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Hi I'm Jeannie.I would love to help you with any questions you may have, so feel free to ask, no question I would ever consider stupid or embarassing so don't worry. Also, I am a college student, and I have been through a few things, so if you would like my opinion just ask, if not then please specify. And remember that you are beautiful no matter what you feel or what you are going through. :)
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You didnt read my question. You answered the question that was the opposite of what I was asking. I'm not worried about my redhead son; I'm worried about the non-redhead son. Even the title says that. I even said that I USED to feel like I didnt fit in, but now I love it.

that is really weird that of all songs you said Never be the same by red because this previos december I saw them in concert and fell in love with that song along with the band. ( ive never heard of the band before the concert)

thanks for answering

You are right about not judging people and how by not doing so can change lives. But you say that he was "wrongly" judged in the eyes of so many. My point was and is that we DON'T know. So there's no way of knowing if he was indeed wrongly accused. Also, it goes to prove the point of how most people are locked into their own opinions. Thanks for your time.

Great answer! Thank you!

thanks alot for your advice:)

Thank you very much.

haha i love boy meets world!

okay. so, for starters, I really like this boy at my school. I'm a junior and he's a sophomore. I don't really see anything weird about me liking him, but whenever I tell my friends (which is rare nowadays because apparently it's laughable that I would happen to like him..I guess he's not the type of person that has a girlfriend) they all laugh and then say "oh, it's not really that funny, I'm laughing with you" whatever--I'm obviously not laughing, so that's a stupid thing to tell me. but anyway, I sometimes get the feeling that he likes me--like last night at SCI (swing choir invitaitonal) I went to go talk to him after he was done performing. (background info: usually whenever we see each other he punches me on the arm in a friendly sort of way...I know it sounds stupid but it's really kind of habit now) first he acts like he's gonna give me a hug, but then decides he wants to do the whole punch my arm thing, but then changes his mind/gets awkward. so I just decide to give him a huge hug anyway, and he gives me one back. so I'm thinking to myself "okay, this is a good sign." but then he kinda stops talking to me and walks away (which I understand, because he has to go help clean up and stuff) but like, he didn't even say goodbye to me or anything. I just feel like I keep getting mixed signals all the time, and it gets me in this super depressed mood. I don't know how to make sure that he likes me, but I don't want to just come out and ask him, you know? I'm not really that kind of person. second: I feel like all of my friends are changing/leaving me for other people. I know, go ahead and say that I'm a typical overemotional teenage girl. but they really haven't been like that until recently. I am kind of thinking that it's because they're getting antsy to get away for Christmas break or whatever. but seriously, everyone is getting extremely bitchy and snappy; mood swings and being irritable for absolutely no reason at all, overreacting to ordinary comments and taking it to a whole new level of hotheadedness.....catch my drift? three: my friends are all getting attached (becoming a couple with boyfriends) and they seem to spending an exuberant amount of time with their boyfriends and not their actual friends. okay, boyfriends are friends too, but we've been friends way longer and it'd be nice if they actually spent a little time with us for a change. I just don't really understand why everyone feels a need to be with their boyfriends all the time, especially when they promised before anything serious started happening that they would "never forget about us and still have plenty of time to spend with us" blah blah blah. basically, I'm sick of all the empty promises that I keep getting, and I want to have someone to spend my time with where I can have an actual conversation and not keep talking about peoples' boyfriends and how they're so amazing and "don't worry Em, you'll get one soon." so yeah. that's the end of my tangent. for now. sorry if this bored you in any way, shape, or form. bubbalay306@gmail.com you can contact me there or just keep it on this site, I have no preferences.

Aww thanks. My email is lindseywilleford@aol.com:).

thanks

Thank you very much! I totally agree, I've been focusing on myself, meaning, going out with friends and working out and I've even taken up a new hobby: snowboarding! It is hard, and when I'm not busy I do think about him a lot. But I've reached the point where I'm more "numb" about it, and it definitely helps that he lives an hour away so I dont have to run into him at different places.

my email is i_love_kyle134@hotmail.com i just want to say thanks for helping me.. i need someone to talk to so email me whenever =]

Thanks!

Wow that was amazing n happy thanksgiving to you

Thank u sweetie u may not know it but u really helped me out and made my day. Thank you :)

thanks!

thank you :) yeah i would love it if i could talk to you, my e-mail is lindsayluxo@yahoo.com

thank you

Thank you very much! this really helps and I did talk to my friends and they know I dont what them to hate him and I dont think they do they just are mad that he hurt me.. but anyway thank you again =]

thanks :)

Hey thanks, i think i'm going to use the favorite. do you know if thats from a play? I'll send you a privite question!

thank you alot we talked tonight and everything is going great and he was having some family trouble he told me about he also semi proposed but we dont want to get married for a long while until we no more about each other.

Thanks Jeannie, you've really been a big help. I think you are right about finding something you love and using that as an inspiration and source of fulfillment. Like yesterday, I told my mom I wanted to buy some fabric and I ended up spending all day making a dress. Afterwards, I felt really good. And I like acting too! At school I'm in drama and finding that I like it more and more everyday. And writing makes me happy too. :) Slowly, I think I'll find out more and more who I am and right now I'm just trying to love myself. Because you've helped me realize that I am different than other people, but instead of hating myself for it, I should love all the unique things about me. And I think I should be more open to my parents about how I feel and hopefully they'll understand my beliefs. Thanks again Jeannie, you're great. <3

thank u veri much.

thank you!

thankyou that helps. but its hard to not talk about them. because my life DOES revolve around them. my family understands they don't get annoyed I just wish I can find a friend that does

thanks alot, your advise helps :]

Thank you so much! (:

great thanks

thanx.

thanks so muxh that was really helpful!!!

OHHH my gosh, thankyouu! You're so sweet :]

thanks!

thank you SOOO much. (:

thank you for your help. i actually had a great day today and i think i am on my way to becoming comfortable with myself. I'm 15 and a sophomore in high school, so I guess it would make sense why i am insecure. Anyways thank you so much, you've really helped.

thanks! =]

Thank you!

Wow this was awesome advice. Very reassuring thank you. =]

Thanks. I'm the same way sometimes. I only see the bad in myself, but the good in everyone else. Even though I know I shouldnt just look at the bad in myself, but also the good. If that makes any sense.

my next question is how should i ask?

thank you, you really helped alot..but when i talk to him..what do you think i should say?

thanks so much for the answer. you sound much like me :) i treat everyone much the same, i know i worry too much but sometimes it gets to me and i need advice, thanks much for your answer again :) you sound sweet #^_^#

thanks, that helps alot :)

thanks for the help

thank you god bless!

Thanks Alot and the songs did help, I am in high school going to be a sophmore everything was fine for me back in middle school then stupid girl drama made pretty much everyone hate me because I dated a guy that pretty much made my friends turn on me so once high school started for me last year it just went down hill from there I don't know about talking to both of my parents because my dad and I struggle with our relationship everyday my mom and I are a little closer but I think I might just write her a letter or something to help her understand how I feel. But thanks ALOT! Sorry this is so long lol

Thanks so much! :D

Thanks! That really helped out! People don't bother me now, because I don't let them now =D Thanks for the compliment btw =D...I'm just not sure if she likes me or not, and I don't like to be embarrassed when I ask. I've been lonely up to now, and I'm just starting to get great friends and everything is turning out great for me. I just don't wanna ruin anything. But, thanks for taking the time to answer my question! I really appreciate your help! and btw....I do wish at 11:11 and on falling stars! Thanks again!

hey surfer chick, thanks :).

thank youu ! i have like no time to read it and plus im kinda lazy hahah.

yeah thanx i like the song

yeah i really dont understand either. i mean it may be fear but idk. its so weird. like i just got together with a guy that is the sweetest thing and he really cares about me. but not i dont even want to be with him when i did the past few weeks, and then after we break up i will cry bc i want him back. ):

Thanks

thanks! (:

thank you a bunch. and yes, sharp like a razor, like an infection.. it cuts you deep and never stops stinging

Thanks

thanks for the advice. the sore in my mouth went away, so im pretty sure i dont have anything.

Thank you! I appreciate the good advice

thank you soo much i used to be suicideal n have so many problems but i deny it to the doctors if i go back their gona do the deep tests on me again i cant take that how do i say noo :( but thank you soo much i didnt know im even worth that much

thanks alot that was so much better than the answer the other person gave, i have been thinking about tellin my freind to stick our relationship in his fat ego'tised head for ages and i might just do it if he keeps on like this, thanks again

thanks they all sound good!

thank you so much!! i believe in it too

Alright, I'll do that when I see him laterrr. :D

Thanks alot your advice will be very helpful!

thanks i will. she was just some random girl anyways. they never meat :]

thankss :)

Thanks, for trying!

Thank you very much, you helped , Thats what I've been doing so far, now i know I have a good plan going! I'll keep exercizing! Thanks Surferchick!:)

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