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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half. Lately, I have been extremely irritable and dont want to talk to him or see him. Last year at school all I did was study (didnt go out, hang out with friends, he and I just studied so I could make it into medical school). So far this summer all I have done is work. I get one afternoon off a week, otherwise I work from 10am-midnight everyday... I have recently started feeling depressed and am not sure if it is birth control or if it is because im tired of everything being the same day after day. I am not sure whether or not my relationship is being affected because im bored of everything happening day to day or if I no longer have feelings for him. I am terrified to hurt him because he has his heart set on marrying me and would do anything AND everything for me. I just feel like I should feel the same way but I dont....Has anybody else experienced any feelings like this before? Does anybody have any advice on what I should do about this situation? Im not sure if I am just bored with him because I am bored with my everyday life or if I no longer have feelings...I just need someones advice :( please.
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It seems to me as if you're unsure about your feelings about him.
To be honest, you have to look at the bigger picture. If you are doubting your feelings for him, then maybe, it is that you don't feel the same way. But you know what they say, "you don't know what you have until you loose it"... I suggest a break from him, and possibly work as well if you can afford a small one. It will help you to realise what is it that you want... or don't want - and your head will be clearer. During this break I also suggest a GOOD NIGHT OUT! A change of scenery now and then is always good.
Back again to the bigger picture... if you are not one hundred percent sure about your feelings for your partner, it will affect you later on in life. The truth always comes out, and you are lying to yourself.... what comes first in your life is you and your happiness (until of course you have children) if you are not happy it affects other people. Plus, I know you don't want to hurt him, he seems like a nice guy, but maybe he would also benefit from your alternative decision if you realised you no longer have feelings for him, he can go and find someone who actually does - and so can you find someone who cares for you and you care for them....
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ok so i always go through a lot of different mascaras and eyelash curlers because i always end up having problems with them.
somtimes my eyelashes stick to the curler and then it takes off the mascara or pulls the eyelashes out.
OR it wont curl them.
does anyone know of any eyelash curlers that work really well and how you use them because i dont think im doing it right.
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try heating your eyelash curlers up with a hairdryer.
Dont make it too hot though, have to be careful not to burn your eyelids !
:)
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I want to be soooo naughty for HALLOWEEN this year, I have a black and white short skirt and i want to wear black fish nets with some black pumps. how can i make it more naughty? (link)
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Well you havnt said anything about your shirt?
Wear a really sexy bra and get a tshirt and tuck the bottom of the shirt into the top, so you can see your tummy and also part of your bra and cleavage.
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okayy so im 14 and i am a female! so okayy there is this 18 year old guy dat my mom wants me to be with but i dnt want to because i am in LOVE wit dis other guy but i dnt want to tell her dat i like dis other guy cause all me and her do is fight and it causes alot of stress towards me i think she likes dis guy alot for me cause he is my mom's bestfriends son but O MY GOSH i DO NOT like him what should i do or tell my mom???.....thanx (link)
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You're 14, being hooked up with an 18 year old? By your own mother?!
Ok, sorry sorry. But it sounds a bit risky to me, you know how these 18 year olds are.
Anyways, back to the real question.
If you dont like him in that way then of course you have to tell your mom. However Im not sure what your relationship is like between you and her, so it could be difficult doing so, right? But shes your mother, and all teenage girls argue with their moms. Your mom should respect you and your opinion and not continue hassling you to date a guy if you tell her straight that you do not want to and give a few good reasons why.
Honesty is the best policy.
And you'll feel better telling her (as long as it doesnt cause a fight, of course)
In general, you know your mother, I dont. So I reckon that you should decide what to do, but think about the bigger picture.
What will the consequences be?
Hope I helped :).
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ANYONE WHO ANSWER'S WILL RECIEVE A 5 because i thank you for reading my long situation!
im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say i dont know..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant.
ALSO, this was his first girlfriend and her first boyfriend. so there "first love's" which makes it worse. they both lost there virginity to each other too. and there both like the most popular kids in school. all the girls think's he's hot and all the boy's think's she's hot. and they go to the same school but i go to a different school....
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Wow. Wow wow wow wowww.
I kinda know exactly how you feel.
Thing is, I was best friends with someone I liked (even loved...) and he liked me too. After a year though we stopped talking and then he got a girlfriend - his first girlfriend, might I just add. So I relate to you there.
I tried to get over him, but NOBODY compared to him. After a while the pain went away from loving him so much, but something made me miss him one day and I decided to start talking to him again.
And I regret it now.
I fell in love with him all over again, but its so much worse. He told me he likes me, too. I know it should sound all happy-happy, but believe me its not.
Im even more upset now than I was before, even though he likes me and I know he likes me.
Our relationships never got to a higher level than just friends, best friends who are wannabe lovers if you please. We've been wannabe lovers for a few months now, and hes still with his girlfriend even though he knows I like him and he likes me.
Its harder now cos I feel like hes just using me, or something. I know hes my best friend and Im his, hes closer to me than he is his own girlfriend, he says all these sweet things to me but at the end of the day, hes still with his girlfriend. (who is well pretty as well!)
Look, this might not happen to you.
For all I know he could dump his girlfriend for you if you did text him and become really close again.
I know exactly how you are feeling, but hes been with her for three years, and they have a lot of past and memories with each other.
I'm just warning you that even though all these people are telling you to text him, think about the consequences. All the feelings for him are going to come flooding back and IF he stays with his girlfriend, you'll have even more problems and start to think less of yourself, feel like second best.
I reckon you should text him to show that you do care, because although you seem to know he knows you like him, you haven't actually told him, so you haven't confirmed it for him.
And after you do text him, do not let yourself get in too deep.
Believe me, you do not want to go through what I'm going through.
I wish you all the best of luck though, I hope things are better for you than for me!
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13 years old.
Zack. Zack Garrett. I love him with all my heart, and I know what any of you reading this are thinking..it'll pass over. Someone else will come along. Well.. I've tried to let go after we broke up. I shunned all contact from him and didn't keep any reminders. Explored the single world you know? Well he was my best love. It's hard to imagine better until it happens.
When shunning him didn't exactly work, and I stopped, all the memories and thoughts of him invaded my mind almost immediately. I currently talk to him, and things are looking up for me again. I think we may hook up.
But this isn't the problem. The problem is, had I really thought of only him for a month straight? Every time I thought or saw romance he popped into my head. Every time I tried to date (or even thought about it for that matter!) I compared them to Zack and decided it wasn't worth it. Everything was HIM. I'd even find myself making up fake conversations or scenarios in my head. When he dated someone else I looked at his girlfriend's profile CONSTANTLY. Read their comments. Looked at their pictures together just to see him. I check in on his life so frequently I know all about all his friends and what he does on weekends! IS THIS NORMAL?
Does every girl think about their ex for a month straight after a break up? Am I obsessed? I feel exactly as in love with him as I did the very first day. It didn't sway in the least. (link)
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Wow.
Nice to know I'm not the only one!
I totally get you.
I've just got to say that unfortunately a month isn't enough to get over someone who you deeply love.
You'll probably would have had to waited a lot longer, and you should have occupied yourself by seeing you're friends too. Or doing whatever makes you happy I guess.
I thought about one of my ex's for a hell of a lot longer than a month.
Chances are, if you do love him for real, then you may always love him...
Even if its only a little bit.
I know, it sucks. At your age I met someone I fell hard for, too. I compared every guy to him and realized there was nobody like him. Whenever I logged on to the internet I'd go on his to check if he had new comments. And when he got a girlfriend I always checked her pro and pics!
Obsession?
Maybe.
But I think that its normal.
It's good to hear things are going good with him at the moment though, but be careful you don't become too clingy.
Wishing you luck :)
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