I'm a single mother been through just about everything you name it. Ask me.
Gender: Female
Location: Ohio
Age: 29
Member Since: March 9, 2006
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Last Update: March 11, 2006
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So I don't usually get bad cramps, but yesterday and today I feel like someone it stabbing me in the uterus. Mydol doesn't work. Anything I can do? I already know the whole exersizing helps, I did last night and it didnt help. THANK YOU! (link)
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I would do what everyone else said, tylenol, heating pads, excercise, ect. but if all of those things don't work and the pain is really too much you should tell your Doctor because it could mean there is something else going on. It can't hurt to tell a Dr. anyway.
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Im 13, and my boyfriend is 12 (I was born very early in the year he was born later on) will he is very sweet, and very nice to me. We've been friends (but not like best friends) longer then we've been dating (hasent been that long at all) I think i have a big commitment issue, i mean once i finally get the guy i want.. I feel different. Like im happy, but im also constantly thinking about him. and almost sometimes i dont feel like talking to him, for like ALL night, so i tell him that i need to get of the phone/computer. Is this awkard? i mean is bad to have second thoughts, but you know that you really do want to be with him. & if your going to tell me about my age, and how many more guys i'll date, Dont respond. I RATE HiGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS. (link)
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I can understand not wanting to talk to him constantly I mean, everyone needs their own space and personal time away from the people we love, it's called boundaries. It gives us a time to regroup and reflect on the days events and just have time alone. It doesn't mean we love our friends/boyfriends less at all and you should not feel guilty about it.
Also I don't think that age has anything to do with not knowing about love. We are all human beings with feelings and we feel things at different levels at different times in our lives so I believe fully that your feelings for your boyfriend are valid. It's all just part of learning and living our lives. I don't think you need to worry about being committed to anyone at 13 you should be free to explore and experience life in your own way but it's always good to have love in your life thats a good thing, just take care of yourself too.
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what is a shank? i know the part between your knee and ankle...but is there anyother definition for it? thanks (link)
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I think a shank is a makeshift weapon that inmates create out of anything they can get thier hands on to make sharp and hurt someone with.
But someone has a more detailed list. I took a criminal justice class and my ex husband was in prison a lot so thats where I got that info.
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Okay im a very paranoid person over all. So when im home alone im scared to go downstairs to the basement cause theres a possible way soemone can break in .so i had to go down there for something adn when i was walking up the stairs i wanted to run because i was so scared that someone was there , but i forced myself to walk calmy and get over my fear, but as i was walking up the stairs i became very anxious and stressed .cause i forced myself to do something my mind didnt want to.? is this OCD or what is it ? i know no one is a doctor but does anyone no anything ? and what should i do...
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It sounds like anxiety ocd is when you have to to do something over and over again in order to feel complete like an uncontrollable urge.
You have a fear of something. Ask your self is there a real reason for me to be afraid? Probably not but sometimes people with PTSD post traumatic stress disorder can get these feelings out of the blue when something triggers an event that may have caused the original fear.
Can you talk to someone about it that is close to you? Sometimes talking can help make it seem not so scary.
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does size really matter to girls? (link)
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I was going to go on about how size doesn't matter and it's how you use it ect, but to a lot of girls it does matter. Women and men come in all sizes and some women need a bigger man to satisfy them sometimes a woman is smaller so it can be very uncomfortable for her to accomodate a bigger penis.
I don't think it makes you a slut or anything like that, but if the size of a guys penis is all your are looking for in a relationship then there is probably something wrong unless that is what you are both into ( you know, just sex one night stand)
When you love someone the size of his penis doesn't really matter right?
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so ive taken preg tests from my school twice.. nd they both came out that im NOT pregnant and they are sposed to be really good pregnancy tests.. but im sitll 8 weeks late for my period..
WHAT SHOULD I DO? what do you think? (link)
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Stress can delay your period and stressing about being pregnant could do it. To be sure you should have a blood test done then you can go from there.
It would probably be a good idea to use condoms and maybe some type of birth control to aviod this kind of stress in the future. Life in stressful enough. I have been where your at a few times so I understand what your going thru, just to let you know I'm not trying to be condescending.
There are legal medicinal herbs that will being on your period too but I am not sure if I should suggest them here. ?
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To give you a little background i am 19 he is 23, i am in macon,ga working at a hospital full-time and he works out of town. We broke up a little over a month ago and i dont know what to do anymore i am constantly thinking of him even at work. i have tried talking to him but he want talk to me. we were going out over two years and all of a sudden he ended it with no way i knew it was coming. he still has some of my things and i have some of his things and i have to meet him next week to get them but i dont know if i can handle seeing him. He said alot of mean stuff to mean over the last month i know what it was just to hurt me, i asked him why we broke up and what went on all he would say is that he wanted to be single for a while. does that mean he found someone new? i have always trusted him even working out of town. i had no reason not to. he would call me every night and we would talk hours on end becuase we missed each other. and this came so sudden. i am getting to that point were i dont sleep and when i do i crawl into bed at like 4:00 am and have to wake early so not much sleep and i barely eat maybe on emeal a day. i just dont know wha tto do anymore. help guys answer to to why he did this and why guys say mean stuff
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I know it is hard when this happens and not all guys are like this. It just so happens that you got a bad one. He sould have been a little more tactful in the way he broke up with you. Just keep your head up and know that you deserve better than this. Get your things and keep your feelings in check and dignity intact while you are around him. (keep the tears for when you are alone) You will get through it and it will pass There are guys out there who will respect your feelings and act with a little more integrity.
I'm sorry you had your heart broken, it really sucks to go through that but it will get better and time heals.
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ive thought about this for awhile...when guys like skaters and hardcore guys wear extremely tight girl pants. what do they do with thier thing? theres no space for it in the pants...
anyone know? (link)
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I think its cool when people ask questions like this because its what we all think but don't want to ask or maybe it just slips your mind.
I have seen guys wear really tight pands like that too I call them "ballcrushers" because they look so uncomfortable but I think it's something guys get used to and yeah they have enough room of course like everyone else said they get an erection.
I know drag queens tape everything "backwards" if you know what I mean to make it look like there is nothing there. Some do it on a regular basis but it does not sound like your friends are into this..
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Ok, heres my question. Around October, I found the blog of an Australian girl on the Internet. She'd kept the blog for about a year before I read it. I started noting it and we added each other on MSN. Now we're pretty good email friends, strange as it sounds, I always seem to have tons to talk about to her. We never set out to email, it just started out kind of accidentally.
Anyway, she recently found out that a friend of her fathers is opening a chain of coffee shops and has offered to send her over here (England) to work there. She's always wanted to travel and is really thrilled by this. Anyway, she's going to be in a town about 2 hrs on the train from where I live and obviously she suggested meeting up. Well I have absolutely no reason to doubt she's genuine (ie. not a dangerous rapist) except for the fact she's an Internet friend. I've swapped photos with her and read her friends blog, and I'm planning to speak to her on the phone before we meet up, and it'll definately be somewhere crowded in the middle of town. I'm not telling my parents about her, although I'll tell my friends. My question just is - are there any other precautions I should take to be 100% safe? I'd really really appreciate a detailed answer,
Thanks so much in advance,
Me :):) (link)
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You are a smart person for considering this. Although most people a basically good there are others out there who are not so good. Just go with someone else or make sure someone knows where you are going and what you are doing meet in a public place.
What everyone else said too. :-)
Have fun and I'm glad you met a new friend thats really cool.
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first off is there anyway to get an STD if you dont do anything sexual? cuz my friend has never done anything like that and apparently she has an STD...how does that work? T H A N K S !
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It would be easier to answer the question if we knew what type of std the girl has. There is a form of Herpes with symptoms of cold sores on the mouth but it is a different strain of herpes. Like someone else said it is called a sexually transmitted disease because it is transmitted from some kind of sexual contact. NOT from someone touching your leg or even kissing is not a likely way to catch an STD.
Is there a chance she has been sexually abused?
We probably need more info to answer this correctly.
STDs are not going to live long without a host ( a body to live on) They are transmitted by bodily fluids and blood.
someone already said this.
I hope your friend is able to cure it.
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im asain and as you know their hair is smooth and straight but i blowdry it many times and straighten it everyday so its REALLY poofy and like big. so i was wondering what i could do so my hair doesnt get poofy
ps. even if i dont blowdry my hair, it still becomes big (link)
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I know what you mean. It sounds like you have dry hair maybe. Get some one that thermal setting spray or get one of those smoothing gels I can't think of any of the names but if you can find one they really really help because I have really thick hair and I have the same problem.
Good luck!
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I dont know wahts wrong with me. I have been getting very depressed latley. Like it just bounces around, one second im happy then further through the school say i get really really depressed. After school I just come home and go right to sleep. I feel like people just dont care about me and I dont wanna wake up. I really get depressed during school when I think how I have hardly any guy friends and like mostly girl friends. It pisses me off and I dont know why.I pretty much do more things with girls than boys and it makes me depresseed. I want guy friends but the guys in my school are ass holes most of the time. But I dont know, i just get so depressed taht i wanna sleep and never wake up. I start to feel like no one in the world really understands how I for nor do they care.
What should i do??
P.S. by the way im a boy
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Hey! It sounds like you are really down. I know what that feels like because I have the same problems. I remember when I was in high school too and it really sucked. Kids are so mean to each other.
Sleeping all the time and feeling worthless is a big sign of depression but if you are switching to depression and feelings of hoplessness and then full of energy and elation that could be a sign of bi polar disorder. I don't know how close you are with your parents from what I hear no alot of parents are very good listeners these days, but if you are able to talk to them you could maybe explain how you are feeling and see what they can do to help you with this.
Have you talked to any of your girl friends about this? What bothers you so much about having only friends who are girls? Are you just feeling stuck in that category now at school so that no guys want to hung out with you because they think you only want to be friends with girls?
When you are low and not feeling very self confident it is hard to make friends, people pick up on that vulnerable feeling when they are around you too unfortunately and I know teenagers can be really mean.
I guess this is all I can say for now, if you have any other questions let me know if I could I would give you a big hug...just know that someone cares about you out there..
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Background for reference. Disregard it if you only want to read the problem:
I met Ashley at Sam Goody. She kind of followed me around and talked to me a lot. Gave me hugs and flirted at random times. At first it was a little odd, she just seemed like a kid with a crush and I wasn't interested in the least. She quits work and I don't see her for the better part of that year. I don't miss her.
I see her working at a grocery store later on. She doesn't seem quite as interested in me, but she's still incredibly flirtacious. I eventually develop a big crush on her. I ask her out on a date, but what was implied was that her parents wouldn't approve. She was turning 18 later on this year before I turned 21, but the 20-17 year old age gap was too much for them. Shortly after, I pretty much lose the romantic feelings I have for her. They're replaced with pity, from the terrible things I find out happened to her (from someone who knows us both). Before five days ago, we never really talk much outside of her workplace.
What's key to know for the problem:
Sunday (five days ago). She gives me her new number and invites me to her new place that night. While there, I listen to her complain about her now ex boyfriend and how she isn't over him. He used her for sex after he dumped her, then left without saying a word.
Tuesday. I text her asking if she feels like doing anything that day. She said, "I made a huge mistake. Shannin called and asked to see me and I said yes." I told her she can use plans with me as an excuse to not see him if she feels she shouldn't, and that I didn't think she shouldn't see someone who recently used her. She says, "Thanks. I know I'm really stupid but I just still love him so much"
She calls me later that night, crying from what happened earlier. I asked her if she needed me to come over and she said she wouldn't be much of a host since she would just be crying, but she could use the company.
It takes me a little while to get there, and when I do no one answers the door. I walk in and find her in a room with depressing music playing. She has a blade in her right hand and her left arm is covered in blood. She cries to me telling me how stupid she is and how it seems she can't learn from her mistakes. I try to comfort her I tell her how common such a thing is and turn off her music. I have her choose from a few different movies I brought over and we watch one that is now one of her favorites. She says that she feels a little better now and asks me to hang out with her the next day.
Wednesday. We start hanging out in the late morning. We watch a few things and talk. I learn some things about her past, distant and recent, that don't reflect well on her, for instance, she's capable of stealing. We go out to eat and to a few different places, an overall good time despite my being quiet from drowsiness. I leave to give my mother a ride home from work, and she asks me if I'm coming back afterwards. She said she would like it if I did.
After I come back, we go to her father's place to watch a movie (her father's working on her house) and so she can check stuff online. I get a quick glance at what she types in an e-mail. It read, "...heart broken again...feel like maybe I should just kill myself..." An exaggeration of her recent mood, but it still alarms me. I ended up staying with her until she was almost falling asleep after midnight again.
My problem: I've been noticing a list of things I don't like about Ashley, but the biggest thing in that list is the fact that I now have feelings for her again (spending over 12 hours with someone and you'll know how you feel about them after you leave). It might be stronger feelings than before, since I can't get her out of my head. I can't date her because no matter what she feels for me, which probably isn't more than friendship, she still is so caught up with and damaged from her ex that she's thinking about suicide. No good can come from having feelings for someone like this.
I desperately want to help her. I haven't been getting more than a couple of hours of sleep a night worrying about her. In the past, I've tried to help friends (all female) by trying to convince them they shouldn't make mistakes like this, which lead to arguments. They end with them being pissed at me, then making the mistake anyway. I've learned it's better to just give your advice/opinion once and hope they'll listen to it. If they make the mistake, they make the mistake.
The thing is, I don't think she can afford to make this mistake again. I can't tell her not to, it's her life, her business. I already told her how I felt about everything. My best friend thinks I should stay away from her, and she might be right, but I can't turn my back on her when just spending time with her seems to cheer her up a little, especially since now I care for her more than I would a friend. I considered trying to convince her to see someone about this, but I know from experience that, despite the good intentions, it will driver her away. I can't afford that since it seems like I'm one of the very few things kind of helping her. I know for a fact that she would go back to this guy, and I don't want that to happen. It could literally kill her. So what can I do? How can I help her past this? (link)
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I agree with younggrandma she sounds like a really mixed up person and it is honorable of you to be there for her when she probably needs someone the most right now but the best thing you could probably do is direct her to a therapist or maybe a suicide prevention hotline. She could have actually suceeded in her attept to commit suicide so good for you for being there, but from what it sounds, she could probably benefit from a professional.
You are a good person with a big heart. Not enough of you out there.
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For the people who are familiar with the band Slipknot, if any of you know the 9 pointed star they use an a symbol, what does it mean? My friend said it was satanic and i was wearing her sweater (which has that sign on the back of it) and i do not worship Satan by any means, does this sign offend anybody?
So can someone tell me what that means?
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I have this tattoed on my head it was something I decided to get about 10 or so years ago. The ninefold goddess is what is was called from the book of symbols I get it from but from further research I have done it looks like it is one of the symbols King Solomon used in magick ritual. I was also told that when the symbol was placed on the body it gives the wearer whatever thier heart desires.
My tatoo does not include the red design in the middle, but it is an interlocking nine pointed star like this.
also, in chaos magick a practitioner will make up a symbol and infuse it with energy directed towards a purpose it is called a "sigil" this reminded me of a sigil.
I don't really like Slipknot a whole lot. I saw them in concert a couple years ago and I have to say they are talented but the type of music is kind of depressing.
Hope that helps or will give you a direction to go in.
I don't think the symbol is an evil one. It has nothing really to do with the five pointed star.
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