|
social skills
at my school and cheerleading team it seems to me like everyone is so immature. im a junior in high school and im really quiet mainly because im shy but also because i just never know what to talk about or how to respond to people at my school.
i went to a summer program for high school students this summer and i made a ton of friends there and was pretty talkative because we would all have actual real conversations... but coming back here im really quiet and i can't make friends easily because everyone is always hyper and crazy and i just can't relate to them and i never know what to say and it has gotten me depressed lately...
is every high school student like this or is it just mine? and is college going to be different or is it just me that has issues? and how do i start having better social skills and stop being depressed? what do i do about not being able to communicate with them?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
Well everyone wants to be crazy, hyper, and rational. It's normal.
But you don't have to change for anyone, and if people won't like you for who you are than they are not worth your time.
Would college be different?
Everything is different, in college people get crazier but more of a grown up.
Look just chill and take it easy. You might have anxiety disorder. But that's a really low chance because you actually made tons of friends in the summer program.
Time changes people, and you might change later. But there is no such thing as social skills but there is a key word and that is 'be yourself', and be confident. If you lack confidence than that's a tiny problem you need to solve.
Just be yourself, if your not comfortable talking to crazy and hyper people, then don't. But if you are just do, and chili, take a deep breath and say what you want or like.
Good Luck =]=]
]
I don't think you're majorly lacking in social skills. I think that, as you said, you're just different. And, well, I think I'm your age and I've only ever been to one high school, but I can say at least in my experience, many many many high school teens are how you describe your school-mates. Some people, like you, just have a totally different level of thinking and it doesn't seem very appealing to play "silly teenager" (for lack of a better phrase, haha) and bounce off the walls. I advise you find a club or activity that you enjoy and try to socialize there, outside the cheer-leading squad. It may be easier to find teens that communicate the same way as you and are kind of on your level. Also, again I'm a high school student so I can't exactly speak from experience, but I seriously doubt the maturity issue exists so much in college. Just a thought. :) God bless.
]
I been there and done that..
i know how you feel. but be honest kids at school are not there true self sometimes. they don't act how they do at home and they do there. plus kids talk about everything you know movies or what they did this weekand. tv shows. that how i did. i met a freind all we talk about the tv show we watch everynight.. when you talk to people you don't have to force your self talk about something that they talk about. find something you have in command like how was that test in math class or something like that. but sometime kids don't want to talk about school and work. that why. it funny that way. yeah high school and collage pretty much the same. find somone who quiet to find somone that reading and siting by thre self ask them what they are reading. and just pick any topic to talk about see if person like talking about. like me i like talking about life,weather,sometimes tv shows and movies. and music. oh and of curse guys lol.
]
More Questions: |