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i think i love my best friend, and he's not even mine..
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im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say i dont know..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant.
ALSO, this was his first girlfriend and her first boyfriend. so there "first love's" which makes it worse. they both lost there virginity to each other too. and there both like the most popular kids in school. all the girls think's he's hot and all the boy's think's she's hot. and they go to the same school but i go to a different school....
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Wow. Wow wow wow wowww.
I kinda know exactly how you feel.
Thing is, I was best friends with someone I liked (even loved...) and he liked me too. After a year though we stopped talking and then he got a girlfriend - his first girlfriend, might I just add. So I relate to you there.
I tried to get over him, but NOBODY compared to him. After a while the pain went away from loving him so much, but something made me miss him one day and I decided to start talking to him again.
And I regret it now.
I fell in love with him all over again, but its so much worse. He told me he likes me, too. I know it should sound all happy-happy, but believe me its not.
Im even more upset now than I was before, even though he likes me and I know he likes me.
Our relationships never got to a higher level than just friends, best friends who are wannabe lovers if you please. We've been wannabe lovers for a few months now, and hes still with his girlfriend even though he knows I like him and he likes me.
Its harder now cos I feel like hes just using me, or something. I know hes my best friend and Im his, hes closer to me than he is his own girlfriend, he says all these sweet things to me but at the end of the day, hes still with his girlfriend. (who is well pretty as well!)
Look, this might not happen to you.
For all I know he could dump his girlfriend for you if you did text him and become really close again.
I know exactly how you are feeling, but hes been with her for three years, and they have a lot of past and memories with each other.
I'm just warning you that even though all these people are telling you to text him, think about the consequences. All the feelings for him are going to come flooding back and IF he stays with his girlfriend, you'll have even more problems and start to think less of yourself, feel like second best.
I reckon you should text him to show that you do care, because although you seem to know he knows you like him, you haven't actually told him, so you haven't confirmed it for him.
And after you do text him, do not let yourself get in too deep.
Believe me, you do not want to go through what I'm going through.
I wish you all the best of luck though, I hope things are better for you than for me!
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WOW YOU HAVE A REALLY BAD PROBLEM YOU SHOULD TEXT HIM BECAUSE IF YOU NEVER TRY YOU NEVER KNOW!YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DONT TELL HIM HE JUST ''WANT HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO'' YOU GUYS REALLY HAVE CHEMYSTRY BUT I THINK HIS HAS MORE WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND. BUT THATS DOSENT MEANS STOP TRYING DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU TO DO BUT IM SAYING TEXT HIM SO YOU COULD GET IT OF YOU CHEST I KNOW HE FEELS THE SAME WYA BUT I DONT THINK HE WANTS TO ADMIT IT. SO WHEN YOU TALK TO HIM BE ADY 4 ANYTHING NOT JUST THE GOOD STUFF BUT THE BAD STUFF TOO
GOOD LUCK TELL ME HOW IT GOES
Tatianna
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If you dont ask you will never know. Text him and tell him to call you when he has some alone time and tell him how you feel and see what he says. If if feels the same way, great, go from there, if not, at least you will no longer have to go on wondering what could have been and moving on will be much easier.
Good luck!
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wow this is pretty hard. I think you should still text him, theres really nothing wrong with that, but honestly don't hold your breath either. I know that may not be what you want to hear, but if its meant to be, it will happen. Until then you can either move on, which is ridiculously hard, trust me, been there before,who hasn't? Or you can tell him you like him. Next time your with him, if he looks at you like that again, maybe you should just tell him, b/c when you didn't before, you regret it now, and if you don't tell him now youll regret it forever. Also don't keep mentioning his g/f when your with him, b/c it sounds like you don't like him like that even though you do. Sorry if this is confusing. I think you really should just follow your heart, like if the oopportunity presents itself, you should be totally be honest with him, about liking him and everything.
Good luck! sorry if this made no sense :)
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wow, thats tough.. =/
the best advice that i can give you would be to text him once in awhile but definetly don't over-do it. most healthy relationships start out with being friends. since you guys have missed out on each other for so long he could have forgotten things. maybe if you text him once...he'll text you the next time and you guys will get closer and closer and hang out more. if he really likes you im sure he will do something about his girlfriend and go with you.
i doubt you would do this but don't try to break them up or don't mention anything about his girlfriend unless its necessary (like he kisses you or something)
best of luck =)
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