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He came back, and I don't know what to do
Hello, my name is Beth! I am 15, and I really need help!
Ok! So, I guess I should start at the beginning.
A year ago I started dating this guy, Logan. Well, a couple months after we started going out, this other guy, William, kissed me. Well, I didn't like William that way. I only saw him as a friend. So I told Logan, Logan got mad at Will, pretty soon the problem died down, and it wasn't anything bad anymore. Logan was even comfortable with me being around William alone. So, me and William become really good friends, but he starts crying all the time because I didn't love him back. And I tried to explain it to him that I don't love him. Well, he respected it, but he didn't understand. So, he got alittle depressed, and he wouldn't come near me. Well, I was ok with it. I didn't love him, so no big deal. But, me and Logan started having sex, and my mom caught us, so I wasn't allowed to see Logan anymore, and she started shoving William on me. Well, I didn't love William. So, me and Logan started having problems. We start to go to Missouri on vacation, and my mom invites Will. Will agrees, and so we're on our way. And me and William start having alot of fun! Like, we start dunking each other underwater, flirting alot, having loads of personal fun. Nothing like sex, or anything. But, I call Logan later telling him how great my day is, and he get's pissed and hangs up on me. Well, I can completely understand why he hung up on me, I would be mad if he was wrestling with a girl who loved him. So, something happened. Like snapped inside me, and I didn't want Logan anymore, I wanted William. So I told William that I thought I had fallen in love with him, and of course he was happy as could be. But we couldn't date or anything because I was with Logan. But i've been with Logan so long, and I gave him my virginity. Like, that was the most important thing to me. So it got really hard for me to just let Logan go. Well, William is headed to boot camp in a few weeks, so I decide i'll finaly do it. So I do. And I get alittle depressed, but I have William to tell me it's ok. So me and Will start going out, and I couldn't get any letters the first 2 weeks he's gone. And I really start to get lonely, but i'm determined. Well, we finaly are able to start writing letters to each other, and about a month and a half I get a letter that says,"I can't say I love you enough." Well, I thought he meant he didn't love me enough, but he meant he couldn't say it enough. So, as soon as I misunderstand the letter, I call Logan and ask him to forgive me, because I still don't wanna be alone. Logan forgives, and takes me back like a hero, but later I get a letter from Will that says he DIDN'T break up with me. So I start freaking out, and I don't know what to do. Back at square one. So I dump Logan, and tell William about everything that went wrong, he calls me a few days before he's ready to come home, and we agree that we are still together. Well, 3 days later my MOM gets a break up letter from him that I can't misunderstand. It said he didn't have the patience for me, and that he can't forgive me for the misunderstanding. So, AGAIN i'm back with Logan wondering how Logan could take me back after all that, and William comes home, and he COMPLETELY ignores me. Utterly. I didn't see him the first 3 days he was home, and he finaly sends me a message saying,"You can ignore me like I have been ignoring you, or you can tell me how I screwed up." I told him I was sorry about everything, and that I understood if he didn't love me anymore, but I wanted our friendship back atleast. Well, he agreed, and he came out to see my mom, but he didn't treat me like a friend. He didn't talk to me at all. Well, 2 weeks go by, and I guess he starts trying to make me jealous with my twin sister, which works, but a few days before he leaves to go BACK to Cali he tells Emily, my sister, that he loves her. William wouldn't say something he didn't mean. And, basicaly...
I guess I want William to be happy. And i want to be the one to make him happy. Do I ignore it, talk to him about it, or what?! What do I do to maybe make him like me again...?
As for Logan. He's a great guy, and I regret hurting him. And he's been a part of my life for so long, I don't know how I could bare to keep hurting him. And I think he deserves better than me. I feel bad, but what can I say?...I just don't love him anymore. It would be easier if I did.
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To be blunt, William sounds like a jackass. And Logan's getting the brunt of it. You were being very irrational throughout this whole ordeal, and I think you need to get your priorities straight. If you truly want William to be happy, you'll want him to be happy with anyone, not just you. You're young, and you still have 5/6ths of your life to enjoy. Leave William alone, and keep being friends with Logan. Try not to progress into anything more, though, that will awkwardize things too much. It's okay to be single. Trust me. When you do start dating, don't go and flirt with people who like you.
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Okay well, wow. First you have to have a visit with your heart. Which guy has always been their for you when you needed him, which guy always was a hero, which guy used to always have a place in your heart?
It seems like you have been in a huge big drama show. If William dosen't like you anymore and likes someone else, you can't just stop him from loving someone. I think you should just become friends with the two guys because your using the guys for when another guy hurts you and it's not fair to Logan, or any other guy.
Think about it like this, Let's say theirs this boy that you really love, but another girl is always trying to get him away from you. He dumps you for that girl but when the girl gets mad, they break up and he gets back to you. When the girl get's back with that guy, your left in the dust again. IF this was you you'd know, it wasn't right. You would feel hurt, used, and just down. I believe this is what Logan is feeling.
So like I said again become friends with the two guys and try to get involved with other things, and make sure you stick to just being friends. I really think even though you might love him, what will happen when he ignores you again?
Go out with some of your friends, and just try to focus on other things for a while and when your okay, try to meet a few other guys but DON'T use two guys back and forth, it's not worth it.
I know this might not be the advice you'd want to hear but it seems theirs something clear to do,.
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WOW, that was long! Anyways, i would talk to him about how he used to love you, and just lyk dat you go after your sister. Ask if he is saying he loves her, just to be with some one, or to make you jealous. I would talk the WHOLE ENTIRE SITUATION with him. And i am not giving you advice, on how to make him like you again, because you hurt him once, and no one deserves to be hurt like that. YOU should think about that. As for logan, you should apologize for what you did, and hope he forgives you. USING PEOPLE IS WRONG! I kno you may not rate me high, becuase this advice huts, but it is true!
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