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Thank you!
Hey, I have another question, and you helped me the most, so this one is kinda personal, but how do I straighten the mess out? I wasn't really clear in the other one, and it's not exactly like I was jumping from guy to guy, but that doesn't matter because that's not what I wanted advice for.
Basicaly, to sum it up better, and more clear, Logan treated me like crap, William treated me good, but Logan was willing to stay with me, and William wasn't.
Logan was controlling, and wouldn't let me do anything without permission. In those words exactly, he said,"You can't do anything without my permission anymore, got it?" And there were small cases whenever he got drunk and started flirting with other girls, but I don't have any proof of that. Other than all the girls who's numbers he got vouching for me.
I have a hard time standing up for myself because I don't like to fight. I feel awkward when I fight with someone. But William stood up for me. To anyone. I'm more the quiet fun type. And so was William. And it is wrong to play with someones feelings. And I dunno if it's my jealousy problems, or really just wanting someone to love me, i'm not sure. Maybe i'm just rude, I honestly don't know. And it seemed like every week Logan was blaming me of sleeping with someone else. Whenever he was my first, and I didn't want anyone else. And he broke up with me sometimes 2 times a month. He's probably broken up with me all together about 7 times. And within the week asked me back out. But, i'm afraid to lose Logan because I think I might regret it. But, the only way I know I WON'T regret it is if William was there for me. Whether as a friend, or girlfriend. But, he thinks I cheated on him the whole time he was gone. And I basicaly want to convince him I didn't. But I don't really have anyone standing up for me. Emily, my twin, likes William so she doesn't really try to convince him I was faithful while he was gone, my mom had been trying to tell him I cheated on him because I refused to tell her how I feel about anything, and Logan has been telling people we were dating the whole time Will was gone because we're back together, and he likes to think we never broke up...o.o
If everything was perfect for me, I would be single, and no one would be hurt. And I could live my life as an optimist like I was 5 months ago...
If you can help me with any of this, I would really appreciate it!
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LOL of course I will help. It's great to see some advice is liked :).
Anyways let's get to buisness. I'm sorry for making it seem like you we're jumping from guy to guy, it just sounded like when one dumped you, you got back with the other, but let's get on to what your asking.
I definitly would talk to Logan and stop being boyfriends with him. I honestly believe by him being "controlling" he might abuse you because usually someone controlling you and not letting you do things is a sign that he might become abusive. He dosen't sound honest to me, expecially since you mention he treated you like crap.
Since you tell me that you would feel awkward maybe talk to him somewhere quiet, maybe in your house, or maybe someone such as a park. If it makes you feel better have a good friend of yours come with you to be there just so you can leave after you talk to him. Start off with something like this "I know we have something but I feel like,,,,,," Now tell him how you feel and explain to him that you just want to be friends since your kinda feeling confused about this and need to get your life back in order. Although it may be hard telling him that you just want to be friends, I believe it will help you in the long run.
Your not rude, you just want someone to be there with you, someone to have fun with, someone to just hang out with. It's okay to feel like that but, you don't want to keep going on with drama.
I can tell that you really like William and from what you told me before he's ignoring you because he thought you dated Logan while he was away.
Their's a few things you can do to talk to maybe get William back but if you do get him back, if he breaks up with you, you might NOT want to go back with Logan.
You can talk face to face to William. Say something like "I understand your mad at me but I didn't do anything while you we're away at (LOL sorry I forgot what you said so just insert where he was). I was so looking foward to getting a letter from you." Tell him that you thought he broke up with you and you thought he didn't like you. Go on with that. Maybe at the end tell him that he dosen't have to believe you but you really wish he did.
Maybe even though you care about William alot though, he's not the right guy for you. It seems like their was so much drama, between your sister, Mom, and William. I really think you will find the right guy after you let him go. If you feel that you really can't try my above advice.
Try starting over, join a club, or a sports team and make some new friends but make sure to take everything slow because if another guy really loves you, he WILL wait for you to be ready to not just be friends. One time someone told me a good quote. "The guy that's the one is the one who thinks he dosen't deserve you and treats you like a fragil rose" I hope that influenced you a bit
If you have any more questions, I would be happy to answer it
Ta ta,
-HollywoodHelper1338
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