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LOVE QUESTION...14 and in love?
Lilmama, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.
the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...
whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help
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Being at an age where you're not really sure what love exactly means is really hard. I've been there and went through that. I can honestly say, that as you get older, time does heal everything. There is nothing wrong with caring about someone this much at your age.
It just sounds to me, that you're not really ready for a relationship. I'm not saying you're immature, but you are most likely not mature enough for a relationship. Which means, you want to be in one, but you don't at the same time. You're young and you only live once.
For you being 14, I would suggest trying to move on. There are millions of guys out there that would love to date you, but you just have to give them a chance. For all we know, you could meet someone new that you fall harder for. I understand what you're saying about really liking him, but not wanting to be with him.
My advice to you, is to really try to just move on. I know it may be hard and you'll think about him a lot, but sometimes it really is for the better. Go out and meet some new people that you may be interested in. Just remember that you'll never be fully happy with another guy if you keep running back to your ex. I wouldn't rush into anything with anyone else if you think that something would happen with your ex while you have a boyfriend. That's not fair to the guy your dating and really not fair to your ex either.
As you get older, you'll learn more about love and being in a relationship. I would just be single and keep your options open. Over the years, you'll mature more and more, and eventually want to be with someone. If you don't want to be with your ex, then try to get over him. I know it's hard, but just really try. It'll be for the better, I promise.
Good luck, let me know how things work out.
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