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I have a friend who for a while I thought was my best friend but I guess I wrong. I'm going to call her "N"
Yesterday one of my friends told me that N said I was fat. By the way, she weighs 130 and I weigh 87 so she has no reason to say that about me. So, yesterday I talked to N on IM and I said, "Someone told me that you said I was fat." and N said, "I didn't!!" Then I called two other people and they said that she did say that about me so, I said to N, "Yes, you did." and she said,"No I didn't!" and I said,"yeah u did." and she said,"MY FUCKING GOD!! WHO GIVES A FUCK IF I SAID IT!! GET THE HELL OVER IT!"After she said that I was like, "How about you calm down" and then she said, "You know what? FUCK YOU!" and signed off.
Then about thirty minutes later she called me and said,"Look. I'm sorry. I would not ever talk about you behind your back." I just said,"Ok. I gotta go. Bye" and hung up.
Today I talked to another friend and she said that N told her I liked this guy when I didn't. So, again, I IMed N and I said,"Someone said you told them that I like Matt and I DON'T! Can you please stop talking me about me behind my back? I never even did anything to you." And she said, "I never said that you like him." and I was like,"Um yeah you did. Can you please stop lying to me?!?!" And she said,"OH MY FUCKING GOD! I AM NOT LYING! I NEVER EVEN SAID THAT YOU LIKE MATT, THAT YOU WERE FAT, OR ANYTHING ELSE!" And I was like,"Wow you just lied two times in a row. Way to go. Oh and what the heck? You just said yesterday that you DID say I was fat!"After about two minutes she responded and said,"So WHAT if I told someone that. WHO CARES?!?!" and I said, "Uh I do." and she freaked out and was like,"OH MY GOD! GET OVER YOUR FATASS SELF! SHUT THE FUCK UP! FUCK YOU!!!!!!!" and then she signed off.
About two hours later she signed back on and she was like,"Look. I am really sorry. Please forgive me?" I just sat there and ignored her and she signed off.
Ok so, she talked about me behind my back, cussed me out, and lied to me all for no reason. I really do not think I should forgive but I just want someone elses opinion.
Do you think I should forgive her after what all she did?
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Uh, no. I would say you should not forgive her.
The fact that you would go to her and ask her straight out about what other people are claiming, thus giving her a chance to explain herself and make it right, tells me that you are a mature person. Also asking her to calm down and not cussing back at her is testament to your patience. You decided to find out what was really going on before jumping in and saying things and making it worse.
She is, well, I don't know what she is doing. It seems like she wants to stir up some shit, but not to your face, and then freaking out when confronted with it. You should have been the one to tell her to fuck off with her fatass self, because she wronged you. I don't know if she is fat (I don't know how tall she is. I know 130 for me would be underweight, but I am almost 5'8 1/2 and have muscle.)
But, that isn't really relevant, the only thing that matters is that she cussed you out for calling her on what she said and then even after that, she lied directly to you. Signing back on hours later to say sorry...half assed and insincere. Get rid of her.
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