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i like him. . . he likes my sibling,
14/f
There is this guy that I like in church. When we were younger we were best friends, after my parents divorce when I was five, things changed. We stopped seeing each other as much. As we got older we stopped talking to each other, we both changed. After the divorce I have been going to church every other Sunday but now I am going every Sunday and youth group on Wednesday. Well in youth he will come up to me and my step sister and the people we hang out with and stands right by me, but I see the way that he looks at her and I know that he likes her. She doesn't know that I like him and she isnt going to find out. She is three years older. He is a freshman i high school and she is a freshman in college, she doesnt like him. The guy and me barely talk but we do every once in awhile. I don't know what to do. I can't talk to him how I feel because we don' talk much. What should I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I know in a tight nit group like a youth group it's very easy to develop crushes (I'm speaking from first-hand experience), and I know it can really hurtful when the person who you like, especially in such a close group, doesn't respond with the same feelings as you have. This one, however, as hard as it might be, I wouldn't worry about much...and I definitely wouldn't make any moves that may scare the boy and may jeopardize a potential friendship.
I am going to share this story with you because it seems very relevant and so, as I said before, you know I'm speaking from experience. I had a major crush on a kinda-guy-friend who I sort of associated with who absolutely didn't know it. When I was afraid of losing my chance with him, I made it known so that I wouldn't lose that chance...mistake. He was 15...very young thinking...and focused on God (as I too should have been at the time I now realize...) At first he was kind of like "cool" then the next day (yes the next DAY) he got freaked out. It took quite a while to get back to where we were and even longer to actually become friends. Now...three years from the incident...we're pretty close friends and we go to church and youth group together, etc., but it probably would've been a lot faster to have never tried to hang on to him in the first place.
I don't see your sister as a threat. She probably thinks the idea of going out with a boy so much younger is ridiculous and this boy is probably just a young thinker and...well the feelings probably aren't very deep. I'm not going to tell you to try to snatch him up, but try to be his friend...that's how the best relationships are started. If God has it planned for you two...it'll work out and you'll be glad you were such good friends first and laugh that he ever had a little crush on your big sis. (If He doesn't, He has another great plan for you.) Right now, though, don't worry too much. Just get to know him...he should like you (as a friend, at least), if anything, for that. :)
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