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relationship advice?
so my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months and he lost his cell phone so i have no way of calling him and talking unless he calls me and he goes on AIM once in awhile so its like we go 1- 3 days without talking and it drives me crazy he doesn't think there is anything wrong with that am i being stupid or is there really something wrong with that??
and another thing is he didn't necessarily accuse me but he asked if i have ever cheated on him.. he asked so randomly and i said no i haven't why would you even ask that? and he got all defensive and said hes been thinking about it for a long time and just needed to no if i have.. but it was so weird and then he told me he had to go.. so i asked if he cheated on me and he said of course not and then he just signed off.. without saying by or anything .. and he hasn't talked to me since and that was Tuesday .. does anyone have an advice on what i should do ? or say to him?
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I don't really think you're "stupid" to think that at all. Relationships are about communication and trust -- Of course you have the right to want to talk to him. If you guys really care about each other, I'm guessing ya'll would be thinking about each other a lot in between the times you can talk, and it's understandable that you'd miss him. The thing is, does he have the means to be able to talk to you? Even if he dosen't think it's a big deal, is he doing it on purpose? If he's been busy and hasn't been able to talk much, try to let that go. However, if it continues for a while, let him know there IS something wrong with that. Not talking for 1-3 days wouldn't seem like a big deal for a friend, but most people in relationships I know of talk pretty constantly..
The situation on Tuesday sounds a little odd, of course. Maybe he was just being paranoid about it lately? Is he hearing things from people that aren't true? My guess would be that he's just thinking way too in depth with things lately. Just make sure you reassure him that you're not, and that he's the only guy for you -- That's all it takes somtimes.
And he probably said "Of course not" and signed off, because something was going on, not because he was being defensive or something. He said he had to go earlier, right? Maybe he actually did?
I can't say anything for sure, but don't jump to conclusions! Don't assume he's ignoring you or something. He could have been grounded or something along those lines? Just don't go guessing things and getting yourself all worked up. When you get the chance to talk to him, just clear things up.
Can you call him? If not, when he calls you, ask him why he acted the way he did. It wouldn't hurt anything, and don't be nervous to ask him something like that -- It'll be fine. You've gotta have really open communication with him if you want this to work.
If ya'll can't talk much, by the way, just make sure you really make it worth it when you can. Let him know how you're feeling/what's going on/etc., and just be relaxed with him.
XOXO
KAT.
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Not mush you can do if he is not honest, however you have an idea that there is something wron there and you can fell it, see what's next be aggresive????.
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It could be something, or then again it could be nothing. If ya'll have been dating for 6 months, then you should be a little more open to eachother than people who date for a month. The facts are, normally when a guy asks if your cheating, he's insecure. It could mean, he's cheating on you and just wants to know if your doing it too, OR it could just mean he thought you were and just figured he'd ask you.
Boys show emotions in weird ways sometimes, but then again so do girls. My opinion, if you only talk every 3 days and you've been dating him for 6 months, something is definitely wrong with that picture. Talk to him about it. Find out what's going on, because you shouldn't be stressing over something that is his fault, ya'know?
Good luck and hope all works out.
x0*- Bryttnii.
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