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okay so, i have a friend his name is derek and um, i like him ALOTT and i dont know if he likes me but he goes to my school and uh he has a girlfriend but he flirts with me.. ALOt and he allwys cheats on his girlfriend.. not with me but with other ppl. and he dared me to act out what iw ould do if we had sex and i said you nkow hed finger me wed have sex hed rubb my boobs and like blowjob and shit and hardcore makeout.. and then on aim the next day he was like "u like me i know it" and i said "yes i do".. and hes like awh and everything and seemd nice about it.. then he was like i gotta go an said he would do all that stuff to me whenever i wanted him to. and i sent to him i put "lmfaooo haha okay :]" and then he sent back ":] gooodbye<33." and i put "bye cutiefacee :]" and then he put ":]"...then i saw him in shcool the next day and we passed in the halls and we hugged and hten hes like i got to get to class then we hugged again nad we were both smiling uncontrollablyyy.. so how do i find out if he likes me without making it obvious and like.. i really want to do these things with him but he has a girlfriend and ALSO hes 2 grades higher than me and were 2 years aprt in age im 14 hes 16 and like... hes REALLLYY hott.. i mean before i gave a blow and hand job .... but hes rellyy hott what should i say to him next time he tells me hell do those things to me.. i REALLY want to so when do i set up a date for me and him to do those things and like how do i do them.. what do i say to him to turn him onnn??!
PLEASE HELP I RATE 5's!!!!!!!!!!
PLEASEEEEEEEE HELPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!
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if u want to do those things with him tell him when do you want to get started with that blow job
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Well first of all, just tell him flat out "I want to do those things with you." Or you can start like "So, remember when we were talking about doing it, would you really want to do it with me or were you just joking?" When you ask him that it'll definitely turn him on and he CAN'T RESISIT. He'll DEFINITELY do it trust me. Im a guy and i know ANY guy who is invited can't back away. If he sees you want to he'll definitely do it ;)
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my first boyfriend was like this. we were the same age- but he was extremly experienced as he wasnt a virgin, and i hadnt even made out with a guy before i met him.
we went on our first date...and did something that you shouldnt be doing on a first date. on the day he asked me out he was implying sexual desires and asking questions such as "how far would you go" and "what would you like me to do to you?". i didnt want that...especially as i had never been with a guy before. he was the same as derek, always texting me and calling me seeming caring, respectful and was there for me, and acting as if he cared for me. how wrong could i be? well, i suppose i could have figured it out from the fact he wanted to keep our relationship secret from the whole yeargroup and my friends (who i told anyway),he was a player(and boasted to me about the times he has sex in various places), cheated on me(with one of my "friends"...who was oblivious to our relationhip obviously), and forced me into things i didnt want to do at every possible chance he got. i couldnt say no as i didnt want him to dump me, and i didnt know it wasnt normal not to do these things on dates. it only lasted a pathetic 3 months, and i had a severley broken heart. i dont want to see you wind up like this. you may think derek is worth it...but is he really? all he wants is a physical attatchment with you. once he gets it, he'll either be out that door, or he''ll carry on playing you until you either come to your senses and dump the loser- or he gets tired with you and moves onto another vunerable girl.which is what my ex did.
if you proceed with what you want to do with him, and it doesnt work out for you...then you may find yourself being emotionally scarred, which may affect your future relationsips (believe me- you DONT want that.)
dont be afraid to say no. get to know him before you even touch him, tell your friends. what do they think? dont think about how this could improve your reputation at school either- it wont, infact- quite the opposite :(
dont hide anything from him, if you are uncomfortable or unhappy in any situation, tell him. and act accordingly (that means if hes an asshole, leave asap).
read this again, and i hope you realise how similar these two guys are. you dont want to be attatched in any way to someone who will treat you like dirt at the end of the day :(
i hope this helped. i dont want to see you get hurt at such a young age, and regret anything you my have done with this derek.
i wish you the best of luck
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OKay. I'm not gonna call you a slut, or anything like that. BUT; I do think you should think about this. Because if he cheats on his girlfriend, say you guys do date, whats to say he won't cheat on you. And second, he may only be trying to have sex with you. I'd REALLY encourage you to think super hard about this because if you let him do those things to you, you may end up being hurt in the end. I'm not trying to burst your bubble, but you should really take a few minutes to think, once a cheater always a cheater, and think of how his girlfriend would feel if she found out about it, regardless of if you even know her, imagine if you were in her position and he was going around, fooling around with other girls. How would you feel? If you want anymore help. Feel free to IM me anytime on AIM; binas a ninja
Hope I helped.
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When you said all this stuff, I don't think you realized that he has a girlfriend he cheats on. You may like him, but think about it! If he cheats on his current girlfriend, of course he'll cheat on you! He's a flirt. I'm sure he has said the same things he said to you to plenty of other girls. My advice is DON'T do anything with him. You will be labeled a slut, even if you don't think you are one. His girlfriend will most likely kick your ass or turn the whole school against you. It'll all end up backfiring & he'll end up fucking you, never speaking to you again, & staying with his girlfriend.
Prove me wrong if you wish. I'd like for you to actually, that'd be great. I doubt you will though.
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I've been in pretty much your exact situation and I know how you feel but you need to really think about what you are suggesting doing here.
First of all, you have already said he "always cheats on his girlfriend." Do you really want to be the sort of girl who deliberately leads a taken guy astray? He may well be that sort of person but are you? How would you feel if you were his girlfriend and you found out all this was going on? I know that you like him and he makes you feel wanted right now but in truth, he's the sort of guy who will go out and get it wherever he can and as often as he can and as much as I hate to say this, you will be nothing more than a notch on his bedpost.
There's also something you really need to bear in mind about this sort of guy. I had a guy who was exactly the same to me when I was 16-17. He kept telling me how sexy I was, how much he wanted me, what he wanted me to do to him and vice versa, but you know what? If I ever said no or tried to talk to him about anything serious, he wanted nothing to do with me and on a number of occasions called me and "ugly, moaning bitch". Now, not all guys are like this but this kind, the "Must spread my wild oats to as many girls right this second" guy are like this. They don't care who you are, what you look like, how old you are or how you feel. If you're up for it, they'll hook up with you.
The bottom line is, he has no respect for you or any other woman out there and he will take what he can and do a runner and it is your health and emotions that will be on the line. I have to say that I think you would be a lot better off waiting a couple of years until you are legally allowed to do this sort of thing and until you find a guy who is worth doing it with because this one in no way deserves you.
Now that I've done my preachy bit, there's nothing any of us on here can do to stop you and so the choice is down to you. If you want to get together with him, just make sure that you are safe and that you are prepared for the way he will treat you afterwards. Also, I can assure you that you wouldn't need to do anything to turn him on because he's already oversexed and anything you did with him would just be a bonus to him.
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He doesn't like or respect you. He just knows that you're naive enough to give him what he wants because you, like most young girls, mistake sexual attention for affection and like.
You are playing with fire little girl. Wise up.
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Forget about them. I'm a guy and i wouldn't consider you a slut because you want to enjoy yourself sexually. But what you do is just ask him to come over your house or sneak out with him at night "my favorite" because than you know somethings going to happen. Hope i helped good luck. And he does like you so don't worry about that.
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Well it's sorta ovbious he likes you. It seems he does. I mean you could just ask him straight out and he would probably say the answer. IF you want to set up something like that. Go over to his or your house, when your parents aren't really home and plan a movie like that and things should just happen. :)
I think though your a little too young to do that. Maybe wait till your older?
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Damn SLUT. That's all I have to say....
You're 14 !!!!!!!!!
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