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how do i work things out with my boyfriend?
i'm 14 and i've been going out with my boyfriend since december. we don't go to the same school, and he lives about 20-30 away if i'm walking and he has a dad who rarely lets him out. i haven't seen him in a month and we haven't really talked since a conversation about breaking up. i'm scared to lose him..even if he says we'll still be friends, i'm afraid things won't be the same.
how do i make things better? what do i say to him in person since he avoids me on facebook?
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If his dad is couping him up in the house at that age in an excessive way (unless he is on restriction for something he did) then the father has control issues. However, without more complete information it's too hard to really judge just what is going on in that regard.
Now, as for your relationship, at your age, you have to step back and look at it like this:
1. You aren't going to marry this guy, so try not to get too obsessed with it and end up creating all kinds of unnecessary drama. Take some control of this situation and tell him that you need to be together more often and if you can't then you need to move on. Only you can live your life, so don't let others keep you from what makes you happy. Think about what you want out of a relationship and then try to get yourself with people who can make it happen. Take control of your life and go for what you want out of it. No guts no glory, right?
2. Your brain is still developing and that coupled with your lack of knowledge of how people specifically and the world in general work leads to a lot of anxiety. So you have a lot of exploring, reading and learning to do. The more information you have the better. Always keep yourself in a position in which you have all the options open to you and don't overthink things. No need to get so serious at such a young age.
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Only thing you could do is write him an inbox and just tell him how you felt he just left you without comferming your relationship as ended or not. make sure you include how you wannt things to be better and ask him to explain why he think you and him should end. hif he dont write back then that just means hes done with you and thats your go to find another guy thats realy right for you. dont write him much becuz he will think you nuthin without him... good luck and keep your head up your still young
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To be honest, I don't think he has any intention of continuing this relationship. And it can be quite hard for you two to contact each other.
What I suggest is to take it slow, or you can even stop it if you found your relationship going nowhere.
PS. When a guy evades you, it's not a good sign.
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