Hey, my name's Jessica and I'm 19 years old. I have been through all that teenager stuff, with the boyfriends,homework, stress, etc. I have watched over this site but said Hey, why not start giving out advice? (P.S, I'm the girl on the left of the photo)
Well I have three dogs and two cats. I have two older sisters and a younger brother. I go to College now, and it's going great
I have a boyfriend named Alex. He is the sweetest guy ever! We have been dating for 7 years and he is the best!
So any question you ask will be answered so ask away!
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so yesterday i met this guy and he lives a good 20 mins away, so i have his sn and im talking to him on it...but idk what to talk about with him?
what are some good "getting to know you" questions and topics to talk about with him ?
thanks (link)
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Hmm,
Try simple things like
What's your favorite sport?
What t.v shows do you like?
What are your hobbies?
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okay so, i have a friend his name is derek and um, i like him ALOTT and i dont know if he likes me but he goes to my school and uh he has a girlfriend but he flirts with me.. ALOt and he allwys cheats on his girlfriend.. not with me but with other ppl. and he dared me to act out what iw ould do if we had sex and i said you nkow hed finger me wed have sex hed rubb my boobs and like blowjob and shit and hardcore makeout.. and then on aim the next day he was like "u like me i know it" and i said "yes i do".. and hes like awh and everything and seemd nice about it.. then he was like i gotta go an said he would do all that stuff to me whenever i wanted him to. and i sent to him i put "lmfaooo haha okay :]" and then he sent back ":] gooodbye (link)
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Well it's sorta ovbious he likes you. It seems he does. I mean you could just ask him straight out and he would probably say the answer. IF you want to set up something like that. Go over to his or your house, when your parents aren't really home and plan a movie like that and things should just happen. :)
I think though your a little too young to do that. Maybe wait till your older?
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Hey all! I try to wear nice clothes, but I always feel like a two-by four dressed up like a person. I have no shape whatsoever. It's not like I'm anorexic or anything, I'm just skinny. Its not an option to go out and buy a lot of expensive clothes right now... how can I look a little more shapely without going broke? (link)
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Try seeing if wearing tighter clothes gives you more of a shape, loose clothes make you seem like a square when your really not. Sticking to tighter clothes will give you more of a shape.
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What can I do to be more open about myself with my boyfriend? (link)
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Start talking about the simple things, what your favorite color is etc. Ask him about himself too so it dosen't seem you always want to talk about yourself. Just try talking about normal things and you'll see you'll become more open with him. Tell him like everyday things. Let's say you went to a broadway musical,tell him your feelings about it. Once you see he understands you more, you can open up a lot more.
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I have a big problem with interupting when other people are talking. I do it to my parents, friends, and especially in class.
I don't realized I've interupted someone until AFTER I had butted in. Infact, I think I pushed my boyfriend over the edge today because I constantly interupt him and I think today was one time to many.
How do I stop this bad habit?
I've tried "Thinking before you speak" But I often forget and just keep on talking. (link)
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Hmm, before you talk to someone tell them you notice this problem and don't want to interupt them , and go on with that. Just so they know your not doing it on purpose. Try to think why you do it. You probably just have a lot to say. Try to let what you have to say out, so you can just listen. Even try taping your mouth closed. I know it sounds stupid but after a while you'll stop interupting (yes that has worked, my friend did something like this and the tape reminded her that she interupted and since she had the tape on her mouth she couldn't blurt things out.) Although it's kinda uncomfortable it will help you break the habit.
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Theres this boy
and me and him used to be so close
then drama and stuff happened (rumors about us)
and now he hates me and it wasnt my fault
but i like him so much and i cant even talk to him becuase i know he will just say something mean
what do i do?
and no i cant move on, ive tried and its not working
please help me
i cant take it anymore (link)
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Try talking to him face to face. Tell him it wasn't your fault. Try to surround yourself with other things, if it bugs you that much. Join a club, go on a girls shopping day. Just try to relax.
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i like my bfffff brother who is only 10 and im 13 is that messed up what should i do....
this is sydneys friend not the girl in the picture (link)
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It's kind of messed up, but it's okay to think that. I would just distance myself away from him because I mean when your thirty and he's twenty-seven it dosen't make that much of a deal, but when your 10 and thirteen it's kind of different. Don't try to see him that much, or think about him.
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I want my best friends boyfriend. . . *SOB* at first we started out as just really good friends and we would play around. Innocently. We would be around my Best Friend of 11 years and cute little flirt around. He would jokingly hug me in front of her and play pucker up and tell me he loves me cuz she's mean. And we all would laugh and joke about it. Then, we started getting a bit closer, when he would play, he would mess around and get closer than we both know she would like, if she even noticed. She never does. That was fine but it's getting worse, way worse, and I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO! Because, I don't really want him to stop, but I need him too. Kinda.. . . And he skips steps, we nevcer kiss, but we have gotten close and I run away, but I WANT IT! even though i can't, & i know I can't. . . and I won't. But instead of kissing he's cut straight to, um. . . The rest of the stuff. Not "" you know, but he's been down and up a couple of times, ALWAYS in a crowd, and he gets a kick outta doing it infront of her. . . It nearly kills me, everytime, but there is a sort of satisfying adrenaline (Sorry About My Spelling)
I hate him. . .
I'm new to this site and don't know how this really works. Sorry if I annoy you. . . lol
~Katie (link)
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Welcome to the site!
Okay so let me tell you now, no matter what if you want to keep this friend, don't become anything more than friends. Once I had two friends, let's call them Sam and Angie (they we're really good friends). Angie had a boyfriend named Bob, Sam liked bob and they went behind her back to go out. Not sam and angie are not friends.
Although you might like him, he is your friends boyfriend and if you do go behind her back or get closer, you might ruin a friendship. I doubt that's the last thing you want to do.
Are you sure he really likes you? Maybe he is just doing it to joke around, but he might be serious. First talk to him and tell him what your thinking. Tell him that your afraid this might go too far and you don't want to ruin a friendship.
A quote someone once said from a song is "Love may not last forever, but friendship never ends." I hope this adivce helped in some way.
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Hey, I have another question, and you helped me the most, so this one is kinda personal, but how do I straighten the mess out? I wasn't really clear in the other one, and it's not exactly like I was jumping from guy to guy, but that doesn't matter because that's not what I wanted advice for.
Basicaly, to sum it up better, and more clear, Logan treated me like crap, William treated me good, but Logan was willing to stay with me, and William wasn't.
Logan was controlling, and wouldn't let me do anything without permission. In those words exactly, he said,"You can't do anything without my permission anymore, got it?" And there were small cases whenever he got drunk and started flirting with other girls, but I don't have any proof of that. Other than all the girls who's numbers he got vouching for me.
I have a hard time standing up for myself because I don't like to fight. I feel awkward when I fight with someone. But William stood up for me. To anyone. I'm more the quiet fun type. And so was William. And it is wrong to play with someones feelings. And I dunno if it's my jealousy problems, or really just wanting someone to love me, i'm not sure. Maybe i'm just rude, I honestly don't know. And it seemed like every week Logan was blaming me of sleeping with someone else. Whenever he was my first, and I didn't want anyone else. And he broke up with me sometimes 2 times a month. He's probably broken up with me all together about 7 times. And within the week asked me back out. But, i'm afraid to lose Logan because I think I might regret it. But, the only way I know I WON'T regret it is if William was there for me. Whether as a friend, or girlfriend. But, he thinks I cheated on him the whole time he was gone. And I basicaly want to convince him I didn't. But I don't really have anyone standing up for me. Emily, my twin, likes William so she doesn't really try to convince him I was faithful while he was gone, my mom had been trying to tell him I cheated on him because I refused to tell her how I feel about anything, and Logan has been telling people we were dating the whole time Will was gone because we're back together, and he likes to think we never broke up...o.o
If everything was perfect for me, I would be single, and no one would be hurt. And I could live my life as an optimist like I was 5 months ago...
If you can help me with any of this, I would really appreciate it! (link)
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LOL of course I will help. It's great to see some advice is liked :).
Anyways let's get to buisness. I'm sorry for making it seem like you we're jumping from guy to guy, it just sounded like when one dumped you, you got back with the other, but let's get on to what your asking.
I definitly would talk to Logan and stop being boyfriends with him. I honestly believe by him being "controlling" he might abuse you because usually someone controlling you and not letting you do things is a sign that he might become abusive. He dosen't sound honest to me, expecially since you mention he treated you like crap.
Since you tell me that you would feel awkward maybe talk to him somewhere quiet, maybe in your house, or maybe someone such as a park. If it makes you feel better have a good friend of yours come with you to be there just so you can leave after you talk to him. Start off with something like this "I know we have something but I feel like,,,,,," Now tell him how you feel and explain to him that you just want to be friends since your kinda feeling confused about this and need to get your life back in order. Although it may be hard telling him that you just want to be friends, I believe it will help you in the long run.
Your not rude, you just want someone to be there with you, someone to have fun with, someone to just hang out with. It's okay to feel like that but, you don't want to keep going on with drama.
I can tell that you really like William and from what you told me before he's ignoring you because he thought you dated Logan while he was away.
Their's a few things you can do to talk to maybe get William back but if you do get him back, if he breaks up with you, you might NOT want to go back with Logan.
You can talk face to face to William. Say something like "I understand your mad at me but I didn't do anything while you we're away at (LOL sorry I forgot what you said so just insert where he was). I was so looking foward to getting a letter from you." Tell him that you thought he broke up with you and you thought he didn't like you. Go on with that. Maybe at the end tell him that he dosen't have to believe you but you really wish he did.
Maybe even though you care about William alot though, he's not the right guy for you. It seems like their was so much drama, between your sister, Mom, and William. I really think you will find the right guy after you let him go. If you feel that you really can't try my above advice.
Try starting over, join a club, or a sports team and make some new friends but make sure to take everything slow because if another guy really loves you, he WILL wait for you to be ready to not just be friends. One time someone told me a good quote. "The guy that's the one is the one who thinks he dosen't deserve you and treats you like a fragil rose" I hope that influenced you a bit
If you have any more questions, I would be happy to answer it
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Hello, my name is Beth! I am 15, and I really need help!
Ok! So, I guess I should start at the beginning.
A year ago I started dating this guy, Logan. Well, a couple months after we started going out, this other guy, William, kissed me. Well, I didn't like William that way. I only saw him as a friend. So I told Logan, Logan got mad at Will, pretty soon the problem died down, and it wasn't anything bad anymore. Logan was even comfortable with me being around William alone. So, me and William become really good friends, but he starts crying all the time because I didn't love him back. And I tried to explain it to him that I don't love him. Well, he respected it, but he didn't understand. So, he got alittle depressed, and he wouldn't come near me. Well, I was ok with it. I didn't love him, so no big deal. But, me and Logan started having sex, and my mom caught us, so I wasn't allowed to see Logan anymore, and she started shoving William on me. Well, I didn't love William. So, me and Logan started having problems. We start to go to Missouri on vacation, and my mom invites Will. Will agrees, and so we're on our way. And me and William start having alot of fun! Like, we start dunking each other underwater, flirting alot, having loads of personal fun. Nothing like sex, or anything. But, I call Logan later telling him how great my day is, and he get's pissed and hangs up on me. Well, I can completely understand why he hung up on me, I would be mad if he was wrestling with a girl who loved him. So, something happened. Like snapped inside me, and I didn't want Logan anymore, I wanted William. So I told William that I thought I had fallen in love with him, and of course he was happy as could be. But we couldn't date or anything because I was with Logan. But i've been with Logan so long, and I gave him my virginity. Like, that was the most important thing to me. So it got really hard for me to just let Logan go. Well, William is headed to boot camp in a few weeks, so I decide i'll finaly do it. So I do. And I get alittle depressed, but I have William to tell me it's ok. So me and Will start going out, and I couldn't get any letters the first 2 weeks he's gone. And I really start to get lonely, but i'm determined. Well, we finaly are able to start writing letters to each other, and about a month and a half I get a letter that says,"I can't say I love you enough." Well, I thought he meant he didn't love me enough, but he meant he couldn't say it enough. So, as soon as I misunderstand the letter, I call Logan and ask him to forgive me, because I still don't wanna be alone. Logan forgives, and takes me back like a hero, but later I get a letter from Will that says he DIDN'T break up with me. So I start freaking out, and I don't know what to do. Back at square one. So I dump Logan, and tell William about everything that went wrong, he calls me a few days before he's ready to come home, and we agree that we are still together. Well, 3 days later my MOM gets a break up letter from him that I can't misunderstand. It said he didn't have the patience for me, and that he can't forgive me for the misunderstanding. So, AGAIN i'm back with Logan wondering how Logan could take me back after all that, and William comes home, and he COMPLETELY ignores me. Utterly. I didn't see him the first 3 days he was home, and he finaly sends me a message saying,"You can ignore me like I have been ignoring you, or you can tell me how I screwed up." I told him I was sorry about everything, and that I understood if he didn't love me anymore, but I wanted our friendship back atleast. Well, he agreed, and he came out to see my mom, but he didn't treat me like a friend. He didn't talk to me at all. Well, 2 weeks go by, and I guess he starts trying to make me jealous with my twin sister, which works, but a few days before he leaves to go BACK to Cali he tells Emily, my sister, that he loves her. William wouldn't say something he didn't mean. And, basicaly...
I guess I want William to be happy. And i want to be the one to make him happy. Do I ignore it, talk to him about it, or what?! What do I do to maybe make him like me again...?
As for Logan. He's a great guy, and I regret hurting him. And he's been a part of my life for so long, I don't know how I could bare to keep hurting him. And I think he deserves better than me. I feel bad, but what can I say?...I just don't love him anymore. It would be easier if I did. (link)
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Okay well, wow. First you have to have a visit with your heart. Which guy has always been their for you when you needed him, which guy always was a hero, which guy used to always have a place in your heart?
It seems like you have been in a huge big drama show. If William dosen't like you anymore and likes someone else, you can't just stop him from loving someone. I think you should just become friends with the two guys because your using the guys for when another guy hurts you and it's not fair to Logan, or any other guy.
Think about it like this, Let's say theirs this boy that you really love, but another girl is always trying to get him away from you. He dumps you for that girl but when the girl gets mad, they break up and he gets back to you. When the girl get's back with that guy, your left in the dust again. IF this was you you'd know, it wasn't right. You would feel hurt, used, and just down. I believe this is what Logan is feeling.
So like I said again become friends with the two guys and try to get involved with other things, and make sure you stick to just being friends. I really think even though you might love him, what will happen when he ignores you again?
Go out with some of your friends, and just try to focus on other things for a while and when your okay, try to meet a few other guys but DON'T use two guys back and forth, it's not worth it.
I know this might not be the advice you'd want to hear but it seems theirs something clear to do,.
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ok,here it goes. i move here 2 years ago,and i still have the friends from befor,but its soo hard to make new friends in the school.i've been through friends that i was close with and now i joined a new group this year.its a complete mess!
i dont know how im supposed to talk to anyone,lately im so blank,and i dont even think about anything,i stare off into space remembering my friends from the old town,and i've already tried asking my mom if we ould move back.i dont know how to make friends,start convos,be funny,or even have a personality.
i just really want friends that care about me in this town,and want to do things out of school with me,but how? are there steps? i spend my whole time just wishing i was with my old friends,and wishing i had friends in this new town like that.
i dont know how to loosen up,how?im so sad,and i feel like nothing in the wolrd can make me better.i feel hopeless and wonder why i lost interest in things i used to love.sorry this is long.anything will help/ (link)
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Okay well figure out your personality first. What are your intersts. Let's say you like to dance. Get involved with dance and meet some friends. Just approach someone at that dance class and say Hey Do you enjoy dance? Start the conversation small and little by little talk to that friend a bit.
One of the things you don't want to bring up is about your old friends, if you talk about them to much it seems like your more interested in the old friends then who your talking too. I would go to the mall, get some cool new clothes, get a new hairstlyle. That will make you feel better about yourself. When I fist meet someone I try to think of what they like. For example. If I see a girl sitting in a room, holding a little book of drawings, and is sketching. I know I might want to talk about that.
Just start a conversatipm with a simple line "Hi My name's -insert name-.I see you like -insert a subject-. Then ask questions about it, and just don't worry, you have NOTHING to lose. Whenever I am worried about something I think what's the worse that could happen and honestly, the worst that could happen for you is that that person will not like you. Theirs alot of people that have the same intersts as you, so talk to them!
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Ok ..
I have been going out with this guy for around 2/3 weeks but I cant help noticing his strange moods.
Hes also on a game I play also known as GUNZ...An online Multiplayer game
Hes worst than a women , One minute hes fine next hes really cold and says nasty stuff without realising...Then straight after apologises..
I mean for example..The other day , msn convo went like this:
[Him] = We didnt talk much did we
[Me] = I Know..Doesnt matter we can talk now ^^
[Him] = I dont think we have any interest in each other
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Then End...Next day he doesnt understand what he said?
Under the circumstances it really hurt when he said that..
And hes just soo stroppy with me...But when hes not stroppy hes my angel :( (link)
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I would sit down with him and try to talk to him about this. Tell him some of the stuff you just told us. Start it off with like "I like you alot, and I think your really cool but I have been noticing that you've been having a lot of mood swings, and it's kinda hard to coap with."
Talk to him and tell him what your thinking. If after telling him this you don't see he's trying to change, you might want to consider being friends. it's not fair to you to have to go with constent break-ups and get back togethers. It's not right, so definitly talk to him.
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Everyone is so incredibly jealous of me. I know I'm a nice person and that I don't show off so I don't see how this has happened. My 'best friends' have all turned against me (twice now with different groups, once this year and once last year).
I only have one real friend. People are always complaining how smart, pretty, athletic, rich, stylish etc I am. Never once have I bragged and I NEVER act like I'm better than someone. In fact, I have struggled a lot to achieve everything I have and I love myself. I know exactly who I am.
What I don't understand is why this happened to me or how to get by it. I have tried heart to hearts, ignoring it and everything in between.
I know every single person in my grade at my school (we live in a pretty isolated town) so I can't exactly meet new people. I also don't WANT to forgive the people who have done such mean things to me in my past. Everyone is just so insecure.
How do I get through this? Is there any hope? (link)
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I understand exactly how you feel. This used to happen to my friend all the time and I was the only person who would support her and actually be a friend. Sometimes friends just get to jealous and it's human nature.
If people are always complaining how pretty smart althletic etc. you are then find something good about them to talk about. I know you don't want to forgive the people who have done this to you but I mean your gonna have to deal with them for a while so you should try to forgive them or if you still don't want too, just try to make peace with them, so you can walk into school and not be like "ugh not again!"
So if someone complains how rich you are complement something their wearing, if they aced a math test etc. It will make people less jealous of you, even if it dosen't seem that way. When people are jealous of you and your complementing them about how cool that shirt is etc. it makes them not want to complain as much.
I mean think about it, if It was you that was complaining, wouldn't you want to hear someone say your stylish etc. Dosen't that make you feel good?
Sometimes it just happens to people and you can't help it. I know if you try my advice you'll get through it, and don't be afraid to take a risk.
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