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Hey there (: I'm Bryttnii ♥ I'm a Senior. I'm 17 and I seem to have been through a lot in my seventeen years. I love giving advice & recieving advice. I'm here to give you my honest opinion & responses to your questions. I don't give the answers you want to hear, I give the answers you need to hear. I've had an advice column since I was 14. But of course, I made a new one that I stay on constantly! I take Cosmetology in school and I love it. I get my Cosmetology license in 9 months. I'd like to go to college for Criminal Justice and be a Detective ;] Speak to me about anything.




Some things I love are: Music, Writing, Cosmetology, Photography, Reading, Secondhand Serenade, The Beach, Roller Coasters, Singing, Scrapbooking, Tanning, Flowers, My teacup Yorkshire Terrior named Daisy, and the wonderful gift of Love.




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my friend and i are going on a road trip to florida from michigan and we wanna look at the beaches and fun things. we are both 17/f. can anyone give any advice on what to do?
we are really fun girls looking for a good experience

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Well, I'm from Ohio and I think the best places there are Cedar Point and the Hard Rock Cafe.

In Virginia, which is where I live now, we have all kinds of things. Kings Dominion. Bush Gardens. Jamestown.

There is a lot to see in all of the states. You should look up maps and things online. Have fun!

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okay well i am going to have sex for the second time and i was wondering if it was going to feel good this time and if i used the condom properly if i would get pregnant also we are using spermicidal lube.


thanks

Sex feels better each time you do it. It's always possible to get pregnant, whether you use a condom or not. Condoms do lower the risk, however. Have fun.

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Ok, for Halloween, i want to go as a Bimbo or a hooker or something like that. So i want to dye my hair blond for it.

My hair is Black... so what would i have to do to get it blond... and how many times??

also... do you think my hair might fall out?
like if i bleach it?

It'll only be for 1 night, but i don't want to get a wig.

thanks.

I do NOT suggest you bleach your hair for one night. If you have black hair naturally and bleach it, your hair will break off badly & probably will never be healthy again. I took Cosmetology, so trust me I know. I have naturally dark hair and decided I wanted blonde hair, so I bleached it. I got it professionally done, and they had to bleach it 2 times one day and a few more times later that month just to get it blonde instead of orange. It's not worth it. I would just get a wig or maybe highlight your hair blonde. My hair broke off terribly and didn't grow for a year. It's terrible!

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So simply put;
I am a 16 year old girl.
Can I be in love?

We can't tell you whether you are in love, or not. That's a feeling you have to decide for yourself. Yes, you can be in love at any age. I've seen people who have been together since high-school and are now in their 60's.

Love is just something you know is there. If you have to second guess yourself, you're most likely not in love. It's just a feeling that you can't describe. There is a different in being IN love and just loving somebody. I love a lot of people, but I'm IN love with my boyfriend of a year.

I don't think you can really describe love because it is just a feeling. But to answer your question, you could be in love at any age.

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so last night was my first night at a new restarant job as a waitress. ive done waitressing before, so im experienced.
a group of 5 kids my age (19) walk in and they were my second table on my very first night. one of them recognized me as a classmate in the college i attend.
basically they gave me a hard time about EVERYTHING! when i put a soda down, they asked it to be switched to a different one, no ice, etc.
To make it worse, one of the dishes got sent back because they thought it was going to be like "chinese" chicken they claimed.
I could deal with that to an extent. But they left no tip! ? And this kid sits right next to me in a small class of like 7. How do i act around him? do i say that was messed up? or do i let it go and just never be their waitress again if they come in

UGH! I'm a waitress and I know exactly how that feels. People can be so rude and inconsiderate of other people. I would just ignore him in school. Act like nothing happened and you don't even know him.

If they come back to your job, you do have to treat them like you would a regular customer. It's sad, but there's nothing you can do about it at work. You can, however, ask someone to take their table for you because of how rude they were to you last time. I learned that works best.

Good luck, hope it works out.

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Lilmama, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.

the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...



whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help

Thanks for inboxing, love.

Being at an age where you're not really sure what love exactly means is really hard. I've been there and went through that. I can honestly say, that as you get older, time does heal everything. There is nothing wrong with caring about someone this much at your age.

It just sounds to me, that you're not really ready for a relationship. I'm not saying you're immature, but you are most likely not mature enough for a relationship. Which means, you want to be in one, but you don't at the same time. You're young and you only live once.

For you being 14, I would suggest trying to move on. There are millions of guys out there that would love to date you, but you just have to give them a chance. For all we know, you could meet someone new that you fall harder for. I understand what you're saying about really liking him, but not wanting to be with him.

My advice to you, is to really try to just move on. I know it may be hard and you'll think about him a lot, but sometimes it really is for the better. Go out and meet some new people that you may be interested in. Just remember that you'll never be fully happy with another guy if you keep running back to your ex. I wouldn't rush into anything with anyone else if you think that something would happen with your ex while you have a boyfriend. That's not fair to the guy your dating and really not fair to your ex either.

As you get older, you'll learn more about love and being in a relationship. I would just be single and keep your options open. Over the years, you'll mature more and more, and eventually want to be with someone. If you don't want to be with your ex, then try to get over him. I know it's hard, but just really try. It'll be for the better, I promise.


Good luck, let me know how things work out.

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I need songs about someone that has past away and you miss them adn love them i need R&b please ?

One Sweet Day - Mariah Carey & Boys II Men
Bye Bye - Mariah Carey

As for others besides R&B:
Who You'd Be Today - Kenney Chesney
One More Day - Diamond Rio
Slipped Away - Avril Lavigne

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So my best friend hooked up with this guy over half a year ago.. lets call him Sam. They never actually went out and the hookup was a one or two time thing.
And shes had like 2 major boyfriends since then.
So when "Sam" asked me to hang out i wouldn't have thought it would be a big deal. Sam had his cell taken up so he called me from his house phone and told me where to meet him and then he left. As i was walking to go meet him i called my best friend just to check things wouldnt be weird.
She got extremely defensive and it was obvious that she was not okay with me meeting up with him. I told her i wasn't going to hang out with him since she sounded weird about it..
So I was going to meet up with him where he told me to just to tell him we couldn't chill. Mind you, we have a pretty obvious attraction to each other and I had been thinking about him a lot lately.. When i told him we couldn't hang out because of what my best friend and him did, he got kinda upset. I apologized and he reached down and kissed me. I was kinda shocked so it took a few seconds til i stopped it. After a little arguing i told him i had to leave and once i started walking away he ran after me and said he was just going to follow me home then even though my mom was home and i'd get in major trouble...
So i decided if he's gonna be this difficult i'll just stay a hang out a while, but one thing lead to another and we made out and he felt me up a little. But i didn't let it get any farther than that. Actually every time he tried to kiss me or pull me close to him i'd try to push him off but it never really worked. I really wanted to be with him and everything but i actually did try to get him off.
I really don't know what to do.
If i tell my best friend about this she'll totally freak out and we probably won't ever be the same.
And im pretty positive he won't tell anyone so it won't get around.
HELP.

As much as you don't see it, you should never do that to a friend, especially a best friend. It doesn't matter how long ago they were together or hooked-up, you just don't do it.

Right now, you need to decide what's more important. Your best friend or this guy. If you think this guy is more important, then you will lose your best friend. If you think your best friend is more important, forget the guy. Sure, he might get mad but he'll eventually get over it and move on.

It sucks to like someone that you can't have, I know. But sometimes you need to be considerate of your friends feelings. Think about it from a different point of view. If she called you and asked you if it was okay for her to meet up with one of your old flings, how would you feel?

Everybody is different. While some may be perfectly fine with you seeing their old boyfriends, others aren't ever okay with it.

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im 17f, my mother cheated on my father 2 or 3 years ago its broke my dads heart which it would, me and my mother have never got on she used to be voilet to me and ive always wished bad things to happen to her, when she cheated and she moved out i was soo happy, i didnt fell guity, ive have younger bother and sister they were heartbroken which at that point they didnt understand what she had done, but then dad said im going to take her back, i just wanted too say no! after the way she treated me and i was being selfish, she came back and dad promised me that she would never lay a finger on me again which she hasnt but now shes got sumthing over my dad and shes told me she hates me and that she wants me out and that ive broke the family up she seems to forget whats she had done and ive never forgiven her and i will not, its seems like all my family turned agaist me like it all my fault , i can be cheeky but i cant understand why my mum hates me soo much, dad gets home and have a go at me and always on her side never listen to me but when shes not around well he says you no what she like blah blah, i used to be soo close to my father so its all changed, half off my family have stuck by me, i just think that my mum has no family after they kicked her out, she has to this? , family member said we all no whats she has done but you will have too forget it for your fathers sake, but i just cant shes hurt me so much and doesnt respect me and they want me too forgive and forget ive tryed people dont just understand!, i just dont no how to forgive her? but will i ever forgive her ? i would love if she moved out and i never got too see her again, ive even gone aways for a week or too, or could she see me as a treat? i just wanna get along, i realy dont want this family too fall apart.

I know you don't understand why your mother is doing this. I'm not sure anyone understands and that's whats hurting the most. You can't be mad at your dad for forgiving her for cheating, because sometimes love over-powers all other feelings. You shouldn't hate your mother or wish bad things on her, because no matter what has happened, she's still your mother. She gave you life and was there for you for 17 years.

People change for all sorts of reasons. Don't blame yourself about any of it, it's not your fault. People change themselves. You're almost 18 which means you can move out and get away from that whole situation.

As for your dad, he probably wants his family back to normal and is trying so hard to make your mom happy again. Don't get mad at him for not defending you. It's not because he's chosing her over you, it's because he doesn't want any more problems coming out of your family.

I would suggest maybe talking to your mom alone. Let her know how much you do care about her and just wish she showed the same back to you. Let out all of your feelings to her and maybe that'll be enough for her to appreciate you more. If it doesn't help, it still won't hurt because at least she'll know what she's making you feel towards her.

Good luck.

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This might be kinda long..

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and ahalf now. hes 28. im having a really diffuclt problem trying to deal with how many people has has slept with. (i was never really attracted to anybody untill him.. so i just dont understand). i realize now i kinda messed up by sleeping with him even though it was my idea and i figured me understandign and working everything out would take time. I really do want to work things out but there are a few problems. one. he does not live in my state, he is just away right now and hes planning to move back permenently, mainly for me and for better jobs. two. all the people he has had sex with, i feel like i have to share him with them. he seems to find anybody attractive even if he doesnt say it to me, he has been with friends, friends that are married, random people, people he found on the internet and "knew" for a while and then would have them come and stay with him for a while. it was like it was a sex party. So i guess my questions are: what can i do to try to understand his past (he doesnt like talking about it hes sorta ashamed.)? Should i just leave him, is this often too big of a problem in a relationship? (should i leave him before he tries to move back partly because of me). He really does not want to leave me. he cries about it everytime i want to talk to him about my problems (in the relationship). i feel bad that i make him cry and gives me more reason to think i should break up. im really sorry if this is too confusing you can ask questions or whatever you need. thanks for any advice in advance.

Sometimes people do change, however, things that has happened in the past, really need to stay in the past. If you feel like he's changed for the better, stay with him. If it's bothering you so much that you aren't able to have a good relationship with him, I would suggest moving on.

I believe that everyone makes mistakes and certain people do deserve second chances. If you know he hasn't cheated on you, I wouldn't be worried about his previous parteners. If he has and that's what you're worried about, leave him.

No one can make your mind up for you, all we can do is give you our input. If it was myself, I would be a forgive and forget type of person. If those things happened prior to our relationship, I wouldn't worry about it so much.

You have to also think about this: He lives in another state. How much do you trust him and trust what he's doing? He could very well be with other women right now as we speak, and you would never know. Sometimes people never change and that is the outcome of the situation. Unfaithfulness.

I'm not trying to make you upset, I'm just trying to give you different ways you can be looking at your situation. If you love him and believe it will work, stay with him. If you keep having this doubt in the back of your mind, go with the feeling because normally those little "feelings" always turn out right.

Good luck.

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My boyfriend has a bad habit of always being on his iPhone. While out to dinner with friends, watching a movie, pretty much every where. I try to get him off of it and after I say something he will, but 30 mins later he'll get back on. What should I do? It gets pretty annoying him always playing with his iPhone :-\

Asking him to pick his phone over you, isn't going to solve things. Sit him down and let him know that it bothers you A LOT when he stays on his phone. Tell him that he should be spending time with you, rather spending all his time on his phone. People get so caught up in their phones that they don't even know their doing it. If he knows how much it bothers you, he'll stop.

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Okay,

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 months now. In the beginning of the relationship everything was perfect he moved in with my family and is now living with me. Everything is still great but sometime early August his Mother and her boyfriend came down for a visit and stayed at a motel 5 minutes from my house...and I had to drive into the city to pick his mom up which is about (25-30 min drive) and she was supposed to stay for the weekend and ended up staying 4 days and for all the 4 days she was down I drove her and her boyfriend EVERYWHERE! and she only gave me 10 dollars for gas money. Ugh, To be honest I met my boyfriends mother once and I just hate her with a passion. I try to be respectful and nice because he is my boyfriends mother but I honestly can't stand her at all. I hate it when she calls my house wanting to talk to my boyfriend because she smootches off him sooooo much and it drives me up a wall. My boyfriends mom was on a housing list and she tried to get my boyfriend to sign the lease when he had no intention of even living with her. I told him he needs to make his own choices but if he signs a lease he will get screwed in the long run etc. She tried to get her boyfriend to move in along with my boyfriend signing the lease for her and the landlord didn't know about her trying to sneak him in. So when my boyfriend called the apartment complex to talk to the landlord he mentioned his mom had a boyfriend etc and now she called up my house saying on the answer machine how she didn't want to talk to her son because she is pissed at him etc. I don't know what to do! Ugh, I don't want her calling my house anymore but I also don't want to get in the middle of her and my boyfriend.. and I know that if she ever visits again I will be the taxi again and I honestly don't want that.

Any Advice!

*At witts end!*

First, talk to your boyfriend and definitely let him know you didn't appreciate having to drive HIS mom and her boyfriend EVERYWHERE. If he sees that it upset you and made you mad, he'll be a little more considerate next time.

You can't make a man pick between his girlfriend and his mom. It'll only be a heartbreaking decision. As much of a pain as his mother sounds like, sometimes you just have to accept her in order to be happy with your boyfriend.

Whatever you do, don't let him sign those papers. If he does, he's responsible for everything that goes on in that house. The rent, any damage, bills, etc. Let him know and make sure it's pounded in his brain that he will be signing his life over for his mother, pretty much.

It's hard for him to tell his mother "no" considering she is his mother, after all. But there is only so much she can push him to do until he needs to draw the line.

This sounds like the perfect time to tell her point blank -- NO! She's a grown woman, she shouldn't be depending on her son to support her when she has a boyfriend of her own.

Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that he doesn't have to do any of that for her. It's alright for a visit from her every now and then but why should you have to take them everywhere? After all, it is HIS mom, not yours. Not yet, anyways ;] Let him know, that if she comes back to visit, you refuse to pick her up or drive her anywhere because it's not really your responsibility to do so.

I'm not saying be rude to the lady, but by only giving you $10 to take her and her boyfriend everywhere, is a little ridiculous. So in a non-hurtful way, just let your boyfriend know that you don't mind them visiting, but you're not going to be used by them. Put your foot down.

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. He's 15, and I'm 14. Lately, it seems like he is loosing interest in me. He is in AP classes, on the soccer team, and in band. I feel like I'm never at the top of his list of priorities anymore. I need a cute but fun way to spice things up and get him more interested. Maybe if we have sex, he'll be excited about me again? I'm not really sure what to do. Help?

You're 14, you shouldn't even be thinking about sex. Not to mention, sex does NOT make things more exciting in a relationship. It can complicate things, actually.

As for "spicing" it up a bit, everyone will lose interest in their boyfriend/girlfriend after being together for so long and doing the same things over and over.

I'd suggest doing something ya'll have never done before. Go to the park & eat lunch there. Sort of like a picnic. Have him over & rent a movie. Go on a walk somewhere and just talk about everything there is to talk about. Include him in things you would normally do by yourself. Write him a letter & say something like, "my house, tonight for dinner:]" Then make him a dinner. Little things like that, does make a difference. Letting him know that you still care about him will make him more interested again. Suprise him with a card that says "just thinking of you" or make him a scrapbook with all of your photos and memories together. Good luck!

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female
13 years old.

Zack. Zack Garrett. I love him with all my heart, and I know what any of you reading this are thinking..it'll pass over. Someone else will come along. Well.. I've tried to let go after we broke up. I shunned all contact from him and didn't keep any reminders. Explored the single world you know? Well he was my best love. It's hard to imagine better until it happens.

When shunning him didn't exactly work, and I stopped, all the memories and thoughts of him invaded my mind almost immediately. I currently talk to him, and things are looking up for me again. I think we may hook up.

But this isn't the problem. The problem is, had I really thought of only him for a month straight? Every time I thought or saw romance he popped into my head. Every time I tried to date (or even thought about it for that matter!) I compared them to Zack and decided it wasn't worth it. Everything was HIM. I'd even find myself making up fake conversations or scenarios in my head. When he dated someone else I looked at his girlfriend's profile CONSTANTLY. Read their comments. Looked at their pictures together just to see him. I check in on his life so frequently I know all about all his friends and what he does on weekends! IS THIS NORMAL?

Does every girl think about their ex for a month straight after a break up? Am I obsessed? I feel exactly as in love with him as I did the very first day. It didn't sway in the least.

You're thirteen and I highly doubt that you're "in love." As much as you don't want to hear it, it WILL pass over. You WILL find someone new as you get older.

But I do know how you feel. I was that young once. I know how it feels to care about an ex boyfriend so much you'd do anything to get them back. I don't think you're obsessed. Obsession turns into stalking and I'm pretty sure you're not doing that.

As for the whole "hooking-up" deal. I sure hope you're not talking about sexual related things. If that is the case, you really need to re-think that one. Not only will it lead to more heartbreak, but it'll leave you with the feeling of being used.

If I was you, I would just sit down with him and talk to him. Tell him how you feel and how much you miss him. Even if it doesn't help, it still doesn't hurt to let him know. For all you know, he could still care about you just as much.

I cared about an ex for 3 years and I finally realized that it was time to move on. I thought about him day and night for them 3 years and realized what a big waste of my life it was. Eventually, you'll do the same. I hope everything works out for you though, dear. Give it a shot on talking to him!

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She threw up blood today and I don't know how to help her. I need some advice.

I once had a best friend who suffered from this. I was young and so was she, therefore I had no idea what to do about the situation. The worst thing I could have possibly done was not tell someone.

It got so bad, that when her parents found out she was already on the verge of dying from it. She was admitted into a hospital for a month and had to be fed through feeding tubes in her belly button.

I'm not telling you this to scare you, I'm telling you this to let you know that you really need to tell someone. It could cost you a friendship, but in the end she'll realize that you were only trying to help her.

If you're close with her parents, tell them as soon as possible. If not, tell your parents, a teacher, a school counsler, anyone with that kind of authority.

She won't admitt to having a problem, but if there are signs then they'll believe you.

Please get her the help she needs.

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My boyfriend and I have been together over three years. We love each other more than anything and still make each other so happy. We're both 18, but he's about to be 19. Some things to keep in mind are that we don't have sex, he is a little on the shy side, and he has only had one other girlfriend besides me (but she barely even counts- it was middle school).

The thing is, I'm constantly second guessing how he feels about me. For instance, sometimes I see other couples constantly pulling out all the stops to make the other happy, and comparing our relationship to theirs. The excitment of being in a new relationship is long past, and when I see these other couples, I automatically think "Well, if he still feels the same, then he should be doing that.." or whatever, when in the back of my mind I know it's silly. And when I say something that I think should provoke a cuter/sweeter response than what his was, I get bothered by it.

I KNOW that he loves me, and I'm tired of asking him to show me more often, because I know it's not his fault that I feel/think like this. Anyone have any advice on how I can get past comparing our relationship to others, and just accept that we're unique and he shows his love differently than other guys?

Some guys show their emotions in strange ways. My boyfriend is just like that. He's not all lovey-dovey but I know he cares about me. You can't spend forever comparing your relationship to other peoples relationships because not every person is the same. Some guys love holding hands and kissing, while others would prefer to just walk next to their girlfriend. It's not weird, it's just how guys choose to show their emotions. You said yourself he's a little shy, so why not try to open him up a little bit? When he least expects it, grab his hand and hold him closer to you. It'll show him you care and it'll make him want to do that to you more often. When you're next to him, kiss him. The more things you do for him like that, the more he will open up. There are a lot of people who don't like to do that kind of stuff in public, so if he's one of those people, you just have to accept it. You know he loves you, you know he cares about you, so sometimes you have to make adjustments. If things still don't feel right between the two of you, sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him why doesn't he show you affection like you see in other couples. You don't have to be all over eachother to prove your feelings to that person. It's something you just feel in your heart. Accept your relationship and be thankful that you have such a wonderful boyfriend aside from the shyness. If he didn't care about you, he wouldn't have been with you for three years. Just remember that! But trust me, as time goes by, he'll open up. Good luck!

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I'm 16. I'm sexually active. I've been with 3 guys. I understand that I'm young, but thats not the point here.

I'm a chubby girl. I'm not exactly fat, but I do have a lot of pudge in my stomach area. Every other area of my body is fine except for my stomach, in my opinion.

When I'm having sex, I get really self conscious about my weight. That's why I refuse to be on top. I want the courage to be on top and to take control without being self conscious about my weight.

Besides losing weight, what are some things that I can do to feel more comfortable?

Feeling comfortable about yourself takes a lot. Everyone has something they hate about theirself. It's normal. It's human. If you have sex with guys that you aren't dating and that you don't have a good connection with, you're always going to feel like your not good enough for them to look at you naked. When you find someone that you have been dating for a while, you grow comfortable around them. When someone cares about you, they care about you. Not what you look like or how much you weigh. It's all about being comfortable with yourself. You can never be comfortable with anyone looking at your body, if your not comfortable looking at your own body. Beauty is what's on the inside, not the out. If you always put yourself down, then others will see that too. Don't point out your flaws, point out all of your beautiful qualities. Trust me on this one. I've always been the one to hate my body and the way I look. I eventually grew comfortable with myself and my appearance. If you have good self-confidence, then others will think your beautiful too. Tell yourself that you're beautiful even when you feel ugly. Boost up your confidence by flaunting your better qualities. Not everyone cares about what you look like, sweetie. It's what inside that counts. As cheesy as it may sound, It's the god's honest truth. Hope I helped!

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Okay, I love my boyfriend. We have been dating for ten months now, and something happened in the first two or three months we were dating. An ex-boyfriend of mine would call really like at night, once my boyfriend (Chase) and I had gotten off the phone. I never expected him to call, nor did I ever say call back.. We talked for a good 2-3 hours and then we'd get off the phone. He would end the conversation by saying "I Love You". and I said it back.

I told my boyfriend about this, and we nearly broke up over it.. It entirely broke my heart- but we're trying to sort through things now, but there's still a problem.

I cannot forget about what I did to him. Everytime we laugh, or have a good time- I think about how I have hurt him. I truly don't know how to forget about the past and move on..


Any Advice?

If you've been with your boyfriend for 10 months, then there should be no reason you're telling your ex-boyfriend you love him. If you do still have feelings for him, then I suggest ending things with your boyfriend before it gets worse. Since you've done that, you're boyfriend will always have that doubt in his mind that you're doing something behind his back. He can say he forgives you, but he's probably thinking about it just as much as you are. The reason you keep thinking about it, is because of guilt. You care about your boyfriend and don't want anything to happen between the two of you, but your guilt is eating at you.


To get over the whole guilt trip, I suggest talking to your boyfriend about it. Let him know that it's still bothering you. Show him that he means a lot to you & that you wouldn't ever do that again. If he understands how bad you really feel and thinks your being sincere about it, he'll understand and fully forgive you.

You also need to speak to your ex-boyfriend. Tell him that you're fully over him and don't want any part in his life anymore. Stop talking to him until things get better with your boyfriend. You don't have to stop being friends with your ex, but if it's going to ruin your relationship then I wouldn't speak to him anymore.

Good Luck.

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For about the past month, I've had a really uncomfortable feeling in my vagina. I'll get a really strong burning sensation where i HAVE to itch otherwise I almost scream in pain. My discharge is pretty normal, but the itch is constant and there's a burning sensation when I wipe after urinating? What is this?

If you shave down there, it will cause itching. If not, I've heard of a lot of girls that 'itch' down there sometimes. It's not that big of a concern. If there is that burning feeling after using the bathroom, it's a yeast infection. Their very uncomfortable. You can save a trip to the doctors and go to your local drugstore. They have creams and medicine there for yeast infections. It should go away within 3-7 days. Good luck, I know how bad yeast infections suck =[

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ok, so within the past year 1/2 i've become best friends with this kid Chris. lately, we've been talking everyday on the comp. and every night on the phone. however, yesterday a girl from my school IMed me and asked me if i liked him because someone told her i did. but i told her i like him as a friend. . .then I told him what happened, and all he said was "oh"...but now he's been saying he has to go a lot, and he hasn't called me, and he gives me 1 word answers, or none at all. but he has a GIRLFRIEND who he does not talk about. so im not sure if he likes me or not. and it's been on my mind since it happened, so i don't know if i like him too.

but his friend (& my friend) likes me too...

maybe he feels awkward about it?
maybe i shouldn't have told him?
maybe he likes me?
idk. help!

When you told him what you said to the girl about liking him as only a friend, he might of got his feelings hurt. If I was you, I wouldn't waste any time with this guy. If he has a girlfriend and is spending a lot of his time talking to another girl (you), then what makes you think he wouldn't do that to you if you were dating him? He just doesn't sound like a good person to have a relationship with. But, if you insist then let him know you only said that because you didn't want his girlfriend to know that you liked him. He might of got his hopes up for nothing when you told him that you said you liked him as a 'friend'. Good luck!

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