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Virginity
i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice]
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It sounds like you are already very clear on the great reasons not to have sex too soon and the risks of std's. Some of your friends will regret having had sex in the future, but have not gotten there yet. It may be that one of the girls will contract herpes, another girl genital warts that can lead to cancer, or several other diseases in her near future if she continues to have sex. Another girl may become pregnant and have to face either motherhood or abortion. Maybe the emotional regrets will hit after being used by guys over and over again. Don't stop being their friend. Even if a girl has lost her virginity, don't give up on her. She may listen to you eventually and really need your friendship and advice. Try not to judge someone as a "hoe." Judgement will not solve anything, and will only isolate you. We all make mistakes, and some of your young friends may not have the guidance or self-esteem to say no to eary sex. If you can keep talking to them, as well as your virgin friends in an open and non-judgemental way, then you can learn from and support one another in whatever decisions you face.
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Hello. I want to start off by saying, I lost my virginity when I was 12 to a 19 year old. But, now we plan on getting married. I think its really good that you want to stay a virgin until you are married, it shows you have good morals and values. So, here are some really good reasons;;
-It shows you have morals and respect for your body.
-It tells other guys that you actually want a meaningful relationship, not just a guy to have sex with.
-If you wait until marriage, it will make your wedding night more memoriable.
-You are sure not to have sex with someone and mean it but the other person doesn't and just wanted some ass.
-How would your parents feel if they found out?
-There is always a change you could get pregnant or get a STD.
Thats all I can think of, sorry its not a lot. I know I'm not a virgin and I lost it at a young age, but I don't regret it and I knew that the guy loved me and wanted more than sex out of me. Now, I know that I will be spending the rest of my life with him, and I'm really glad that I made the choice to do what I did.
Have a good week! =]
Oh, and don't let anyone tell you that being a virgin is lame and ect. Its not, it means you have self respect and a lot of other things! Stick to what you believe in now. =]
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Sex and making love is a physical expression of love, and the excitement of the pleasure is best shared when two people are pure to each other.
In a relationship, it is difficult when you've had multiple sex partners. When you have sex with another person you take those memories, thoughts, and feelings with you to your marriage. There is a lot of emotional ties as well as lustful ties that get in the way of a marriage when their has been infidelity outside of marriage.
There are also the obvious issues such as diseases and pregnancy. With both of those issues arise many other issues which can and will affect your whole life.
If you've had sex outside of marriage then you will never really understand or know the benefits of staying a virgin until marriage. You can never understand the purity and joy of it. When you remain pure and marry someone out of genuine friendship and love then the sexual experience is something to be treasured as well as freely enjoyed.
Not everyone has the blessing of coming to this awareness nor does life treat everyone gently. So, some may not be able to come to the marriage relationship a virgin. Still, we can choose to remain celebate until marriage. If you start off a relationship without sexual intimacy then you don't bring baggage to a new relationship. It is best to get to know your potential spouse first, and save the physical after you've tied the knot.
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just a lil more about std's, i went to the silver ring thing and they hsowed this chart about like say you had sex with 4 pepple before u got married, like 12 people would end up getting them. once your married, you have like a 99.9 percent chance that he wont leave you and will love you and the aby forever, and want to have sex ith you not just because hes a horny inconsiderate jerk, because he wants you to be happy.
hope i helped__0x
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You Should Save your virgenty because there is that special guy out there that you will spend your life with and you will KNOW he wont leave you when you get married and it would be better if u did it when your married..becuase u wont regret it and it will be worth the wait and you are very smart..just tell your friends i dont want to give a guy soemthing that means everything to me..he isnt the right one and ..im gonna wait for the right one i hope i helped..<merisa>
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Other than the STDs the night of your Honeymoon is supposed to be the night you break your virginity. Hope it helps!
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It's nice to hear that you plan to hold out til marriage. I have always said I would do the same, and now I'm older...and I still think it's a nice idea..but realistically it's difficult.
As for your friends, you can't convince them not to have sex, because waiting for marriage is not right for everyone. But, you can explain to them that if they don't love the guy and are just doing it to fit in...they are going to regret it. And as long as they don't regret their first time...it's alright. But of course, if they haven't been dating the guy for too long and barely know him and if the guy is just plain bad news. Try to help them see that if they do want to have sex...that they should do it for the right reasons. You can't really stop them...but you can be a friend and help them see they need to find something real and yes it is pretty hard to find it at 13.
Well I wish you best of luck.
--Teacup
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Well I am 15 and I lost my virginity at 13 at the time no I didn't regret it but yes I do very much now so I know exactly what you are asking. To people being a virgin can be a very precious thing and to some it is no big deal to me at the time it was no big deal but now I realize it is something you should really hold on to as long as you can. The best reason to me why I think being a virgin is and was a very precious thing is that when you are married and you are a virgin and so is your partner you can have that amazing feeling of being proud and loved because you can feel like that person waited for me and feel glad you waited for them. But when you are married and you are not a virgin and your partner is you may feel bad because they waited for you but you couldn't wait for them. After you lose your virginity you start to think and realize these things and then wonder how great and proud of yourself you could've been also able to say I have the will power to wait for my true love. I really thought and wished I had had that strength so I to could be proud of myself instead I feeling ashamed and weak. Honestly to some people it may mean different things but to everyone it should be something that is cherished and given to the right person at the right time.
Good luck,
Hope I helped
(If you would like more of my advice e-mail me at skipedabeat@yahoo.com)
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Hey. Losing your virginity is supposed to be one of the most special moments in your life. It's not just to be like "hey guess what! i'm not a virgin." To make it special, you do it with someone you love and who loves you back. Not just some one who wants to get in your pants. I hope that helped and good luck!
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Hi
First of all i want to say i really respect you for the stand you took not to have sex when all your other friends are.Remeber now that all your friends have lost their virginty their trying to get you to follow the trend.Other than just the fact that you get STD's it also affects you emotionally in the long run.
Virginty is more than just not having sex before you married. its basically staying pure to yourself until you find someone who really loves you for you.See emotionally as well your saveing yourself from the regret in the long run and alot of emotional baggage so if your friends bring up the top again.
Just tell them that what they do with there virginty is their own choice.You do withs your is your choice.If your friends are pressuring a great reason is that you respect yourself and your body , you are saving yourself for that special person not for the first guy who gives u the head up.
I can tel you made mature decision and you respect youself to much.But like all things its your choice what you do at the end of the day.
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Hey ,
First of all, i remember i read this question before where two 11 year olds wanted to have sex together and they wanted to go shopping for condoms and stuff. I just want to know how you feel about that? I am sure that you are disgusted as much as i am. How can children have sex, i mean, for heaven sake, they are two young and unexperienced, and do they have any idea how much it would hurt or how much trouble they would get themselves into. I believe that if people want to have sex, then they should do it when they are married.
Other than that, losing your virginity starting from 11 year olds, then they will regret this for the rest of their lives. At first, they would think that its a really fun experience, and they want to go for it, but then after they do it, they totally regret it.
You know why? Because they do not think of the consequences. First of all, there is a 50% chance of getting pregnant, and if they do, then they can kiss their future goodbye. Second of all, people would get bad ideas about them, and would think that they are sluts. Then they their boyfriends would use them only for sex, and when they break up with them, they will hook up with other boys and have sex with them. Soon ,they will be sluts who have sex with a different boy everyday.
Finally, and most important, they will never get married, because if anyone tries to propose to them later on in life and they know that they had lost their virginity, no one would want to marry them.
Please don't think that i am being to harsh or anything, because i am actually saying this from past experience, and its true every word i said.
YOu could also tell them all that i said, but trust me when i tell you, they won't listen to you. But all you could do, is to take care and keep your own virginity.
Goodluck, and contact me if you need anything else.
xoxoxoox:)
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look,do you actually agree with 13 year old ppl losing it?i think its disgusting because they no nothing about it and only do it because their freinds do.tell them that if they lose it now to their boyfreinds theyll obviously one day break up with their boyfreinds and go to a different guy and do it with him and break up and so on,and by the time they are married,they would have stdd,been pregnant before and a sucky ass reputation.they always end up regreting it.and tell me,if they get pregnant,can they actually take care of their kid??no!because theyre a child with a child and both are in need of mothers!people will talk rea;ly badly about them and guys will lose respect to them and say,"aw shes a whore,she did it with everyone,"virginity should only be lost to a person that you know youll be with for the rest of your life.not to some 13 yearr old guy that barley got his puberty and wont take care of no damn kid youll get pregnant with!
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It's everyone's personal choice when to lose their virginity, and usually teenagers do regret how they lost theirs. It's hard to change a friend's mind, i've tried many times. The best thing is to put them in the situation, or show them someone's personal story of regret. Ask them how they would deal with getting pregnant and make sure they know YES THEY CAN GET PREGNANT. Also tell them that it should be special. Changing one's mind is hard, but it's good that you are looking out for your friends.
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