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always fighting..
15/f
me and my friend fight all the time. and it is usally over very stupid things. and i am the one who always trys to make things up between us. and i have known him since i was in second grade. and now we are in a fight yet again. he got mad because i told him that i didnt think he cared about me and he was like blah blah blah dont talk to me and he blocked me. and i havent talked to him since then. And he deleted me as a friend on myspace. which isnt shocking. So my question is that should i try and fix things? or should i just not try and see if he trys and if he doesnt just give up on this friendship.
thanks in advance :)
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I maybe wrong bout this but from what I see, maybe he got mad cos he felt that you were being a little too whiny and uptight bout the caring-or-not thing?
Did you always complain to him bout it? If you did then maybe you should try to fix things by being less whiny? Dun go straight up and tell him that he doesnt care bout you cos this really makes people feel very agitated as in like they will think "so what do you want me to do?" And guys especially they dun like it. They dun really like to engage in too emotional stuff.
I know what you're expecting from him when you say that he didnt care bout you. You were expecting him to say something like "aw, no that's not true. I care bout you" and more assurance and blah blah.=) I know how you feel. But I have to tell you that guys arent like tt. Girls are like tt but not guys.
Pay attention to the little bits of things that he does for you. All these can show that he cares for you too.If he doesnt show care and concern for you the way you want it, it doesnt mean that he doesnt give a damn bout you. Maybe he just has different ways of showing it?
But on the other hand, if you really really really can't feel his concern for you and if he's the one getting all fired up for nothing always; and you're the one always trying to salvage the situation, then yes you should let him do the patching up and see if he really treasures your friendship. If he doesnt do anything, don't be sad, cos its not worth keeping a petty little man as your friend.
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ok he just being immature,you kno how guyz are.:) he shouldn't be acting like that. give up for a few days and see wat he does just give him some space dats wat i hav to do with my friends. if he doesn't talk 2 you for those few days call him and tell him ur sorry dat u hurt his feelings dat you didn't really think it would bother him so much. well i hope this helps. and i hope you can work things out with him and if not than it wasn't meant to be.
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well he sounds really immature to me. he blocked you, deleted you off myspace, and told you not to talk to him because you "told him that i didnt think he cared about me". babe, he doesnt seem worth it if hes going to spaz out about the teeniest things. especially if hes 15. you need to talk to him in person, so he cant somehow block you, and tell him that he really needs to start shaping up because its ruining your friendship, and he doesnt seem to care but you do. tell him that you need a break or something, because he doesnt seem like a great friend and you deserve better.
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Well I think the best thing to do is give him his space and if he trys to fix it that is great if not give it a little longer and then you start to try and fix it. If you know that you are the one that always trys to fix things then he obviously does too so he might just wait for you to fix it but then you have to think is it worth all the trouble if I know we are going to fight again. You really need to find out in yourself if you really even want to be his friend anymore.
Good luck,
Hope I helped
(If you would like more of my advice e-mail me at skipedabeat@yahoo.com)
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