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screaming for help because the only thing left in my mind is death


Question Posted Monday May 2 2011, 5:43 am

i am a 28 year old male living in the uk who has suffered with mental health all his life, i have a wife that doesn't care and a 4 year old daughter. i hit my lowest of my lows ever about 2 weeks ago and everything anyone says makes me worse all i want to do is to be numb and feel nothing, im at the point that i carve chunks out of my skin with razors just to be able to feel anything but even that is fading now the only thing left in my mind is death, i've been done the line of professional help and its useless i dont know what to do anymore??????

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surferchick16 answered Wednesday May 4 2011, 6:10 pm:
Cry out to Jesus. Seriously he truly is the only one that can help you. I know what it is like to be so stuck inside your bubble and it feels like your stuck inside these dark walls and there seems to be no lights anywhere near you. It doesn't matter what religion you are but I just start praying when I feel like that while I go for a walk. The exercise causes my body to release endorphins which make me less stressed and happy. And prayer gives the hope and reassurance that things will truly be okay. You may want to find someone to talk to. If you need a friend, I am here.
Someone once told me, "although it feels permanent, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." There is nothing wrong with you, you will be okay. Trust.

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adviceman49 answered Monday May 2 2011, 10:07 am:
Hi, I'm almost old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age and life experience will be helpful to you.


Depression is a terrible thing and this is whatI believe you are suffering from. You need to keep trying with the doctors by seeing a psychiatrist for medication and a psychologist for talk therapy.


As someone who has fought the battle of depression and is winning I understand where you are at this time. There is at least one person in this world that loves you for who you are. She is your 4 year old daughter. Death is not the answer and killing yourself robs your daughter of her father. I'm sure you also love your daughter so you need to work hard to win the battle over depression for her if no one else.


The key for me in winning the battle was and is my psychologist. I went through a number of them before finding the one I am with now. The key was finding someone I was comfortable with; someone I trusted who worked with me and was there for me. It took time but slowly as I grew more comfortable all the barriers I had put up; all the things I had boxed up and hidden away in my mind so as not to hurt me came out. Once they did we were able to work together to put all the things that were causing me to be depressed in proper prospective.


One thing I learned very early in therapy with this therapist is that my depression caused me to perceive things in a very different manner. An example of this that I see in your writing is: "i am a 28 year old male living in the UK who has suffered with mental health all his life," "i have a wife that doesn't care". Those two statements don't work for me. If you suffered all your life then why did she marry you and how did she allow you to have a child with her.


If you take a few minutes an think about what I just wrote you hopefully will see what I am saying. Your wife does care or she would have taken your daughter and left you by now. I felt the same way as you about my wife. I think you may be as lucky as I am to have a strong women who is sticking by you hoping she can help you.


I know the UK has Public Health Service. If you need to use these services to get the help you need then do so. Cutting yourself is dangerous; something that needs to be stopped and qualifies, at least hear in the U S as need for immediate medical attention.


Please either call 999, I believe that is the emergency number in the UK, or go to the nearest emergency room for help.

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