Hi I'm Jeannie.I would love to help you with any questions you may have, so feel free to ask, no question I would ever consider stupid or embarassing so don't worry. Also, I am a college student, and I have been through a few things, so if you would like my opinion just ask, if not then please specify. And remember that you are beautiful no matter what you feel or what you are going through. :)
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i am a 28 year old male living in the uk who has suffered with mental health all his life, i have a wife that doesn't care and a 4 year old daughter. i hit my lowest of my lows ever about 2 weeks ago and everything anyone says makes me worse all i want to do is to be numb and feel nothing, im at the point that i carve chunks out of my skin with razors just to be able to feel anything but even that is fading now the only thing left in my mind is death, i've been done the line of professional help and its useless i dont know what to do anymore?????? (link)
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Cry out to Jesus. Seriously he truly is the only one that can help you. I know what it is like to be so stuck inside your bubble and it feels like your stuck inside these dark walls and there seems to be no lights anywhere near you. It doesn't matter what religion you are but I just start praying when I feel like that while I go for a walk. The exercise causes my body to release endorphins which make me less stressed and happy. And prayer gives the hope and reassurance that things will truly be okay. You may want to find someone to talk to. If you need a friend, I am here.
Someone once told me, "although it feels permanent, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." There is nothing wrong with you, you will be okay. Trust.
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Hey I was just wondering if I could do anything about my friends saying i give off ''the vibe'' i mean at first it didnt bother me but now it does because my best guy friend is mad at me bc i didnt tell him i was a lesbian.....but im not a lesbian!! so idk what to do could u give me some advice? Also im a 14 yr old Female who is in jr.high (link)
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Seriously? You are a 14yr old girl? You are so young, your friends should not be messing with you like that. You have so much time to be who you are. If they are really friends, they would not think that of you. You should never have to prove yourself to people. You are beautiful just the way you are, have you tried talking to them about how this made you feel?
Let me know if you have talked to them, and we will discuss it from there. It will okay don't worry.
Talk to you soon.
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The day I met him I said I was going to marry him, I said thats him, im going to marry that guy someday. It's almost been a year and we have had a rocky long distance relationship with cheating problems(mainly me) He is the guy I love and want to marry, he is my best friend. How do we make things right after what I have done? How do we find a way to move forward with our relationship? We currently aren't together because he is hurt. (link)
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It is completely understandable that he is hurt. Unfortunately, when we make choices that are not totally thought out people do get hurt including ourselves. If he truly loves you and you love him, it will work. Because as someone very wise taught me "love endures all things, love never fails." It may take some time but love will find its way back to you. You need to rebuild your relationship with him and start over rebuilding feelings, trust and everything. Let it be a lesson to you, if you love someone appreciate them because someone else may come along and appreciate what you didn't, don't worry whats done is done. This can be mended just trust and have faith in something bigger than you, love.
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I am a redhead and grew up hating it because I was different than the rest of my family. I never felt like I fit in at all. I love it now, but back then, I wanted to dye it brown so that I would be like everyone else.
Well now I have an almost-3-year-old son who has sandy brown/blonde hair and a 5.5 month old son whose hair matches mine perfectly. I knew that someday people would start commenting, but I didnt realize it would be so soon. We went to the doctors office and she said to my 5 month old "look at that hair!" and then to my 3 year old "where's your red hair?" He didnt understand (he did say "I dont know") but I know that, one of these days, he's going to feel like people are saying that he doesnt belong with us and they are singling him out for being different.
I dont necessarily want to be rude back, but I do want for these people to know that they are being rude. I want something that will be appropriate for him to say in later years too.
The only thing I can come up with is something like "I shared" which doesnt nearly get the point across. I dont know what kind of response these idiots are looking for anyways. They just say things like this to make the person uncomfortable. They deserve to be made to feel uncomfortable/stupid in return. (link)
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Hey,
First of all you said you felt like you don't fit in, understand we were not made to fit in with this world, it wasnt meant for us.
Second of all, don't worry that his hair is red, it is good to be different. According to my biology teacher, red hair is rare genetic and not many people have red hair. SO therefore, you both should be proud to be a big part of science.
I know people may make fun of him in the future, but don't worry cross that bridge when you all come to it. In the meantime, just love your son and make sure he knows that he is loved, self esteem starts at home. :D
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ok so all my friends already started wearing make up except for me because for some wierd reason im just afraid to tell my parents i want to start waering make up! i really want to wear it because i dont feel preety compared to my friends! what shhould i do?? (link)
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I understand wanting to wear makeup, but I'm sure you are absolutely beautiful without it! How old are you? Because i fyou are like 13 and younger I can see your parents not wanting you to wear makeup, but if ever you choose to tell them and wear makeup make sure you wear natural makeup, do not over do it. Just wear a simple amount, it will surpirse you how much better you feel about yourself with a little make up instead of a lot.
Good luck and God Bless
Just believe in yourself, your beautiful without it!
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My school is putting on a production of Marvins Room which is really dramatic and has adult content. I need help finding a monologue that will help me land a part! Do you have any monologues? Please don't give me links to sites can you find specific monologues?
Thanks! (link)
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Actually check out the monologue book "sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night" I forgot who it is by but it has the dramtic faces on it. It has serious content and is really good. I did the monologue the Favorite from it for a competition. Also, if you google serious monologues they will give you some really good choices. Best of luck to you!
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my best friend died on father's day which was about 2 months ago she was only f18 at the time and iam 20 years old and I have been actring different ever since the death my best friend that i've been friends with ever since 5th grade and I donk't understand why Gabby had to die so young. I've already tried to commit suicide twice since it happened it's just that I feel nobody loves me becouse I was molested when I was 3and then my parent's divorced after that becouse my mom found out what my dad did to me, and then my dad died when I was 12, then my granny died when I was 17 and then my cousin who I was very close to got mad at me and won't talk to me anymore and now my best friend that have been friends with since 5th grade dies I just don't feel loved at all please help me. (link)
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wow. I wasn't expecting to read all of that geez. Well yes, you have been through quite a lot, and you are such an inspiration, seriously. First of all, I am very sorry about what happened to you when you were 3, no one deserves to be molested. And I am very very sorry about the death of your father, grandma, and best friend. Sometimes in this world we lose people and although we do not understand why, it still happens. I know you have tried to commit suicide, but why do you want to do that. Your story seriously touched my heart,think of all the other lives you could touch and change for the better. Just because you do have a sad story doesnt mean people don't want to hear you and that you are not loved. I guarantee that you are loved. My best friend, see the cool thing is, is that He loves everyone. He's everywhere, and I tell you what, I'll share Him with you. Everytimg that you are about to cry or you want to think of killing yourself, just ask the holy spirit to come stay with you, whether it be 5 minutes, 5 hours 5 days. Call out to God, He is there when our struggles get too heavy, he was there for me, and I know He'll be there for you too. Just call out to Him, and He will save your life. Believe me, He saved mine. And we all have our crosses to bear, I am so sorry about how tough and heavy yours is, but don't worry my friend, it will get easier, real soon. Sooner than it seems, life turns around. Just open your eyes. There is no reason for you to kill yourself or want to die, you have to go out there and fulfill a purpose that only you can do. NO one can take your place, you are too precious, too loved for anyone ever to take your place. Don't forget that, ever.
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iwant to know more faster chirsitan bands and music so i can put it on my myspace. i love hawk nelson and family force 5. i also love tobymac. that are good songs that other bands sing like those? (link)
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I agree with the previous columnists that stellar kart is good.
My favorite band is Skillet, they are awesome.
Have you heard the new Jonny Diaz song A more Beautiful You? Its the perfect song for mysapce, because the message is great and amazing.
Umm also, Life house is good, group 1 crew, Fireflight, Addison Road, And the new Barlow girl song, Beautiful Ending is pretty.
Another great band is Red the song "Never Be the Same" is great!
Let me know if you would like any other suggestions!
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what do you think the meaning of life is? perhaps happiness for our short time here? (link)
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I think the best way to answer that question is to google "The Paradox of our time" its a poem and it is so true. Also, listen to "if today was your last day" by nickleback
The meaning of life you really have to find out on your own, its different from everyone, but in the end, its basically working like you dont need the money, loving like youve never been hurt, singing like no one is listening, and dancing like no one is watching. IT living each moment like your last, laughing, and smiling at everyone, and not letting anyone stand in your way.
Also, when you were born you cried and the world rejoiced, live your life in such a manner that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice.
I wish you the best of luck with everything, you will figure out the meaning of life in due time, until then, we can all answer what life means to us, but it means nothing until you take that first step, its everything!
All the best! :)
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Hello i would love to keep in touch so you could help me find "jesus"
ashley2009waters@yahoo.com
thank you very much for taking time out of your day to help me! (link)
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That sounds great! I'll email you now. :)
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Hey im 18/f and i've it occured to me today that i really dont believe in heaven or god/jesus. It just seems unreal you know. Somebody today told me you could just replace the word "angel" with "aliens" and people would believe it. One of my old classmates died a couple months ago and i kind of want that peace feeling that hes somewhere good you know. I went to church when i was a kid up until i was about 12. I suppose i just believed in it then because everybody else did. But ive came to the realization that i dont believe in it. I think its all bogus. I really want to believe in it :( but i just dont see how that could be real, i think we just rot in the ground, nothing more, no after life your soul lifting out of your body none of that. Can anybody "inspire" me somehow or convince me that there is a higher power. I really want to believe in jesus :(
Thanks A TON! (link)
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You can believe in Jesus. ANd I will help you get there. This isn't just one topic that I can give you the answer and it magically makes you believe. It takes time. I tell you what, I will work with you, if you give me your email, I willkeep in touch with you, and we can discuss everything about religion. I can reassure you that it is definetly real. I see God everyday, just not the way you'd think I see Him. See people think religion is black or white, right or wrong. THat isn't true, To know GOd, you have to clear all hatred from your heart, forgive your enemies, just call out to GOd. " Say I know I haven't talked to you in forever, and I'm still figuring out that you are real, will you please reach otu to me and help me" IF you say that, that first step you take is enough for God to reach out to you trust me.
So I would love to discuss this with you and help you, let me know if youd like to keep in touch about faith in religion, its my favorite topic. :)
If you do not want to talk, then all teh best! I will keep you in my prayers :)
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Why is it that this is turning into a site for just teenagers? All they know about is boys, and sex, and makeup, and periods, and discharge, and tampons,etc. Why aren't there more sensible people here? (link)
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Actually that is not true. I am a teenager, and I could talk to you about anything, faith, school, and even the economy. It is just unfair for you to say that were just teenagers. I for one believe that I am sensible, so you message me about something you want to talk about, and we'll talk about it.
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Hello, i used to go to church about 3 years ago, i was a pentacostal. I was into church and felt the holy spirt, sang in church, participated in all the youth activities,went to church camp and everything else. Now, i gave all that up and after i stop going to church, problems everywhere came..my health is also, not in good condidtion. i really do wanna go back to church but i just need a push to go..i dont know where to start. iwant to go back to my old church but then again i dont. Can anyone who went through this help? (link)
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Its never to late to go back. You obviously can recogonize that God and the Holy Spirit are both speaking to you.
I used to be like you, I sang at church but when our youth director was fired by our pastor, i still have no idea why, i stopped singing and going to youth group. I still went to church but i just went through the motions. What brought me back was the fact that no one in my life could make me as happy as i am standing right there singing to GOd. No one can hold you and reassure you that everything will be okay the way God can. The feeling of wanting to belong was just the push i needed, and sounds like the same for you. I really hope you go back to church because you will find God's will and all the amazing things you are meant to do for Him. You are being saved right now if you go back. What are you waiting for? Just walk in, you don't need to explain anyting to anyone, just walk in and see. THat first step you take in the biggest difference you can make in your life, you show the iniative and God will take it from there.
All the best, and i am so proud of you going back to church! YOU are a rockstar!!
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how many people love their life no matter what happen or happened in your life??i do even through my ups & down im happy to still be living =) (link)
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I am happy to be alive. God gives me the courage, reassurance and the strength to be the best person i can be :)
Also, the song "IF Today was your last day" by nickleback is a huge inspiration. :)
I love my life through up and downs thanks to Faith.
I like this question :)
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Here's how I see it; humans are evil. (I know vampires do not exist, but I like them anyway) Vampires kill humans to eat. Humans kill cows, goats, sheep, pigs to eat. If vampires are evil, then so are humans. And wolves because they ate that wild boar (or whatever they eat). And snakes for eating that mouse. And sharks for eating that fish.
Humans are a lot more evil because you don't see vampires (in ANY book {besides Nightworld, no not even that...}) raising humans for food, but you see HUMANS raising COWS and PIGS for food.
Yes, I do like animals, but humans also kill each other. Humans are destroying the pl anent. We aren't going to have any more vegetation in the future, however near that may be.
Sure, there are some evil vampys in books and movies who want to take over the world or destroy it, but there are also humans who are evil too.
So, are vampires evil? (link)
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Okay,since this question is under the spirituality tab, I am going to mention religion. First of all, humans kill animals, because in the beginning of the world, before adam and eve came into the picture, God desgined the land and then animals, after creating humans, he gave them power over the animals so that the humans would be able to eat, this does not make them evil. Now yes you are right humans do kill each other, that doesnt make them evil, that makes their actions evil. See through all evil acts lies Satan, so where humans are acting evil or wrongly Satan is influencing them. All of us are sinners, not one of us humans is totally good or totally evil, the only one who is totally good is God, and the one who is totally evil is Satan. Vampires are not real, so to define them as evil or good is just unrealistic. They arent really good or bad, they just arent real. I think in books and movies where you read about vampires it depends on the action in which they are committing to be able to tell if they are good or evil.
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Okay so I had a physical and my doctor asked me if I have had sex and I said no.
But I actually have with two different guys(I'm a girl btw) is it really bad that I lied to her about this?
If I had said yes what would she have done? (link)
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Honestly it is never good to lie to a doctor about something that is going on with your body or something you have done, because it can affect your health in the future she should know. It doesnt matter if you used protected sex, she still needs to know so she can test and make sure your body is healthy. If you do not talk to your doctor and you continue having sex, you may not be able to have children when you are older. Just something to think about, because when you are born you already have your complete amount of eggs in your body, so you want to be careful and take care of them for the future.
Best of luck, and in all honesty, I would tell your doctor next time.
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Monday, August 3, 2009 at 12:19PM
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I have wanted to avoid this subject. I thought that it had no affect on me.
When I saw the breaking news on the television, that Michael Jackson was in a coma, I said , “Good, I hope he dies.”
Then they reported that he had died.
I said , “Good, another pedophile gone.”
Wow, Sometimes I surprise myself by my heartlessness. I am such a black and white person. You are either right or wrong in my eyes, and if I deem you wrong, then may whomever you believe in have mercy on you because I certainly will not.
I watch American Idol. It’s one of my favorite television shows. Last season when they did the Michael Jackson music tribute, I did not watch. I made a point of not watching. I hated to miss an episode, but still couldn’t believe that they would showcase a “known” pedophiles music.
I have made a point as well, to not listen to his music, since the charges were made.
That was difficult, especially during Halloween. Thriller has always been my favorite. I use to set my computer speakers on the porch and play Thriller over and over again. One year a group of parents all started doing the Thriller dance in front of my house. That was the best Halloween ever!! Can you imagine a group of people some in costume, some not in front of your house doing the Thriller dance? It was great!
But then when all of the allegations hit, then I personally boycotted Michael Jackson, as I have a son and found the whole mess apprehensible.
Since his death I have watched all of the interviews, and specials about Michael Jackson and his life.
It has finally dawned on me, that I don’t know for a fact that he was guilty. I will never know. More than likely no one will read this who KNOWS for a fact if he was guilty.
Of course he was found not guilty by a jury. But we all went through the OJ trial and we know that our system is not foolproof. There again, we Don’t know, but he wrote a book….
I read a lot of Blogs, and comments about Michael Jackson, and it’s such a hot topic. Everyone seems to be locked into their opinion.
I was locked into mine. But in death, it seems as though I am able to give Michael Jackson the benefit of a doubt that I couldn’t give while he was living.
It almost seems as though a family member has died. I did grow up with his music. I never knew how strongly I felt before, and I , myself, find it very odd. The human brain and how it works is itself very odd.
If we could give people the benefit of a doubt in life that we do in death, wouldn’t that be a beautiful thing?
The one and only person I have found that can do this is my Mother. She has such a beautiful soul. She emphasizes the good in everyone. And when she recognizes a persons bad traits, she prays that the good will prevail, and only focuses only on that. I am so lucky to have her as a Mother! Some may think of her as naive, but I truly believe that she is more astute than ALL who judge her !
I have to go to ADSAP classes, for a DUI from 2 years ago. No,sorry to disappoint , I am NOT perfect! There is a woman who goes to the classes I do. She is so honest with herself and all of us, I cringe. There are some secrets that you should take to the grave. However, she does share hers and she said how the memories haunt her at night, when she lays down for sleep. So she takes a sleeping medication.
I also, take a sleeping pill. If not, then every bad decision I have made in my life haunts me at night, and I toss and turn.
I started connecting the dots this morning and thought that Michael Jackson, must have some really bad demons if he had to take a anesthesia to help him sleep.
The reports have been that he was in a lot of pain.
I don’t know, the Pepsi commercial was a long time ago. How much pain could he be in?
Maybe he did do wrong to those children and couldn’t live with himself when it was time to lay down.
Maybe he endured so much wrong that those memories hindered his sleep.
Point is , We don’t know. He lived such a different life than all of us.
I don’t even think that most of us could comprehend what his “normal” was.
He was odd to us.
He was different.
But what did he have to compare his life to?
If he was indeed a pedophile then he is in the dirt where he belongs.
But if he wasn’t, could you imagine living in a WORLD, not just a Nation, where everyone thought that he was?
I have very mixed feelings.
I love the video I have posted. I love the beginning where he’s going through a sea of paparazzi,( I know it was green screened) looking very solemn and beaten, and then performs to an empty theatre. And the title “You are not Alone.”
But he was alone wasn’t he. And I think the video shows this. The irony is mind-blowing.
It shows that irregardless of how much money and fame you have, you are still in this world alone.
A world full of fans loved this man. But at the end of the day, he was still one man, alone.
I think that , as I have said before I give him the benefit of a doubt now.
And I may go so far as to say that I am in mourning.
I suppose my question is :
did anyone else have a change of heart with Michael Jacksons death? (link)
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Quite honestly, I do believe that you dont have a right to judge someone. I for one do not believe that he is or was a pediphile because he did love children. From his childhood he was beat, his father took his innocence, and he had almost an obsession with protecting children. Many find it strange, yes, but many have also not been in his situation. One of you quotes you mention him being alone. YOu know its sad that those people(celebs) seem to have everything money, looks, everything. The thing is you can have everything at your feet and still feel so alone and ungrateful because the truth is it was given to you to the point where you didnt think of the good that could come from the money, see some celebritites just get so used to having everything right there and then, they lose sight of whats important. One last thing, im sure many people had a change of heart when they saw MJ he was wrongly judged in the eyes of so many. But even more sad than that, is that he was so alone well never know went on in his life, because so many people didnt care when he was alive to just simply ask. So let it be a lesson no matter how harsh you try to be, I know you have a heart, and when you feel like judging someone next time, just take five minutes to try and understand them before you say the first accusing thing that pops into your head. That simple act, could change your life and others for the better, trust me.
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i have never cut myself before and i dont think i have a mental problem or anything like that, but i have burned myself with a curling iron or punched myself or bit my lip really hard. i dont know why i do this. its not because i like seeing blood or it feels like some kind of release. i do it for attention, like when i had a big burn mark on my arm, i liked how everyone felt bad for me. and i scratched my face and told everyone i had fallen on the street. i have alot of friends and im the class clown so everyone knows me and always give me attention. im always cracking jokes or being obnoxious and everyone always laughs and gives me a ton of attention. but i still keep hurting myself. maybe i like them to feel bad for me or somethig? i dont know. and whenever me and my boyfriend get in a fight or my mom gets pissed at me, i think about killing myself. but not because i want to escape everything, more because it would make everyone so upset and feel bad for me. like i actually thought about them all crying at my funeral and stuff n how the feeling of being missed would be so good. the only thing that stopped me was that i wouldnt be alive to see them missing me so there isnt really a point in doing that. i dont know why i want so much attention. i thought that maybe it was because my boyfriend has started being an asshole to me and its killing me inside. we were so in love and then he just didnt seem to care or love me anymore. so i thought maybe i was trying to make him feel bad for me or love me again.i am kinda weirding myself out over here haha please help, i dont want to keep hurting myself (link)
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I wouldnt say you are crazy, but you are hurting yourself and that is NOT OKAY. It is bad and it will turn into something worse if you do not take control of the sitatuion. I understand you may want attention but the way you are going about doing it is not healthy. I am sorry your boyfriend is being a jerk, but you are hurting yourself to get attention. We all like to be the center, but you cannot always be the most important person in the room or the funniest, its good sometimes, but you are obsessing with being loved by everyone. We all want to be loved, thats not the problem, the problem is the way you are going about doing it. My suggestion would be to talk to an adult, maybe a parent or a teacher or a counselor someone you can trust, and someone who will understand where you are coming from.
One more thing, the more you injure yourself the faster people will catch on that you are purposely hurting yourself, because you cannot hurt yourself with a new scar every single day, eventually people will see right past it, my suggestion would be to seek help because as you said you dont want to hurt yourself, which means psychologically you are punishing yourself. I would seek help because maybe it be more clearer to you as to why oyu are doing it.
Good luck! And please no that you are a beautiful person you do not need to hurt yourself, your true friends and family will love you no matter what. :)
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I've been with my bf for a month and 8 days.
Hes nice, and very honest, and he treats me well, but sometimes hes weird and I cant figure him out. see if maybe you guys can...
the reason I say hes weird is that every time we talk on the phone, we end up not saying anything after a while, and just being on the phone doing different things without talking. sometimes i forget hes there altogether. and i hate that. but everytime i ask him what hes doing or thinking he always either says nothing or that hes thinking about me. I get the impression that hes not really listening to me and that he is either thinking dirty and doesn't wanna tell me, or hes not listening to me... And at one point, everything I told him hed answer with yes...
are you tired? yes
do you want me to let you go sleep? yes
am i going to see you tomorrow? yes
what do you wanna do? yes
what? yes
can you say anything else but yes? yes
say something else! something else
he was trying to be funny i guess so i said:
okay i think you should sleep, ill call you tomorrow morning.
Him: "not really"
Me: what do you mean?
Him: never mind
Me: what? why are you being so weird
Him: IM being weird?
and basically thats how our conversations are sometimes on the phone, he doesnt make much sense and ends up annoying me to the point where im like okay goodbye. then he gets mad at me???
i dont get it! can someone help me out? if i try to hang up he wont let me and says he wants to talk, but then he doesnt and when i try to he doesnt seem to listen and then when i ask him why he isnt talking he gets mad and shit. wtf???? can someone please explain? (link)
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I think the reason these convos seem awkward may be because they are. Do you guys have stuff in common? If not then this is how the relationship will be, but if you do, instead of always talking on the phone go out and do it. IF he likes bowling and current events, then go bowling together and talk about the North Korea crisis or the pirates stealing American ships. There are tons of stuff out there to talk about, see what his interests are and show an interest in them, that may reduce the awkwardness.
Good luck. Sometimes people dont listen because they are thinking of something really important, but if he acts weird like this all the time then try what i said and do something fun, maybe he is shy around you and needs to open up. Give it a chance
Good luck, it will work out just fine :)
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so me and my mom arent the closest people in the world. last wednesday we got into a realy big fight to the point to wear she pulled my hair and she told me she thinks about killing herself. and i told her she wasnt the only one. i know people are probly going to think wow shes crazy and t doesnt do anything for her but anyway. to the point, i realy want to go on birthcontrol because i have been wanting to hae sex for a while. im no a vrgin but the last time i had sex was 2years ago. i have fooled around here and there but never all the way. i dont realy know how to tell my mom that i want birthcontrol because im afraid that she will blow up on me. i just need someone to give me some ideas to tell her. and she doesnt know im not a virgin. thanks.
oh btw im 15/f in case you havent guessed.
-Tamera. (link)
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Well it is true you can get birth control without your parents consent, but I strongly advise you not to do that. The reason being, whether or not you and your mom get along, the decision to have sex is a huge choice to make and your mom should be part of that decision, the reason being, maybe she can tell help you when it comes to sex what to do what not to do. She is older then you and will have more pearls of wisdom. See people assume that parents dont want to talk about sex or it is akward, but maybe if oyu and your mom find something important to talk about, like sex, maybe it will bring you guys colser together, so there isnt always constant tension.
I just think you should talk to her about it, yes she will be upset, and she may bring up the suicide, but she wont do it, as long as you show her you are trying to work on the relationship, case and point, start by talking about maturing and sex.
Good luck, I know things will work out for the best :)
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