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I dont' knwo how i'm so clean and all but I have liek three pimples on my back and one is where the strap of my is so it hurts really bad! plz help!

you dont even need to spend money on cleanser for this problem - just use and old remedy that works overnight - toothpaste! the fluoride in it sucks all pimples dry overnight. i use this personally on any "stress" pimples (the ones that hurt) anywhere on my body!

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me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time and we are sexually active. we recently have stop doing it. last month we did it and before he would ejaculate he would take it out and ejaculate on my stamach. i got brown\ pinkish discharge but it was mostly blood (kind of heavy)and i have no idea what it is. could i have the chance of being pregnent? ( i am very stress out also for the last month)i dont know if it was my period or not and i've never felt in symstoms ( vomiting etc)im freak out because i have white discharge but i haven't recieve my period this past february. i am very scared of getting pregnant. me and him already talk about this but he is not sure what to do. can you give me an info of what happens before pregnancy? is this natural for my menstruation or its just irregular?

first of all - the "pulling out" method is the worst method you could use. there is a thing called "pre cum" which comes out of the penis even before ejaculation and could cause you to become pregnant. so let this be a lesson to you. as for the other issue. you are not pregnant. some girls, after the first few months up to the first year of initially having intercourse, have their periods like that. Its usually because your body is getting used to having a foreign material - ie condoms - inside of your body. so dont worry, but dont use this method ever again while having sex unless you are on birth control and both you and your partner have been tested for HIV

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Do you guys have ANY ideas on what to buy or make my BEST friend for her birthday?! I want it to be special, but I can't think of anything! Please help.

another cute idea is to make something together. for instance a really great, cheap project is making t-shirts together. you can use old ones you have lying around the house and get some iron on transfers from an office supply store and print things off of your computer. Not only will you have fun, but you'll be sporting one of a kind fashion!

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Im a girl, and im 16 years old. okay, a few months ago, i did stuff with this guy called Bryan. We did stuff several times at different parties. Hed be nice to me on the night, but after that, like at school and stuff, hed just kinda ignore me. but it wasnt so bad, hed speak on msn. sometimes i wondered if he was using me, so i tried talking to him about it, and he told me it was fine and he wasnt using me. But i feel used. WE havent done anything in a while as hes starting being a dick to me, and more ignorant than ever. he also started trying it on with other girls. but it still really hurts. My friends say i was being used. It feels horrible, how he just dropped me like that. And now i think i like bryan, and cant stop thinking about him. even though i know its a waste of time, but i just wish he liked me, and i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but he either ignores me, or convinces me that IM wrong. He doesnt even seem to like me, even as just a friend, and always blanks me. Ive done nothing wrong...but basically he just doesnt care about my feelings and doesnt wanna know about anything to do with me.
i dont understand why im so different from anyone else. Im not jelous, im just hurt. He used to be so nice to me, and now hes evil to me. He talks to everyone else apart from me, and hes rude to my face and insulting, behind my back. Please help!

i hate to say it, but it sounds like this guy was using you! It sounds like he wasnt very nice and that once he got what he wanted out of you, he stopped taking interest. What i would do is warn these other girls hes talking to, they shouldn't have to go through the same thing you are. As for the tension between you two, the only advice i can give is to confront him, ask him flat out whats going on, other than that it feels as though you've tried everything.

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Ok, heres my question. Around October, I found the blog of an Australian girl on the Internet. She'd kept the blog for about a year before I read it. I started noting it and we added each other on MSN. Now we're pretty good email friends, strange as it sounds, I always seem to have tons to talk about to her. We never set out to email, it just started out kind of accidentally.
Anyway, she recently found out that a friend of her fathers is opening a chain of coffee shops and has offered to send her over here (England) to work there. She's always wanted to travel and is really thrilled by this. Anyway, she's going to be in a town about 2 hrs on the train from where I live and obviously she suggested meeting up. Well I have absolutely no reason to doubt she's genuine (ie. not a dangerous rapist) except for the fact she's an Internet friend. I've swapped photos with her and read her friends blog, and I'm planning to speak to her on the phone before we meet up, and it'll definately be somewhere crowded in the middle of town. I'm not telling my parents about her, although I'll tell my friends. My question just is - are there any other precautions I should take to be 100% safe? I'd really really appreciate a detailed answer,
Thanks so much in advance,
Me :):)

in all honesty, i think you should tell your parents. but if you think you absolutely cannot do it then i have some advice for you: i had a friend of mine who liked to meet people off the internet, eventually she worked out a system with her friends when she wasnt comfortable with telling her parents. What she would do is leave all the persons information and where she was going on a piece of paper under her pillow, and if anything were to happen to her, her friends would tell her parents.

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Is it really true that if you take a cold shower, your body will burn calories trying to get warm? If so, how many?

Curosity strikes :)

im not sure where you heard that, but its an old wives tale, infact your bodies lowered temperature may cause it more harm than help! if you want to burn calories, try doing it the old fashioned way- dieting and exercizing. You'll find that the healthier you are, the easier it feels to get up in the morning.

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i have to get my boyfriend a bday gift by monday, any suggestions? ive already given him enough gift certificates, so im trying to think of something easy to get, in the price range of around 20 dollars, and maybe a little creative? he watches a ton of movies, plays soccer, loves poker, if any of that helps. got any ideas? i really appreciate it...

have you thought of doing something with him rather than buying him a gift? guys in general would like to spend time with their gf more than being handed a picture frame of them. why dont you try something he likes on his birthday. Buy him a new soccerball and ask if he wants to play one on one with you, or rent a bunch of his favorite movies and spend some quality time.

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what are the laws to go tanning in maryland?

in most cases, throughout the east coast, you have to be atleast 16 to go tanning. other than that, its up to you. but dont abuse tanning beds, you will seriously regret it when you're older and have sun spots and/or alot of wrinkles. Naturally tanning is where its at!

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i heard that brushing your hair too much will cause split ends so what can i do to not cause so many split ends other than trimming

the only way brushing your hair can cause split ends is if you do it when you're hair is wet. my advice: try combing it when its wet, and if youre hair is in serious need of repair.. try V05's hot oil hair care treatment. its an instant fix for healthier hair!

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ok so i have a friend (joann) who loves to sing, and wants to be a famous singer for her career and she works really LOVES to sing. i also love to sing, and know a great deal and music along with many of my friends. The problem is joann cant sing fo rthe life of her. everytime she starts to sing people laugh. shes ac=bsolutley awful. shes known in my school to be an awful singer. being a friend i cant tell her, and her parents tell her shes good. what can my friends and i do to help her see that maybe singing isnt the right thing for her? thanks!!

honestly, if she is youre friend, you should tell her. But if you feel uncomfortable with telling her try to get her to notice it for herself. For instance, try offering to help her record some songs on a tape, and then play them back for her. Maybe she'll figure it out then

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okay i need some new hairstyles (not haircuts styles but hairdos) does any one know any websites which you dont have to log in to or download and does anyone know how to have scrunchy curls (or whatever) without using gel and how do you do it with a curling iron because i tried and they are just like ringlets! okay i know i asked alot but thanks!

actually there is a product called 'spoodles' that is made by scrunchi .. they are soft noodle like things you can put in your hair overnight and in the morning you'll have perfect soft wavy curls. you can buy them at any beauty supply store or supermarket. check it out!

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i know that you can take a test to see weather or not you've done drugs but if you did drug when you were 14 and then took a drug test when you 18 would it show up....don't worry i'm not a freaking idiot who would f*** up their life just to get a high and seem cool for a minutes so don't worry i was just wondering

no! anything that goes into your system is gone in at most a month. dont fret.

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doesnt any one know where i can get a henna tatoo get like the ones you get on vaca

i want the kind taht lasts for like 2 weeks (i think thats the only kind but im not sure) and i want one that shows up black not brown (like those idian ones)

also if you can recommend a brand you used so i know its good and w/e

barnes and noble has a good kit you can buy at any one of their locations. its one of their 'mini' series. it stays on really well, the only thing is you have to do it yourself.

yes i have tried this before, and it works well if you follow the instructions carefully. also, they have online recipes as to how to make your own henna in your kitchen with products laying around the house that are completely natural.

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So I have this great boyfriend. He is really cute and really nice and every girl is just dying to meet him. But the only bad thing is that he acts so clingy sometimes. I went on vacation and he called my cell phone and left 12 messages saying "Hey babe...I miss you..Are you okay...call me..please..i love you more than my own life." And thats typical of him. He says that kind of stuff alot on the phone and computer.

But then at school he acts all jumpy and weird around me and sometimes I will walk right by him and say Hi and he will totally not hear me at all.

And if this might have anything to do with it, he wants to hang out with this girl who he always says he hates. And he invites me to hang out as a threesome and I think it's a little weird. I thought maybe he was going to break up with me, but no, he is even more clingy-er now!

What does this mean?

it could mean alot of things. first of all, i think the boy is nervous. very very nervous. also, i think at the same time he is scared of losing you! if youre worried about him being too clingy, just talk to him. You cant have a good relationship with someone if your communication skills aren't good. He's your boyfriend and this is a two way relationship, if hes as good a guy as you say he is, he'll understand.

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I love books! I love to read, I'm 15, so I need some more good book suggestions. I like to sci-fi and fantasy books, and I love Nicholas Sparks. So, anyone got any good suggestions? 5's for good suggestions.

if youre into nicholas sparks i can especially reccommend Jody Picoult. she is a great romance novel writer, while not falling under the category of supermarket trash.

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Okay so i have a dance compititon this weekend and i have a couple things i was wondering because it's my first compitition.
(I'm a 13 year old girl if that helps)
okay so i'm on my period. is there anything i should do to keep from getting leaks but not show through the costume? one's like a skin tight spandex uni-tard! but i can't wear tampons
2nd i was wondering if anyone has any advice or things i can do to relive stress and get sleep the night before. becuase i lose sleep the night before!
anything helps
Thanks in advance guys!!
i rate 5's for anything useful(which is just about everything!!)

tea is always a good option, not only does it have antioxidants in it that is good for your skin, but it helps to calm your entire body, muscles and all down.

Also, the only suggestion i can advise you that would absolutely work would be a tampon. If you havent used one before, then i suggest now is the time to try. sorry i cant help you more with that.

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hey,
my hands go red then purple in the cold and its embarrassing because people are like "Why are your hands red?" or "what has happened to your hands?" .
My brother's and sister's hands do the same but not as bad as me and i wondered if there was any way ( apart from gloves) that would bring them back to a natural colour when i go inside or stop them going red/purple in the slightest heat/cold.
thankx if you can help me
luv rach xxx

actually, if you were to stimulate the nerve endings in your hands once a week your circulation would get better. i would suggest going to a beauty supply store or supermarket and picking up a hand scrub. it works wonders!

you can rub it on your hands and it has little beads in it that stimulate good circulation and then run your hands under hot water to take it off. it smells great too

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