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I'm 18 and I really need advice.
When I was 15 years old I met a guy (he was 16 at the time) and I thought he was really gross because he was always hooking up with all these girls. He tried to start talking to me and he had kissed me once and he kept telling me he liked me but he didn't want a g/f. I told him that he just wasn't my type and I was over the games. After I said that he asked me to give him a week to get rid of all his hook ups that he had. I wasn't exactly going to hold my breath. Sure enough though exactly one week later he asked me out. Now, me being so young and NEVER having a boyfriend before I thought that was really sweet...
The guy was into a lot of bad things. Like being sexually active, drinking, smoking, and his friends were just as bad and rude. But I really wanted to fit in and I wanted him to really like me and have my fairy tale ending.
He was very manipulative but because I was only 15 I didn't notice it. I thought he loved me a lot...
We dated for over 8 months and then he broke up with me. Then for 6 months after that he kept leading me on asking me to wait for him and I kept going back to him. Well, finally we stopped talking, but I was always hearing stories about the mean stuff he would say about me to his friends.
He told me that he never really loved me and that I was only a bet between him and his friend that I never liked and always called me names to my face.
Anyway, it's been about a year since all of this has blown over but just 4 days ago he turns up in my life again. He told me he was sorry because he knows how I feel now because some girl broke his heart that he was madly in love with and bought her a ring and everything for. He claims he doesn't remember how bad he treated me and would "love to hang out with me and not have any tension between us" and I saw him at a store two days ago and I just wanted to hit him.
The thing I need advice on guys is, why am I still so hurt after it being about a year or so? I usually never hold grudges against people, I forgive pretty easily I think and I don't like the feelings I am getting about him. I am such a happy person when he is not around but anytime he shows up in my life I think of all the things he told me and how I gave myself up to him and how I truly cared for him, how stupid I feel, and how much I think he is a bad person for knowing I was so young and unaware but still used me for a bet with his friends who ACTUALLY paid him. He promised me he'd never tell anyone... He promised me and told me a lot of things that he didn't mean and I'm so sad, hurt, angry, and upset. But I want to move on... I just need help. I feel like such an idiot for not seeing how bad he was... And I feel so alone.
And I'm not sure if this matters but, I was home schooled since 4th grade. So, yeah it is very different for me and wanting to fit in and knowing what's "normal" for people my age. And I did sleep with him but not because I wanted to. I wanted to wait til marriage and I haven't had a bf since this guy and I don't want to be with another guy again because I'm so scared he'll do the same thing to me. I want to wait til I'm married I just want this feeling to go away. I'm sorry that this is so long but I can't talk about this with anyone else and it's a lot to carry. I'm just still so upset with my self, him, and everything. And like I said, not only am I still angry with him. But I haven't been in a relationship since because anytime a guy tires to get close to me, I mess things up because I'm too scared to be with any guy. Can anyone help me at all? Am I completely crazy? (Oh and please no being rude okay? I already regret things enough. I'm really looking for some good advice and guidance here...) (link)
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Female: 15
You're story, is my story. I mean EXACTLY. The same. Except i wasnt home schooled. A Bet yup thats what happened to me. You know, i know how i feel because my ex did the same to me. And i still suffer from that. This is what i do, i just think about something like, You know try to date someone else, try to fill your mind, try to just admire a guys looks and personality, this is what i am doing right now, but i still think about him, but not as much. Your question, makes me worry, because im 15 and that same thing is happeneing to me right now, and you're still hurting. I'm sorry if i didnt help. I just want to try, but i cant even help myself.
I'm sorry for wasting your time reading this.
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what are some websites that talk about china's economy and the threat it could have on america in the future. (link)
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Well what i do whenever i look that certain topic is go to like google, or ask jeeves, or a news site. or if you can read like chinese or something. Just google like:
China's economy and affect on the world,
those are like the key words you can use. ^-^
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Hi,
I'm a guy, 15, and I did karate for 5 years from age 7 to 12, and I quit because the only reason my is was attending was because my dad was making me go. Right now I want to start training, but I don't want to go back to my old one. I'm looking for a studio that's for people that want to train seriously, and not a place in the center of town where kids join and quit all the time, and it's more like all you have to do to get a black belt is attend, and not get good. My last studio was like this and basically it was more like a place for kids to run around and play and parents to have fun dressing there kid up in a karate uniform. I want to go to good, traditional place where you can really train hard and get good. Does anyone have any advice on how I could find a place like this? I remember watching the movie Never Back Down, and it really made me want more than ever to start training again. The way the people trained in the movie is an example of kind of what I'm looking for.. (link)
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Well, first of all where do you live at?
I have the same problem, im 15 and i want to train too. If you live in Portland Oregon, then i can help you, if not then all i can say is to look it up online.
Hope i help some how.
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You know how all these sites have playlists you can make now. Well are there any that look like the music thing on music sites on MySpace? (link)
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Hi,
Umm the only one i know of is IMEEM.COM
so you can try that. :D
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the past month i've been talking to this boy who i really do like but everyone says hes no good for me. i can see where their all coming from because all he does all day is smoke weed and hang out in the streets. i dont know if i should just let him go and stop talking to him. i would feel so bad if i did that though because he is faithful to me unlike all the other past relationships i've been in. i have talked to him about it before but he just doesn't want to stop smoking. (link)
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I was in the same predicament 4 months ago, same guy problem, he smokes and everything. Well anyways main point, Dumo him before you get to attached. I'm 15 only, but the same thing EXACTLY happened to me, i dont know if you guys had sex yet like i did with him, but i regret it. Because he said he was faithful and wasnt. So dump him. Alright, he wont stop smoking for you. No matter what.
Im going to tell you a little story.
I used to be emo, a wrist cutter.
And my ex, pot head.and smoked cigarets.
well yeah, i didnt like him smoking so i told him everytime he smoked i would cut myself, 5 times.
When he did smoke, i cut my self in front of him.
I said that i would do that because smoking kills you, and so does cutting. So when he killed a little bit of him, i did the same.
He still smoked behind my back, as long as he was able to smoke, he fine, he didnt like me cutting but he didnt care he just wanted to smoke.
he said I LOVE YOU
WHEN WE GET OLDER WE'LL GET MARRIED
and all that stuff, i thought to myself,
no guy has loved me like that, so i stayed with him, despite his smoking habits.
Then one day, it was my turn to hang out with him, and i love tennis, so i asked him to come play with me, and he did show up, but he was HIGH, and then like he started beating me with the racket. and he thought it was funny.
Main point, a guy that does drugs and what not is not good, no matter how much you love them, i still love him til this day. but he's dispeared, i dont think hes dead, but he gone, no one has any way to contact him or anything.
He might leave you just like that too.
So please dont try to get closer to him.
Oh and i dont know if you guys are dating, you said relationships. so i assumed. but yeah, dont get involved or you will want the bad boys all the time. When you dont do any of that stuff yourself.
Hope i helped
and i hope you dont make the same mistake i did.
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ive always had a major depression disorder, but its never been like this. it all started when i had sex for the first time. everyone is a little moody when it comes to losing their virginity, especially if they are a teenage girl. i was kind of young when i first did it. 15, to be exact. i was very happy with the guy i lost it with, but i kept feeling like a slut cuz we had only been dating for about 3 months. and also i knew it was wrong to do it, but i did it anyways. so i was depressed a lot. i thought everything was fine between us, but then he started avoiding me and not returning my ims and texts and calls, and i knew from the start he had met someone else. so, he finally broke up with me and started dating that girl. he still is, and they seem very happy. we talk every now and again, like maybe once a week, but we arent exactly friends.
anyways, ive been having these random episodes of mental/emotional breakdown and panic and rage. like, when i went on his profile and saw that he has a petname for her, i got so pissed off and stabbed my radio with a knife and tore it apart and sliced my hand on purpose and destroyed this glass gift he had given me on my 15th birthday. and then the last time i saw him, i had found out that he cheated on me with that girl. and everything just broke. i was kicking him and screaming and slapping him and pounding on his "area" and trying to get some answers outta him, but he wouldnt talk. so i basically destroyed his room. finally, he apologized and was sincere about it (as far as i know) but ive still been pissed off and unhappy. ive been beyond depressed and ive cried almost everyday for the past two months and ive started cutting again. and ive started arguing with myself. like, inside my head. and i talk to myself and start having conversations with him even though hes not even there and i just pretend he is. and for about the past week ive been sicker than ive ever been. im not hungry, and usually im always hungry. (but i also smoke, so would that do anything to my appetite?) and ive been cold and feverish all over and its like a sinus cold but it wont go away. ive tried everything!
does it have to do with him or is it all in my head??????? (link)
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female: 15
I have the same exact problem, except that is just happened, well he broke up with me 4 months ago and im still brooding over it. I try to date other guys, but then i get the feeling, im to dirty, im already used so i cant date you. BUT, then i just started thinking, am i really going to spend the rest of my life crying over this guy, no matter what i already did, like have sex, already happen and it cant be erased so what i do is that i try my best to move forward, and whenever u have those mental flashback, shake your head and tell yourself no more thinking, you are going to have to constantly tell yourself that. I'm exactly like you, i started cutting and everything. I've been diagnoised with depression since i was 11 years. If he cheated on you, then he wasn't worth your time, even though you may think how can you trust another guy after this, just remember, you only have one life, and one chance to live it. Try your best to move on, and if u want any more advice, just write me and i will help you. oh and i dont know if the psychaiatrist will help you, because i know for sure that they didnt help me. I only ask people based on Experience, not knowledge. :D So i hope i helped.
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uh, I dont want any comments on how this will screw up my relationship with my friend, but...
I was hanging out with my friends brother at her house, with my friend and a bunch of other girls. I've met him only once- & only saw him for long enough to say hi, but he elects to sit by me, of all people. Very, very close to me. We watched a horror movie first, which neither of us had seen, and made random comments/friendly banter in different languages throughout. Then we got to the chickflick. He gets up, leaves for a little bit, then comes back and sits down right next to me (again) even though one of the girls had left and there was more room further away from me. About fifteen minutes into the movie, he's laying on the floor, turned towards me, and pokes me lightly and asks if I actually enjoy this sort of movie. I didnt want to be rude, so I muttered something noncommital and turned back.
(end scene one)
(start scene two)
So I'm obsessed with ringpops and I had one, but when I was done, I accidentally dropped it on the ground and this girl stepped on it. So I got up to go to the kitchen, and after about two minutes of trying to figure out where the gdmn soap was so I could wash it off, he gets up and walks over to me. Standing REALLY close, he asked me what I was doing. So I told him, and instead of sticking his arm in front of me to grab the soap (on plain view) he reaches behind me, wrapping his arm around my shoulders. I said thanks, and he stayed like that a little while until someone else walked into the room.
(end scene)
Also, whenever I would go upstairs to look for something, or go to the bathroom, he'd follow me.
I have a few questions & if you can only answer one, reply anyways. I might mention that he's the opposite of my type, but there's something that confuses me...&
he's quite a bit older (3 years, to be specific)
1. What were all of those signals for? What do they mean?
2. Why am I all (positively) bothered by this? I can't stop thinking about it
3. What am I supposed to do about the whole thing? There's a slight chance I might see him this weekend, so what should I do if that happens?
Thanks to anyone who tries to help offer a little clarity. I feel like I'm swimming in mud. D:
(& sorry its so obnoxiously long) (link)
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I think he is flirting with you and if u like him you should do it too. if not then make sure he understands that your not interetested/
You're probably bothered by it because you dont know what it means or you like it
if u see him again just give him a warm smile
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i lost my friends vidoe ipod and now i hve to give her mine. but i need to erase all my music becuase we dont listen to the same. so how do i erase my music please help me i have to give it to her today thanks (link)
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Hiya i have one too.
Well go to itunes delete the songs u have on ur playlists. then sync your ipod again that's what my friend did! and by the way that is very nice of you! ^^
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im a pretty friendly person i guess... i like talking to people and i always try to be really nice to everyone. so i talk to a lot of different people on myspace, AIM and texting. but when i start talking to guys and get to know them, sometimes they end up thinking that i like them. and then they start liking me. its not like im being flirty or anything, i just talk about normal stuff. so im not leading them on or anything. but i feel really guilty, cuz i just like them as friends (and btw i do have a bf). sometimes i think, maybe i shouldnt talk to guys at all, cuz it will only make them think i like them. is it possible to talk with guys and just be friends? or do they always end up wanting it to be more? (link)
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Hey,
i know what you're talking about i have the same problem. But the thing is you can still talk to guys, just try not to be so friendly. That's what i do. I go to my boyfriend when im talking to them to say, "Hey, I have a man" Without using words. I hope i helped. ~Lisa Age 14
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ugh okay so im only 13 and i hate my life. like its not bad or anything but im always depressed and ive had a lot of stuff happen to me latly that i just cant handle and it doesnt take much to make me sad or mad and ive already tried to commit sucide but that didnt work and i want to run away so bad but i dont think i could go through with it and im just to confused as to wat to do becuz i dont wanna see a counserlour and i really dont think im depressed so i dont need to take any pills but is there something wrong with me and if so how can i fix it? this has been going on for way to long and i just want to give up and run away so bad (link)
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OMG, you sound exactly like me, and i mean exatcly. Listen, start a journal or listen to music. Yeah i know what you mean i don't like counsulers because they don't understand what the hell you were going through, so anyway, if your like me and don't have any friends, then there's not much you can do. But you can realize everything. You can realize how stupppppid most people are and that they don't understand much things. listen e-mail me @
little_zelda05@yahoo.com
and tell me everything alright? THanks, i really wanna tell you okay? Oh and I'm Lisa
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okay well this is going to be REALLY long so brace yourselfs.....okay well it all started last year when i first saw him....lets call him Trance...okay well i liked him so me and my freind decided to put a note in his locker saying that i like him....we did and yeah it couaght his attention...then we did it again and this time his freinds asked me about it then we decied to mess with him and put little pranks in his locker and this year my freind ddi something really stupid to him and i did something to his feind to get back at his freind for takin my cousins g/f well turns out i got the wriong one then i prank call his other friend to get backat him and over christams break he went to chruch camp and i did to. well he found out about the prank calls and after i got home from camp i saw he had invited me to myspace after i accepted him he sent me a message asking me about all the stuff i did i told him why and then he told me about his bad past with drug and stuff then i told him about my past with it too. he asked me for my im and we talked for about 10 min then i had to go. after that the next day he instant messaged me and said hey before i got hom and hasn't said a word to me since. today his friends were looking at me all funny and smiling and he won't even look me in the eye like he usually does. I fell very tense when i get near him like something is wrong....i was just wondering what you thought of the situation....i think it is a setup just to get me to admit stuff but i don't know i just know he hasn't ever felt that uncomfortable around me....i mean we usually look at each other and he won't even do that. Not to mention his freinds are looking at me. It"s just to wierd i don't know what to think
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Wow, that is one situation. Well, i asked a guy out and he never answered me and i feel very tense around him too. So the only thing you really can do is talk to him.Build up your courage and ask him what's going on. And if he's online, message him. Don't wait to ask, because the day you see him, might be your last.Another girl might make her move or something. Make sure you ask him striaght forward and the first time you see him. If he;s with friends...ask to speak to him.And look at him not at the floor or anything, alright? Have some faith. i have faith in you. ^__^ Hope i helped!
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how do you make out? haha (link)
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Haha, i asked this question last year, my friends told to do the alphabet with my toungue, so you can always try that, it was kewl.
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Ive liked this guy on and off for 3 years.
Just last night, he RANDOMLY started talking to me, he was mad at me for about 3 months.
He was trying to make conversation , i could tell.
He told me him and his girlfriend were going to break up but then he was asking me about this other girl, he claims that he doesnt like her though.
Then he brought up the past things we have done together, then today i figured he would talk to me but he didnt ,, unless he does later but i doubt it.
Whats going on here?
15/f (link)
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I think he starting to like you, you can play hard to get, but not to hard okay? Tease him a lil, then see what happens. well, there ya go.
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Alright so. I have an amazing boyfriend who I love so much and would do anything for him... We have been dating for 6 months.. But theres other guys who like me and I still talk to them.. Like a lot of guys try and flirt with me and all and I don't want to be like STOP IT and sound all rude, but my friends say I kinda lead other guys on. I mean all guys know I have a boyfriend and that I am off limits, but it still doesn't stop them. (link)
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Yeah, i had this rob last year. lol. well anyway, the only thing you can do is be nice but show them how much you love your man in front of the guys. This will tell them sry, i'm taken so back off, PLEASE! And make sure it's something to blow their minds, alright? Well, hope i helpd! ~Hisa!
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