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I think I have an actual obsession with him.
female
13 years old.
Zack. Zack Garrett. I love him with all my heart, and I know what any of you reading this are thinking..it'll pass over. Someone else will come along. Well.. I've tried to let go after we broke up. I shunned all contact from him and didn't keep any reminders. Explored the single world you know? Well he was my best love. It's hard to imagine better until it happens.
When shunning him didn't exactly work, and I stopped, all the memories and thoughts of him invaded my mind almost immediately. I currently talk to him, and things are looking up for me again. I think we may hook up.
But this isn't the problem. The problem is, had I really thought of only him for a month straight? Every time I thought or saw romance he popped into my head. Every time I tried to date (or even thought about it for that matter!) I compared them to Zack and decided it wasn't worth it. Everything was HIM. I'd even find myself making up fake conversations or scenarios in my head. When he dated someone else I looked at his girlfriend's profile CONSTANTLY. Read their comments. Looked at their pictures together just to see him. I check in on his life so frequently I know all about all his friends and what he does on weekends! IS THIS NORMAL?
Does every girl think about their ex for a month straight after a break up? Am I obsessed? I feel exactly as in love with him as I did the very first day. It didn't sway in the least.
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You're thirteen and I highly doubt that you're "in love." As much as you don't want to hear it, it WILL pass over. You WILL find someone new as you get older.
But I do know how you feel. I was that young once. I know how it feels to care about an ex boyfriend so much you'd do anything to get them back. I don't think you're obsessed. Obsession turns into stalking and I'm pretty sure you're not doing that.
As for the whole "hooking-up" deal. I sure hope you're not talking about sexual related things. If that is the case, you really need to re-think that one. Not only will it lead to more heartbreak, but it'll leave you with the feeling of being used.
If I was you, I would just sit down with him and talk to him. Tell him how you feel and how much you miss him. Even if it doesn't help, it still doesn't hurt to let him know. For all you know, he could still care about you just as much.
I cared about an ex for 3 years and I finally realized that it was time to move on. I thought about him day and night for them 3 years and realized what a big waste of my life it was. Eventually, you'll do the same. I hope everything works out for you though, dear. Give it a shot on talking to him!
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Wow.
Nice to know I'm not the only one!
I totally get you.
I've just got to say that unfortunately a month isn't enough to get over someone who you deeply love.
You'll probably would have had to waited a lot longer, and you should have occupied yourself by seeing you're friends too. Or doing whatever makes you happy I guess.
I thought about one of my ex's for a hell of a lot longer than a month.
Chances are, if you do love him for real, then you may always love him...
Even if its only a little bit.
I know, it sucks. At your age I met someone I fell hard for, too. I compared every guy to him and realized there was nobody like him. Whenever I logged on to the internet I'd go on his to check if he had new comments. And when he got a girlfriend I always checked her pro and pics!
Obsession?
Maybe.
But I think that its normal.
It's good to hear things are going good with him at the moment though, but be careful you don't become too clingy.
Wishing you luck :)
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Hahah, yeah, unfortunately, that's pretty normal. You don't have an obsession with him, [right now, at least] I'd say, you just miss him. They say you can't ever forget your first love, or your first heart break. A lot of people [even after growing up] still have a little soft spot for their first. You're young, don't rush things.
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I'm kinda new at this, but I will suggest that I was, well kinda am going through the same scenario.. To help me get through it, I tend to think about other things, yeah yeah sounds boring, but I try to keep my mind occupied on other things and then slowly it seems as if I'm not "crushing" as bad or am slowly accepting the fact that she's no longer dating me and that we're just friends.. It's been hurting me for a while now, but I try to just keep my mind elsewhere until my mind just kinda accepts the fact.. It took me a while, a very long while, but I'm slowly getting better..
I'm sorry, I doubt it's a good "answer" but I just figured I'd give it a shot..
Good luck!
Chase
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