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can you be just friends with guys?
13/f
im a pretty friendly person i guess... i like talking to people and i always try to be really nice to everyone. so i talk to a lot of different people on myspace, AIM and texting. but when i start talking to guys and get to know them, sometimes they end up thinking that i like them. and then they start liking me. its not like im being flirty or anything, i just talk about normal stuff. so im not leading them on or anything. but i feel really guilty, cuz i just like them as friends (and btw i do have a bf). sometimes i think, maybe i shouldnt talk to guys at all, cuz it will only make them think i like them. is it possible to talk with guys and just be friends? or do they always end up wanting it to be more?
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Hey,
i know what you're talking about i have the same problem. But the thing is you can still talk to guys, just try not to be so friendly. That's what i do. I go to my boyfriend when im talking to them to say, "Hey, I have a man" Without using words. I hope i helped. ~Lisa Age 14
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Yo.
Ot's easy for people of the same gender to be friends, girls friends with girls, blah blah blah.
Of course you should keep talking to them. You aren't being flirty at all. You aqre just being the friendly person that you are. I talk to a lot of guys and we are pretty good friends. We talk to each other in school and on IM and no one thinks that we are being flirty. If people think that, then tell them that you are just friends and nothing more. Obviously, your boyfriend doesnt seem to mind. If he starts to have a problem with it, then you should talk to him and tell him that you only want to be friends with these guys and nothing more, just friends. Keep on talking to the guys, as they say, you can never have too many friends, no matter what gender. You should keep being friendly to people and keep giving out kindness :) :) :) :)
-YOLIV :) :) :)
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It's much easier for girls to have platonic friendships with guys than it is for guys to have platonic friendships with girls. It's a sad reality for us girls, because many of us LOVE having guy friends. Personally, I don't really get along with girls, so all my friends are guys. And I know all too well what it feels like to find out the guy that you like/love as a friend likes/loves you in a completely different way.
There really is no way around this. Girls and guys have different agendas. We think with the head on our shoulders and they think with an entirely different head. Whereas most of us girls are satisfied with the relationships we have with our guy friends, they're usually not satisfied until they've sealed the deal. To put it bluntly, they want to get in our pants. That's why many (most) guys refuse to have girls as friends - most can't fathom the idea of being friends with their prey.
Don't get me wrong, we're not perfect - we have our agendas too. While guys are on the lookout for sex, we're generally on the lookout for love. The difference is, we tend to be collectors - we want it all. If we meet a nice guy, but he isn't a compatible mate for us, we still want to hold onto him and keep him as a friend. When guys meet a girl and realize it's not going to go anywhere sexually, they tend to discard the girl and move on to continue their hunt.
If they don't discard the girl, just know that way back into the creepy dark corners of their minds, it's because they still think there's a possibility for sex. That's why girls and guys make the best friends when there's flirting involved. It keeps both us and them intrigued enough with the possibility that there could be more, while we get our friendship fix. So if you're strictly looking for a platonic friendship, you have to be honest about what it is you're looking for.
It may be a while before you find that great guy friend, but he'll be there. I have a few guy friends that I can't imagine my life without. The friendships we share are fun, flirty, and sincere. I wouldn't trade them for the world. So just keep being honest about what you want and you may be lucky enough to find some guy friends who fit your requirements. Just know that one day when you're sad and low, crying on their shoulders, they're still going to be looking down at your cleavage when they think you aren't looking. :)
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you should keep talking to them. most people just have that way about them that seems flirty to them but not to you, its just who you are. i have a friend who doesnt even realize she is flirting. you aren't leading them on especially if you have a boyfriend and eventually the guys will realize that.
hope this helped =]
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Of course, it's possible to be just friends with guys! They don't always want more. Try being friends with guys that already have girlfriends so there no pressure.
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