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How can you tell if people online are genuine?
Ok, heres my question. Around October, I found the blog of an Australian girl on the Internet. She'd kept the blog for about a year before I read it. I started noting it and we added each other on MSN. Now we're pretty good email friends, strange as it sounds, I always seem to have tons to talk about to her. We never set out to email, it just started out kind of accidentally.
Anyway, she recently found out that a friend of her fathers is opening a chain of coffee shops and has offered to send her over here (England) to work there. She's always wanted to travel and is really thrilled by this. Anyway, she's going to be in a town about 2 hrs on the train from where I live and obviously she suggested meeting up. Well I have absolutely no reason to doubt she's genuine (ie. not a dangerous rapist) except for the fact she's an Internet friend. I've swapped photos with her and read her friends blog, and I'm planning to speak to her on the phone before we meet up, and it'll definately be somewhere crowded in the middle of town. I'm not telling my parents about her, although I'll tell my friends. My question just is - are there any other precautions I should take to be 100% safe? I'd really really appreciate a detailed answer,
Thanks so much in advance,
Me :):)
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You are a smart person for considering this. Although most people a basically good there are others out there who are not so good. Just go with someone else or make sure someone knows where you are going and what you are doing meet in a public place.
What everyone else said too. :-)
Have fun and I'm glad you met a new friend thats really cool.
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Telling your parents is a good idea. Im thinking the reason you dont want to is because maybe you know they wont let you or you know oyur doing something dangerous. Take a few friends. Meeting in a crowded place is a brill idea. Make sure you take your mobile and that you have lots of credit. Take some extra cash aswell incase all goes wrong. Be careful and you will be fine. If you meet up and she seems to be everything she said she was still be a bit careful. If she suggests coming back to hers, still say no. Explain to her why. She'll understand. Go though. Definatley go. Have fun! best of luck xxxx
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I would deff. take a couple friends with you just to be on the safe side. And meeting in a crowded place is great idea. Just be safe :)
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in all honesty, i think you should tell your parents. but if you think you absolutely cannot do it then i have some advice for you: i had a friend of mine who liked to meet people off the internet, eventually she worked out a system with her friends when she wasnt comfortable with telling her parents. What she would do is leave all the persons information and where she was going on a piece of paper under her pillow, and if anything were to happen to her, her friends would tell her parents.
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Take a whole gang of friends with you, adults would be better. Just make sure you are not alone, and the more people you bring with you the safer you'll be.
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Nothing in life is 100% safe. That is what makes it worth living. The two of you have been talking since October and if she still seems like a genuine person, then she might just be that. I randomly found a guy online.
I messaged him and we started talking...we found out we had a few things in common and eventually we met. We have been together ever since.
People can lie to you whether it is over the computer or in person. I have been lied to more by people in person than by people I have gotten to know online. I guess I have been pretty lucky with that. I have come across some really genuine folks.
Just go and have fun. If you are in a public place, you should be fine. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just see where it takes you.
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I think it would be nice for you to meet. I do think you should tell your parents though. You aren't doing anything wrong so I don't know why it would be a problem. Explain how you met, maybe even show them her blog if it is decent.
It sounds as if you have a good idea on how to be safe about it. That is great. You could always take a friend along when you visit. At least let them know what time you are meeting, what time you will return etc. Make sure someone knows where you are at all times. Use a cell phone if you have one. Check in. Encourage your long distant friend to do the same!
If I were you, I would write your question up and send it to the inbox of Dangerwench. She met Dangernerd online and she may just be able to give you some first hand advice about meeting people online safely.
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