so...my name is Rebecca and I'm 17, going to be a senior in high school . i am currently at either the 2nd or 3rd spot in my class academically, but plan to graduate as valedictorian...so if you have a problem academically I'd love to help! i want to be a journalist (and kind of am), which means i may be a little harsh, but i do have a not-so-sharp edge (don't get me wrong, i can be sassy, I'd just rather smile :) ) . I love knowing that i can help someone and I'm actually of use to someone. When i was younger i was more shy, and all people knew about me was that i was a good friend and for the people i answer...i hope you think so too!
Also, God is big in my life. Like my whole life. And for anything I help you with...I give Him all the glory. It's all about Him and what He's given us. :)
E-mail: nellybly22@gmail.com
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I just got the internet back on the phone and when you go to myxertones I can send wallpapers but when I try to send a ringtone it said file not supported or something like that why is this? (link)
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I can't get myxer tones either, but it may be because of the settings on your phone. Even though the stuff's free, its all still considered premium texting, and if some premium texting is blocked on your phone then you won't be able to get them. Ask your phone company about your settings. That's all I can really think it would be...hope that helps.
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like the title, i really did.
I was just wondering if more people felt this way
and if there is a way to come back?
ive talked to my parents about ways to help me
and they say its just a part of life
im not thinking of suicide
but i go to food as a comfort, and thats not good for me.
i dont like clothes fitting tight, thats even less self esteem.
ive been through hard times in my life, because they were my fault.
I realized how bad of a person i am
and i dont know how to fix, especially when i apologized to people, and tried to make up for it but they dont accept ...
also, i cant really be 'happy'
and being 'in love' has just died out. I dont know
I cant feel feelings anymore, it sounds weird..but i cant feel true happines, and I cant feel relief, I cant feel blessed. I can only feel serious numbness.. i didnt know that was possible
but things dont usually 'phase' me unless its negative. I keep the feelings bottled up. I used to think when people say these things, it was all bull, but when i express, my true self to my own self.. those words come out. and i mean every one of them.
here it is:
Ive been chasing my shadows for some time now
I lost interest in everything
That made me myself.
I hope to live
Happy some day
I hope to be forgiven for my sins to you
The only way I can actually feel okay
Is if I learn to not care at all
I cant imagine myself being carried
While tears are flowing from my eyes
I don’t want to know the pain
That is kept in my heart
The growing pains of my mind
Are unexplainable to anyone else
The sadness I feel, kept inside.
Is not something im proud to tell
I feel ashamed of my existence
I lost what I knew was the best for me
I know, some still do love me,
But I realized what I aimed for was wrong
I try to make amends,
But im simply not strong
I know the ones surrounding me would not understand.
I try to give my best,
But I end up failing, wanting freedom
When I had the love that was the best
It just wasn’t close enough
I turned to things that weren’t good for me
And Ive realized, that I’m not as special as I thought I was
I’m just another miserable person
I looked at myself the other day
And I had a thought
That scratched my heart
And my well being.
My self esteem
And soul
Nearly died,
I realized.. I was the person, that I hated the most
What I saw in other people
And judged, hated them for the things they did
What they thought, what they said, even how they looked.
Their entire lifestyles, I realized.. I am living the exact way they are.
Am I just blind?
Or Do I hate myself?
Did I realize it?
OR did I know all along, but was too ignorant to notice.
Ive coasted by on life
You could say happy-go-lucky.
I’ve reached an all time low.
And I cant seem to get back
When I know it’s the most important thing
I cant describe my problem
Or even know what it is,
So I don’t know the first step, in coming back.
I cant even make proper friends
I have soiled my reputation that was at least good enough to pass by
But now I know that it is almost unfixable.
At least, that’s what I think it is.
I pour my heart to others,
And find myself at a stop..
I can’t fully say, all of how I feel
Because I am ashamed I will lose them,
Because I don’t have much left.
I found out, people are my happiness.
Other peoples satisfaction of me, was my happiness.
I don’t think ive ever made my own self happy
When I went against others
And I thought I was never like that
I could not see the person I really was
I thought I knew myself,
But when I realized my true colors..
I discovered I may have lived a lie,
That I told myself.
Without even knowing..
How can someone trick themselves, without them even knowing
When, and where…. how did it start?
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You sound like you're in a really tough position and I can't promise you an easy way out. If you've tried to make amends with the people you've hurt and tried to fix the things you've done wrong, then that's a good start. But, truth is, your trying alone probably won't fix everything...and it hasn't so far.
I know you feel low right now, probably depressed (from how it sounds), but you can get yourself back up, and up to a place where you won't have to feel guilty all the time anymore. I'm not going to apologize for this, but I accept that many people are opposed to the idea (for reasons beyond my understanding) but I think it's be the best thing in the world for you, because it has been for so many people I know. Have you tried talking to God?
You have to know, despite whether or not other people forgive you, He did, and He wants you to forgive yourself. He knows how special you are, and He loves you for that....He doesn't wanna see you hurting. He is where you will truly find yourself, and He is where you can find true happiness.
I don't know how you got here, but what does it matter? You're here, in this place where you don't want to be. So why not try getting out. Look to God....He can help with that.
I know the idea might seem very abstract now, but it's really just prayer or going to godly people to help. They listen. :) and if you want to talk to me more, I'll listen. My e-mail is nellybly22@gmail.com. I don't care about the rating on this, I just want you t think about it. God loves you....take comfort in that.
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at my school and cheerleading team it seems to me like everyone is so immature. im a junior in high school and im really quiet mainly because im shy but also because i just never know what to talk about or how to respond to people at my school.
i went to a summer program for high school students this summer and i made a ton of friends there and was pretty talkative because we would all have actual real conversations... but coming back here im really quiet and i can't make friends easily because everyone is always hyper and crazy and i just can't relate to them and i never know what to say and it has gotten me depressed lately...
is every high school student like this or is it just mine? and is college going to be different or is it just me that has issues? and how do i start having better social skills and stop being depressed? what do i do about not being able to communicate with them? (link)
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I don't think you're majorly lacking in social skills. I think that, as you said, you're just different. And, well, I think I'm your age and I've only ever been to one high school, but I can say at least in my experience, many many many high school teens are how you describe your school-mates. Some people, like you, just have a totally different level of thinking and it doesn't seem very appealing to play "silly teenager" (for lack of a better phrase, haha) and bounce off the walls. I advise you find a club or activity that you enjoy and try to socialize there, outside the cheer-leading squad. It may be easier to find teens that communicate the same way as you and are kind of on your level. Also, again I'm a high school student so I can't exactly speak from experience, but I seriously doubt the maturity issue exists so much in college. Just a thought. :) God bless.
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I went to hang out with this friend of mine that I thought was really nice, and he knew I had a bf so I thought we were just gonna hang out.. apparently he thought differently. He made a joint n we smoked up but it must've been laced cuz i had no idea what i was doing afterwards i couldn't even walk. after he smoked me up, he took me back into his bedroom n raped me. I tried to tell him no but I was so high I couldn't even get the words to come out, I could barely even move. I called the police n went to the ER to get a rape kit done but I'm scared now that he's gonna come to my house n hurt me or something. I can't even sleep on the edge of my bed anymore cuz I think he's under there for some reason. I keep thinking it's all my fault. I'm even going through counseling n it doesn't seem to help. What should I do to get rid of these feelings? PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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Talking to someone should help...but I think you just need to give it time. I agree that he should be in jail, and that you should help put him there (even if that's terrifying). Other than that...my advice is to pray. Even if you don't consider yourself "religious" or you've never even thought of doing that...trust God. God heals. (And God saves.)
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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive? (link)
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God obviously has big plans for you if you're still here...don't give up. Have you ever tried talking to Him? Maybe you should...just tell Him how you feel...faith can move mountains, it can definitely help you. The people who answered before me are right; God has a plan for you. Someone told me once that the harder you have it and the longer you have to wait...the bigger the plan!
I agree that it isn't cool that your family, friends and others bring you down. Are any of them believers in God? If they are, explain to them that they really aren't representing what He's all about by treating you the way that they do. If that's too defensive or they aren't believers...just tell them what you told us, that you feel that they may be concerned when they ask about your feelings but then you feel that they don't want to hear it. It's not okay for people to treat you like that.
Also,I think you should find someone you can talk to about this...and someone who knows God personally; a lot of people do and they would love to minister to you and explain the plans that He has for you. ("For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope." -Jeremiah 29:11.) Talking to a pastor or someone at a local church can help you regain some confidence, learn about God's plans, and get plugged in to a community that is not known to judge or tease or gossip. It's a family, one that possibly will make you feel accepted (though it's one not known to dwell on who's popular, but rather enjoy friendship and fellowship) and one that will show you how beautiful you are (on the outside, and the inside, which feels so much better). It's a good family to have. :)
And if you need anyone to talk to about God, my personal e-mail is nellybly22@gmail.com. E-mail me sometime and tell me how you're feeling, and if I don't hear from you...rest assured that if you were dead, God and I would miss you. Talk to Him about that...
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There is this guy that I like in church. When we were younger we were best friends, after my parents divorce when I was five, things changed. We stopped seeing each other as much. As we got older we stopped talking to each other, we both changed. After the divorce I have been going to church every other Sunday but now I am going every Sunday and youth group on Wednesday. Well in youth he will come up to me and my step sister and the people we hang out with and stands right by me, but I see the way that he looks at her and I know that he likes her. She doesn't know that I like him and she isnt going to find out. She is three years older. He is a freshman i high school and she is a freshman in college, she doesnt like him. The guy and me barely talk but we do every once in awhile. I don't know what to do. I can't talk to him how I feel because we don' talk much. What should I do? (link)
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I know in a tight nit group like a youth group it's very easy to develop crushes (I'm speaking from first-hand experience), and I know it can really hurtful when the person who you like, especially in such a close group, doesn't respond with the same feelings as you have. This one, however, as hard as it might be, I wouldn't worry about much...and I definitely wouldn't make any moves that may scare the boy and may jeopardize a potential friendship.
I am going to share this story with you because it seems very relevant and so, as I said before, you know I'm speaking from experience. I had a major crush on a kinda-guy-friend who I sort of associated with who absolutely didn't know it. When I was afraid of losing my chance with him, I made it known so that I wouldn't lose that chance...mistake. He was 15...very young thinking...and focused on God (as I too should have been at the time I now realize...) At first he was kind of like "cool" then the next day (yes the next DAY) he got freaked out. It took quite a while to get back to where we were and even longer to actually become friends. Now...three years from the incident...we're pretty close friends and we go to church and youth group together, etc., but it probably would've been a lot faster to have never tried to hang on to him in the first place.
I don't see your sister as a threat. She probably thinks the idea of going out with a boy so much younger is ridiculous and this boy is probably just a young thinker and...well the feelings probably aren't very deep. I'm not going to tell you to try to snatch him up, but try to be his friend...that's how the best relationships are started. If God has it planned for you two...it'll work out and you'll be glad you were such good friends first and laugh that he ever had a little crush on your big sis. (If He doesn't, He has another great plan for you.) Right now, though, don't worry too much. Just get to know him...he should like you (as a friend, at least), if anything, for that. :)
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Im going to college and I need a quilt/blanket to go at the end of my bed. I have a hot pink comforter so it would need to match that. I love polka dots (but it doesnt have to be polka dotted).
Does anyone know where I can find one? I've looked at all the obvious places (bed bath and beyond, pottery barn teen, amazon, overstock etc.)
THanks so much!! (link)
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Here are some you can order.
I personally think the pink one on this link would be perfect...but I'm not sure of the price:
http://www.pbteen.com/shop/girls-bedding/girls-quilts/
these are more like bed-in-a-bag type things but you may be able to find something:
http://www.target.com/Bed-Bag-Tween-Teen-Bath/b/ref=sc_iw_r_2_1/188-6538451-7774367?node=1265775011&pricerange=0001-7499&rank=pmrank
hope that helps. :)
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Last, I got my period from June 28 - July 2 (about 4-5 days).
It's July 13, only 12 days after my period ended - and my breasts are starting to get sore.
Does breast tenderness occur a week before your period? Even if my period were to come next week, say around six days, it'd only be 18 days after my last period ended.
Is this normal? I'm 15/f, I've had my period for four years so I'm pretty sure I should be regular . . .
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your period can be sporadic no matter how long you've had it, and i definitely wouldn't worry too much about it just coming a little early. and breast tenderness can occur having nothing to do with menstruation. basically, you're pretty lucky if you have a "regular cycle" when it comes to this stuff. as long as it keeps coming, you'll most likely be fine. :)
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I've been trying to maintain my weight for awhile now. I lost about 40 pounds last year and really want to stay at the same weight. Anyway, I guess I've become increasing paranoid over gaining weight and I've began to throw up my food...but only at night!
See, I keep thinking that if I go to sleep with a COMPLETELY empty stomach that it's better for me in the end. I mean, my body doesn't have to work on digesting things or breaking down foods and I can get a decent sleep. In the morning I have a nice big breakfast and go on about my day like any normal person.
The problem is that I can't NOT throw up my food at night now. I HAVE to go to the bathroom and make myself throw up before I lay down to sleep. I will lay in bed, almost panicked, and then jump up and go do it just so I can fall asleep peacefully. I just don't feel good laying down with something in my stomach.
Am I bulimic? Should I get help? Is this harmful or dangerous? (link)
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Bulimia is defined by binging(eating, usually excessively) and purging (throwing up or doing anything like excessively excersising or taking laxatives or anything like that...) to maintain your weight (not to lose weight). So if you're doing any of these things (which I believe you explained you are)I absolutely advise you go to see a doctor and get help before anything gets worse. Remember, bulimia isn't a physical disorder, it's psychological, so if your worried without throwing up...or if your still wanting to throw up at all, you are probably at least border-lining on an eating disorder. this can be very serious, harmful and DANGEROUS. there are better ways to maintain your weight. talk to someone, please.
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Ok. So if anyone could help me, that'd be great. I would like to work in a hospital for children. I'm not sure what I would like to do in the hospital though. I think maybe be a nurse or have something to do directly with the children. If anyone has any information whatsoever on any of these topics and ways i can contribute involving working in a children's hospital, please, do tell.
Thank you!
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If you're not sure about what you want to do in medicine yet then I personally think biology is a good choice of major. As the previous answer said, there is pre-med, but that's really if you know you're going to be a physician, and then there's nursing, but that's really if you know you're going to be a nurse. I'm pretty sure a lot of physicians and medical professionals major in these kinds of sciences, especially biology. you could also minor in some sort of sociology if you want to work with children, because social skills are more important than they seem to stress in medical classes, and more than likely even more important in children.
If you want some other things (besides your college major) that would contribute to this career choice, I would say definitely start volunteering at your local hospital, or at least somewhere with children. You may also want to take extra classes to become certified in CPR, or become an EMT or nurse's assistant while your deciding on the end result, because those only require a class or a few classes, as compared to your entire college career. You may also look into shadowing a pediatrician or nurse practitioner that works with children, and decide which career pathway is best for you from that experience.
Also, remember, when it comes to your major, you can always change it. The fact that you basically know what you want to do is a good thing, and, if you stick with that, you should be fine no matter the specifics. Hope that helps.:)
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Hey, im sure my question is in the wrong category, but not really. Lol.
Im having 2 surprise parties in one for my 2 bestfriends.
Theyre both girls & I want a really cute theme for the party.
Theyre also both turning 15.
Any idea about the themes?
Or dress code or anythingg?
Thanks(; (link)
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I say go with a decade theme...which has kinda already been suggested. lol. we just had an 80s party for my church and it was so much fun. We did things like simulate 80s movies characters and the fashion (which is pretty fun in and of itself), we played games like hula-hoops contests and a scrunchy toss and had prizes like rubic's cubes and little light brights and stuff. basicall we just went all out.
so I'd suggest that, or other decade themes like 50s rock and roll, 60s disco, 70s hippie, or like solute to the 90s kids, since that's what you guys are. lol. just things that I think would be fun.
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What are, currently, the best universities for an undergraduate degree in print journalism?
An updated list would be great.
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love this question, i so just researched this!! i'm going to be a journalism major, too. :)
first of all, look into journalism programs in your state schools, some are pretty decent. Kansas(the University of, that is), I personally think, is the best for journalism undergrad, but that's a little biased because I know an alumna, lol. The University of Missouri is highly recommended. Arizona State is good...um...Syracuse. There are also little private schools that specialize in communications, like Webster University in Missouri. In case you're looking for a masters, Columbia is (again in my opinion) the best (lol).
Yeah, those are basically all I got. Hope that helps.
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someone's using my name on facebook! what should I do??? they have all the details including my initials right except that the only thing is that they don't have my first name (only my first initial) and then middle name last name!!! and year i joined year i graduated, college and school and birthday! what should i do? i can't report it to facebook because technically the person didn't put my "complete" first name..... (link)
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well...first I would delete my account. that you can always make new. but, other than that, I wouldn't worry about serious identity theft unless you like put your social security number on your account...which I hope you didn't. i sorta doubt some random person on facebook who's trying to be you knows how to actually steal your identity. just make a new account. that's my advice.
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hi i have a problem I am not fat, but not skinny either. I weigh 125lbs and 5'3 the problem with this is that i gained 10 pounds in 2 weeks! Lately I have been having these cravings for fatty foods and can't seem to stop them. I run track(that season is over)and cheerlead, but I know just tumbling and lifting people in the air or going up in the air myself on occasions isn't going to help. I am getting to heavy to even fly now! How can i keep these cravings off. (link)
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well you really don't have a problem yet...I'm sure your weight is fine. But if you're concerned, pick up some extra exercise activities over the summer and start watching your diet.
for exercise, you can take a fitness class (just look them up at maybe a community college or community center around your city), or you can make a plan to practice track or cheers a few times a week. you can also (don't think I'm crazy) take summer school p.e.; yes I realize how insane it sounds, but it keeps you in shape and it keeps you dedicated. or join a summer sport in a city league.
as for diet, while most people think it's easy to gain weight over the summer, it can also be easier to control what you eat. start trying new vegetables and experimenting with things you know are healthy. just stay away from junk food. don't let it invade your house if at all possible. just think before you eat. try to resist cravings by trying new things.
hope that helped.:)
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okay, i would love it if someone could help me with this song:
Chorus:
Brazil en fiesta, Brazil bailar
Feel the rhythm's gonna make you dance
Till the morning light
Let us feel the heat all through the night
I dont kno what group sings it or the name of it and i have tried looking. can someone pllease help me???? (link)
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Brazil by "Rise Robots Rise"
http://www.animelyrics.com/dance/bellini/brazil.htm
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I've had this best friend, Amy for like 15 going on 16 years. I cheered my 7th Grade year, and we were really close, then I quit and we drifted apart, so this year, my 11th grade year, she wanted me to cheer because we had become close again, so I tried out, and made it. Now, she has these other friends, one of them in particular, Kara who has this boyfriend, Trevor, and his best friend Sam had sex with my best friend. Now she's like crazy obsessed, and he's not the cleanest guy, he's very controlling, he's compulsive, obsessive, an she just wont talk to me anymore.
Idk what to do, she's my best friend, and we both hate not talking to each other, but now, she seems like she'd rather have him.
I've talked to her about it, and she did choose him. He don't like me, so I guess neither does she.
I've talked to her in everyway, she says that she doesnt want to choose and that she isnt going to put up with me acting like that, when really I aint done anything.
BTW, her parents dont want her with this guy, and she knows it and still goes behind their back.
I just want MY friend back, not Kara's friend, or Sam's beneficial friend.
What should I do? (link)
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All you can really do right now is what you have done...even if it's hard. as long as you've told her that you feel like she's choosing a guy over you (her friend, which usually gets people thinking) and that you think she's worth more than this guy...and that you really don't think that he's good for her (and that you've stressed you're talking to her for HER benefit)then...you just kind of have to let things go for now. if you guys are good friends and she's made an effort to try to re-establish that friendship again, she should come around. In the meantime, get to know some of the other cheerleaders. you joined something...make the most of it. and try not to cling to your friend...you'll get her back. i think it's an issue of patience. hope that helped.
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ive had the same best friend for 5 years now. weve had a few falling outs and we have always gone back to eachother. shes outgoing and makes friends easily where as me, im outgoing but i am not good at meeting people on my own (my friends are jess's friends) (jess has everyone over cause she has an amazing basement to hang out in) (i have no where for groups of people to hang out in) jess is wanting to have closer friends than just me. i would like to too. i am afraid to DEATH that i will loose her and i honestly cant imagine that. another problem is that jess always asks me to come over a few hours before she says to go over so if she doesnt call me that night, i dont go anywhere. i wait for her to plan cause its her house and shes the one with the friends. i wouldnt be so jealous i think if i had my own friends or closer friends. what do i do to keep jess close while letting her have friends and also finding my own friends? i know i need someone else to go to when im upset i just dont know how to find good friends (i just need like 2 close friends) and then make them best friends *most important thing is to keep jess as close as we normally are!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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ok, so first you need to calm down. i'm sure you are a likable person, but you have to realize that if you put all of your self-worth in your friends you are going to end up getting burned because no one (NO ONE, NOT EVEN BEST FRIENDS)get along all of the time. so, my first advice is stop trying so hard to be loved, and first just try to be comfortable with yourself.
Secondly, i have a bff like you (only it's more like 10 years)and with a friend like that, you tend to love each other then bicker then drift apart and then realize how much you love each other again. so don't be so worried about losing her. you most likely mean as much to her as she does to you.
Thirdly, when it comes to making new friends that you can be close to, i realize how much easier it can be to make friends and be social around current friends (i was also in this situation) but i'm sure you guys (meaning you and Jess) have different interests from one another. go somewhere YOU want to hang out. or join a club or group YOU want to join. chances are there will be people in that place (or club or group, w/e) that have the same interests at you. that will help you relate and allow you to make more friends. (ex.my bff and i are close, but she has friends that are really into the music she likes, whereas i'm pretty close to some people in our youth group, because these people have the same interests as us.)
But, again, don't go out there going "who looks cool...they'll be my friend." just go on with life and do the things that you want to do and friends will come naturally. that's my advice. hope it helps.
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15/f. I had been talking to the one guy C, but before I was talking to M. C goes to another school, M goes to my school. After we came back from christmas break I heard another girl i didn't like liked M, & had said if I tried to come between her & M she'd be so pissed or something like that. So I started talking M again. But I realized he was really really into me, not the same way I was. The C found out I was talking to M & we stopped talking. But I wanted to be with C, so I kept making up excuses for M to stop talking to me.
The first time me and M stopped talking was because he never had time for me like with football, and friends, drinking, and smoking, things im not into, and the second time it was the same story. While C is the type of boy thats plays to many games, & talks to other girls.
Well now I'm talking to C. And M & that girl from the beginning are going out now.
I feel like i've made the wrong decision, any adive?
If you think I have how do you think I can make it right with M again? (link)
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like the first columnist said, i don't think either of these guys are the guys for you. you could do better. my advice is that you stop acting so interested in C, he seems like he's just running around anyway, and let M and his girlfriend be. not that you still can't be friends with these guys, you can talk, but i would try to get them both off your heart.
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I want to go to brown, i'm only a freshman but i reallyy have my heart set on it, the only thing is i suck at math, i don't like to study it either. I hate math so i'm afraid if i keep having a b,that Brown wont take me, thats my only b but like i said, i have my heart set. I'm also in swimming so i don't have the time to do any other extra curricular activites since i leave the school every day seventh period to swim so... i have a feeling brown wont take me since i go to a public school, have a b in one class and i'm not in any extra curricular activities, but i am only a freshman, do you think they would?? and also, should i be doing stuff now to give me a better chance of getting in?? (link)
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i know exactly where you're coming from. a little background: i'm a junior at the "ghetto" public school in my town, but i have a pretty decent gpa (4.12, because i have a b in precalculus), i's crossing my fingers for Harvard, Yale or Columbia, and i'm in about a million and three things, including swimming.
like the other columnist said, a b as a freshman may not be so bad, but if you really do have your heart set you have to realize it is an ivy league school and, yes, you may just have to brave studying. keep in mind that Brown math will require studying and might as well start now. you basically should be giving school your all. however, if you're just not good at math and after studying you're still getting a b, it probably doesn't automatically put you in the "deny" pile of applications.
but you're smart to know that that's not all they're looking at. extra-curriculars can be very time consuming, but many colleges like to see things like community service and clubs, not to mention you most likely need community service to graduate anyway. but i'd suggest phasing anything extra in so that you don't become overwhelmed. maybe it's okay if this year you focus on swimming until the end of the season.
also, colleges like to see a focus, mostly related to your major. (like, if you want to be a doctor, volunteering at a hospice and taking a nursing class at you community college would be good. if you want to be a writer of some sort, help out your english teacher after school and join a poetry club. et cetra.)
basically, if you really want to get in, just make yourself stand out. make them want to have you. prove that you want to be there. and get scholarships (because it will be expensive)and the public school ting shouldn't matter, and even the "not the best at math" thing may not matter. good luck with the endeavors.
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im a really shy and quiet person and im really not confident at all. i just get really nervous talking in front of a big group and even when im only talking to one person i just never know what to say and it gets all awkward...
at my school im known as the quiet and awkward girl...
what do i do to start being confident and stop getting nervous around people and in front of a large group or even in front of just one person?
how do i stop being so quiet shy and awkward??
how do i know what to say all the time? i just never know what to say and can't come up with anything without sounding boring or retarded or just saying oh ok...
please help!! (link)
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try talking to someone in your class (or something that you're in) who you know isn't going to be all "they're so weird" because maybe you don't have all of the answers. you know that there is usually some mellow person who is very chill with everyone and isn't necessarily always entertaining a crowd. who knows, maybe there is even someone with your same problem who's looking for someone else to come up and talk to them.
try talking to someone about things you know they are involved with. (ex. you're both in lit class and you had 30 min. to write a 5 page essay, you might approach the person like "wow, i didn't expect that," "how do you think you did," or "well, what was your answer to the prompt.") try to find things you have in common with them, like if they're wearing a bandshirt and you like the band, you can talk about that, their Cd's or last concert or gossip about the lead singer...lol. or just try to talk to them about general things (like "what's your schedule?" or "do you ever watch shows on the wb?") questions are always good, and people usually like to talk about themselves and their interests and experiences.
finally, when it comes to people talking to you and you can't think of anything to say but "oh ok," try to think of follow-up questions to their story or w/e, or try to relate a story of yours.
confidence starts with being able to relate to people and...well...talk. it can be kind of nerve-wracking, especially if you're kind of used to being alone and not used to talking, but once you start to make friends and you know them a little more, you can talk a lot easier. most of the time, being social isn't something you're just naturally gifted with, you just have to try to get out there. it will get easier, i promise. it takes one step to start a journey (or however that famous saying goes). so good luck!
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