him. Maybe he treats you bad because he is frustrated that it can't work out. Well I hope this helped you out.


i am 15/M
One of my best mates told me she loves me, and i was cool with that, i didn't panic, because it happens to me alot but i did not want to lose her as a friend. Anyhow, now she's changed alot.
Before she was really nice and friendly and always had time for other people. Now she's become this mean bitch who takes the piss out of people and is quite cruel. She's become so self-centred.
I want to tell heri don't want to know her anymore...but she'll ask why not.
Should i tell her the truth ? or just cut her off ? (link)
Just tell her the flat-out truth. That will make her realize that its true and maybe she might even stop being like that. The truth is the best thing to do, it won't hurt to tell her. I hope I helped.


okay so, i have a friend his name is derek and um, i like him ALOTT and i dont know if he likes me but he goes to my school and uh he has a girlfriend but he flirts with me.. ALOt and he allwys cheats on his girlfriend.. not with me but with other ppl. and he dared me to act out what iw ould do if we had sex and i said you nkow hed finger me wed have sex hed rubb my boobs and like blowjob and shit and hardcore makeout.. and then on aim the next day he was like "u like me i know it" and i said "yes i do".. and hes like awh and everything and seemd nice about it.. then he was like i gotta go an said he would do all that stuff to me whenever i wanted him to. and i sent to him i put "lmfaooo haha okay :]" and then he sent back ":] gooodbye (link)
Well first of all, just tell him flat out "I want to do those things with you." Or you can start like "So, remember when we were talking about doing it, would you really want to do it with me or were you just joking?" When you ask him that it'll definitely turn him on and he CAN'T RESISIT. He'll DEFINITELY do it trust me. Im a guy and i know ANY guy who is invited can't back away. If he sees you want to he'll definitely do it ;)
I Hope this helped.


i am 16 years old, and my boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months. we have both performed oral sex on each other, but i have one question .. can girls cum? and how do you know if you're having an orgasm? (link)
Girls cum when they get wet down there and you can feel it all around it when you do. Also, you know when your having an orgasm because that's when you get to your highest point of pleasure, when you can't take it anymore and just gotta do it. You start shivering or shaking and usually white liquid comes out. That is how you know when you have had an orgasm. I hope this helped.


is it true you can orgasm really fast. because my friend said you can. is it bad. will you get made fun of? (link)
Yes, this is true. Everybody has a different time on their orgasms. Some go faster, take longer. That's completely normal and it's not bad at all, it's actually healthy to orgasm. I hope this helped.


one of my friends(guy)is the biggest asshole in the world but not to me to my best friend. she gets made fun of for everything!!!!! i tell him and the few other guys who do make fun of her that its mean but no one seems to get that stuff like what theyre saying really can hurt someone. i hate that someone can b mean enough to someone for them to be like go die to them. i need something to say to them that will make a difference (link)
Well first of all, try and hook your friend up with a guy. When they see she has a boyfriend they will back away. Also, if that can't work, then make some comebacks to him. For example, find some bad things about him (looks, size, shape of head, etc.). If you say something really good he'll feel embarassed. If he STILL keeps making fun of her then tell him this. "Listen (name here), if you really like her and wanna be with her then STOP trying to flirt with her and just ASK HER OUT already. You ALWAYS try flirting with her just go out with her since you want her so bad." ;)
That will most likely do the trick heheh It'll make the other guys think he likes her and he'll stop.
I hope this helps you and your friend.


okay well me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and he is getting kind of upset because i cannot open up to him. opening up as in telling him how i feel about everything, our whole relationship. i am completely in love with him so i know thats not it. i want to be able to i just can`t find the words to say he wants to know what i think about it, how i feel about him, etc etc... i have tried but, i can`t and this is a really big deal to him and i want to be able to do this for him. so can someone please help me or send me ur sn. i`ll rate high! (link)
If he wants you to open up then open up. I mean he just wants to know how you feel about things... He wants to know whats on your mind. If you really love him then just tell him that. He loves you too, thats why he's asking you to open up to him. He wants you to be closer to him and you should be happy about that. Not many guys are like that. Just tell him exactly how you feel about him, it'll make him happy and it'll make you happy too since you will have let it all out and you will open up to him. ; )
I hope this helped.


i need some help i need to know exzactly how to get preganet i mean i knopw you havbe to have sex but i mean do we both have to have a orgasim to get pregnant when he cums or does it mater we both have been trying but not sure were to start can you help
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If you want to get pregnant just have sex... That's all you can do. His pre-cum and cum will do the rest, he will just "explode" inside of you and his semen will do the rest. Next thing you know, you'll be pregnant. I hope I have helped you out.


My father in law (who we live with) will not allow anyone else to work on the house. The house needs paint, new carpet, all around remodel. He sits around and discusses all the plans he has for the doing this. But, I kid you not he has projects around this place that he started 20 years ago, and they aren't done. My poor mother in law deserves to have a nice home like any woman who works like she does. I've asked her why doesn't she just hire people to do the work, and she says that will make him mad. The problem perplexes anyone who sees this house. They can't understand why someone would rather have half primered walls carpet that has come up from the floor because the padding is completely worn away, etc. It's so frustrating to know this man and try to explain him to others. What can this family do? Is there a name of for this problem he has? (link)
He just wants to feel like he's the man of the house (the guy that can do it all around the house). My advice to you is that you and your mother-in-law should talk together with your father-in-law and nicely talk about all those problems. Tell him what you told us. Tell him that putting in a new carpet will make the place look 10 times better or something like that... I hope it all works out for you and I hope this helped you.




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