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First of all.. I'm a virgin. I'm 21, and I'm having some vagina issues. Anyone who gets grossed out, don't read any further.
I'm itchy HORRIBLY down there. It's inflamed, and burning. There's no discharge at all, but it's red, and concerning me.
My question-- what could it be? I'm well-aware that people on here are probably not physicians, but it would be great to have some feedback. Maybe even a suggestion on what it could be, or if anyone has ever gone through it and found proper treatment.
I will say, that just because I am a virgin, I have a boyfriend. We've messed around a bit, as far as fingering and oral sex.
I've done a bit of research, and found that some things like shaving, fingering, soaps, and even the heat of summer, can cause a yeast infection. Any of these could be possible. But I'm scared it's more. I feel like I've worked too hard being a virgin to be so irresponsible to catch something.
Help? (link)
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im guessing, and hoping, you arent pregnant. if you're still virgin, then you should have nothing to worry about. most likely it is just some sort of infection. try chortezone (i totally screwed up on that spelling) but try that. also, drink cranberry juice, its supposed to help. if (you said something kinda gross now its my turn) if when u pee, it feels like there's a needle stuck up it, and/or you're peeing out blood, then see a doctor. if that is the case, dont worry for your virginity because thats just a bad infection, painful, but wont land you in labor
~A
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Okay, so a writing coarse I'm taking at my school says we have to write a Romantic Novel. With 3d emotions and characters.
so when my main character tells the boy that she feels a lot more them she should for him. I want to make sure it sounds like something a girl would say when shes rambaling and not really thinking about the words coming out of her mouth which happens easily.
So this is what she says.
"I'm afraid. There I said it. I'm afraid to completely open my heart to you, and to show you exactly what you mean to me because everytime I do- something happens. Something that seems that if I never told you what I fealt, that would have never happened. Everytime I get attached to anything, it gets taken away from me. So I refuse to let you know that, yes your eyes scare me but that's because theres a shine in them I've never seen anyone give me before. You smell like you've been rolling around in hay for hours, but I wouldn't trade it for the world- and it feels like your arms were molded for my body and it's my favorite place in the world. I can't let you know how much you really mean to me, because if I do. I'll know it's true and will somehow ruin everything."
Is it to long?
Is it something a girl would say when she's head over heels in love and is really terrified of feeling what she's feeling for him because the only other relationship she's seen close up fell apart.
And if you were a guy.. what would you say to that?
Sorry I know this is really hard to answer because you don't know the whole story.. but just giving me your imput on my writing would make me very very happy =]] Im a little worried. (link)
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I would say that it isn't too long, its quite good actually. What she says is how most lovesick girls would act and say. Personally i would put in a few pauses, like, she's Trying to get it all out, and is stumbling all over herself. Also, the guy, most guys would've interupted (yes its kinda stupid because then we cant get it all out) but anyway, unless he is truly processing what she's saying, i would have him act like a more typical guy and interupt, at which she keeps rambling on and on. or, if u prefer him not to interupt, at least have her consciencely look at his reaction and think about his composure/posture. Hope to see the book on the bestseller's list?! (even though i dont know the name >.<
~A
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18/f
I missed my university open day today because I am too scared to go anywhere or do anything by myself. I have no confidence or anything and I don't know what's wrong with me. My mom is so dissapointed in me because I missed it and it was really important and I am really upset because I hate myself for being like this. What can I do? (link)
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Most schools have a make up open day, so dont stress too much about that. Also. I used to be deathly afraid of going places myself as well.. Hate to bring up imaginary friend, but it helped me out in the begining. There is absolutel nothing wrong with you, everyone wants at least one person with them because one, its like a trend (do you EVER see one girl walking around the mall??) two, they dont want to look stupid by themselves. My advice would be several things, either get used to going some places alone (dont feel stupid if that doesnt work, because i havent mastered it either), you could try looking up, smiling. looking around and make comparisons to friends about people you see. like maybe his nose juts out just like Larry's does, or oh my gosh that's Kim's purse! That can help you look more natural instead of looking like a stiff board. in some places, you can take a pet, like your dog etc. other times its just way easier to see a friend, and attack! well, not really attack, but you get what i mean. if all else fails, see if you can bring a friend, or even your mom to the open day.
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f 13
i think frequently of commiting suicide and have looked up how to but never actually done it-obviously im typing. i know i need help but i dont know who to tell. my parents wont help, they will think im being dramatic. who should i ask for help from? (link)
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First of all, a girl your age shouldn't be thinking of suicide. Since you are, i would say you should try to make a list of 30 reasons why your life is good, and 35 reasons of what you love about yourself (no im not promoting narsicissm) I'm curious as to WHY you are thinking of that, there is Always a reason, maybe something horrible happened and you dont want to handle it, you think its just cool, you're insecure and need somebody to talk to. In any case, it'd be easier to refer you to who to talk to if there was a reason stated. The best choice from what I'm given, would be a close friend, sibling, or person of trustworthy note. Those people can usually tell whats wrong or at least get you to stop the suicidal tendencies. If all else fails, or you dont want to admit to anybody of that, the neighborhood cat can always help. No i'm not promoting you go crazy or expect the cat to answer back, but it works for venting out your problems. many times, you just really need to let it all out because the problem is weighing down on you. whether it be to a friend, yourself, or even a pillow, talk about it. And know that you aren't alone in the world, there are many people who care about you, even if you cant or wont see them.
~A
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Hey Folks:
I need some advice. I don't know how to say this, but will try my best. I've been talking to someone who lately has been having life problems. Here's what's going on with her. Her mom left her when she was about 4 or 5 years old, she's now 19. Her dad treats her like crap and dosen't really care for her and she also has a grandmother that lives with them that also dosen't seem to care about her. That can be very hard on someone for when they need their parents but don't give them the care that they need. Up until last night, she was dating a boyfriend who was pretty abusive to her. They were together for a year. Just last week, I was giving her advice and told her that they needed to break up, well she wouldn't listen. She said that her and her bf were gonna try to talk and that she would tell him how she felt about him. Well he didn't want to listen. So they broke up last night. Since the breakup, she's been very sad and in the past, she's had suicidal thoughts and at one point, had to stay in some place for a few months due to something else I won't say on here. I'm afraid she could become that way again. I would like to know what I can do about this situation. Also, does the fact that her parents not giving her much support is causing her to feel like no one cares about her? She does have friends including me who do care about her, but she dosen't think so. What is up with her? She's tried counseling in the past, but it didn't help her. (link)
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Parents not giving support is Always a problem, in some way or another. The fact that her mom left, is horrible. What is up with her? She's having a breakdown, not only does her dad, grandma, and mother hate her, but she had an abusive boyfriend. At home, her dad is obviously going to be saying snide comments about her body mind or otherwise, because either he is afraid she will pass him in inteligence, or he is just a total jerk. Breakups are always holes of destruction, anything cruel said to her will be absorbed like water into a drain, making her entire life miserable. Even joking comments hurt. Going to a shrink doesn't usually help, because most just want their paycheck, they dont care about you. My advice would be, to BE THERE for her, every step of the way, spread rumors about how beautiful she is, and how kind, give her a compliment every once in a while, dont make her beg for it, forgive her easily, she doesnt mean what she says when she's screaming, she just wants SOMEONE to hear what she has to say. Be the friend who she can cry on. Don't openly cut down her suicidal thoughts, just try to guide her away from them. Most likely, if she's suicidal, she's also cutting herself. Try to help her write a list of 30 things that are wonderful in her life. Randomely decorate her locker with pictures of her friends, and little sayings that remind her why she has friends. Give her all the support you can. 9 out of 10 she's not ready for a relationship so soon, but dont be afraid to introduce her to cute guys. (even if they arent her style of dating material, a guy friend on your side is a good thing to have) Because of the breakup, she's going to feel a piece of her heart ripped out, a piece she cant feel, find, or remember. She will feel alone, DONT LET HER FEEL ALONE, most suicide's are commited alone. Also, friends are a great thing to have, but dont overcrowd her, when there's hundreds of voices, its hard to let anything in. Hope this helps, please email me on how it goes, or if there's anything else ya need~!
~A
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15/f
i have somewhat a lot of acne. on my face i get like 10 really large pimples. then i have a ton on my chest, back and shoulders. i play a really competetive sport if that is the problem. but i was wondering if anyone had any solutions? right now im washing my body and face with regular body wash and face wash. then i clean the acne with oxy wipes and then use a cream by oxy. it helps but it takes a really long time for the acne to fully go away. anyone have any reccomendations that actually help and make it faster to go away?? thank you!!! (link)
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there are several things to try.. like pro active, benza clin, clearasil, etc. DO NOT use mary kay face wash, every person i have asked (along with myself) had one or two pimples, which then went x10 after using that for a week. many of the pimples should be picked (ya its gross, but would you rather have that on your finger for two seconds or in your back until it makes a gigantic hole) there's a zit picker which is a little metal stick thing with a small hole at one end and a bit bigger at the other, it works ALOT better than fingers for most zits. after you pick zits, you must wash your face with something. if you dont have time to wash, put purel all over it (yes that actually works!) when you wash, wash with warm water, and rinse with cold water. (warm opens up the pours so you can scrub crap out, and cold closes them back up) also, at night it works to put an ice pack on your face. also, your brain is a magnificant thing, you can will many things away, its a VERY hard and long process, but you could try willing your acne away. convince your mind that this abomination is leaving your body. sadly most people dont realize what our minds can do. that process is also known as the placebo affect. but... if you want a medication for it ask your dermatologist because he's an expert. most teens are put on solodyn or tetracyline, so ask if those are best for you.
Hope this helps!
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15/f
I like this guy in my class and he liked me over the summer but i'm not sure if he likes me now or not. He has a lot of girls that are his friends and he hugs them and massages their shoulders and stuff but he dosen't do it to me or ny friends. My friends think he likes me but i'm not sure. Also, my friend texts him a lot and talks to him in class all the time and play fully hits him and i thought she liked him but when i confronted her about it she was like "oh i'm not flirting with him, he's all your, do you want me to tell him that you like him?" Even though she says that she still talks to him a lot and he talks to her a lot but he also has a lot of other girls that are friends so i don't know. Also, i want to flirt with him because he sometimes flirts with me and i think i come off as not flirting back so how do i flirt back without being all over him? Also, how can i play hard to get but also let him know that i like him at the same time? I'm very sorry this is so long but i am very confused so please help me with my whole problem. Thanks! (link)
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If he did like you, the reason for not massaging your shoulders would be he's nervous you wont like it. your friend who talks to him alot, i would say she likes him, she just doesnt want you to know and covers it by saying he likes you (its happened to me time and time again) maybe he doesnt make a move because you seem hostile. many girls when they like a guy try to avoid him or try so hard not to make a mistake around him(for fear he will dissaprove and they will shrivel up and die) i can tell you, that that is not the case. flirting is almost an art, and you have to practice it to be good. one thing i would do, is talk to him more, try to get to know him. or you be the one to hug him in the hall! because sooner or later he will return that favor. personally i would say dont play hard to get, just dont be free every living second. a casual flirt is pretty fun, and if it seems you're coming on too strong, then flirt with guys around him. that way he sees that you aren't zeroing in on him, and that you're a comfortable person to be around.
Also, if you really and truly want to be in the 'know how' then become friends with one of his best friends (usually its the person standing next to them ALOT) and ask them to ask. or you do secret agent work, and ask several people to ask and report back. if the answers are the same, most likely its true.
hope this helps!
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Just a warning, this is gonna be long. There's a lot of background that I'm trying to make more concise. I'm 20/f, he's 23/m.
So...I've been in a really effed up relationship for the past three years. The worst part is that we really loved each other. He broke up with me because he was having depression problems, and that kind of emotional drowning that we were both feeling for each other was too much for him to handle. We took the titles off, but we stayed together. We tried a couple of times to actually break up but it never worked. Then we kind of regressed to a "friends with benefits" type thing because we both knew there were feelings there, but neither of us could handle having a title on our relationship at that point. He wound up living with me for a short while, and I gave him a copy of my key because I felt weird about him being at my place, then maybe leaving and leaving my place unlocked. I never asked for it back after he was able to go back home because I thought of him as my best friend. He knows me like the back of his hand, and I know him just as well. I felt totally comfortable around him, and trusted him completely. I was in a horrible car accident a couple years ago and he was the only person who was able to drive me around and not cause a panic attack.
Now...when we lived together, we didn't fight at all. We had fun, we laughed, we cuddled at night, and talked all the time. It felt like the way our real relationship should've been.
But his brother goes through periods of loving me and hating me. My guy has to deal with his brother talking shit about me all the time when he hates me, and sometimes it gets to him. Don't get me wrong, I know he's a wimp for caving, but I also get where he's coming from.
The more we're apart, the more "we" diminish. The less we see each other, the less we see each other, and the less we see each other, the more we fight. It hurts, but I've finally gotten to the point where I feel kind of...numb about the whole thing, like I don't have it in me to care anymore. At the moment, I'm avoiding him and avoiding talking to him because I feel like I can't say anything without some of this coming out, and I'm not ready for it to, I don't think.
I felt from the moment I met him that he was my soulmate, and I still feel that way, but I'm scared because I feel like I'm pushing him away and I don't know what to do about it.
I keep thinking I want to ask for my key back - and I have, but every time I've asked, he's turned the conversation away, or managed to make me forget about it in some way. I asked him point blank last time I saw him, "Are you still planning to hang onto my key?" and he said "Why not?" I didn't know what to say.
"Because we're not really friends anymore"? "Because I don't feel like I trust you"?
Both of those things are unfounded, I have no reason not to trust him - he hasn't even tried to look for another girl since we "broke up" the first time in 2006. He never cheated on me, he never lied to me. He can't lie to me, I always know. I'm the same way. I can't even convince him I'm happy when I'm not, and that's part of what I get paid to do, be happy and make people smile.
Anyone have any thoughts? I'm not really looking for specific advice, I just kinda need some new ideas, or something. I'm stuck...or maybe I just don't know what I need to do now?
Help =( (link)
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Well, by avoiding him, you are DEFINATELY pushing him away. If he keeps your key, that means he has a reason to want it. Good or bad, you will have to figure out. My advice would be to go after the brother, try to become his friend, dont hound him on the fact that he hates you. A family member can make or break a relationship, many people have to learn that the hard way. if his brother is whispering things in your guy's ear, he's more likely to subconsciencely listen to him because they go way back. Become the brother's best friend, and then those whisperings will be to your benefit.
also, becoming 'numb' to the thought, is not always the best thing, not only will it make you seem hostile towards your love (among others) but the pain you aren't allowing to come to focus will blow up in your face later on down the road. your mind is like a chimney, it HAS to vent. (or you are going to have a serious fire on your hands)
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im having my sweet 16 birthday party at the end of august. im looking for something nice to wear. ill be getting my hair done up. its not a formal party. i was thinking of wearing dark colored jeans, a nice top thats dressy, and heels. any ideas or sites i could shop for an outfit. pricing isnt an issue. thankyou (: (link)
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Sweet 16's are fun! Personally i would say that if it isnt formal, wear something that you know is comfortable, or that has a memory (like you went shopping with friends to get) shopping online IS convenient, but why not make a day of it and spend time looking for something with a friend? Heels, again with the comfort issue. Depending on what you are going to be doing, i would probably suggest not wearing heels, they make you look taller and can show off your arch, but after awhile, they kill! again, totally depends on what you're doing. Dark pants are nice, because if anything spills on them (or you have an accident which probably wont happen but just in case) it doesn't show that much. Shirt color, i've found that i feel best in my favorite color it brings out the best in me. hope this long explanation helps!
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are there other sites for how to do stuff?
for example:
wikihow
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I've found videojug.com to be a randomely filled website of how to do stuff. from magic tricks to putting on emo makeup right. It is videos, but it shows u step by step things mosta the time
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I need help figuring out wut i want for a screen name on AIM
my name is liz im 15 and i want something rebillous fun cute and sexxy....i was thinking of toxickiss or baby girl so i would just like some more ideas...
i love singing and music im in a beauty pageant um...i dont really play sports anymore however i use to figure skate i love reading
please help
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something hot fun and sexxy but also rebelious (link)
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I think it would be cute and sexy as something like kissliz
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Me-f,16
him-m, 17
we've been for about a year now but we havent went out alone yet on a date we hang around our homes and watch tv or just do random stuff to entertain eachother. We've only taken pictures together twice now and only got1 good picture i feel bad tho because its our first year i want to have pictures and good memories. We've had very good memories without spending money but i just want to go out and do something (im unable to drive) his dadcalled him a cheap date the other day when was there and he almost started crying which me seeing that made me start crying because i cant stand seeing him sad so i pulled him down on me and told him it was ok we dont have to spend money to have fun and i just held him till he felt better.
-do alot of people not go places alot?
im hoping to change this once get a job and car
-does this make us pathetic?
i love him so much but i wanna go ot and have fun
-I want us too take more pictures but he's not good with like the moving he justlikes to sit there and take pictures so they all look the same? :(
-Is it wrong to compare relationships?
His twin brother and girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now and they go everywhere & see eachoher everyday i during the school year only see him once a week & i cry alot just by hearing of thm beingtogether and me not being able to see him im slowly becoming depessed from justnot seeing himif thats possible. Theylive in the same town tho as i live 30 minutes from them. The fact that they get too see eachother allthe time andthey do stuff like go out to eat and go swimming together atleast once a week and ive only went out to eat once n valentines day with him and everywhere else wih friends & only 2 places this whole year :( makes me sad but it doesnt make me love him less.
-What are some things we could go out and do? (link)
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I agree with the others…. Guys just don’t like pictures of themselves… But I was wondering if you ever thought of double dating with your boyfriends brother. Since they seem to always go out maybe they wouldn’t mind you guys tagging along every once in a while… Ask your boyfriend see what he thinks.
Hope I helped
-Tristen
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i have this state of mind that makes me view and act differently against myself. like i feel like i'm an awkard, less than adult, not special, not my best, and anxious. i want to be myself and my best but because i was hurt in the past, i can't get past what i feel and i feel incompetent to doing things. i set myself up for failure. is there anyway i can stop thinking in this kind of way? (link)
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Sweet heart I know how you feel... I feel like that sometimes to and I understand the whole "hurt in the past" I too was hurt in the past... but being yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself, don't let anyone tell you that your wrong for how you act or how you believe, you've had your own personal experiences that some people just wont understand, but if your not yourself then you'll have a hole in your heart. And the whole idea of setting yourself for failure is crap... Just try everything in the worst of outcomes there is something positive to be learned or receive. Go with your gut not with something someone told you to do. If it feels right, then it probably is.
Hope I helped.
-Tristen
One of the twins (Alice had no input on this she might later)
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