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should i stop talking to him?
the past month i've been talking to this boy who i really do like but everyone says hes no good for me. i can see where their all coming from because all he does all day is smoke weed and hang out in the streets. i dont know if i should just let him go and stop talking to him. i would feel so bad if i did that though because he is faithful to me unlike all the other past relationships i've been in. i have talked to him about it before but he just doesn't want to stop smoking.
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I was in the same predicament 4 months ago, same guy problem, he smokes and everything. Well anyways main point, Dumo him before you get to attached. I'm 15 only, but the same thing EXACTLY happened to me, i dont know if you guys had sex yet like i did with him, but i regret it. Because he said he was faithful and wasnt. So dump him. Alright, he wont stop smoking for you. No matter what.
Im going to tell you a little story.
I used to be emo, a wrist cutter.
And my ex, pot head.and smoked cigarets.
well yeah, i didnt like him smoking so i told him everytime he smoked i would cut myself, 5 times.
When he did smoke, i cut my self in front of him.
I said that i would do that because smoking kills you, and so does cutting. So when he killed a little bit of him, i did the same.
He still smoked behind my back, as long as he was able to smoke, he fine, he didnt like me cutting but he didnt care he just wanted to smoke.
he said I LOVE YOU
WHEN WE GET OLDER WE'LL GET MARRIED
and all that stuff, i thought to myself,
no guy has loved me like that, so i stayed with him, despite his smoking habits.
Then one day, it was my turn to hang out with him, and i love tennis, so i asked him to come play with me, and he did show up, but he was HIGH, and then like he started beating me with the racket. and he thought it was funny.
Main point, a guy that does drugs and what not is not good, no matter how much you love them, i still love him til this day. but he's dispeared, i dont think hes dead, but he gone, no one has any way to contact him or anything.
He might leave you just like that too.
So please dont try to get closer to him.
Oh and i dont know if you guys are dating, you said relationships. so i assumed. but yeah, dont get involved or you will want the bad boys all the time. When you dont do any of that stuff yourself.
Hope i helped
and i hope you dont make the same mistake i did.
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If he likes you enough, he would stop. Just tell him that if your going to be in a relationship with him, he has to stop and if he dosen't, he dosen't deserve you. If he does, then you know he really likes you and is willing to give that up for you. Don't cave in..tell him how you feel. Hope this helps!
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If he really wants to start a relationship with you then he will be willing to change for you. If him smoking week really bothers you then you should stop talking to him
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ive been in this situation before. go ahead and get together with him just tell him not to smoke around you. thatll make him stop smoking as much, eventually. dont expect him to just stop. thatll never happen in a 1,000,000 years! then gradually start hanging out with him more and more, which will make him smoke less and less. then when you guys have started going out for A WHILE kinda give him subtle hints that you dont like it when he smokes and if he could try to SMOKE LESS. DO NOT ASK HIM TO STOP COMPLETELY. then, if he says no, say ok, and leave him alone. then in a couple of days do it again. if he keeps saying no, then youll just have to accept it until he decides that you really want him to stop.
i hope i helped!!
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i know how you feel and what your going through....
i to have been in the same situation....and even if this isnt the answer your looking for i really should tell you....well i to loved my boyfriend who did weed....and i always told him its stupid and you really need to stop but he never listend, i got so sad for him and me because i didnt wanna lose him but i had to think of myself...
and even though it wasnt me doing this it was hurting me emotionally so..i had to tell him...i love you more than anything in the world and i hope you know that already but....we cant be together if your gonna continue this....im sorry.
we both cried but i knew that if he really loved me and wanted to prove hes better than that he would have stopped and he didnt....it was one of the harddest things i've ever had to do but im okay know and as the saying goes there are other fish in the sea....
i know its hard right now and i know you like him but think of everything that can happen to you and to him if your with him......
i really hope i helped please just take my advice you dont have to listen but i do care because i went through it.
-ally
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