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My name is Elise. I have been on and off advicenators for years, since I was 11 (I know... I lied about my age). I always seemed to love helping others, with problems they might not want to ask their friends about. Even if it's just something they're interested in, or need a second opinion on, I love to help. I also have had my fair share of problems, and many have helped me. This is my way of giving back, and this is what I like to do.
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Fifteen, female. This is me.
http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k300/cherryroze321/008.jpg
I just got my hair cut yesterday, but I wanted my bangs a bit more A-Symmetrical and a little shorter than the lady cut them. How might I go about doing so without ruining the look?
Also, how do you guys style your hair? Because I just dont know where to start. My hair has a bit of natural wave but I want it to look sorta like this
http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k300/cherryroze321/choice19.jpg
so Im obviously going to flatiron, but still. Any cute styles you guys wanna mention would be grreat. And could someone advise me as to how people pull off that cute little headband thing when their bangs stick out a bit? Its adorable. Thanks, kbai!
those two hair styles are very different. it would be very hard to make your hair cut look like the pic.
Your bands are actually to short for that style, I know you said you wanted them shorter, but it wouldnt work, her hair is also a lot shorter with a lot more layers.
I'm not too sure what you mean about "headband look" but if your are talking about just wearing a head band, the kind behind your ears, and you bangs curling under a bit, it's nothing you can't do with a flat iron =)
Good Luck
Elise 15/f
18 f
Okay, I will make a long story short, or try to. I'm really close with my best friend who is a guy, let's call him L and I've been dating this other guy, let's call him F.
I've been close friends with L for quite a few years now, we always hang out together and we have fun and he is a nice person. My bf on the other hand, I've been going out with him for a year now, the relationship isn't going anywhere and I've actually thought of breaking up with him for a while although he is a good guy, he has hurt me enough for me to want to give up on him.
To the point, L told me that he has been in love with me for the past year or so and that he has been trying to win me over for ages. This came to a shock for me, but I really want him as a friend because he is a great guy and I don't want to just go out with him and then break up, but he is having a hard time dealing with the fact I turned him down so I don't think our friendship will be so strong anymore. My relationship with F is useless though, I know in my heart that L would appreciate me and treat me 100x, F never takes me out and L has been in love with me for so long now without me even realizing...
What should I do?
If L would be such a good bf, and your friendship with him, and relationship with F are both pretty bad, then why not? If there is another reason for not dating him besides the fact that you want his friendship, maybe you could go for it.
Obviouisly, you should break it off with F if your already haven't, but either think twice about saying no to dating L, or try talking to him about how much his friendship means to you, and why dating him might ruin that. If he's such a good friend like you say, I'm sure he'll understand.
Good Luck
Elise 15/f
isnt it good when a guy youve been talking to lately is always keeping it real?
but where is line that he crosses when you know it will never be the two of you because he's too much.. of a real guy.. like you know if your talking to someone you like and likes you back dontchu think that sometimes its good to lie for good because YOU WANNA TRY TO COME OFF AS A GOOD GUY OR ADORABLE ETC, you get my point.. but what if.. this guy starts to say i gotta go poo or like something like that.. hes being "too real" and that means youll never be together coz he doesnt even bother making up an excuse for his "i gotta go" moment like why cant the guy just be like "i gotta go wash the dishes" or something like dat
so my question is
IF A GUY ACTS LIKE THAT, DOES IT MEAN THAT HE DOESNT LIKE YOU?
or he does but he's just really like that.. [but dont peole wanna come off as like a good person or humble??]
That may just be the way he is.
It's true that he is obviously getting more comfortable if he's saying things like that, it may actually even mean he does like you, he may be trying to make you laugh.
If not, he may just be the type who sees nothing wrong in that, and it may have no reflection on his feelings for you.
There are other ways to tell, but I don't think that specific point can tell you how he feels.
Good Luck
Elise 15/f
14/f
So,
i met this guy at this dinner party for my parents, and he is as old as me [ i could tell ][we were the only kids there, other than some 2 year olds] we didnt really talk, but he was SO GOOD LOOKING!! anyway, he kept trying to make eye contact [i did sometimes to though] , he would always turn towards me and then "look at the sky", so, if we met again, would there be hope?? like by the way he always tried to make eye contact and im talking always! so, yeah, could this mean anything?
Ha, something like this just happened to me recently. Definately hope! I would agree that next time you see him to try and chat. whats the worst that could happen? Either way youll get to talk right ;) If just walking up and saying hi might be hard, then try to find something to complement or ask him about, his clothes, hair, shoes, anyhting... just to break the ice!
Good Luck
Elise 15/f
I'm applying for Starbucks, and while I know they probably won't hire me yet (I'm 16 with no other past jobs, this would be my first one) I need to try. Its pretty much the last place I'm turning in my resume...
But there's this one question that I don't know how to answer correctly. My mother, a former McDonalds boss, shot down all of my answers. And well, here's the question:
"Describe a situation where you have provided excellent customer service in your most recent position. Why was this effective?"
They actually do hire at 16 by me, so you may have a better chance then you think.
If you havent had any other working ecperience you could either leave it blank, or maybe write about a past task in which you proided excellent service, maybe babysitting or volunteer work.
Gook Luck
Elise 15/f
I go to these voice lessons and i'm one of 7. I don't think i'm a bad singer but i don't like people hearing me. if i'm in the basebent singing with music, i can't without anyway, if i'm in the basement singing and someone comes down i amediatly startsinging really bad on purpose and make it sound funny. How can i get over not singing in front of people. ALso, my sister and brother constantly make fun of me for everything, is that part of the reason i don't like to sing in front of them. I want to do these voice lessons but whats the point if i can't sing infront of people?
The fact that your brother and sister make fun of you might actually have a lot to do with the fact that you are uncomfortable singing in front of others. It may make you think that no matter hwo good or bad you sing, they will just make fun of your for it, and that would make your very self consceince about it. Try singing without music. I know you said you couldnt, but you have to try! it will help! It will make you get to know your voice much better, and once you do that, youll feel more comfortable knowing others can hear it too. You also may want to talk to your siblings about how their teasing makes you feel. I know that sounds cheesy, but chances are they thought you were having fun with them too. Practice singing in front of the mirror, and anyone you can, maybe a close friend or parent, work your way up!
Good Luck
Elise 15/f
i have this state of mind that makes me view and act differently against myself. like i feel like i'm an awkard, less than adult, not special, not my best, and anxious. i want to be myself and my best but because i was hurt in the past, i can't get past what i feel and i feel incompetent to doing things. i set myself up for failure. is there anyway i can stop thinking in this kind of way?
I think a lot of people think that way sometimes too. I also think that way, all the time... but like you I'm sure, I dont do it on purpose. You have to do anything you can to make yourself know that you are only thinking the things you are because you're telling yourself to, not because they're true. Remember that most people are insecure and incompetent but it helps just beleiveing... thats makes it better. Think about all the outcomes of a situation, than think how common each one is. You should start finding that you are fine! =)
I'm obsessed with irish things so i wanted to know if anyone knew of some great irish movies. I dont care if the movie was made strait out of Ireland or made in America. All I want is a movie with something to do with Ireland! Please help!:]
P.S. I Love You, recently came out, was very good.
my friend and her boyfriend were having intercourse(not for the first time) and she says that this intercourse was the one that popped her cherry. after bleeding and stuff she realized a peice of skin was hanging out of her vagina. she's taken pregnancy tests and stuff, and their negative. but this peice of skin is just..there? she says it hurts when she touches it and blood keeps dripping out of her. what could this be??? =O
from what I know, this could be the hymen. It's what happens after the cherry pops. I beleive this sounds like a split hymen. It just means that it didnt break completely, and part of it is still conected. Just to be safe, I wouldnt have your friend do anything on her own... she should see a gynecologist! It sounds like something that could be normal, but the fact that it hurts is not good! please have her checked on by a doctor!
I have been bitting my nails for as long as i remember. I have tried several times to stop bitting them but i just cant stop. Lately i have noticed one of my pinky nails had a white tip so i stoped bitting it,but now i only have one fingernail that is actually almost passes my skin. Can u give me advice of how i could stop bitting ALL of my nails.
lots of love, any advice can help
It's true, distract yourself, and as general as it seems, it helps.
I used to bite my nails and cuticles, bad.
This is what I did, try keeping your nails painted as much as you can, for some reason the tempt is not as bad when they're painted, even if just with clear polish. Cuticle oil also works.
Hand creams might help, just because they taste awful when it gets in your mouth.. another thing is carrying a nail file with you, that way you wont bite any hang or broken nails, which wont tempt you.
Hope this helps
Good luck!
15/f
There are these two guys, whom i am kinda close with. I don't understand why they keep going back to this other girl who is fake and rude, but gorgeous. They seem to rather talk to her then me. There's nothing wrong me, I'm pretty and everything too. But they seem to go to her always because shes really pretty (lots of makeup). It hurts me because I'm bring a good friend and shes not, yet shes still getting the attention. What can I do to be the one they choose to go to instead of her? I understand that i am strictly on a friend's basis, and she is probably on a relationship basis. I dont know, any advice?
Unfortunatly to say, guys go after girls based on their looks. Now, thats not necissarily saying that once they get to know girls, it'll be more about their personality, but generally, the first thing guys see and like, is appearance.
Just because this girl is making them do things like talk to her instead of you, doesnt mean they dont still like you as their friend, it may just mean they're hoping for something they probably wont get.
You should try talking to them, ask them about her... you will usually be able to tell from the way a guy talks about a girl, what he's thinking.
If they say stuff like shes hot and she likes us, they probably are jsut thinking one thing...
If they say things like shes really nice and we have a lot to talk about, maybe they are actually considering a relationship..
However, from what you say, that doesnt sound like the case.
Just like girls, guys tend to want to be around good looking people. Even if that it just so they can keep dreaming =)
Either way, it should never effect friendship, so dont worry!
Hope this helps
Good luck!
Is it okay to be bi, have 1 gf and 1bf and not tell your parents?
How do u no if ur bi, lesbian or straight?
The lst columnist did mention you having two significant others... If anything, that might come up, keep in mind, youre not only letting them know about your confusion, but also remember your letting them know your seeing two people, which might suprise them. Dont get their two reactions mixed up. Just because they may not be happy about you seeing two people doesnt mean anything about their feelings on your sexuality.
I don't think telling your parents about your sexuality should be an issue, unless your parents and you have comunication issues, most parents are very understanding about it though.
It will not hurt to try and talk about it with them.
A good way to tell whether your bi, lesbian, or straight, is thinking about yourself. Since appaprently you have had both gfs and bfs, think of your relationships, which have worked out best? why?
What you are truely trying to find out is who you are, and if you happen to like people, not depending on their gender, you're bi, and thats fine.
You truely just have to accept yourself, no matter what.
good luck
My friends birthday is tomorrow and I have no idea what I should do for her, or even what I should get her. Suggestions? By the way she's turning 15.
When I need a quick birthday gift idea, I like to use pics! If you happen to have lots of pics of you and your friends, making them a slideshow or cut out poster of pics is a great gift, even a sort of scrap book would work.
If you don't happen to have a bunch of pics, and plan on going shopping before then, I always think its cute to buy an inexpensive purse, and fill it with fun little things like, jewelery, make up, and key chains.
It also is a little impersonal, but if all else fails, money works =)
Hope things work out!