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Q: well im 13/f and i haven't gotten my period yet. i guess i have big boobs i'm almost a B. ALL my friends have got theres but i dont know when i'm going to get mine, i hope soon. help me...

There are some girls that don't get theirs until they are like 15 I have a friend and she is 16 and she just got hers. Remember everyone develops at their own pace you can't rush it but believe me it will happen and believe me once it does you will definatly want to go back.

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Q: 14/f well my friend just told me she is allergic to condoms(like the rubber or something) and i'm worried about her because she is in a relationship with this guy for a while and if they have sex or oral sex shes not protected. shes worried also but she doesn't know what to do. i want to help her but i dont know how.
if she touches a condom she gets a really bad rash and she has to get rushed to the hospital.

thanks in advanced

Tell your friend if she is allergic to the latex on the condom they make latex free ones and if she is allergic to the rubber tell her that they make hypo-allergenic condoms also.

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Q: Hi my boyfriend and I are having some problems. Well first of all he is mad at me for getting a myspace and he wont leave me alone he's threatning to break up with me for it, its retarded he needs to just leave me alone. What should I do?

The first thing you need to do is find out why he doesn't want you to have a myspace for all you know he could have a very good reason and might just want to protect you. If he doesn't mean more to you then a dumb myspace then leave him but if he is more important then work out a agreement or something.

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Q: My parents have been smoking since they were teenagers. I'm just curious if everyone who smokes has a really high risk of getting lung cancer? It's not common in my family and I'm worried that my parents will get it.

No not all people that smoke get lung cancer but yes everyone that smokes does have that high risk of getting it. Umm it not being common in your family makes it a bit of a lower chance that they will get it but that doesn't mean they won't. But don't worry not everyone gets it. Also it matters how often and what kind of cigaretts they smoke.

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Q: do girls like guys that are neatly trimmed, just some hair or not cut or shaven at all at the dick? and do girls like guys that shave their ass or not? and lastly, are girls more attracted to hairy chested men or hairy legged men?

People are attracked to different things but if you are asking my opion. I like them neatly trimmed their ass really doesn't matter their leggs have to be hairy and not to much hair on their chest. But different women like different things.

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Q: i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice]

Well I am 15 and I lost my virginity at 13 at the time no I didn't regret it but yes I do very much now so I know exactly what you are asking. To people being a virgin can be a very precious thing and to some it is no big deal to me at the time it was no big deal but now I realize it is something you should really hold on to as long as you can. The best reason to me why I think being a virgin is and was a very precious thing is that when you are married and you are a virgin and so is your partner you can have that amazing feeling of being proud and loved because you can feel like that person waited for me and feel glad you waited for them. But when you are married and you are not a virgin and your partner is you may feel bad because they waited for you but you couldn't wait for them. After you lose your virginity you start to think and realize these things and then wonder how great and proud of yourself you could've been also able to say I have the will power to wait for my true love. I really thought and wished I had had that strength so I to could be proud of myself instead I feeling ashamed and weak. Honestly to some people it may mean different things but to everyone it should be something that is cherished and given to the right person at the right time.

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Q: Hi, i'm 14/f.
i have known this guy since sixth grade because my friend was going out with him. (they have been broken up since then though.) I really like him and i found out he likes me. the only problem is that he's too shy to talk to me and i don't know what to say to him when i want to talk to him. i'm not sure if he knows that i like him either. i haven't had a real conversation with him before. all my friends and his friends know each other too. most of those friends don't know we like each other though. we're also most of the time around each other.
should i wait for him to talk to me first or when i talk to him what should i say?

thanks a bunch. :)

If he is shy then you should be the one to make the move but when you talk to him don't just jump out and say it start to hint around to you liking him. For example be like I like one of my close friends and he likes me but I don't know what to do like start asking him questions about it while hinting that it is him he will eventually catch on and either say something or make it when you say something it isn't such a shock. Or if you are really out there and you just want to get it over with an even faster way ask him out. If you don't want to do that you could ask him like do you have feelings for any of your friends if he says yes be like who get him to tell you he likes you then be like well I like you too and things will just flow from there. Letting him know you have feelings for him will probably be the hardest part.

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Q: My boyfriends wants me to send him a picture of my pussy to his phone. I don't really want to. How can I tell him I'm not going to without making it seem like I don't love him?

If he really cares for you then telling him that you don't feel comfortable doing something really shouldn't bother him. Really he should be happy knowing that you didn't do something you didn't want to because if he cares for you then he wouldn't make you do something you weren't comfortable doing.

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Q: i have a friend and she had sex with her bf and then everyone found out that she did that and know i barley have any friends cause they thought that i was the one telling everyone witch i wasnt! it was someone else now im kinda scared to go to highskool cuz i think everyone going to talk shiznit that im the "RUMERER" and i had allot of friends know i only have about 4 so cana help a sissta out pizzz??

Well if you really didn't do it then you should tell her and everyone that you weren't the one that told people. If they don't believe you then maybe they weren't that good of friends in the first place if they can't even stick with you and try to believe you.

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Q: can you hurt yourself if you crack your neck everyday? i went on a missions trip and got into a habit of doing it and i wanted to know if its a bad thing to do.

Honestly I have no idea if it is bad for you or if it can harm you in some way. I can tell you though that I have been doing it for about 3 years at least 2 times a day and there is nothing wrong with me but some people can be different so I really am not to sure about that.

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Q: I was over at my friend "Madison's" house and she is kind of well.. young in heart. You see she is 12 and I am 13 but she looks, and acts like she is like 7. So I got my period when I was there and I was to embarssed to tell anyone. Her babysitter called her mom and her mom talked to my mom and I had to go home. My mom got mad at me for no reason, I can't face her what should I do?

I understand what you mean that does sound a little embarrassing but really all you can do is just face it because you are both girls and things like that will happen. Really that is the only thing you can do.

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Q: okay, basically, i have a hickey on my neck, and its big and purple

ita hot, so no turtle necks, and i dont wear collars
the cover i have isnt working at all

anyways to make it go away faster
or any other ideas on how to hide it?

The only thing I can think of is to use makeup really that is what I always use. Don't use the liquid use the powder it covers better but really that is the only thing I can think of for you.

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Q: 15/f
Aliright. I know this is kinda a stupid question but i wanna ask anyway. Well there is this boy that really likes me and i like him back(i told him). I have never really had a boyfriend, and never had a first kiss(he also knows this). We are planning on hanging out soon and im pretty positive that he will kiss me. But im soo nervous! I dont know what to do. any tips are great thanksss!

Well really I don't know on what to tell you for advice because kissing isn't really one of those things that you practice before hand it is just one of those things that you just go with. Believe me though when it happens for some reason you will know what to do I know that sounds crazy but I was nervous when I had my first kiss and really you just worry over nothing.

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Q: what are some good books you've read lately? i need to catch up on stuff

Some of the good books I have read latley would have to be the Notebook or the Wedding both by the same person and the Wedding is the second one to the Notebook. You will really like it if you like romantic sad books.

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Q: i'm a female, 15. and i have some girl friends around my same age that have already lost their virginity. me and my boyfriend almost had sex too but i said no.. but i think the only reason was because i know he's had sex before w/ this other girl and that kind of made me uncomfortable for different reasons. how do i know when i'm completely ready for sex? and how long is a good time to wait to have sex with my boyfriend? and is 15 way to young to lose your virginity? and wow that was a lot of questions :) haha thanks.

It is really hard to explain when you will know when you are completley ready that is something you have to feel when it comes time if you want it to happen but you have to judge those feelings really hard because afterward you don't want to regret anything. A good time to have sex with your boyfriend is when you both are ready and I wouldn't advise you to have sex with him knowing that nothing further is going to become of you guys as a couple. No to some people 15 isn't to young to lose your virginity to me from experience I really think something like sex should definatly wait until an older age where you can know for sure if you are ready and except some of the consequences that may follow. In my opion I think you should wait because you sound to unsure right now and you don't want to end up regreting your first time.

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Q: 15/f
me and my friend fight all the time. and it is usally over very stupid things. and i am the one who always trys to make things up between us. and i have known him since i was in second grade. and now we are in a fight yet again. he got mad because i told him that i didnt think he cared about me and he was like blah blah blah dont talk to me and he blocked me. and i havent talked to him since then. And he deleted me as a friend on myspace. which isnt shocking. So my question is that should i try and fix things? or should i just not try and see if he trys and if he doesnt just give up on this friendship.

thanks in advance :)

Well I think the best thing to do is give him his space and if he trys to fix it that is great if not give it a little longer and then you start to try and fix it. If you know that you are the one that always trys to fix things then he obviously does too so he might just wait for you to fix it but then you have to think is it worth all the trouble if I know we are going to fight again. You really need to find out in yourself if you really even want to be his friend anymore.

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Q: My best guy friend whom I've been crushing on for the past year now has never showed any interest in me. When I know that i am perfect for him it would be the best relationship hes ever had. How do I get him to realize this? or How do I just give up and realize he has to like me back for it to work?

I really need some answers

Thanks

If you really like him you have to let him know you just can't expect him to know. For example you could flirt or something like that. Really if you are an outspoken person which it seems like you are then just tell him you really like him and ask him out or something. Until he knows what it is like being with you he is going to have no idea what is it like without you.

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Q: is love real or possible at 14?

Yes real true love is possible at age 14 some people and adults really don't think so but I believe that there is and never will be an age limit to love. You have to be real careful when you think you know what love is you could be wrong and end up getting hurt so just don't jump into anyting.

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Q: I'm an average sized 13 year old girl. The only thing I don't like about my body is that I have a fairly large amount of belly fat. It keeps me from wearing a lot of pants because I can't get a size that isn't too long and fits well around my belly. The fat buldging around the pants doesn't look too attractive either (this ALSO prevents me from wearing a 2 piece swim suit!). I was wondering what kind of exercises I could do to eliminate the belly and specific things I could do that would help...I'm ready to say GOOD BYE to the belly! Thanks!

What I do to lower belly fat is crunches. Or another way to cut back on calories and sweets. I mean there really isn't very many things you could do that are really specific to fix that one area.

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Q: my one friend wants to help me with my imperfections..i mean she hasn't said it but i know she wants to.so should i be offended? or should i think its nice?

If she is doing it in a way to help you because she thinks you have a problem then maybe you should think it is nice. But if she is just doing it to change you then you should definatly be offended.

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I am cooky crazy and I love to party and have fun. I have brown hair, blue eyes, and I am kinda short. When I get older I hope to become a therapist so I can give everyone advice because that is what I love to do. I am in the 10th grade. Sometimes I can be real jealous about dumb things. I give great advice. And I even can say dumb things that make no sense. But over all I am a great person, advice giver, and friend. If you don't like me then good for you but I love me