I own a labrador retriever currently and I just got a new puppy. The problem is that my lab is very aggressive towards the new puppy. She growls when it comes near her and if threatened enough she will attempt to bite the puppy. What can I do to keep my dog from doing this?
First of all, you need to be calm and in control always when dealing with animals. If your dog respects and listens to you, you will be able to handle this situation.
Dogs need boundaries. They need leaders. When a dog is not submissive to his owner, it runs the house and lead to aggression with humans and other animals.
You will need to try to acclimate your lab to the new puppy. Try putting the lab on his leash when he is interacting with the puppy. Every time the lab growls and just barely begins to show aggression, correct him by tugging on his leash or using a command. Some make a Shhhh type of sound others use a snap or vocal noise. It is whatever you feel comfortable with.
The most important thing is that your lab understands that aggression is not allowed. Try putting in a calm and relaxed state. Wait until he is calm and laying down and then introduce the puppy. Continue the corrections and make sure that you never pet him or give him a good boy unless he is in a calm state. If you pet him while he is excited or touch him when he is aggressive, that is only reinforcing that mind set. I would recommend the phone book and calling and talking ro emailing some dog trainers in your area. Most of them are willing to talk, and can give you other helpful tips. You can also pick up some material from Cesar Milan by googling him.
Good luck and remember to stay calm and in control.
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I'm not one to complain...and I'm fat...but my gran is gettin a tad bit too thin! She's a diabetic..and I was wondering what could 'fatten' her up. Like something that will make her put on the pounds?
Thankies!
Bake her cookies.
Make her a cake.
Make her a bag of spiced nuts.
Put avocados in her salads.
Put out chocolates (dark chocolate, it is the healthiest)
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i am addicted to masturbating. i do it every day at least once. i've been through a dry-spell on sex so lately i've been into masturbating on webcam... i can't help it, i love to be watched! is this normal? how do i stop? should i? i don't just invite girls, i ask if they like to watch first. but, i dont know.
Well, being an expert on masturbating constantly --see my boyfriend masturbates to porn constantly so I don't get much play because he's always sore -- I know how you feel.
While I don't have a webcam, I have unlimited access to bums and drunken homeless men in my area. It was hard to get them to pay attention to me at first, but once I filled my pockets with whiskey soaked cloths, they seem to wait for me to drop by.
They really like me now.
If you feel like you are strange, try mastubating for bums and drunken men. That'll cure ya!
You do what you like. You happen to be turned on by voyeurism. People have some different things that turn them on. Yours just happens to be people watching you in sexual situations. I don't happen to see anything wrong with that.
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14/m
theres this girl that sits next to me in spanish and i think shes hot. i always kindove playfully mess with her and she does it back and gives me that little look with her eyes (the one girls make when they flirt with you). but then I asked for her sn and she said she'd think about it. not in a short kindove mean way or anything its hard to explain how she said it. but anyway i cant figure out mabye did i ask her to soon or mabye she already has a bf and thats why she wont give it to me. i dunno some Help
I rate high to good answers
I would guess that she is playing with you. She probably wanted to see what your reaction would be or if you would give her yours.
Who knows, I wouldn't worry about it too much, I'd bet that after a little while you'll have her sn and will be typing away at each other.
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alright well i have these two friends, Kelly and Jamie. they used to like hate each other last year. now they have all of their classes togehter and are like attached at the hip. Kelly has been my best friend for a long time. i met Jamie last year. well Kelly is the kind of person that when she finds a new buddy..she forgets about all her other friends. well kelly ans jamie have been hanging out alot lately and kelly has forgetten all about me. it doesnt help that we have only 1 class together. i get jealous really easily too. ive tried talking to kelly but she doesnt take me seriously. i say to her, "kelly im serious" and she goes "i know" with a smile on her face. im really starting to get pissed here. i dont know a way i can talk to kelly and make her take me seriously and not get mad at me. me and jamie hang out alot still so it isnt her fault. mostly kelly. i dont want to tell jamie to lay off kelly cuz then shell tell kelly and then kelly will get mad at me and everything will be bad. im really getting very mad and jealous. i dont know how i can get things back to the way they used to be. i liked it better when kelly and jamie hated each other.
please help me i want my friend back!!
"ive tried talking to kelly but she doesnt take me seriously. i say to her, "kelly im serious" and she goes "i know" with a smile on her face. "
It sounds like she might be enjoying this.
That was just a first impression, from what you wrote. Listen, real friends just don't dump someone because they no longer hate some girl from last year. If she knows how jealous you are, she might just be messing with you. Girls do that, and I can't for the life of me understand why.
How about you expand your friends and have fun hanging out with others and let her get over herself and come back around.
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What does it mean when someone answers a question and then puts EDIT- and writes something different?
It means that they went back and changed their answer in some way.
It happens some after feedback is given, or if they feel they have left something out or maybe misspelled something.
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One of my friends killed herself about 9 months ago, and I'm over it already and everything, but last night I had a terrible terrible dream where we were in a pool together and all of the sudden I ripped her hair out and started hitting her and trying to drown her. It has been haunting me all day, and making me feel guilty, and like she's mad at me for having the dream. It's making me feel so bad. Could this dream mean anything? Is she mad at me for having it? How can I not feel so bad about it. Should I feel bad?
If you had any kind of anger toward her about her death, which is common with people left to deal, then it could just be your thoughts manifesting themselves in a dream.
She can't be mad at you for having the dream because, well, she is now gone.
There is no reason for you to feel guilty about having a dream. It's a dream and most people cannot control what they dream. There should be no reason to feel guilty, other than the reasons you impose on yourself.
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im soo sorry this is so long :(
13/f
okay so theres this guy and during the summer we got close and even started tlking to eachother like "hey sexy" sorta thing. we even tlked on the phone once and he called me once but i couldnt answer. it always seemed like he sorta liked me because of the way he talked to me, and how when i asked him if i could trust him he said " yes you can trust me. you always can." and one time he thought i was mad at him and i told him no never he said " ok good cuz i didnt want one of the coolest girls at school to hate me." and i of course told him i could never hate him. so not too long ago me and my cousin were hanging out and being hyper when she dared me to send this to him:
I want you
Your hott
its complicated....
so i did. and i thought it was a funny little message and excited to see what he would say. but the day after i realized i should prolly delete it, just because i didnt want him to think that i LOVED HIM. so i was gonna delete it, but it was too late, and he read it. he never responded. then 4 nights after, my cousin prank called him. so the next i sent him a mssg saying how sorry i was for everything even the prank call and all he said was "its okay i get prank calls all the time.ha" but he didnt respond to the message. things were never quite the same.. and i told him that. i told him i hate how we dont tlk like we used to and he said but why? we still tlk. and i sed no not like we used ot and all he said was ohh. then i got my best friend to ask him if we were still good friends and he said yea we are. but it reallly doesnt seem like it anymore and my best friend even told me she sort of likes him which got me mad and im scared he likes her too cuz he tlks to her but i dont know what set him off so much because i said sorrry for tht message :( by the way this year hes not at the same school as me this year so i dont see him alot. but i dont know what to do anymore. i try to forget him but i cant. ive recently started tlking to him again, but its still like not at all the same. i dont know what to do. i like him ALOT. i even dream about him sometimes and think about him and every song tht comes on he pops into my head. and i want things to be like they used to but sometimes when im messaging him he just stops and doesnt reply and i really dont want tht to happen again. i want to stay in touch with him. help me pleasse :(
Look, you did something stupid, and if he doesn't want to be really close to you anymore, than, that's what happens. There isn't anything much you can do. Sometimes, you just can't take things back. Sometimes, you just can't make things go back to the way they used to be.
He could have taken your action and your cousin's as lots of things.
Like you were playing with him, or making fun of him, or just being rude. Either way, you can't now force your "I'm sorry" on him. You apologized and he knows what happened and if he doesn't want to talk to you like he used to, you're just going to have to deal with it.
Hopefully you have learned a lesson about how to treat and how not to treat other people.
When you do stupid things, like letting your cousin bet you to do something that could upset someone else, and you do it, and then after the fact let her prank call him to further rub it in, you are going to have to take responsibility and finally be mature enough to let him walk away.
I'm sure you are sorry, and truely regretful, but sometimes, doing something like that just changes things between people. That is why you don't play games.
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First, why should people listen to your advice? Second, should I sleep with somebody in my department, the Artic Tundra is cold and me need lovin'? Write back soon! (PS - It'a Anna)
People should listen to me because I said so.
And because I say so, people listen. Or not, or they just humor me by pretending to listen when in fact they have no intention on heeding my advice, but don't want to send me into the fits of rage I am so famous for.
And, as far as your Artic Amorous Activities, I say listen to your panties. They do talk, you know. Even if he is a dainty, dainty, gent, they need lovin too. When the panties say "Drop me", you know it is time to hop on the sin wagon. You'll see me there, talking about naughty bits.
Show him how it's done my freaky baby.
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Okay im 14 years old and i have had my period since i was 12... today i invited some people to swim at my house and i went to the bathroom and i saw that i started my period.... i really want to go swimming but im REALLY afraid/scared to use a tampon cause i have never used one before and its scary to do it..can anyone tell me what to do or give me tips or anything.=( like im really scared to do it... im afraid something will go wrong
Listen, it is a an absorbant bundle of fibers you place in your vagina to stop vaginal bleeding.
I don't understand why it's scary. As long as you don't JAM or CRAM it up there, it won't hurt and you won't feel anything. You will be able to go swimming and no one will know and no ones life is going to end over inserting a tampon for the first time. Unless you accidentally insert a tampon bomb. They don't come prepackaged, and as long as you use one with in a wrapper, you will be fine.
Go swim. Tampons are the least of your worries.
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What causes the "orgasm" in the body and why do you get so tired afterwards?
Reading the answer below me, makes me laugh hysterically because people can be so stupid, and sad at the same time, because these people are giving advice.
When a woman orgasms because certain parts of her are stimulated (G spot or clit) there are a lot of nerve endings that come in waves creating a euphoric feeling. You get tired afterward, because you spend so much energy during it.
Here is a website you can browse and read up on.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_femaleorgasms.shtml
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ok, so ive tried everything but i sweat alot under my arms
does anyone have any tips on how to make my arpits stop sweating so much?
thanks
There is a perscription you can get. It is called Drysol.
If you don't want to go to the doctor, the drugstore has a product called Certain-Dry. It is about 4 or so dollars and you put it on before you go to bed at night. If you bathe before bed, DON'T SHAVE YOUR PITS! If you put it on after you shave, there will be unhappy burning. You use regular deodorant as usual, and after about a week to 10 days, you start to see the excess sweat stop.
I love it and have used it for years.
It is in a green and white box. It is usually at on the top shelf or the bottom shelf depending on each individual drug store.
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okay, my boyfriend tried dip and says he's not going to do it again because it gives him a headache. he also talked about getting a buzz from it. can someone explain to me what exactly it does besides give you something gross to chew on?
It is nicotine and tobacco.
It makes your teeth a really nasty yellow, and can give you mouth cancer.
I never understood it, it smells and tastes pretty gross, but, to each his own.
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okay.. well i was just wondering.. its a wierd question accually but i was just wondering.. when a guy fingers you.. what will he be expecting? hair.. cut hair.. not a lot of hair.. none at all.. im very confused about this.. people tell me it differs.. i guess im just asking whats the norm?
He is hoping for some warm wetness and hopefully some moaning that will lead to his turn.
Don't be self conscious and worry about what he wants. It is about you and should be that way. Groom the way you feel comfortable, and most likely he will be thinking about the fact that he is in your pants and not really care what kind of hair is there.
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so i couple of days ago me and my boyfriend had sex..and the day after i started feeling like i had to pee all the time and its still continuing. and it burns. could this be a bladder infection or something else? if so how can i get rid of it???
thanks ill rate all 5's
Let me combine all these answers into one coherent answer for you.
When you have sex, you should always attempt to pee afterward. You can get UTI or Bladder infections from sex. It stirs up germs and baccteria and such. If it gets into the urinary tract (which is sterile) it can cause all sorts of hurt. I have had two int he past year. One severe bladder infection and one minor UTI because I didn't pee after sex.
You can get them other ways, but sex is one of them. So don't listen to those who have said they are unrelated.
Drink cranberry juice and lots of water. Yes, it will make you have to pee, but it helps calm the pain some. There are over the counter meds you can buy, at Walgreens or Wal-whatever there is a product called uristat and AZO. Those both can help. Get to a doctor in the meantime, and get on some anti-biotics. That is really the only thing that will make it go away completely.
And try to remember to pee afterward. I always do reguardless and I haven't had one since.
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okay, so im going out with this guy and its only been two days but this summer im gonna be so busy and i have two jobs and we'll never get to hangout at all. im afraid that he might break up with me becuz we're not gonna be spending time together. i really like him and i cant tell him that im too busy to do anything with him. so if someone can give me a really great advise ill rate you high.
Let him know that you will be busy, but that he is important to you and you will spend as much time as possible with him. That is about all you can do, besides hope that he is understanding and patient.
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16/F, You know that typical story of if the most popular guy likes a girl who is considered a geek/loser that everyone likes to pick on and his friends don't approve by saying that you're reputation will be ruined etc. Then his friends would give them both a hard time in school. I'm in that type of situation and I'm wondering why does this happen?
People are not all scum. Gross generalizations like that bother me. Anyway, it happens because the atomsphere in a high school setting is very class based. There is a hierarchy with who is cool and who is not and it makes for some pretty poisionous behaviour.
People make fun and taunt and torture because they don't have the maturity to see differently. There is a lot of pressure to be cool and be liked, or you are the one who is cast out and taunted and tortured. No one wants to be that person. High school makes people act in stupid ways. I acted very stupid and did lots of dumb shit I wouldn't do now. If this relationship makes it, it will be because both the jock and the geek realize that being cool isn't what is important. It is about being happy and doing the best you can.
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I have a friend who for a while I thought was my best friend but I guess I wrong. I'm going to call her "N"
Yesterday one of my friends told me that N said I was fat. By the way, she weighs 130 and I weigh 87 so she has no reason to say that about me. So, yesterday I talked to N on IM and I said, "Someone told me that you said I was fat." and N said, "I didn't!!" Then I called two other people and they said that she did say that about me so, I said to N, "Yes, you did." and she said,"No I didn't!" and I said,"yeah u did." and she said,"MY FUCKING GOD!! WHO GIVES A FUCK IF I SAID IT!! GET THE HELL OVER IT!"After she said that I was like, "How about you calm down" and then she said, "You know what? FUCK YOU!" and signed off.
Then about thirty minutes later she called me and said,"Look. I'm sorry. I would not ever talk about you behind your back." I just said,"Ok. I gotta go. Bye" and hung up.
Today I talked to another friend and she said that N told her I liked this guy when I didn't. So, again, I IMed N and I said,"Someone said you told them that I like Matt and I DON'T! Can you please stop talking me about me behind my back? I never even did anything to you." And she said, "I never said that you like him." and I was like,"Um yeah you did. Can you please stop lying to me?!?!" And she said,"OH MY FUCKING GOD! I AM NOT LYING! I NEVER EVEN SAID THAT YOU LIKE MATT, THAT YOU WERE FAT, OR ANYTHING ELSE!" And I was like,"Wow you just lied two times in a row. Way to go. Oh and what the heck? You just said yesterday that you DID say I was fat!"After about two minutes she responded and said,"So WHAT if I told someone that. WHO CARES?!?!" and I said, "Uh I do." and she freaked out and was like,"OH MY GOD! GET OVER YOUR FATASS SELF! SHUT THE FUCK UP! FUCK YOU!!!!!!!" and then she signed off.
About two hours later she signed back on and she was like,"Look. I am really sorry. Please forgive me?" I just sat there and ignored her and she signed off.
Ok so, she talked about me behind my back, cussed me out, and lied to me all for no reason. I really do not think I should forgive but I just want someone elses opinion.
Do you think I should forgive her after what all she did?
Uh, no. I would say you should not forgive her.
The fact that you would go to her and ask her straight out about what other people are claiming, thus giving her a chance to explain herself and make it right, tells me that you are a mature person. Also asking her to calm down and not cussing back at her is testament to your patience. You decided to find out what was really going on before jumping in and saying things and making it worse.
She is, well, I don't know what she is doing. It seems like she wants to stir up some shit, but not to your face, and then freaking out when confronted with it. You should have been the one to tell her to fuck off with her fatass self, because she wronged you. I don't know if she is fat (I don't know how tall she is. I know 130 for me would be underweight, but I am almost 5'8 1/2 and have muscle.)
But, that isn't really relevant, the only thing that matters is that she cussed you out for calling her on what she said and then even after that, she lied directly to you. Signing back on hours later to say sorry...half assed and insincere. Get rid of her.
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Okay, well I got school picutes. I didn't like how they turned out so, I just kept them in my bookbag and then handed them back in saying I wasn't going to buy any. (without showing my parents) So then my mom is calling my friend's moms [just to collect the daily gossip] and she finds out that they handed pictures out. And she's like, "where is your pictures?" and I lied and said "I forgot them in my locker, and then handed them in" and to make a long story short, now she's calling the school and my homeroom teacher to get the pictures back, JUST so my dad can see the pictures. Theres only a week of school left, and it's just embarrassing just to look at my teacher.
That's why you don't lie.
No one looks great in school pictures. It's a conspiracy.
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I've always been close to my mom and told her everything. It's only now I'm realizing what she's doing to me.
For example.. she's told me to stop being friends with so many people. So I stopped being friends with this group of people because she was constantly saying bad things about them, and now I'm hanging with someone else, she's criticising him constantly too, calling him a "troublemaker" and now I'm getting put off him.
Well this same guy.. last night I went over to his place... we've been friends a long time and recently got together. I told her a few people were coming so it was a gathering. Only a couple of people turned up, but I didn't think it'd matter. When she found out, she forbid me to ever go over to anyone's house again, saying I lied to her by telling her it was a party. But I don't think that's why she's mad. She said I'm young and should be "going out" and its not appropriate for me to go to anyones place. She won't let me go to anyone's place unless their mother is home, but his mother WAS home. When I said this to her she said "you think his old mother would help you? She'd laugh if all those boys tried to rape you" This really upset me because his mother was very nice. She said this guy should "take me out" instead, but we DO go out..
I'm seventeen and very responsble. She knows I'm not having sex (marriage for me) but she says I have no "self respect" by going to boys houses. Right now I'm in tears at what she's doing. I don't know how to please her. I've always done everything she's said in the past. I've cut people out of my life when she's told me to, stopped speaking to people, etc but this time I can't stand for this. Can someone give me some advice? I realize she's only overprotective because she loves me, but this is going too far.
thanks.
Uh, your mom isn't being very logical. You are 17. You can make your own decisions and I would assume that she really enjoys having control. Maybe the fact that she has always had it, and is in a position now to lose it, she is making the mistake of going too far.
It is ridiculous to say that you have no self respect by going over to someone's house. And it is down right disrespectful and hateful to say that your boyfriends mother would laugh if you were being raped.
I know what I would say (I would tell her that she is being illogical and hateful and disrespectful, then give her prime examples of her behavior and then tell her who I am, because if I have no self respect by going over to people's houses, then she has no idea who I am, and has failed as a mother. Then remind her of the whole 18 thing.) but, judging from your relationship, what I would say wouldn't work.
Once she has calmed down, I would question her. Not angrily, but calmly and honestly because you don't understand. You told her it was going to be a party, and only a few people showed up (that's less than a party and why it is a big deal, who knows. No offense, but your mom sounds like a nutjob) His mom (old or not) was home like her rules demand. I would ask why I am now forbidden to have any kind of life when I was fully within her rules. Give her examples of your responsibility and things that you have done to prove so. And show why her dictatorship is uncalled for.
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