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puppylove
Im 13, and my boyfriend is 12 (I was born very early in the year he was born later on) will he is very sweet, and very nice to me. We've been friends (but not like best friends) longer then we've been dating (hasent been that long at all) I think i have a big commitment issue, i mean once i finally get the guy i want.. I feel different. Like im happy, but im also constantly thinking about him. and almost sometimes i dont feel like talking to him, for like ALL night, so i tell him that i need to get of the phone/computer. Is this awkard? i mean is bad to have second thoughts, but you know that you really do want to be with him. & if your going to tell me about my age, and how many more guys i'll date, Dont respond. I RATE HiGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS.
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You don't have commitment issues...if you think you do, then I don't even think you know what commitment issues are. So just keep doing what you are doing...you have your whole life ahead of you..do what you want..I bet you won't be with this boy forever..so just have fun and be yourself and do whatever you want.
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I figure you might be afraid of losing him and so you aviod him, thinking it will be ruined if you dont. oh well just get to know him
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That happens to me all the time. I mean I like someone, butt hen when I go out with them its like, okay now what. I try to avoid the person. Dont worry it's natural, and its not an age thing, its more like a confusion thing. You should just go with it, if you still feel like you just want avoid him and try to get away form him, break up with him until you feel better, or just tell him how you feel. Im sure he'll understand and maybe even feels the same way.
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I am a guy and I totally dig what your saying. I think It is a totally natural feeling, Because I feel the same messed up feeling at times too. But don't sweat it. Second thoughts always occur to everyone. And if you don't feel like talking to him, then don't. It feels akward but it is not really.(if you know what I mean)
Kinda like a love hate relationship where you can't explain the hate piece. And you are afraid that it will be a permanent problem and will seriously thwart you relationship with him.
But here is the thing though, I don't think there is any cure or anything you could do about it. Just float on , and see what it eveolves into. You will probably grow out of it as time goes by.
And heck, it is not like your gonna get married to this guy, so just be comfortable. do what you feel like and don't do what you don't feel like.
And try to treat him just like a friend and not as a boyfriend, cause I think the whole "idea" of "boyfriend" is what causes the feeling.
And don't do sex.
hope I helped.
Cj
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I can understand not wanting to talk to him constantly I mean, everyone needs their own space and personal time away from the people we love, it's called boundaries. It gives us a time to regroup and reflect on the days events and just have time alone. It doesn't mean we love our friends/boyfriends less at all and you should not feel guilty about it.
Also I don't think that age has anything to do with not knowing about love. We are all human beings with feelings and we feel things at different levels at different times in our lives so I believe fully that your feelings for your boyfriend are valid. It's all just part of learning and living our lives. I don't think you need to worry about being committed to anyone at 13 you should be free to explore and experience life in your own way but it's always good to have love in your life thats a good thing, just take care of yourself too.
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Your not going to GET different answers on this, because everyone will probably say the same thing.
It us puppylove and I don't care if you say your mature at 13 and he is mature at 12, that is not enough time to even begin to understand any concept of love other than puppylove. In fact alot of girls and guys won't get past puppylove until late in highschool, or even later. Some do before, but not often. And everything until the is going to be somewhat awkward until you get past puppylove.
You don't have a commitement issue because being 13 and him 12, you can't possibly already know anything of true commitement, therefore it is impossible for you to question it. It's puppylove, just like your question title says.
-Ryan
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