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Jealousy
15/f
Everyone is so incredibly jealous of me. I know I'm a nice person and that I don't show off so I don't see how this has happened. My 'best friends' have all turned against me (twice now with different groups, once this year and once last year).
I only have one real friend. People are always complaining how smart, pretty, athletic, rich, stylish etc I am. Never once have I bragged and I NEVER act like I'm better than someone. In fact, I have struggled a lot to achieve everything I have and I love myself. I know exactly who I am.
What I don't understand is why this happened to me or how to get by it. I have tried heart to hearts, ignoring it and everything in between.
I know every single person in my grade at my school (we live in a pretty isolated town) so I can't exactly meet new people. I also don't WANT to forgive the people who have done such mean things to me in my past. Everyone is just so insecure.
How do I get through this? Is there any hope?
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well its obviously that they are just jealous of you because you are a hard worker and care about yourself and you are self confident! Dont worry about them! If they are too blind to see what a good friend you were and how wonderful of a person you are then they're not worth your time! Believe me you will find someone else just keep being you and hold your head up high and everything will work out!
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of coarse there is hope, theres always hope, you just have to believe in yourself and you'll find it. Now heres what you should do. Find somewehere where everyone can hear you or confront each of them individually, and tell them that your sick and tired of them talking behind your back and spreading gossip. The truth is your not doing anything wrong, ther just making it look like you did something wrong. Who do you hang out with? I mean, you have to be tight with someone in your school. or get one of your past freinds, and talk to them. if they were once your freind, they'll find that inner-freindship and understand. if they really and trueley understand, they'll be willing to help you. I really hope i helped and good luck!! I'm totally on your side!! =) Dont be shy feel free to e-mail me and tell me how it goes!!
-Jan
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well they think you have so just pretend to forgive and pretend that you know what you did wrong
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I understand exactly how you feel. This used to happen to my friend all the time and I was the only person who would support her and actually be a friend. Sometimes friends just get to jealous and it's human nature.
If people are always complaining how pretty smart althletic etc. you are then find something good about them to talk about. I know you don't want to forgive the people who have done this to you but I mean your gonna have to deal with them for a while so you should try to forgive them or if you still don't want too, just try to make peace with them, so you can walk into school and not be like "ugh not again!"
So if someone complains how rich you are complement something their wearing, if they aced a math test etc. It will make people less jealous of you, even if it dosen't seem that way. When people are jealous of you and your complementing them about how cool that shirt is etc. it makes them not want to complain as much.
I mean think about it, if It was you that was complaining, wouldn't you want to hear someone say your stylish etc. Dosen't that make you feel good?
Sometimes it just happens to people and you can't help it. I know if you try my advice you'll get through it, and don't be afraid to take a risk.
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-HollywoodHelper1338
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