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setting myself up for failure.
i have this state of mind that makes me view and act differently against myself. like i feel like i'm an awkard, less than adult, not special, not my best, and anxious. i want to be myself and my best but because i was hurt in the past, i can't get past what i feel and i feel incompetent to doing things. i set myself up for failure. is there anyway i can stop thinking in this kind of way?
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Well don't start to think you are better than people like someone else said. But I really doubt you will :)
I feel this way a lot too. I look around and see all the people who I think are better than me. I know who made me this way. That's what you should do. Figure out the event or person that has hurt you and made you feel like this. Then seriously think. Ask yourself questions like "Why do I still let this control me?" and "How do I let myself move on and try to heal the hurt?" and "How do I make myself realize that I AM good enough?" Then get some real answers!
Also start to mentally encourage yourself! "I can SO do this!" Say that to yourself every time you're faced with something you think you will fail.
You are good enough! Come on and try it!
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Just what was it that hurt you in the past?
Remember that dwelling on the past wont get you anywhere. I'm not saying that you should forget the past, that's impossible. All I'm saying is that you should try and move on and view that experience in the past as a lesson learned. You can't change what has already happened, but you can do something now to make up for past mistakes. Be the best that you can be now and show your past self that you are the best that you can be, that you're not the anxious, awkward person that you think you are. That you arev more of an adult than you think you are, and that you are, INDEED A SPECIAL PERSON.
If that didn't change your way of thinking then try this.
Whenever your feeling inadequate or your feeling that your incompetent, look at the person that is nearest to you. Start looking for his/her inadequacies.(For example, hey this guy"s/Gal's hair looks like Donald Trump's or this gal"s handwriting is borderline unreadable)Keep these thoughts in your head for about 2 minutes then tell yourself that your better than this guy/gal.
I think that you'll find that you'll have more confidence in yourself than before.
And always remember to talk to your loved one's, especially to your family, because they'll always know what's best for you since they're the ones who are closest to you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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Just what was it that hurt you in the past?
Remember that dwelling on the past wont get you anywhere. I'm not saying that you should forget the past, that's impossible. All I'm saying is that you should try and move on and view that experience in the past as a lesson learned. You can't change what has already happened, but you can do something now to make up for past mistakes. Be the best that you can be now and show your past self that you are the best that you can be, that you're not the anxious, awkward person that you think you are. That you arev more of an adult than you think you are, and that you are, INDEED A SPECIAL PERSON.
If that didn't change your way of thinking then try this.
Whenever your feeling inadequate or your feeling that your incompetent, look at the person that is nearest to you. Start looking for his/her inadequacies.(For example, hey this guy"s/Gal's hair looks like Donald Trump's or this gal"s handwriting is borderline unreadable)Keep these thoughts in your head for about 2 minutes then tell yourself that your better than this guy/gal.
I think that you'll find that you'll have more confidence in yourself than before.
And always remember to talk to your loved one's, especially to your family, because they'll always know what's best for you since they're the ones who are closest to you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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Just what was it that hurt you in the past?
Remember that dwelling on the past wont get you anywhere. I'm not saying that you should forget the past, that's impossible. All I'm saying is that you should try and move on and view that experience in the past as a lesson learned. You can't change what has already happened, but you can do something now to make up for past mistakes. Be the best that you can be now and show your past self that you are the best that you can be, that you're not the anxious, awkward person that you think you are. That you arev more of an adult than you think you are, and that you are, INDEED A SPECIAL PERSON.
If that didn't change your way of thinking then try this.
Whenever your feeling inadequate or your feeling that your incompetent, look at the person that is nearest to you. Start looking for his/her inadequacies.(For example, hey this guy"s/Gal's hair looks like Donald Trump's or this gal"s handwriting is borderline unreadable)Keep these thoughts in your head for about 2 minutes then tell yourself that your better than this guy/gal.
I think that you'll find that you'll have more confidence in yourself than before.
And always remember to talk to your loved one's, especially to your family, because they'll always know what's best for you since they're the ones who are closest to you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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I think a lot of people think that way sometimes too. I also think that way, all the time... but like you I'm sure, I dont do it on purpose. You have to do anything you can to make yourself know that you are only thinking the things you are because you're telling yourself to, not because they're true. Remember that most people are insecure and incompetent but it helps just beleiveing... thats makes it better. Think about all the outcomes of a situation, than think how common each one is. You should start finding that you are fine! =)
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Sweet heart I know how you feel... I feel like that sometimes to and I understand the whole "hurt in the past" I too was hurt in the past... but being yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself, don't let anyone tell you that your wrong for how you act or how you believe, you've had your own personal experiences that some people just wont understand, but if your not yourself then you'll have a hole in your heart. And the whole idea of setting yourself for failure is crap... Just try everything in the worst of outcomes there is something positive to be learned or receive. Go with your gut not with something someone told you to do. If it feels right, then it probably is.
Hope I helped.
-Tristen
One of the twins (Alice had no input on this she might later)
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