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suicide
f 13
i think frequently of commiting suicide and have looked up how to but never actually done it-obviously im typing. i know i need help but i dont know who to tell. my parents wont help, they will think im being dramatic. who should i ask for help from?
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if you sit your parents down and tell them these thoughts they will not think youre being over dramatic. if youre mid fight and screma it at them they will. but if you still feel uncomfortable telling them, tell a school psychologist or guidance counselor and ask them if they could call in your parents for a meeting to talk about it with you. althoguh you shouldnt put something like this off if youre really thinking about it often.
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I definitely second speaking to our school guidance counselor, but only after you've tried talking to your parents about this. You may be surprised how your parents will react, but they are your parents and should know about this sort of thing before guidance counselors and therapists. In the meantime I'd like you to consider what else I have to say about being suicidal.
Make your life meaningful.
Many people seem to be having this sort of problem now and I truly think that it's because we have lost the right path in life.
I don't mean this to be bad but I'm not sure how to put it: you need to start focusing on other people other than yourself all of the time. If you make your time useful and helpful to others, you will gain a sense of care about yourself. You will soon realize that you HELP others and that other people need and appreciate you.
Many people now are so busy with their own lives that they lose sight of what it is to be loving and caring. You see, knowing that you are helping others does great things for the self-imagine. You soon realize that you aren't useless and just a blob of flesh bobbing along through life.
It really seems that the problem is our current lifestyles. We no longer "have time" to help others. Nobody volunteers now because they feel that they should be paid money for their time. Nobody goes out of their way to show care for others because that time could be used for something else. Both of these are common and we're taught (it's drilled into our heads) that we are the most important in our lives. This is not true at all: the people surrounding us are the most important.
The people who surround you create your sense of belonging though. Those people help you to see yourself as useful. Those people are the ones that can show care back for you. Without those people, you aren't anything anymore.
The media keeps telling us to only worry about ourselves. Sure, it's find to tend to your own needs--but what happens when everyone is too busy with themselves? What happens when everyone stops worrying about caring for others? They become depressed, wondering why they don't belong somewhere and why they feel lost in society. That is what is happening to you, most likely, whether you realize it now or not.
What's strange is the more we focus on ourselves and stop helping others, the less we feel good about ourselves. As humans, we NEED interaction. We NEED acceptance. We NEED to know we are important in life. Most of all though, we desperately NEED to help others to gain all of that plus more.
I highly suggest that you stop focusing on yourself. Yes, still continue to get help but try to put your excess time/energy/efforts into others. Find places to volunteer regularly at.
Am I right in this? I bet I am...:
You feel worthless, unimportant, and useless.
You feel like you simply cannot do anything right.
You do not feel needed, and maybe not even loved.
You feel like people wouldn't miss if you if you disappeared, or that they would get over your departure quickly.
You feel empty inside--like something huge is missing but you cannot pinpoint it.
You feel like your best will never be good enough because YOU are not good enough.
You feel like nobody is genuinely interested in you and what you have to offer (though you may feel that you don't have much to offer)
All of this is exactly what I'm talking about. You need to make more of your life. By giving to others, you are creating your sense of worth. You will soon realize that YOU DO make a difference and that people appreciate and care about you. You will realize that when you have to skip a volunteer day for a doctor's appointment that many of the people you have been helping will ask what happened to you--Ah-hah, there's your sense of belonging! You will begin to realize that being involved with the care of others can be very fulfilling spiritually.
Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, volunteer at local animal shelters, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. You may even consider doing random acts of kindness:
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If you feel like you don't have time now--make time. Alter your daily schedules to fit a few hours in for volunteering. Instead of being on the computer for an hour, log in only for 15 minutes and do what you NEED to do. Instead of sitting at home for dinner every day, take one day a week to eat at the soup kitchen after volunteering there.
Focus on who needs you. In essence, this is all for YOU so this is important. Helping others will help you.
I suggest you grab a phone book and make a few calls. Sit down with a calendar and set up one or more days a week to volunteer your time at certain places. Don't stress yourself out trying to fit things into busy schedules, but move things around so that your schedule won't be hectic but will have the fulfilling volunteer time in it.
It isn't your fault that you feel this way. You have just been fooled all of these years into believing that you are number one. Relax and focus on taking time for others and you will eventually find what is missing, trust me.
I hope you take my advice and improve your life before things get worse. If you have any further questions regarding this subject please feel free to ask me!
P.S. Anywhere you volunteer your time at, you will happily fit in :) I promise, you'll see.
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go to see your guidance counselor she may be able to help you or atleast talk to you.
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First of all, a girl your age shouldn't be thinking of suicide. Since you are, i would say you should try to make a list of 30 reasons why your life is good, and 35 reasons of what you love about yourself (no im not promoting narsicissm) I'm curious as to WHY you are thinking of that, there is Always a reason, maybe something horrible happened and you dont want to handle it, you think its just cool, you're insecure and need somebody to talk to. In any case, it'd be easier to refer you to who to talk to if there was a reason stated. The best choice from what I'm given, would be a close friend, sibling, or person of trustworthy note. Those people can usually tell whats wrong or at least get you to stop the suicidal tendencies. If all else fails, or you dont want to admit to anybody of that, the neighborhood cat can always help. No i'm not promoting you go crazy or expect the cat to answer back, but it works for venting out your problems. many times, you just really need to let it all out because the problem is weighing down on you. whether it be to a friend, yourself, or even a pillow, talk about it. And know that you aren't alone in the world, there are many people who care about you, even if you cant or wont see them.
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