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I just don't understand guys
15/f
There are these two guys, whom i am kinda close with. I don't understand why they keep going back to this other girl who is fake and rude, but gorgeous. They seem to rather talk to her then me. There's nothing wrong me, I'm pretty and everything too. But they seem to go to her always because shes really pretty (lots of makeup). It hurts me because I'm bring a good friend and shes not, yet shes still getting the attention. What can I do to be the one they choose to go to instead of her? I understand that i am strictly on a friend's basis, and she is probably on a relationship basis. I dont know, any advice?
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you shouldn't have to do anything to change yourself for them to "like" you more...if they can't see that your a good friend, then move on and leave them along...hope this helped hun
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Okay, first of all, you shouldn't ever change yourself for a guy to like you. I know this sounds corny, but you want someone who will like you for who you are. Sadly, most guys want anything they know they can touch. If they don't see who the better person is, well, move on, girl :] Good Luck!
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Unfortunatly to say, guys go after girls based on their looks. Now, thats not necissarily saying that once they get to know girls, it'll be more about their personality, but generally, the first thing guys see and like, is appearance.
Just because this girl is making them do things like talk to her instead of you, doesnt mean they dont still like you as their friend, it may just mean they're hoping for something they probably wont get.
You should try talking to them, ask them about her... you will usually be able to tell from the way a guy talks about a girl, what he's thinking.
If they say stuff like shes hot and she likes us, they probably are jsut thinking one thing...
If they say things like shes really nice and we have a lot to talk about, maybe they are actually considering a relationship..
However, from what you say, that doesnt sound like the case.
Just like girls, guys tend to want to be around good looking people. Even if that it just so they can keep dreaming =)
Either way, it should never effect friendship, so dont worry!
Hope this helps
Good luck!
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the thing is the probly only see you as a friend. and you have to ask yourself is that such a bad thing??? look how they act. but then agian. they probly act like that when it comes to her because she wears all that mackup....maybe she (easyidk) you never know what it is they may like about her. maybe thats not it either. maybe its something about her that they only see... u never know.
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Guys always seem to want what they can't have.
Maybe the reason they are so attracted to her is because she ISN'T a good friend.
She probably acts like she doesn't care at all, and for some reason or another, guys just like that.
My advice, is to just stop trying, the more guys have to chase girls the more they like it, and if they don't chase after you, honestly, why would you want them around anyway? They obviously aren't worth it you know?
Don't ask me why but my experience with guys and what I've seen my friends go through. Guys LOVE when girls play hard to get.
Especially the ones you are describing.
When a girl acts like she doesn't care (probably like the one your talking about) guys just eat that up and want to be around them all the time.
Or, it's because they do only see you as a friend and just think she'd be a good hook up.
Anyway, I guess the only thing I can think of with the information you've given me is to act like you don't care, like you didn't even notice that they talk to that other girl more.
Make them come to you, but don't be mean to them at all. Just don't be the "good friend" anymore that is always there and stuff and see what happens.
One of two things, either they won't talk to you at all anymore and they suck and are jerks. Or they will be just as attracted to you as you see them being attracted to this "gorgeous" girl.
(And I asked one of my guy friends and he said the same thing, when a girl is just a friend or even if a girl wants to be more, guys tend to be more attracted to the ones that act like they don't care and guys don't appreciate the ones that are always there even though they should.)
Now keep in mind that not ALL guys are like this, so please who ever reads this don't get offended. I'm just guessing by what she's saying that those are the types of guys she's dealing with.
Hope this helps.
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