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did i do something wrong..?
My friend, Stephanie, called my friend, Ellie, a b*tch behind her back. Ellie asked me if Stephanie called her that and I said "I think so" (it happened weeks ago, so I didn't really remember). Now Ellie's parents did something and Stephanie is in trouble. Stephanie yelled at me and said that it was all my fault. Did I do the right thing by telling Ellie what Stephanie said?
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you know, it depends on a lot of things. some people would definatly say that you did the right thing, and you may have. Because Ellie actually came up to you and asked you, it is more likely that you did the right thing. However if you were to come out and tell Ellie that she said that it would be the wrong thing. you also have to think about the context, sometimes when people are upset, they sware. I'm not saying its the right thing to do, I've been called the above before, and it sucks. But sometimes when you say something behind someones back, when you think no ones listening you dont really mean it. So I don't blame stephanie for getting mad. Shes in trouble and it is because of what you said. So next time, to avoid conflict, I'de pretend I didn't hear her, or shrug it off. It just makes things easier to not talk about it. If it was weeks ago, Stephanie had probably already forgotten about it and wasnt even upset anymore. So it kinda sucks that shes getting in trouble.
So did you do the right thing? Yes, you told the truth, but you hurt your other friend, so you just have to think for your self. I gave you a suggestion for next time, and if you choose to do that, thats great, but if not, then be prepared for more conflict in years to come, because most likely you will run into this again. It is comman for people to talk about people behind their backs, and you just have to decide what to remember and whatto forget. I hope I helped alittle.
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yes yes yes yes. if someone says something bad about one of your friends, they have a right to know about it. stephanie shouldnt have said that in the first place. she knew what she was getting into. just explain to stephanie that ellie had a right to know and its her own fault for saying it.
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You did the mature thing with answering honestly but not rudely in a way that would have hurt stephanie. stephanie is probably looking for someone to blame besides her self. After all it is her fault she did say that.
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yes you did because you are being honest you shouldnt feel bad its not your fault stephanie shouldnt have said anything in the first place behing ellies back stephanie first of all is not your friend or ellies if she could talk behind"someone" like that like her "friend" then i think she could be able to talk about you like that i wouldnt be stephanies friend at all anymore its not your fault you were being honest...and thats what a real friend is
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You didn't do anything wrong.
It's immature of Stephanie to blame you for her words.
She called Ellie a b*tch and Ellie asked and you told her the truth. What did you do wrong in there? You didn't call Ellie names. STEPHANIE did.
If she's going to get mad over what she said that got her in trouble, she should really rethink about this whole thing
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It is fine that you answered your friend Ellie's question with,"I think so." It would have been a lot worse if you answered," Yes! I heard her say it, it was so mean!" It is not all your fault that and Stephanie shouldn't be mad at you, she's the one thats talking about people behind their backs. It would have been worse to lie and pretend that everthing was fine. I think you did the right thing, you were being truthful.
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