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whats going on in his mind!?
im soo sorry this is so long :(
13/f
okay so theres this guy and during the summer we got close and even started tlking to eachother like "hey sexy" sorta thing. we even tlked on the phone once and he called me once but i couldnt answer. it always seemed like he sorta liked me because of the way he talked to me, and how when i asked him if i could trust him he said " yes you can trust me. you always can." and one time he thought i was mad at him and i told him no never he said " ok good cuz i didnt want one of the coolest girls at school to hate me." and i of course told him i could never hate him. so not too long ago me and my cousin were hanging out and being hyper when she dared me to send this to him:
I want you
Your hott
its complicated....
so i did. and i thought it was a funny little message and excited to see what he would say. but the day after i realized i should prolly delete it, just because i didnt want him to think that i LOVED HIM. so i was gonna delete it, but it was too late, and he read it. he never responded. then 4 nights after, my cousin prank called him. so the next i sent him a mssg saying how sorry i was for everything even the prank call and all he said was "its okay i get prank calls all the time.ha" but he didnt respond to the message. things were never quite the same.. and i told him that. i told him i hate how we dont tlk like we used to and he said but why? we still tlk. and i sed no not like we used ot and all he said was ohh. then i got my best friend to ask him if we were still good friends and he said yea we are. but it reallly doesnt seem like it anymore and my best friend even told me she sort of likes him which got me mad and im scared he likes her too cuz he tlks to her but i dont know what set him off so much because i said sorrry for tht message :( by the way this year hes not at the same school as me this year so i dont see him alot. but i dont know what to do anymore. i try to forget him but i cant. ive recently started tlking to him again, but its still like not at all the same. i dont know what to do. i like him ALOT. i even dream about him sometimes and think about him and every song tht comes on he pops into my head. and i want things to be like they used to but sometimes when im messaging him he just stops and doesnt reply and i really dont want tht to happen again. i want to stay in touch with him. help me pleasse :(
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Look, you did something stupid, and if he doesn't want to be really close to you anymore, than, that's what happens. There isn't anything much you can do. Sometimes, you just can't take things back. Sometimes, you just can't make things go back to the way they used to be.
He could have taken your action and your cousin's as lots of things.
Like you were playing with him, or making fun of him, or just being rude. Either way, you can't now force your "I'm sorry" on him. You apologized and he knows what happened and if he doesn't want to talk to you like he used to, you're just going to have to deal with it.
Hopefully you have learned a lesson about how to treat and how not to treat other people.
When you do stupid things, like letting your cousin bet you to do something that could upset someone else, and you do it, and then after the fact let her prank call him to further rub it in, you are going to have to take responsibility and finally be mature enough to let him walk away.
I'm sure you are sorry, and truely regretful, but sometimes, doing something like that just changes things between people. That is why you don't play games.
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well first of all, guys don't really like clingy-ness so that dare probably did make it a lot different. you REALLY should talk to him. I would hate to be in that situation. Just explain to him that your coisin dared you to send that message and you didnt mean it, and tell him not to be uncomfortable around you because your still friends. thats the most you should do for now, dont mention anything about liking him for a few months or so. being friends right now and becoming as good friends as before is the best thing to do.
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if you really like him dont give up just yet. call him alot more and ask him to go to the movies and stuff and make sure he gets the point that you like him. become better friends like you used to be. i think you should be the one to ask him out because if you dont he might go after your cousin instead and you will be heartbroken.
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