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One of my friends killed herself about 9 months ago, and I'm over it already and everything, but last night I had a terrible terrible dream where we were in a pool together and all of the sudden I ripped her hair out and started hitting her and trying to drown her. It has been haunting me all day, and making me feel guilty, and like she's mad at me for having the dream. It's making me feel so bad. Could this dream mean anything? Is she mad at me for having it? How can I not feel so bad about it. Should I feel bad?
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maybe you are still upset or mad that she killed heself but you don't..um realize it. i know it sounds wierd but it doesn't take 9 months to egt over something like that btu you don't want to think about it. your subconcious isn't just going to ignore how you feel so it's expressing your anger through you dreams. you can actually be ma at her for killing herself and you probably are going to feel bad now that that has surfaced. the truth is if she were alive she probably would be mad at you but now i'm sure she's not becuase (sappy as it might sound) she's looking out for you now and she'll probably just want you to feel better. i think to do that you need to talk about it or you will feel bad. that's just my interpretation. i hope it helped.
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Whenever people are usually killing in a dream, it shows they're angry or stressed about something and are feeling negative. You are probably still a little angry about you're friend being gone, not AT HER, but just the fact that she's gone now. And even though you're over it, you can still feel a little low and negative about it, so that might be it too. Your subconcious is probably just letting you know that you still really miss her and are mad [ like I said, not at her ] over the fact that she's gone. Also, you could be feeling guilty. Whenever most people's friends die, they feel really bad. They feel it's their fault ; they should've stopped them or realized it was coming.
Whenever we're awake, we can hid our emotions and change our feelings, but whenever we dream, all those true feelings and inner thoughts come out and tell us and show us what we're really feeling and thinking.
But, there's no need to feel bad. It's not like you purposely WANTED that dream to happen, and I don't think she's mad at you. She knows people can't force to have certain dreams or control them at all, and she knows you miss her. Maybe to help lift off some guilt, go to her graze, or just sit at home and "talk" to her. Tell her about the dream and how you're sorry, and you hope she's not mad. And tell her how you miss her and everything, and just let your feelings come out, and hopefully some of the guilt will come off of you.
I hope I helped.
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If you had any kind of anger toward her about her death, which is common with people left to deal, then it could just be your thoughts manifesting themselves in a dream.
She can't be mad at you for having the dream because, well, she is now gone.
There is no reason for you to feel guilty about having a dream. It's a dream and most people cannot control what they dream. There should be no reason to feel guilty, other than the reasons you impose on yourself.
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to me it sounds like you are subconsciencly feeling guilty for her death. maybe you got in a fight before she died or things ended on bad terms? maybe nothing bad happened before she passed away but you still feel guilty for what happened because you're her friend and you feel like you should have stopped her.
either way, it is not your fault at all. it was her decision, and nobody else but her could've made it. you should NOT feel bad because you didnt have anything to do with it. it sounds like you still miss her even though you said you're already over it. i would think it'd take more time to get over something that horrible, and even if you convinced yourself you're over it, maybe you arent.
just try to think that shes probably in a better place now (depending on what you believe in) and remember her for the good friend that she was, and all the good times you had together.
hope i helped :)
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I know you say you're over it but she was a friend and it's hard to get over things that tragic that quickly.
It does sound as though you may have subconscious anger at her for having left you. When you are awake you can rationalise things, but sleep brings out inner thoughts and feelings in the form of dreams. Did you have bereavement counselling? If not perhaps you should talk to someone about this.
I don't think for one moment she is mad at you but I guess your feelings about this dream depends on why she killed herself, and if you in any way have accepted some guilt for this, (people feel guilt where there is none).
I can't imagine that she would feel angry about you having this dream, and no I don't think you should feel bad about it either. After all, it shows you still think of her and no one likes to be forgotten do they? If she would feel anything, I would think it would be sadness that you are feeling this way. It's a very sad thing to have happened and I do feel you may still need some help with your feelings.
Hope that helps and good luck.
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