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My boyfriend and I have been together over three years. We love each other more than anything and still make each other so happy. We're both 18, but he's about to be 19. Some things to keep in mind are that we don't have sex, he is a little on the shy side, and he has only had one other girlfriend besides me (but she barely even counts- it was middle school).
The thing is, I'm constantly second guessing how he feels about me. For instance, sometimes I see other couples constantly pulling out all the stops to make the other happy, and comparing our relationship to theirs. The excitment of being in a new relationship is long past, and when I see these other couples, I automatically think "Well, if he still feels the same, then he should be doing that.." or whatever, when in the back of my mind I know it's silly. And when I say something that I think should provoke a cuter/sweeter response than what his was, I get bothered by it.
I KNOW that he loves me, and I'm tired of asking him to show me more often, because I know it's not his fault that I feel/think like this. Anyone have any advice on how I can get past comparing our relationship to others, and just accept that we're unique and he shows his love differently than other guys?
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Some guys show their emotions in strange ways. My boyfriend is just like that. He's not all lovey-dovey but I know he cares about me. You can't spend forever comparing your relationship to other peoples relationships because not every person is the same. Some guys love holding hands and kissing, while others would prefer to just walk next to their girlfriend. It's not weird, it's just how guys choose to show their emotions. You said yourself he's a little shy, so why not try to open him up a little bit? When he least expects it, grab his hand and hold him closer to you. It'll show him you care and it'll make him want to do that to you more often. When you're next to him, kiss him. The more things you do for him like that, the more he will open up. There are a lot of people who don't like to do that kind of stuff in public, so if he's one of those people, you just have to accept it. You know he loves you, you know he cares about you, so sometimes you have to make adjustments. If things still don't feel right between the two of you, sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him why doesn't he show you affection like you see in other couples. You don't have to be all over eachother to prove your feelings to that person. It's something you just feel in your heart. Accept your relationship and be thankful that you have such a wonderful boyfriend aside from the shyness. If he didn't care about you, he wouldn't have been with you for three years. Just remember that! But trust me, as time goes by, he'll open up. Good luck!
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humm well you could hang out more talk more....and when you see antoher couple just turn your head and count to 5 or somthing
yes i believes he still loves you but if you dont do anything soon he will always love you but he might forget....
i know this is short any questions just ask
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take a deep breath and step back from the fray.
Take things day by day and just remind yourself anytime you feel or think that way that you love this guy you're in love with. Would you love him any different if he did those things? Would he even be the same guy you love if he did those things?
It takes a while but that's the best advice I can give. To take a deep breath and think about things.
Cheers,
stargirl
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