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Interupting
I have a big problem with interupting when other people are talking. I do it to my parents, friends, and especially in class.
I don't realized I've interupted someone until AFTER I had butted in. Infact, I think I pushed my boyfriend over the edge today because I constantly interupt him and I think today was one time to many.
How do I stop this bad habit?
I've tried "Thinking before you speak" But I often forget and just keep on talking.
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Well, this worked with my younger sister. Hehe. So when someone is talking, and you need to say something, try counting one mississippi, two mississippi... up to five. that will give you time to make sure that they are done saying whatever they need to say. Hope I helped!!
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That is an interesting problem, I would suggest trying to just listen for a day. Try not to speak. Everytime you get the erge to say something try not saying anything. Try to listen to what others have to say, because that's very important. You need to think about other peopleès feelings, at the moment you are not you are just butting in, and as you've notices, not only do people not like it, but it isnt very poliet.
Another thing you could try is, to pretend that everyone is better than you. Pretend that you are talking to the queen and no one ever interupts the queen.
Those are just a few ideas. You should tell your parents and your boyfriend and other people you interupt, and tell them that you are aware of the problem, you are trying to fix it, but you are having difficulties. With your very close friends you can even develop a signal, like get them to touch their chin everytime you interupt, and then gracefully, attempt to finish what you were saying, apologize to the person you interupted and say:"I'm sorry, I interupted, you were saying?"
I gave you a few suggestions, but I am sure that If you explain to your boyfriend and other friends that you have this problem then they can help you figure out other ways to fix it. I am glad that you are trying to change a problem that annoys other people. It just goes to show that you are trying hard to become a good friend. I hope your friends will understand, and as well, I hope that I helped. Good luck,
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Hmm, before you talk to someone tell them you notice this problem and don't want to interupt them , and go on with that. Just so they know your not doing it on purpose. Try to think why you do it. You probably just have a lot to say. Try to let what you have to say out, so you can just listen. Even try taping your mouth closed. I know it sounds stupid but after a while you'll stop interupting (yes that has worked, my friend did something like this and the tape reminded her that she interupted and since she had the tape on her mouth she couldn't blurt things out.) Although it's kinda uncomfortable it will help you break the habit.
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